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From Q&A’s and break up tips to simply navigating every stage of life, influencer-turned-entrepreneur Payton Sartain brings you the sisterly advice you didn’t know you needed and honest conversations you’ve always wanted. Whether it’s Payton alone or a conversation with a friend, Note to Self is a space to get grounded, explore new perspectives, and ultimately, empower yourself and others. Grab some wine or a mocktail and enjoy the conversation!

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#269
Today · 1 hr 6 min
A Life Update: Grad School, LA & What I Learned This Summer
#264. Unfortunately, summer is coming to an end (though I'm not ready to admit it). Nonetheless, we have a lot to catch up on. I'm going through the whole summer — France, Texas, Joe's season, Los Angeles, Georgetown, the National Security Summit — plus what this fall looks like heading into the hardest course of my program. I also have some news about the show. FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainross SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#268
September 10 · 58 min
The Oxytocin Menu, Explained: What Your Nervous System Actually Wants
#263. Everyone's talking about the oxytocin menu, so this week I'm building mine — with a very honest look at what the research actually supports. Built like the dopamine menu, this episode includes Oxytocin appetizers through specials: the 20-second hug, the long phone call, the standing weekly thing. FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainross SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#267
September 3 · 1 hr 17 min
Beauty Maxxing: the Good, the Bad, & the Ugly, with Caroline Stern
#262. We’re talking about the realities of Beauty Maxxing, the good & the bad, with Caroline Stern. In this episode, we are sharing procedures we’ve undergone, what we regret, and touch on the emotional side of beauty maxxing and the desire to change yourself. How far is too far? What is worth the price? Where does one draw the line? All in this episode of Note to Self. FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainross SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: Quince: Download the Quince app for app-exclusive offers, or go to Quince.com/payton Woo: Listeners can get 20% off sitewide at woomoreplay.com with code NOTETOSELF. Coyuchi: Visit coyuchi.com/notetoself for 15% off your first purchase of the most comfortable bedding you’ll ever own (exclusions apply) Produced by Dear Media. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#266
August 27 · 1 hr 2 min
My Best Friends Host My Podcast: a Life Update with 3 Way (ft. Emon & Kristen)
#261. Kristen went on a date with her task rabbit. Emon can’t stop talking about 4d movies and her nemesis from 2nd grade. Your favorite girls from the now-defunct 3 Way podcast are back on the mic for a few very important life updates. FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainross SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsor: ResortPass: Visit resortpass.com/notetoself to get $20 off your first booking of $100 or more See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#265
August 20 · 42 min
ASK P: some tough-love advice from your stand-in big sister
#260. The men are not alright in today’s installment of ASK P. We’re talking about relationships, post-college life, guy friends & beyond this week. FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainross SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#264
August 13 · 1 hr 4 min
What I Needed to Give Up in Order to Gain Peace (*somewhat controversial)
#259. A re-release of a favorite, Things I Left Behind to Gain Peace, and some of these may be rather controversial. In every era of my life, whenever I notice I’m a little on-edge, I realize I’m more often in need of releasing what doesn’t suit me rather than adding to my life. What are you releasing in this era? FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainross SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: Quince: Download the Quince app for app-exclusive offers, or go to Quince.com/payton ResortPass: Visit resortpass.com/notetoself to get $20 off your first booking of $100 or more IM8 Health: Go toIM8HEALTH.com/notetoself RIGHT NOW or click on the link in the description and use code notetoself for a Free Welcome Kit, five free travel sachets, plus ten percent off your order Lola Blankets: Get 40% off select Lola Blankets products at Lolablankets.com by using code NOTETOSELF at checkout. Experience the world’s #1 blanket with LolaBlankets. #lolapartner Wayfair: Head to Wayfair.com to shop all things home Produced by Dear Media. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#263
August 6 · 57 min
How Hard Can It Be? Boys Do It — & Other Musings with MadsMitch
#258. Maddy has been one of my favorite people to follow on socials for years, so when I found out we were crossing paths in Los Angeles, I had to have her on NTS. We’re chatting about her fresh (somewhat traumatizing?) start in LA, the parts of going viral nobody posts about, why we’ve both decided we need significantly more whimsy, our correct opinions, and so much more. FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainross SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: Resortpass: Visit resortpass.com/notetoself to get $20 off your first booking of $100 or more IM8: Go to IM8HEALTH.com/notetoself RIGHT NOW or click on the link in the description and use code note to self for a Free Welcome Kit, five free travel sachets, plus ten percent off your order. Opill: Preventing pregnancy is as easy as Opill Rula: Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/notetoself #rulapod See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#262
July 30 · 53 min
The Return of the Party Girl
#257. Why is the party girl suddenly everywhere again? This week I trace the shift from clean girl and tradwife aesthetics to a messier, freer moment — the culture, the politics, the history of partying through hard times — plus the party girl commandments and my hoe theory. FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainross SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#261
