Narcissism Decoder

When Connection Feels Dangerous: How Shame Makes You Disappear

Jul 30, 2025 · 24 min · Season 2 · Episode 95 · 17.6 MB
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What if the reason you shut down, disappear, or attack yourself… isn’t weakness, but shame? In this clip with Renee Swanson, we uncover how shame hides behind perfectionism, silence, and even grandiosity—and why naming it is the first step to healing.


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 https://bleav.com/shows/the-covert-narcissism-podcast/episodes/shame-vs-self-the-invisible-wound-behind-narcissistic-traits/

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