Over The Oxer

STOP Overthinking!

Overthinking is an exhausting habit. That constant internal chatter and negative running commentary do more than drain your mental energy; they spill directly into your physical riding, causing tension, doubt, and defensive riding in the saddle. Your unconscious mind is always listening. Because it takes everything literally without a critical filter, feeding it panic-ridden words creates a vicious cycle of anxiety and nervous behavior. The good news is that overthinking is simply a habit, and you already hold the handbrake to stop it. In this episode, Dr Tracey Cole breaks down why left-brain, logical riders (auditory digital types) are particularly prone to constant internal dialogue and why thoughts are merely stories with no more power than a thin cloud on a summer day. You will learn a simple, practical sensory technique to stretch out your internal speech, strip negative thoughts of their emotional charge, and regain instant control over your mind before you ride. Resources & Training: Ready to master the mind and gain an accredited qualification in NLP, Time Line Therapy®, and Hypnotherapy? Explore courses and(free) resources at www.traceycolenlp.com or email me at info@traceycolenlp.com and I'll point you in the right direction. Confident Rider Mindset Book & Audiobook Available on all Amazon sites (this is the UK site:) https://www.amazon.co.uk/Confident-Rider-Mindset-Riding-Success/dp/1797636545

Elevate your coaching, riding success and safety with Randi Thompson 🐴

How do we create safe environments and help riders feel confident, supported and motivated? In the latest episode of Over the Oxer, I am joined by the brilliant Randi Thompson, founder of the Equine Safety and Success Network™. With more than 45 years in the industry as a safety consultant, educator and expert witness, Randi offers a unique and highly practical perspective on running modern horse businesses. Tracey and Randi discuss how coaches and equestrian professionals can integrate Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) principles to elevate their teaching and business practices. In this episode, you will discover: Essential safety strategies for managing professional horse operations How equestrian coaches can use NLP rapport techniques to build deeper trust with clients Methods for helping riders seamlessly shift their perspective on safety protocols How to reframe rider evaluations from scary tests into celebratory benchmarks of progress If you are a coach, yard owner or passionate rider looking to cultivate a more positive environment for both horses and humans, you will not want to miss this conversation! Connect with Randi Website https://www.randithompsonlive.com LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/randithompson/ Facebook – Equine Safety and Success Network™ (ESSN) Pilot Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/equinesafetyandsuccessnetwork Email randi@randithompsonlive.com For Horse Professionals Horse professionals interested in joining the free Equine Safety and Success Network™ (ESSN) Facebook pilot group are invited to connect through the website, LinkedIn, Facebook group, or email to learn more about the pilot program and receive complimentary access to the Equine Safety and Success Guide™ toolkit series. Connect with Tracey www.traceycolenlp.com info@traceycolenlp.com https://www.facebook.com/traceycolenlp https://instagram.com/traceycolenlp

Unlock Calm, Alert Focus in the Saddle with Hakalau

Ever feel yourself holding your breath, or gripping or tightening the reins when your horse tenses up? In this episode of Over the Oxer, we explore Hakalau, an ancient Hawaiian vision technique that shifts your state in seconds. By expanding your peripheral vision, you immediately signal your parasympathetic nervous system to take over. The result? You drop physical tension, gain incredible spatial awareness and cultivate a calm, present state that your horse will instantly feel. In this episode, you will learn: What Hakalau is and why tunnel vision triggers panic in the saddle The simple step-by-step process to access peripheral vision on horse-back How activating your parasympathetic nervous system improves your timing and balance Practical ways to use Hakalau across all disciplines: hacking, trail riding, flatwork, dressage, and jumping If you found this episode useful, please leave a comment or 5* review, they are really appreciated! 👉Contact me Info@traceycolenlp.com www.traceycolenlp.com www.facebook.com/traceycolenlp.com www.instagram.com/traceycolenlp.com 🤗Next NLP Practitioner and NLP Coach Training: Starts 7th September 2026. Every Monday 1:30-5pm UK time on Zoom. No prior learning needed. Recordings made available. NLP only for Practitioner and 5 certifications for the NLP Coach (all internationally recognised, accredited and certified by professsional boards) https://traceycolenlp.com/product/empowered-equestrian-coach/ 🎉NEW 🎉ONLINE SELF-PACED NLP PRACTITIONER /COACH WITH ZOOM PRACTICE DAYS Join me for the start of this fabulous hybrid of self-paced training + practice days on Zoom. Use the code PODCAST at checkout to receive a whopping 50% discount before the end of August 2026. Registration open now. Pres-study from 1st August and course starts 1st September. Join now. https://traceycolenlp.com/online-nlp-practitioner-training/ 🎓NLP Trainers Training: 1:1 Start any time. Pre-requisite: Master NLP Practitioner https://traceycolenlp.com/nlp-trainers-training-curious-to-know-more/ 📚Confident Rider Mindset Book/ Audiobook: https://tinyurl.com/ypjunref

