Why Saying No Feels So Dangerous: Toxic Guilt and Narcissistic Parents | Epi 169

In this episode, we dive into Part 2 of my conversation with Hannah Alderete, a Dynamic Emotion Focused Therapist and Certified Relational Trauma Coach, as we explore the deeper fears and unconscious beliefs that often lie beneath toxic guilt. Together, we explore why saying no, setting boundaries, or disappointing others can feel so dangerous—even when no "actual" harm is being done. We also discuss what healing looks like when that guilt begins to loosen, including the emergence of anger and all the emotions that guilt may have been concealing. The deeper question many people eventually face: Who am I without this guilt? Learn more about Hannah's work: heartfeltonlinetherapy.com If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information. Contact me Directly with observations, questions or comments: thenarcissismdecoder@gmail.com You can follow The Narcissism Decoder on: https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/ https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder https://www.youtube.com/@thenarcissismdecoder Dr. Mazzella’s personal website: drmazzella.com Dr. Anthony Mazzella is a psychoanalyst and psychodynamic psychotherapist specializing in narcissism, personality disorders, and relational dynamics.