Love This Way!

Shaleea Venney

The Love This Way Podcast delivers honest, healing, and transformational conversations about modern relationships, emotional wellness, and self-worth. No gender wars or back and forth, just solid advice to help men and women to find and sustain healthy love. Because love is a journey and you need direction!

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Yesterday · 13 min
When did we stop flirting with the person we fell in love with?
Send us Fan Mail Somewhere between the bills, the kids, the grocery lists, the responsibilities, and everyday life… we can accidentally stop dating the person we're already committed to. But being secure doesn't mean you have to stop pursuing each other. You can be married and still flirt. You can be comfortable and still be playful. You can know they're yours and still make them feel wanted. You can be together for 20 years and still look across the room and think, "Yep. That's my person." ❤️ And honestly? Some of the most romantic things aren't grand gestures. They're the little things that say: "I still notice you." "I still like you." "I still choose you." Don't just build a life together. Enjoy each other while you're building it. Support the show
July 27 · 10 min
The Greatest Relationship Skill Isn't Communication. It's Self-Government!
Send us Fan Mail Most people think the greatest threat to a relationship is poor communication. I don't. I think it's poor character. Because communication doesn't stop you from cheating. Communication doesn't stop you from lying. Communication doesn't stop you from crossing boundaries you know you shouldn't cross. Character does. Somewhere along the way, we've become more impressed by being desired than by being dependable. We've normalized betrayal. We've celebrated temptation. We've treated integrity like it's old-fashioned. But here's the truth... Every decision you make is shaping two things: Your future... and the person you're becoming. The scariest part about betrayal isn't what it does to someone else. It's what it slowly does to you. Because one day, your looks will fade. The attention will fade. The excitement will fade. But your character... will still be introducing you long after everything else is gone. Support the show
July 19 · 9 min
Your Relationship Has an Emotional Economy
Send us Fan Mail I think we've been measuring love the wrong way. We ask, "How much do they do for me?" But maybe that's the wrong question. Because every relationship has an emotional economy. Every compliment... Every broken promise... Every hug... Every criticism... Every thoughtful gesture... Every ignored moment... They're all transactions. But here's the part no one talks about... You can spend years investing in your relationship... and still leave your partner feeling emotionally bankrupt. Why? Because you've been investing in a currency they don't use. You bought gifts. They wanted your attention. You worked overtime to provide. They wanted thirty uninterrupted minutes with you. You solved their problems. They wanted to be comforted. You said, "I love you." They were hoping to hear, "I'm proud of you." The problem isn't always that we've stopped loving each other. Sometimes we've simply stopped learning what makes the other person feel emotionally rich. Love isn't measured by how much you invest. It's measured by whether your investment makes the person you love feel wealthy. Support the show
July 13 · 9 min
Most People Think They're Being Accountable... They Aren't!
Send us Fan Mail Everyone says they want accountability in a relationship. But I think most people misunderstand what it actually is. Accountability isn't saying, "Fine... I already admitted I was wrong." It isn't, "I already apologized." And it definitely isn't, "That wasn't my intention." Because admitting you hurt someone isn't the same as caring that you hurt them. Real accountability sounds different. It says, "Help me understand what that felt like for you." "I can see how my actions affected you." "I'm committed to making sure love looks different next time." Because confession tells your partner you know what you did. Accountability shows them you care what it did. And that difference has the power to heal relationships. Support the show
July 5 · 10 min
Your Partner Can't Read the Story You're Telling Yourself
Send us Fan Mail Your partner can't read the story you're telling yourself. And that might be one of the biggest reasons relationships struggle. They walk in the house quiet... You tell yourself they're upset with you. They forget something important... You tell yourself you don't matter. The event lasts a moment. The story can last for months. And here's the heartbreaking part... Your partner has no idea they're being judged by a story they never helped write. Healthy love isn't about becoming mind readers. It's about becoming translators. Instead of asking, "Why did you do that?" Start asking, "What might they be trying to tell me that they don't have words for?" And instead of assuming your partner knows what's in your heart... Tell them. Because sometimes... the relationship you've been praying for doesn't begin when your partner changes. It begins the moment the story changes. Support the show
June 21 · 11 min
The Invisible Things Fathers Carry: The Fathers Nobody Checks On
Send us Fan Mail Today isn't just Father's Day. Today is for the fathers nobody checks on. The ones who carry the weight of the world without telling anyone how heavy it feels. The men who lie awake wondering if they're doing enough. The fathers who cry in the car before walking into the house because their family needs them to be strong. The men who quietly sacrifice things their children may never know about. The fathers who stayed. The ones who kept showing up. I hope you know this today: We see you. We appreciate you. And whether you've heard it lately or not... What you're doing matters. Your children may never fully understand every sacrifice you made for them. But one day they will stand on the foundation you built. And generations will be different because you chose to stay. Happy Father's Day to the men who loved quietly, sacrificed daily, and kept showing up even when nobody was clapping. You are more than what you provide. You are deeply needed. And you are deeply loved Support the show
June 14 · 10 min
Can You Love Me When It Hurts?