From Queen's Cup to Adult Horse Camps | Lisa Hansford on Confidence, Horses & Finding the Right Partner

In this episode, I'm joined by Lisa Hansford, founder of ACE Adult Horse Camps and an experienced equestrian with more than 30 years in the saddle. Lisa shares her inspiring riding journey, from competing at Royal Windsor and HOYS to the lessons she's learned from buying both the wrong horse and the right one. We explore how confidence develops over time, why every horse teaches us something, and what inspired her to co-create ACE Adult Horse Camps. Known for their friendly, supportive atmosphere, the camps are designed to help adult riders enjoy their horses, learn without pressure and leave with renewed confidence and lasting friendships. Whether you're returning to riding, building confidence, or simply love hearing authentic horse stories, you'll find plenty to enjoy in this conversation. In this episode we discuss: • Lisa's riding journey and competition highlights • Buying the wrong horse—and finding the right one • Building confidence as an adult rider • Creating ACE Adult Horse Camps • Why a relaxed, welcoming environment helps riders flourish • The life lessons horses teach us If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review and share it with your fellow horse lovers. 👉Contact & Follow Lisa ACE Horse Camps - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61566675358686 Granny in the Saddle - www.youtube.com/@GrannyInTheSaddle2026 https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585825269615 Somerford Park (where Lisa's camps take place) Holmes Chapel Rd, Brereton Heath, Congleton, Cheshire. UK CW12 4SW 👉Contact Tracey Info@traceycolenlp.com www.traceycolenlp.com www.facebook.com/traceycolenlp.com www.instagram.com/traceycolenlp.com 🤗Next NLP Practitioner and NLP Coach Training: Starts 7th September 2026. Every Monday 1:30-5pm UK time. No prior learning needed. Recordings made available. NLP only for Practitioner and 5 certifications for the NLP Coach (all internationally recognised, accredited and certified by professsional boards) https://traceycolenlp.com/product/empowered-equestrian-coach/ 🎉NEW 🎉ONLINE SELF-PACED NLP PRACTITIONER /COACH WITH ZOOM PRACTICE DAYS Join me for the start of this fabulous hybrid of self-paced training + practice days on Zoom. Use the code PODCAST at checkout to receive a whopping 50% discount before the end of August 2026. Registration open now. Pres-study from 1st August and course starts 1st September. Join now. https://traceycolenlp.com/online-nlp-practitioner-training/ 🎓NLP Trainers Training: 1:1 Start any time. Pre-requisite: Master NLP Practitioner https://traceycolenlp.com/nlp-trainers-training-curious-to-know-more/ 📚Confident Rider Mindset Book/ Audiobook: https://tinyurl.com/ypjunref

Lonely at the Yard: When You Don't Feel Like You Belong

You can be surrounded by horses and people and still feel completely alone. In this episode of Over the Oxer, we explore what it's like when your yard simply isn't your community. This episode was inspired by a listener who is finding her yard lonely. There are other people around her, but they don't feel like her sort of people. Moving yards isn't a realistic option, with many yards in her area having closed, and there isn't a riding club nearby. In the UK, we might instinctively suggest joining a riding club or finding a riding buddy. But what happens when those obvious solutions aren't available? We explore: 🐴 Why being surrounded by people doesn't necessarily mean you feel connected 🐴 The difference between fitting in and belonging 🐴 Why your yard doesn't have to provide your entire social life 🐴 How to protect your mindset when you don't particularly click with the people around you 🐴 Finding equestrian connections outside your immediate yard 🐴 The value of online communities and friendships 🐴 Why loneliness can sometimes turn into self-doubt 🐴 How to build a fulfilling horse life even when your yard isn't your social home And perhaps most importantly, we ask: If nobody at your yard ever became your best friend, could your horse life still be fulfilling? You don't have to force friendships. You don't have to change who you are to fit in. And you don't have to assume that because the people around you aren't "your people", you're the problem. Sometimes your people are simply somewhere else. Join the conversation Have you ever felt lonely on a busy yard? What helped you find your people—or create a fulfilling horse life without them? Share your thoughts with us on social media and join the Over the Oxer conversation. Fancy an Over the Oxer Facebook Group? Have other ideas? Let me know! #OverTheOxer #EquestrianMindset #EquestrianLife #HorseRider #EquestrianCommunity #HorseLife #RiderMindset #EquestrianWellbeing Contact me Info@traceycolenlp.com www.traceycolenlp.com Watch on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@traceycolenlp2086 Let's be social! www.facebook.com/traceycolenlp.com www.instagram.com/traceycolenlp.com Next NLP Practitioner and NLP Coach Training: Starts 7th September 2026. Every Monday 1:30-5pm UK time. No prior learning needed. Recordings made available. NLP only for Practitioner and 5 certifications for the NLP Coach (all internationally recognised, accredited and certified by professsional boards) https://traceycolenlp.com/product/empowered-equestrian-coach/ NEW ONLINE SELF-PACED NLP PRACTITIONER /COACH WITH ZOOM PRACTICE DAYS Join me for the start of this fabulous hybrid of self-paced training + practice days on Zoom. Use the code PODCAST at checkout to receive a whopping 50% discount before the end of August 2026. Registration open now. Pres-study from 1st August and course starts 1st September. Join now. https://traceycolenlp.com/online-nlp-practitioner-training/ Next NLP Master Practitioner Training: NLP Only. Starts 15th April. Every Wednesday 1:30-5pm. Recordings made available. NLP Practitioner or Coach as pre-requisite. https://traceycolenlp.com/product/nlp-master-practitioner-coach/ NLP Trainers Training: 1:1 Start any time. Pre-requisite: Master NLP Practitioner https://traceycolenlp.com/nlp-trainers-training-curious-to-know-more/ Confident Rider Mindset Book/ Audiobook: https://tinyurl.com/ypjunref

