Life Uncut

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Talking all things love, life, lust, and a bunch of other stuff. Nothing is off limits in this podcast that navigates relationships and dating in the modern day. Brought to you by two bachelor finalists Brittany Hockley and Laura Byrne.

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June 11 · 56 min
Miscarriage and Pregnancy Loss. The Club No One Wants To Be A Part Of. Uncut with Irena Gilbert
Back in 2020, we released an episode titled “Talking Miscarriage” where Laura spoke about experiencing not one but two miscarriages. It is an episode that people still message us every week about. Six years ago the topic of miscarriage was still pretty taboo, and it has changed slightly but it’s still an experience that leaves so many people feeling alone and grieving privately. Today’s guest has unfortunately experienced miscarriage a number of times. We first got to know Irena Gilbert on The Bachelor Australia back in 2020. After that final rose, her and Locky have gone on to get married and build a life together! Before welcoming their daughter Ava in February 2024, Irena experienced multiple miscarriages; her first in 2021, her second in 2023, and now another just 2 weeks ago. Today we're sitting down with Irena to talk about something that affects one in four pregnancies in Australia, and yet still so often goes unspoken, pregnancy loss. This conversation is not easy. But it is important, generous, and going to reach a lot of women who need to hear it. Irena brings something rare to this conversation: she is both a woman who has lived through pregnancy loss multiple times, and a nurse with over 15 years of experience caring for women going through the same thing. The gap between what she knew clinically and what she felt personally is something she speaks to with a lot of honesty. We chat: When Irena & Locky spoke about having kids Why their Covid-interrupted season actually gave them something most Bachelor couples never get Her first pregnancy loss and why she felt she wasn't "allowed" to grieve it How the second miscarriage How partners grieve differently, and why their pain gets left out of the conversation What miscarriage actually looks like physically The statistics: roughly 280–300 miscarriages happen in Australia every day Pregnancy after loss: why Irena couldn't let herself feel excited, couldn't take photos, and was still waiting for something to go wrong on the day Ava was born Her third and most recent loss two weeks ago Why this one hurt the most and what her obstetrician said that finally made sense of it "At least you have a healthy baby" - why well-meaning words can be the most dismissive thing you can say Why pregnancy loss and infertility are different experiences that don't need to be compared You can follow Irena on Instagram Free counselling is available from Red Nose Grief and Support Line Timestamps 0:00 — Intro 2:20 — Bachelor 2020, meeting Locky, and talking kids on their very first date 4:40 — The Covid season: why six months of phone calls gave them something most Bachelor couples never had 6:40 — Going back to nursing after the show and why it kept her grounded 8:30 — First pregnancy loss 12:00 — Laura shares her own experience: the complicated feelings of an unplanned pregnancy lost 13:40 — How the second miscarriage unlocked everything she'd buried from the first 20:40 — How Locky processed it 23:05 — What miscarriage actually feels like physically 29:25 — The statistics: 280–300 miscarriages a day in Australia, and that's only the ones that are known about 30:00 — Pregnancy after loss: not allowing herself to get excited, not taking photos, waiting for something to go wrong 35:20 — Why she struggled with social media pregnancy announcements and the joy she'll never fully have back 36:00 — The third loss: two weeks ago 38:20 — Why this one hurt the most: her obstetrician's explanation that finally made sense 39:30 — "At least you've got a healthy baby" — why this is the most dismissive thing you can say, even when it comes from love 43:10 — The grief Olympics: pregnancy loss and infertility aren't competing, they're both just really shit 45:20 — Laura's experience of her second loss, and the complicated way miscarriage can clarify how much you want something 49:20 — The shame hangover: why women of our mothers' generation stayed silent, and what that cost us 53:20 — Her mum's stillbirth, growing up knowing about it, and being a rainbow baby herself 54:05 — What she wants every woman who hears this to know See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
June 9 · 1 hr 6 min
Steven Bartlett Ruined His Life With Three Glasses of Wine & The Comedian Who Got Fired For A Racist Skit