Send us Fan Mail Most people ask: "Can you love me?" But the deeper question is: Can you love me when it hurts? Can you love me when you're disappointed in me? Can you love me when I'm struggling? Can you love me when I'm not showing up perfectly? Can you love me when life gets hard? Because anybody can love when everything feels good. The real test of love comes when hurt enters the relationship. When expectations aren't met. When mistakes happen. When stress takes over. When two imperfect people have to decide whether they're going to fight each other... or fight for each other. Some people don't stop loving when they're hurt. They stop acting loving. And that's where so many relationships lose their way. The goal isn't finding someone who will never disappoint you. You won't. The goal is finding someone who remembers you're human when you do. Because maybe the deepest form of love isn't being loved when you're at your best. Maybe it's being loved when life is hard... and someone still refuses to turn you into their enemy. Support the show
June 7 · 10 min
The Best Parts of Love Are Actually Small
Send us Fan Mail We spend so much time looking for the big moments in love... The proposal. The wedding. The grand gesture. The expensive gift. But if we're honest? The best parts of love are usually the smallest. Because real love isn't built in one extraordinary moment. It's built in a thousand ordinary ones. And one day, when you look back on the people who loved you well, you probably won't remember every gift they gave you. You'll remember how they made you feel. Seen. Known. Considered. Cherished. Maybe the best parts of love were never supposed to be the loudest. Maybe they were always the smallest. Support the show
May 31 · 10 min
Complacency in Relationships: Why Do You Expect Them to Keep Choosing You If You’ve Stopped Showing Up?
Send us Fan Mail Complacency doesn’t usually destroy a relationship overnight. It happens slowly. The dates stop. The compliments stop. The flirting fades. The effort gets replaced with routine. And the person you love starts feeling less like they’re chosen… and more like they’re just there. Comfort in a relationship is beautiful. Complacency is not. You chose them. So how long do they have to keep choosing you while feeling like you stopped showing up? Support the show
May 25 · 9 min
There’s a Big Difference Between “They Don’t Care” and “They’re Trying”
Send us Fan Mail There’s a huge difference between the spouse who simply doesn’t care… and the one who may get things wrong—but genuinely means well and is trying their best. And if we treat those two like they’re the same… we create pain where there only needed to be patience, perspective, and grace. Not every missed expectation is intentional. Not every mistake means they don’t care. Sometimes your partner is: learning in real time undoing what they were never taught trying to love you well with tools they never saw modeled and giving you their sincere effort, even if it’s imperfect. Because there’s a big difference between someone unwilling… and someone growing. And relationships get healthier when couples stop demanding perfection… and start giving each other room to learn. Support the show
May 17 · 10 min
Nobody Talks About the Grief Inside Relationships
Send us Fan Mail Nobody talks about the grief that can exist inside a relationship that never ended. Not all grief comes from breakups. Sometimes it comes from: the romance that never came the effort that slowly faded the emotional connection that changed the version of love you thought you were building And the hardest part is… many people carry this pain silently because “nothing bad technically happened." In this episode, we talk about the quiet grief people carry inside relationships, the loneliness of emotional deprivation, and why so many people normalize surviving instead of being deeply loved. Support the show
May 11 · 9 min
She Became a Mother… But Did Anyone Ask Who She Became?