How Does the Horse Feel About This? Chatting with Naomi Ainley

In this episode of Over the Oxer, I sit down with Naomi Ainley, Head of Animal Management, Equine and Veterinary Nursing at Northumberland College's Kirkley Hall campus. Naomi's career has taken her from riding school pupil to groom, yard manager, biomedical scientist and equine educator, but it's her willingness to question long-held assumptions that makes this such a fascinating conversation. Rather than claiming to be an expert, Naomi believes the real power lies in curiosity and being prepared to ask better questions, admit when we don't know something and continually learn from our horses. We discuss how her team has transformed the way horses are managed and taught at Kirkley Hall by asking one simple question: How does the horse feel about this? Whether you're a rider, coach, owner or simply someone who wants to do better by horses, this episode offers plenty of food for thought about horse welfare, education and the future of equestrianism. 👉Contact / follow Naomi www.linkedin.com/in/naomi-ainley-12858b117 👉Contact me Info@traceycolenlp.com www.traceycolenlp.com www.facebook.com/traceycolenlp.com www.instagram.com/traceycolenlp.com 🤗Next NLP Practitioner and NLP Coach Training: Starts 7th September 2026. Every Monday 1:30-5pm UK time. No prior learning needed. Recordings made available. NLP only for Practitioner and 5 certifications for the NLP Coach (all internationally recognised, accredited and certified by professsional boards) https://traceycolenlp.com/product/empowered-equestrian-coach/ 🎉NEW 🎉ONLINE SELF-PACED NLP PRACTITIONER /COACH WITH ZOOM PRACTICE DAYS Join me for the start of this fabulous hybrid of self-paced training + practice days on Zoom. Use the code PODCAST at checkout to receive a whopping 50% discount before the end of August 2026. Registration open now. Pres-study from 1st August and course starts 1st September. Join now. https://traceycolenlp.com/online-nlp-practitioner-training/ 🎓NLP Trainers Training: 1:1 Start any time. Pre-requisite: Master NLP Practitioner https://traceycolenlp.com/nlp-trainers-training-curious-to-know-more/ 📚Confident Rider Mindset Book/ Audiobook: https://tinyurl.com/ypjunref

The Missing Aid: Master Your Riding Through Breathwork with Jane Randall

We talk endlessly in riding about the seat, legs, hands, and core—but what if the most powerful, game-changing aid is the one you’re using right now without even thinking about it? In this episode of Over the Oxer, host Tracey Cole sits down with Jane Randall—BD Level 4 Coach, MSc in Sports Coaching, Advanced Functional Breath Work Coach and founder of Signature Breath. Jane shares her fascinating journey from riding internationally and coaching high-performance & Para Dressage riders to discovering how functional breathing transforms rider biomechanics, focus, and nervous system regulation. Whether you're battling competition anxiety, looking to refine your biomechanics or wanting a deeper, calmer connection with your horse, this episode is packed with practical insights you can take straight into the saddle. Connect with Jane: Website: www.signaturebreath.com Signature Breath Programs & Coaching: Available via her website. Instagram: @signature_breath_ Facebook: @janerandall LinkedIn: Jane Randall Connect with Tracey: Info@traceycolenlp.com www.traceycolenlp.com 👉Let's be social! www.facebook.com/traceycolenlp.com www.instagram.com/traceycolenlp.com 🧠Next NLP Practitioner and NLP Coach Training: Starts 1st September 2026 for the Online + Live Practice Days https://traceycolenlp.com/online-nlp-practitioner-training/ and 7th Sept for the weekly live Zoom version. Every Monday 1:30-5pm UK time. No prior learning needed. Recordings made available. NLP only for Practitioner and 5 certifications for the NLP Coach (all internationally recognised, accredited and certified by professsional boards) https://traceycolenlp.com/product/empowered-equestrian-coach/ 🎓 NLP Trainers Training: 1:1 Start any time. Pre-requisite: Master NLP Practitioner https://traceycolenlp.com/nlp-trainers-training-curious-to-know-more/ 📕 Confident Rider Mindset Book/ Audiobook: https://tinyurl.com/ypjunref