July 23 · 1 hr 3 min
The Non-Linear Career: How to Build Credibility, Wealth, and a Life You Love, with Kira Mackenzie Jackson
#256. I'm sitting down with brand strategist, angel investor, and Material Interest writer Kira Mackenzie Jackson to talk about building credibility and wealth when your career doesn't follow a straight line. We get into following a "random" interest until it becomes real expertise, the entry-level truth about angel investing, and Kira's rule for balancing consistency with the innovation that keeps you feeling alive — plus honest talk on motherhood and building an ambitious career that still leaves room for a life. FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainross SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: ResortPass: Visit resortpass.com/notetoself to get $20 off your first booking of $100 or more Opill: Preventing pregnancy is as easy as Opill Tumble: Machine Washable Rugs, Made Better. For a limited time only, our listeners get 10% off + free shipping at tumbleliving.com/NOTETOSELF #Tumble #ad See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#260
July 16 · 1 hr 11 min
Am I Becoming My Mother?: on genetics, inheritance, and what you choose (with Genetics with Natalie)
#255. Am I slowly turning into my mother? I sat down with genetic counselor Natalie Samson to figure out how much of who we are is actually written in our DNA — and how much we get to choose. We get into inheritance, the traits that surprise you, and why your genes are a starting point, not a life sentence. FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainross SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: Quince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns ResortPass: Visit resortpass.com/notetoself to get $20 off your first booking of $100 or more IM8 Health: Go to IM8HEALTH.com/notetoself RIGHT NOW or click on the link in the description and use code note to self for a Free Welcome Kit, five free travel sachets, plus ten percent off your order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#259
July 9 · 1 hr 5 min
ASK P: The Tough Love You Actually Need
#254. This week's ASK P tackles the questions you've been scared to ask out loud — navigating friendship breakups and having no close friends in your 20s, spending your birthday alone, advocating for your needs in the bedroom, walking away from a situationship, and moving to a big city on your own. It's a little tough love, a lot of validation, and a reminder that you're allowed to want more. Send me your own ASK P questions using the link below. 🤍 FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainross SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: Quince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Resortpass: Visit resortpass.com/notetoself to get $20 off your first booking of $100 or more Olive and June: Visit OliveandJune.com/NOTETOSELF for 20% off your first System Rula: Visit Rula.com/notetoself to get started See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#258
July 2 · 55 min
Finding Out What My Best Friend Actually Does All Day (She’s a Celebrity Stylist), with Kristen Ritchie
#253. My best friend, Kristen Ritchie, has one of those jobs everyone's curious about and nobody really understands: she's a celebrity stylist— and she's annoyingly private about all of it. So I made her explain herself. We get into what a day on set actually looks like, how she built a career by leaning on her friends and saying no to almost everything, and why she'd rather let the work speak than post about it. Plus a proper summer style Q&A: the staples, the sneakers, and how to actually survive business casual. FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainross SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: Square: Right now, listeners can get up to $200 off Square hardware when you sign up at square.com/go/notetoself Quince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#257
June 25 · 52 min
Outgrowing Yourself on Purpose
#252. I’m mourning the loss of me… but, like, in a good way? In this episode, we are ending over a year of internal personal chaos with realizations about growth, releasing old versions of self, and stepping into a new phase of life. This episode is very much giving *classic* NTS, and for that, we are thankful. FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainross SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: Square: Right now, listeners can get up to $200 off Square hardware when you sign up at square.com/go/notetoself Resortpass: Visit resortpass.com/notetoself to get $20 off your first booking of $100 or more Quince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Produced by Dear Media. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#256
June 18 · 59 min
Summer Favorites: Beauty, Style, Splurge vs. Steals, Substacks & More
#251. Everyone’s favorite seasonal series – summer favorites! I’ve gathered a long list of summertime favorites, from skincare & makeup to most-listened-to podcasts and perspective-changing Substack articles. I’ll link everything linkable on ShopMy, of course. Xx ShopMy links: https://shopmy.us/shop/collections/5876064 FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainross SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: Note to Self: code NOTETOSELF at IM8HEALTH.com/NOTETOSELF Olive and June: Visit OliveandJune.com/NOTETOSELF for 20% off your first System See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#255
June 11 · 51 min
ASK P: Resentment & Judgement in Relationships, Stagnant Sex Lives, Glow-Up Tips, and Long-Distance Love