Send us Fan Mail Motherhood changes women in ways people rarely talk about. Not just physically. Emotionally. Mentally. Relationally. A woman can deeply love her children… and still miss herself. And that doesn’t make her selfish. It makes her human. In this episode, we talk about the identity shift motherhood creates, how relationships silently change after children, and why so many women feel lost inside roles they love. Support the show
May 4 · 8 min
We’re Not Enemies...We’re Misunderstood
Send us Fan Mail It feels like men and women are at war right now… Everyone has a side. Everyone has a story. Everyone has a reason why the other is the problem. But what if we’re not enemies? What if we’re just… misunderstood? Men are carrying pressure they don’t always know how to express. Women are carrying emotional weight they don’t always feel seen for. Both are trying. Both are hurting. In this episode, we break down how misunderstanding turns into division, and how to finally start seeing each other again. Support the show
April 26 · 10 min
You Don’t Know Your Partner As Well As You Think You Do
Send us Fan Mail You think you know your partner… But do you know who they are right now? Or are you still relating to who they used to be? A lot of relationships don’t break because love disappears. They break because understanding stops. People grow. People change. People evolve. And if you’re not paying attention… you can end up loving a version of your partner that no longer exists. In this episode, we talk about how couples slowly drift apart when they stop learning each other, and how to reconnect with who your partner is becoming. Because love isn’t just about knowing someone once. It’s about choosing to understand them again and again. Support the show
April 20 · 11 min
Your Partner Is Experiencing a Completely Different Relationship Than You
Send us Fan Mail Two people can be in the same relationship… and have completely different emotional experiences. One feels loved. The other feels lonely. One feels secure. The other feels uncertain. One feels stable. The other feels disconnected. Same relationship. Different reality. Because love isn’t only about what you do… it’s about what your partner actually feels. In this episode we talk about how couples slowly drift into two completely different relationship realities, and 5 ways to close the gap so both people feel loved, chosen, and emotionally connected. Because the goal isn’t just to have a relationship that looks stable… It’s to have a relationship that feels good to both people living inside it. Support the show
April 13 · 9 min
Why Being Chosen Still Doesn’t Feel Like Enough
Send us Fan Mail Some people are in committed relationships… healthy relationships… loving relationships… …and still feel unsure. They were chosen. And yet the questions still come: “Do they really love me?” “What if they change their mind?” “What if I’m not enough?” “What if I lose this?” Sometimes the problem is the story you’ve been telling yourself about your worth long before this relationship began. In this episode, we talk about why commitment alone doesn’t always create security — and 5 ways to feel more secure without needing constant reassurance. Support the show
April 6 · 9 min
Do You Even Like Your Spouse?
Send us Fan Mail Being together doesn’t automatically mean someone feels loved. Some people are in relationships with partners they don’t tend to… don’t prioritize… don’t speak kindly to… don’t make time for… don’t show interest in… don’t romance anymore. If your spouse wants time with you… wants connection… wants affection… wants effort… is the answer always: “I don’t feel like it”? Love is continuing to choose the person you already chose. Because eventually, even the most patient partner can feel the difference between being loved…and being tolerated. Support the show
March 30 · 10 min
You Say You Want Honest Communication… Until You Hear the Truth
Send us Fan Mail Almost everyone says they want honest communication. But what happens when the truth is uncomfortable? When honesty is met with defensiveness… dismissal… shutdown… or counterattack… people learn something quickly: Honesty doesn’t feel safe here. So they start softening the truth. Avoiding conversations that might create tension. And slowly, the relationship becomes peaceful… but distant. In this episode, we talk about the subtle ways couples unintentionally train each other to stop telling the truth — and 5 ways to make honesty feel safe again. Because you cannot feel fully loved if you are not fully known. Support the show
March 23 · 10 min
Can Your Partner Affect Your Self-Esteem?
Send us Fan Mail People love to say: “No one can affect your self-esteem because it’s called self-esteem.” But relationships absolutely influence how confident or insecure someone feels over time. Not because they are weak. Because they are human. Healthy love should not make you question your worth. It should reinforce it. In this episode we talk about the subtle ways couples unintentionally damage each other’s self-esteem, and how to protect the confidence of the person you love. Because love should feel safe to be fully yourself. Support the show
March 16 · 10 min
To The Men Carrying the Weight of the World...
Send us Fan Mail This episode is for the men who are tired… but still standing. The men carrying full loads. The men solving problems no one else even sees. The men who feel like everyone depends on them — but no one asks how they’re doing. Some of you are crying in your cars before you walk into the house. Some of you are laying awake at night trying to figure out how to hold everything together. And the world rarely stops long enough to say this: We see you. Your effort matters. Your sacrifice matters. Your presence in this world matters more than you realize. Men are often expected to carry the weight quietly. But today’s episode is a reminder that you are not invisible — and you are not alone. If you’re a man who’s been pushing forward even when you’re exhausted… This one is for you. Support the show