The Simple, Flexible Way to Master Mindset & Mindset Coaching

Traditional NLP and hypnotherapy courses can feel overwhelming—either crammed into intense, exhausting weekend marathons or packed with heavy academic jargon. That’s why I created a brand-new way to learn: Learn, Watch, Practise, Become. Master concepts through bite-sized 10–20 minute videos, see techniques used in real client sessions and build true confidence on live practice days. Plus, get four internationally recognised certifications (NLP Practitioner, Time Line Therapy®, NLP Coach, and Modern Hypnotherapy) plus lifetime NLPEA membership. Special Launch Offer: Enrol before September 1st to save 50%—just £84/month across 12 monthly instalments (usual price £167/month). To pay in full: (usually £1997, now £1000) https://traceycolenlp.com/nlp-course-prices-certification-options/ with discount code PODCAST Learn more or book a chat at: https://traceycolenlp.com/online-nlp-practitioner-training/ Email me: info@traceycolenlp.com

The Sour Sweet Trick for Riding Nerves 🍬

Ever feel your stomach drop or your hands start to shake before you get in the saddle? In this episode, we’re diving into a brilliantly simple, instant brain hack to interrupt those riding nerves: the sour sweet trick. Tune in to find out exactly how distracting your tastebuds can completely reset your nervous system, override the panic button and get you back in the zone. Don't forget to hit subscribe and leave a review if you love the episode! Contact me Info@traceycolenlp.com www.traceycolenlp.com Watch on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@traceycolenlp2086 Let's be social! www.facebook.com/traceycolenlp.com www.instagram.com/traceycolenlp.com Next NLP Practitioner and NLP Coach Training: 🎉Pre-Study open now!🎉 Starts 7th September 2026. Live Group Training: Every Monday 1:30-5pm UK time. No prior learning needed. Recordings made available. NLP only for Practitioner and 5 certifications for the NLP Coach (all internationally recognised, accredited and certified by professsional boards) https://traceycolenlp.com/product/empowered-equestrian-coach/ 🎉NEW FOR 2026 🎉OnlineSelf-Paced Learning + Technique Practice Days on Zoom: Starting 1st September, please register your interest and start the Pre-Study introductory videos now NLP Trainers Training: 1:1 Start any time. Pre-requisite: Master NLP Practitioner https://traceycolenlp.com/nlp-trainers-training-curious-to-know-more/ Confident Rider Mindset Book/ Audiobook: https://tinyurl.com/ypjunref

The Horsefly Effect: How to Zap Mindset Bites Before They Sting

Ever notice how a negative thought, a past fall or a fear of failure can sneak up on you? In this episode, Tracey explores the fascinating psychology of her horsefly metaphor. Discover how horses handle threats instantly and how you can use the precision of NLP to quickly zap the lingering after-effects of old mindset "bites" and so restore your confidence effortlessly. 👉 Contact me Info@traceycolenlp.com www.traceycolenlp.com 👉Let's be social! www.facebook.com/traceycolenlp.com www.instagram.com/traceycolenlp.com 🧠Next NLP Practitioner and NLP Coach Training: Registration starts in August. Learn weekly live OR online with practice days. No prior learning needed. NLP only for Practitioner and 5 certifications for the NLP Coach (all internationally recognised, accredited and certified by professional boards) https://traceycolenlp.com/product/empowered-equestrian-coach/ 🎓 NLP Trainers Training: 1:1 Start any time. Pre-requisite: Master NLP Practitioner https://traceycolenlp.com/nlp-trainers-training-curious-to-know-more/ 📕 Confident Rider Mindset Book/ Audiobook: https://tinyurl.com/ypjunref

Over the Oxer | Episode Title: Combatting Misinformation & Empowering Horse Owners with Cat Carter