#250. In today’s ASK P, we are discussing mostly relationship-related topics, with a little glow-up note to lighten the mood. Listeners sent in sensitive topics, like “am I dating his potential or supporting him through a period of growth?,” non-existent sex lives, and sacrifices in closing the distance gap in a relationship. The source content: Reality Disruption: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8S6oa/ Dealing with Uncertainty without Rumination: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8UrtQ/ Chasing Failure: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8A2HK/ 5 No’s a Week: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p89WNb/ Joe Dispenza Meditation Review: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8XPeG/ Play The Game By Your Rules: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8qQ8Q/ FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainross SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode. Sponsors: Let yourself run, lift, fail, try and go. Explore Peloton Cross Training Tread+ at onepeloton.com Quince.com/payton for free shipping and 365 day returns. Now available in Canada too! Produced by Dear Media. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#254
June 4 · 39 min
How to Feel Like Yourself in Seasons of Instability
#249. If you’ve ever felt like you lost yourself in a season of constant change, this one’s for you. I’m sharing a few things that are actually keeping me grounded right now — from the simplest possible routine to why having a responsibility (even a four-legged one) might be the most stabilizing thing in your life. Consider this your permission slip to stop waiting for things to calm down before you start feeling like yourself again. The source content: Reality Disruption: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8S6oa/ Dealing with Uncertainty without Rumination: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8UrtQ/ Chasing Failure: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8A2HK/ 5 No’s a Week: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p89WNb/ Joe Dispenza Meditation Review: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8XPeG/ Play The Game By Your Rules: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8qQ8Q/ FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainross SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: Rula: Visit Rula.com/notetoself to get started Peloton: Go to onepeloton.com Lola Blankets: For a limited time, our listeners can get 40% OFF select Lola Blankets products with code NOTETOSELF at checkout Olive & June: Visit OliveandJune.com/NOTETOSELF for 20% off your first System! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#253
May 28 · 46 min
The Personal Holiday: On Crafting the Perfect Solo Weekend Away
#248. Solo travel doesn't have to mean a flight, a passport, or a packed itinerary — it just has to be yours. I'm breaking down exactly how to craft the perfect solo weekend “away,” whether that's a staycation, a short drive, or anywhere in between, plus the must-haves that make it worth it on any budget. This is your sign to book a solo weekend sabbatical asap. The source content: Reality Disruption: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8S6oa/ Dealing with Uncertainty without Rumination: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8UrtQ/ Chasing Failure: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8A2HK/ 5 No’s a Week: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p89WNb/ Joe Dispenza Meditation Review: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8XPeG/ Play The Game By Your Rules: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8qQ8Q/ FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainross SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#252
May 21 · 53 min
What TikTok Taught Me: Life Lessons I’ve Learned Following the Right People
#247. Social media gets a bad reputation — and usually earns it. But this week, I make the case for the other side: what happens when you curate your feed like a curriculum and actually pay attention. Five ideas worth stealing, from the people worth following. The source content: Reality Disruption: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8S6oa/ Dealing with Uncertainty without Rumination: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8UrtQ/ Chasing Failure: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8A2HK/ 5 No’s a Week: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p89WNb/ Joe Dispenza Meditation Review: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8XPeG/ Play The Game By Your Rules: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8qQ8Q/ FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainross SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: Quince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping and365-day returns Peloton: Go to onepeloton.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#251
May 14 · 1 hr 3 min
The Motherhood Conversation I Didn't Know I Needed, with What We Said (Jaci Marie & Chelsey Jade)
#246. Jaci Marie and Chelsey Jade of What We Said came prepared — and left me feeling like I actually might be too. We covered trimester zero prep, the surprising things motherhood teaches you about productivity and identity, and the parts of yourself that are absolutely worth protecting. The motherhood conversation every woman deserves to have before she needs it. FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainross Sponsors: Quince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping and365-day returns IM8: Go to IM8HEALTH.com/NOTETOSELF and use code NOTETOSELF for aFree Welcome Kit, five free travel sachets plus ten percent off your order. Peloton: Go to onepeloton.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
#250
May 7 · 44 min
ASK P: Age Gap Relationships, Moving Out of the US, The Best Part of Getting Older, & Situationship Drama
#245. In this installment of ASK P, listeners are asking questions about age gap relationships, making an international move, the positive side of getting older, and the push and pull of situationships. FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors: Rula: Visit Rula.com/notetoself to get started IM8: Go to IM8HEALTH.com/NOTETOSELF and use code NOTETOSELF for aFree Welcome Kit, five free travel sachets plus ten percent off your order. Peloton: Go to onepeloton.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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