In this episode, host Tracey Cole sits down with Cat Carter, a Scottish equine sports massage therapist and the driving force behind Equine Qualifications UK (EQ UK). Cat shares her fascinating journey from buying a "secret horse" as a teenager to taking over the legacy of Lingfield Equine Distance Learning. Tracey and Cat discuss why education is the ultimate tool for improving equine welfare, the dangers of relying on AI and social media "gurus" for medical advice, and how a revolutionary new mobile app is set to bring trusted, verified equine knowledge right to your fingertips. Key Takeaways from This Episode The Power of Early Intervention: How recognizing subtle pain patterns can prevent long-term, irreversible damage in our horses. Challenging the Status Quo: Why the phrase "that’s just how they go" is a red flag that demands critical thought and deeper investigation. Navigating Information Overload: The inherent dangers of overconfident AI platforms and social media misinformation in the equestrian world. The Future of Equine Learning: How EQ UK is transforming over 30 years of traditional distance-learning materials into a modern, gamified mobile experience. Timestamps & Chapters [00:00] – Introduction Tracey welcomes Scottish equine sports massage therapist Cat Carter to discuss her commitment to equine and human welfare through education. [01:15] – The "Secret Horse" and Teenage Drama Cat shares her non-horsey background, saving up in secret to buy her first horse at 17, and the dramatic hospital room confession to her parents. [04:20] – Overcoming Career Roadblocks How traditional school career guidance failed to show the true scope of the equine industry, leading Cat to study psychology first. [06:10] – A Heartbreaking Catalyst for Change The moving story of the loan mare who inspired Cat to pursue equine massage therapy as a tool for early intervention and pain recognition. [09:45] – Pattern Recognition & Staying in Your Lane How paraprofessionals act as a bridge between owners and veterinarians, and why we must challenge normalized behaviors like "grumpiness." [13:10] – The Birth of Equine Qualifications UK (EQ UK) How EQ UK started as a social enterprise to widen access to the industry for young people, evolving into a trusted hub for welfare-centered education. [15:30] – Honoring a Legacy: Lingfield Distance Learning The history of Paula Clements’ pioneering correspondence courses and how her family donated 30 years of intellectual property to EQ UK to keep it non-profit. [19:40] – The Danger of AI & Internet "Gurus" Cat shares her funny yet alarming experience arguing with Gemini and ChatGPT over a tendon rehab plan, highlighting why critical thinking is vital. [23:15] – Sneak Peek: The "Duolingo for Horse Care" App Cat reveals details about the upcoming mobile app launching early next year, featuring bite-sized learning, quizzes, and a centralized hub for CPD events. Find Cat Instagram: @equk__ Equine Qualifications UK: https://equk.org/ Lingfield Equine Distance Learning: https://www.horse-care.co.uk/ Contact Tracey Info@traceycolenlp.com www.traceycolenlp.com Let's be social! www.facebook.com/traceycolenlp.com www.instagram.com/traceycolenlp.com

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Your Brain is Only Guessing it'll be Scary

Ever felt like you are riding the 'ghost' of a past bad experience rather than the horse underneath you today? In this episode of Over the Oxer we are diving into the neuroscience of performance. It turns out your brain does not actually wait for sensory data to tell it what is happening in the saddle. Instead, it spends every millisecond predicting what is about to happen based on your past experiences, creating your reality out of guesswork. Join Tracey as she breaks down why your brain creates the scary movie before you even reach the spooky corner, how this accidental loop causes your horse to feed off your tension and the exact three-step process you can use to interrupt the guesswork, rewrite the script and override your brain autopilot. It is time to stop reacting to the past and start riding the horse you actually have in the moment you're actually riding. 👉 Contact me Info@traceycolenlp.com www.traceycolenlp.com 👉Let's be social! www.facebook.com/traceycolenlp.com www.instagram.com/traceycolenlp.com 🧠Next NLP Practitioner and NLP Coach Training: BRAND NEW FOR 2026 - HYBRID SELF-PACED AND ZOOM TRAINING. No prior learning needed. You'll learn by bite-size videos online and at your own pace. You'll see real-life video demos (no staged or primed clients!). Then, we'll have two practice days to really master the techniques and concepts via Zoom. It's going to be great fun, you'll have my full support throughout, I know you'll love it! KEEP CHECKING FOR DETAILS - TO BE RELEASED LATE SUMMER 2026 🎓 NLP Trainers Training: 1:1 Start any time. Pre-requisite: Master NLP Practitioner https://traceycolenlp.com/nlp-trainers-training-curious-to-know-more/ 📕 Confident Rider Mindset Book/ Audiobook - https://tinyurl.com/ypjunref

Over the Oxer: Calm Confidence Visualisation

Step into a calmer kind of confidence before you ride. Over the Oxer is a guided visualisation/ mental rehearsal designed specifically for riders who want to build quiet self-belief, focus, and trust in their ability, without pressure, hype or overthinking. In this immersive experience, you’re gently led through a journey of sensory imagery, where rhythm, breath and horse-and-rider connection become anchors for clarity and composure. You’ll be invited into a space where riding feels less like effort… and more like alignment. This is not for listening in the car, and not for while you ride. Whether you’re preparing for a competition, a lesson, or simply want to strengthen your mindset, this episode helps you arrive at the yard already steady, already centred, already enough. Because the best rides don’t begin in the arena… they begin in the mind. Contact me Info@traceycolenlp.com www.traceycolenlp.com Let's be social! www.facebook.com/traceycolenlp.com www.instagram.com/traceycolenlp.com Next NLP Practitioner and NLP Coach Training: Starts September. Every Monday 1:30-5pm UK time. No prior learning needed. Recordings made available. NLP only for Practitioner and 5 certifications for the NLP Coach (all internationally recognised, accredited and certified by professsional boards) https://traceycolenlp.com/product/empowered-equestrian-coach/ Next NLP Master Practitioner Training: NLP Only. Starts 17th June. Every Wednesday 1:30-5pm. Recordings made available. NLP Practitioner or Coach as pre-requisite. https://traceycolenlp.com/product/nlp-master-practitioner-coach/ NLP Trainers Training: 1:1 Start any time. Pre-requisite: Master NLP Practitioner https://traceycolenlp.com/nlp-trainers-training-curious-to-know-more/ Confident Rider Mindset Book/ Audiobook: https://tinyurl.com/ypjunref

Let's go beyond motivation

Have you lost your riding mojo? Trying to get out to the yard or prepare for a competition feels like you're swimming through thick custard in heavy lead boots? In this episode of Over the Oxer, host Tracey Cole (Master NLP Trainer and Equestrian Mental Performance Coach) unpacks the hidden psychology behind why we lose our momentum, why standard "willpower" is a trap, and how to stop relying on fickle emotions to get in the saddle. You aren't lazy; your unconscious mind is operating an energy-saving defence mechanism. What you’ll discover in this episode: The 3 Culprits of Momentum Loss: How life overwhelm, subconscious fear blocks, and broken habits actively sabotage your consistency. Motivation vs. Drive: Why "feeling-based" and "word-based" motivation inevitably fail you when you're exhausted or stressed. The Power of Drive: How to cultivate a steady, internal, identity-level engine that gets you out the door effortlessly—no matter the weather or your mood. NLP Tools for Performance: How to rewrite the neural patterns and fear blocks keeping you stuck. Stop waiting for motivation to strike. Tune in to find your deep, unstoppable drive and drop the rider guilt for good! Contact me Info@traceycolenlp.com www.traceycolenlp.com Watch on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@traceycolenlp2086 Let's be social! www.facebook.com/traceycolenlp.com www.instagram.com/traceycolenlp.com Next NLP Practitioner and NLP Coach Training: Coming soon - a hybrid online self-paced course + live practice/Q&A sessions Next NLP Master Practitioner Training: NLP Only. Starts 17th June. Every Wednesday 1:30-5pm. Recordings made available. NLP Practitioner or Coach as pre-requisite. https://traceycolenlp.com/product/nlp-master-practitioner-coach/ NLP Trainers Training: 1:1 Start any time. Pre-requisite: Master NLP Practitioner https://traceycolenlp.com/nlp-trainers-training-curious-to-know-more/ Confident Rider Mindset Book/ Audiobook: https://tinyurl.com/ypjunref

Rider Confidence: 2 Unconscious Glitches (And How to Fix Them)

Ever wondered why telling yourself “don’t tense up” or “don’t look at that corner” actually makes your horse spook? In this episode of Over the Oxer, we strip away the cheesy, vague advice and dive into the practical neuroscience and NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) behind equestrian mindset and rider confidence. Discover the two specific ways your unconscious mind actively works against your riding goals without your permission—including the "Negation Trap" and how your brain's internal search engine filters out success. Learn how your horse reads the micro-tonal muscle changes caused by these thoughts, and walk away with one highly actionable, zero-fluff strategy to instantly hijack your focus, drop your tension, and build a reliable feedback loop of calm, assertive horsemanship. Perfect for amateur and professional riders alike who want real, usable sports psychology for the saddle. Keywords: equestrian confidence, rider anxiety, horse riding mindset, sports psychology for equestrians, NLP for riders, over the oxer podcast, stopping horse spooking, equestrian performance coach, horse training psychology. Contact me Info@traceycolenlp.com www.traceycolenlp.com Watch on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@traceycolenlp2086 Let's be social! www.facebook.com/traceycolenlp.com www.instagram.com/traceycolenlp.com Next NLP Master Practitioner Training: NLP Only. Starts 17th June. Every Wednesday 1:30-5pm. Recordings made available. NLP Practitioner or Coach as pre-requisite. https://traceycolenlp.com/product/nlp-master-practitioner-coach/ NLP Trainers Training: 1:1 Start any time. Pre-requisite: Master NLP Practitioner https://traceycolenlp.com/nlp-trainers-training-curious-to-know-more/ Confident Rider Mindset Book/ Audiobook: https://tinyurl.com/ypjunref

Decoding TBT – Why Alignment is More Than Just Bone Deep

In this episode, we dive deep into the fascinating world of Tucker Biokinetic Technique (TBT). Have you ever felt like your horse’s performance was "just a little bit off"—like an old analogue radio with a bit of static? Join me as I explore how to fine-tune your horse’s health from a "usable" signal to a "crystal-clear" digital frequency. Drawing on a professional background in biochemistry, I bridge the gap between peer-reviewed science and the intangible, staggering results of energy work. We're moving beyond simple skeletal alignment to discuss the energetic motility of organs, fascia, nerves and blood vessels. In this episode, we discuss: The "Achilles" Effect: How primary causes (like chemical burdens from wormers, vaccines, or fertilisers) create a ripple effect of compensations that lead to lameness or tension. The Liver-Ligament Connection: Why a stressed detox organ might be the hidden reason your horse isn’t repairing soft tissue. What Happens in a TBT Session: From "listening" to bioenergy frequencies to the subtle physical shifts you can expect to see in your horse. The Confidence to Ride Forward: How knowing your horse is truly in alignment—not just "managed"—transforms your confidence in the saddle. Whether you are in the UK, the US, or listening from Singapore and Vietnam, this episode is a must-listen for any equestrian looking for the "primary cause" behind their horse's physical struggles. Key Keywords: Tucker Biokinetic Technique, TBT, Equine Bioenergy, Horse Alignment, Equine Biochemistry, Fascia Release, Horse Health, Holistic Equestrian, Equine Detox, Performance Horse Rehab. Enjoyed the show? Please leave a review and subscribe! If you have questions about TBT or want to share your horse's journey, drop us a message—I’d love to hear from you. Contact me Info@traceycolenlp.com www.traceycolenlp.com Watch on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@traceycolenlp2086 Let's be social! www.facebook.com/traceycolenlp.com www.instagram.com/traceycolenlp.com Next NLP Master Practitioner Training: NLP Only. Starts 17th June. Every Wednesday 1:30-5pm. Recordings made available. NLP Practitioner or Coach as pre-requisite. https://traceycolenlp.com/product/nlp-master-practitioner-coach/ NLP Trainers Training: 1:1 Start any time. Pre-requisite: Master NLP Practitioner https://traceycolenlp.com/nlp-trainers-training-curious-to-know-more/ Confident Rider Mindset Book/ Audiobook: https://tinyurl.com/ypjunref

The 6-Minute Reset: Why Reading is the Ultimate Equestrian Mindset Hack

How do you prepare your mind before you swing into the saddle? In this episode of Over the Oxer, host Tracey Cole looks into the fascinating neuroscience of relaxation. We explore a landmark study from the University of Sussex which reveals that just six minutes of reading can slash stress levels by a staggering 68%. Whether you're a competitive rider or a happy hacker, discover why "escapism" is actually a high-performance tool for better horse-and-rider communication. What You’ll Learn: The Sussex Study: Why reading outperforms music, walking, and even tea for stress reduction. Physiological Syncing: How lowering your heart rate through reading prevents your horse from picking up on your "barn brain" tension. The Boot Room Protocol: A practical 6-minute habit to transform your ride before you even tack up. Resources Mentioned: The Study: Lewis, D. (2009). Galaxy Stress Research. Mindlab International, University of Sussex. Contact me Info@traceycolenlp.com www.traceycolenlp.com Watch on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@traceycolenlp2086 Let's be social! www.facebook.com/traceycolenlp.com www.instagram.com/traceycolenlp.com Next NLP Practitioner and NLP Coach Training: Starts 18th May. Every Monday 1:30-5pm UK time. No prior learning needed. Recordings made available. NLP only for Practitioner and 5 certifications for the NLP Coach (all internationally recognised, accredited and certified by professsional boards) https://traceycolenlp.com/product/empowered-equestrian-coach/ Next NLP Master Practitioner Training: NLP Only. Starts June 2026. Every Wednesday 1:30-5pm. Recordings made available. NLP Practitioner or Coach as pre-requisite. https://traceycolenlp.com/product/nlp-master-practitioner-coach/ NLP Trainers Training: 1:1 Start any time. Pre-requisite: Master NLP Practitioner https://traceycolenlp.com/nlp-trainers-training-curious-to-know-more/ Confident Rider Mindset Book/ Audiobook: https://tinyurl.com/ypjunref Buy me a cup of coffee (tea!) Some kind people have suggested that my podcast is helping them with their riding and asked how they can help to defray the costs of making the podcast, (mostly editing software etc.). Many, many thanks, you can buy me a cup of tea here: www.buymeacoffee.com/?via=Ny2j49lgXB

Chatting with Therapist Kristi Seymour: The Mindset Tool in Your Pocket

This week on Over the Oxer, I’m joined by the brilliant Kristi Seymour. Kristi is a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 years’ experience, a lifelong equestrian (five decades in the saddle and counting!) and the founder of EquiMind. Kristi joined me from Alaska at a rather eye-watering 5:00 AM to dig into the science of why our performance often "breaks" under pressure. As a Master Trainer of NLP, I found it fascinating to look at the "in-the-moment" physiology of riding. We discuss what to do in that moment when the adrenaline hits and how we can use our own nervous system to send clearer, calmer signals to our horses. Kristi Seymour is a clinical therapist, author, and equestrian performance coach. She created EquiMind to give riders practical, "in-the-pocket" tools to manage anxiety and find their flow. Whether you’re a hack-out enthusiast or a professional with a string of five horses, Kristi’s approach is about making the time we spend in the saddle more joyful and effective. Enjoyed this? Please do subscribe and leave a review on Listen Notes or your chosen podcast platform—it really helps other riders find the show. Free (Limited Number) Access to EquiMind LAN64A6MKETX Connect with Kristi: Websites: equimind.net | theequestrianmind.com The App: Search for EquiMind on the Apple App Store (https://apps.apple.com/us/app/equimind/id6758806772) or Google Play. Socials: Find her on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/prinz7575/) and Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/kristi.seymour). Connect with Tracey: Info@traceycolenlp.com www.traceycolenlp.com 👉Let's be social! www.facebook.com/traceycolenlp.com www.instagram.com/traceycolenlp.com 🧠Next NLP Practitioner and NLP Coach Training: Starts 18thMay. Every Monday 1:30-5pm UK time. No prior learning needed. Recordings made available. NLP only for Practitioner and 5 certifications for the NLP Coach (all internationally recognised, accredited and certified by professsional boards) https://traceycolenlp.com/product/empowered-equestrian-coach/ 🎓 NLP Trainers Training: 1:1 Start any time. Pre-requisite: Master NLP Practitioner https://traceycolenlp.com/nlp-trainers-training-curious-to-know-more/ 📕 Confident Rider Mindse

When When Quiet Isn’t Calm: Understanding Hidden Emotions in You and Your Horse

There are certain phrases that stay with us, aren’t there? The ones we heard as children, sometimes said in jest, sometimes in frustration, that quietly shape how we deal with our emotions long after the moment has passed. In this episode of Over the Oxer, I share a couple that stayed with me growing up, including one involving the M6 motorway 🙈, and how those seemingly throwaway comments can teach us to either brush things off or keep everything bottled up. Not everyone processes emotion in the same way. Some of us let things pass straight through. Others learn, often without realising, to hold it all in, to stay quiet, to stay “good”, to not make a fuss. Over time, that can build into something much bigger beneath the surface. If you have ever wondered why a calm, steady horse suddenly starts to spook, nap or react in ways you did not expect, we explore that too. What if that shift is not something going wrong, but something finally going right? What if it is a sign of trust? This episode gently connects the dots between our own emotional habits and what we see in our horses, especially those “quiet” types who may simply not have felt safe enough to express themselves before. Inside this episode: How early messages can shape emotional patterns Why bottling things up does not make them disappear The parallels between human and horse behaviour Simple, kind ways to release and process emotions How Timeline Therapy® can help untangle emotions stored over time If you have ever felt like you should not feel something, or found yourself holding it all together on the outside, this conversation will resonate. If you enjoy Over the Oxer, I would be so grateful if you could follow, rate and leave a short review on Listen Notes or your favourite podcast platform. It really helps other riders find the show and means I can keep creating episodes to support you. Take a moment for yourself, have a listen, and remember you do not have to hold it all in. 💛 👉 Contact me Info@traceycolenlp.com www.traceycolenlp.com 👉Let's be social! www.facebook.com/traceycolenlp.com www.instagram.com/traceycolenlp.com 🧠Next NLP Practitioner and NLP Coach Training: Starts 18thMay. Every Monday 1:30-5pm UK time. No prior learning needed. Recordings made available. NLP only for Practitioner and 5 certifications for the NLP Coach (all internationally recognised, accredited and certified by professsional boards) https://traceycolenlp.com/product/empowered-equestrian-coach/ 🎓 NLP Trainers Training: 1:1 Start any time. Pre-requisite: Master NLP Practitioner https://traceycolenlp.com/nlp-trainers-training-curious-to-know-more/ 📕 Confident Rider Mindset Book/ Audiobook: https://tinyurl.com/ypjunref

Is it a problem, but only part-time?

Have you ever felt like two different people at once? One part of you desperately wants to do X (gallop, jump or compete), while the other part is screaming for you to do Y (stay safe on the ground)? You aren't "losing your nerve", you’re experiencing an internal conflict. And they're all too common. In this episode of Over the Oxer, Equestrian NLP expert Tracey Cole dives into the concept of "Parts." Discover why your brain creates parts and why fighting your fear only makes it stronger. Tracey shares a powerful, hands-on NLP exercise to help you integrate these conflicting parts, turning your mental tug-of-war into a unified, confident partnership with your horse. In this 10-minute episode, you’ll learn: The "Positive Intent" of 'Negative' Parts: Why it is actually trying to help you (and how to negotiate with it). The Achiever vs. The Protector: Identifying the two "Parts" that dominate your equestrian mindset. The Visual Squash Exercise: A step-by-step NLP technique to stop the internal argument and find your focus. Congruent Riding: How becoming a "unified rider" clarifies your aids and helps your horse feel more secure. 👉 Contact me Info@traceycolenlp.com www.traceycolenlp.com 👉Let's be social! www.facebook.com/traceycolenlp.com www.instagram.com/traceycolenlp.com 🧠Next NLP Practitioner and NLP Coach Training: Starts 18thMay. Every Monday 1:30-5pm UK time. No prior learning needed. Recordings made available. NLP only for Practitioner and 5 certifications for the NLP Coach (all internationally recognised, accredited and certified by professsional boards) https://traceycolenlp.com/product/empowered-equestrian-coach/ 🎓 NLP Trainers Training: 1:1 Start any time. Pre-requisite: Master NLP Practitioner https://traceycolenlp.com/nlp-trainers-training-curious-to-know-more/ 📕 Confident Rider Mindset Book/ Audiobook: https://tinyurl.com/ypjunref