Hey Lifers! Britt is living her best life in Italy so it's Laura and Keeshia holding down the fort for this one. Laura gives us a little update on her first weekend away without the kids; two whole nights, dinner at 6:30pm with a seven minute door-to-car turnaround, and it’s pure bliss. She's also heading to India tomorrow at 5am for a ten day work trip and we get a bit of the BTS of what’s in store for the trip. Keeshia is in one of those ‘scattered’ phases where she keeps doing stupid things that frustrate her, the people around her and also can be quite expensive ‘accidents’. We share your worst roommate stories and they are some of the most unhinged messages we’ve ever read. Some are disgusting, some are absolutely deranged, and one involves a Tinder date being called to fix a blocked toilet. A self-described comedian posted a video that racked up nearly two million views, cost her a job, and ignited a national conversation about race, satire, and what Australians are and aren't allowed to say; and she has not apologised to a single person. We question if "it's just a joke" can protect you legally in Australia? What are your actual rights as an employer when a staff member's public views trash your company values? And what does it say about us as a society that there's now a $46k crowdfund in her name? “Optimisation culture has made us all miserable.” Steven Bartlett said that three glasses of wine ruined his life for three days. We ask whether we've all been so busy tracking our bio stats that we forgot to actually have fun. We chat sleep scores, going alcohol free, nonna maxxing, friction maxxing (more maxxings, we know, we know, we’re all over them) and adding ‘whimsy’ into your life in 2026. Don't forget to slide into our DMs @lifeuncutpodcast with your questions or any remaining unhinged roommate stories we didn't get to. TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Intro 1:45 — What's dropping over the break 3:00 — Laura's heading to India tomorrow — ten days, three kids left behind, 5am flight 8:12 — Keeshia's been having a scatterbrained week 14:36 — Laura's first ever kid-free weekend away 18:26 — Your worst roommate stories 31:32 — Lisa Jane Spencer: the viral racist skit, the firing and the $46k crowdfund 45:30 — Optimisation culture 46:50 — Steven Bartlett had three glasses of wine and it "ruined his life" 1:01:10 — Sucks & Sweets! Keep your questions coming! Slide into the Life Uncut DMs at @lifeuncutpodcast on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Laura Byrne & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
June 7 · 41 min
Ask Uncut - I Know My Friend Baby Trapped Him, The Mother-In-Law Posting His Ex and The Ex Crawling Back
Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deepest, darkest and most burning questions! Big news this week: this is Britt's last episode before she heads off on a month-long holiday through Europe with Ben. Laura and Keeshia will hold down the fort next week and no, they are not wheeling in the big box TV like a substitute teacher. Fresh new content is dropping throughout, so don't go anywhere. Vibes of the week: Britt 📺 Worst Ex Ever on Netflix Keeshia 🩲 Aunt Flow period underwear Laura 🧳 Cubey Packing Cubes by Holly Kingston and Jimmy Nicholson Then it's into your questions! Q1: MY MOTHER-IN-LAW IS POSTING PHOTOS WITH MY HUSBAND'S EX-WIFE ALL OVER FACEBOOK They've been together ten years. He was married before and, from what he's told her, his mum and his ex-wife didn't get along. Then out of nowhere: three separate Facebook posts of the mother-in-law at brunch with the ex-wife. Her friends think it's a deliberate dig. Her husband won't say anything because he hates conflict. Q2: MY FRIEND IS PREGNANT AND I KNOW IT WASN'T AN ACCIDENT Her friend has had an on-and-off friends-with-benefits situation for years with a guy most of their group doesn't approve of. Now she's pregnant. The problem: just weeks earlier, the friend had told her she was thinking about not taking the morning after pill and that "if there was anyone to have an accident with, it was him." She doesn't know how to show up, can't pretend to believe it was a surprise, and doesn't know whether to say anything. Q3: SHE CHEATED. NOW HE'S USING IT AS AN EXCUSE TO BARELY COME HOME OR BE A DAD A six month old baby, both on six-figure salaries, and the husband has decided to take a career change that means he'll only be home once or twice a month. When she raised concerns, he turned it back on her and accused her of not wanting to take responsibility for their child. The reason he's doing this? She cheated on him. Q4: MY EX LEFT ME FOUR MONTHS INTO OUR MARRIAGE FOR THE LOCAL BARMAID. NOW HE WANTS ME BACK. Five years together, two kids, four months into marriage - and he left. It's been two years of courts, separation and his bad behaviour (which he now admits was jealousy over her new partner). He's begging to come back. She still loves him. She misses the family unit. Her little boys keep asking for Mummy and Daddy to live together again. She's now in a new relationship with a man who is wonderful to her kids. She doesn't know what to do. TIMESTAMPS 0:00 - Intro 2:08 - Vibes 9:40 - Q1: My mother-in-law posted photos with my husband's ex-wife all over Facebook 17:10 - Q2: My friend is pregnant and I know it wasn't an accident 25:50 - Q3: She cheated. He's now barely coming home and barely being a dad. 34:00 - Q4: He left me for the barmaid four months into our marriage. Now he wants me back. Keep your questions coming! Slide into the Life Uncut DMs at @lifeuncutpodcast on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
June 5 · 33 min
Offcuts - “High Value Women” Apparently Don't Accept Coffee Dates and Bad ROI on Orgasms
Hey Lifers! Welcome to your little weekend snack! We kick things off with Laura's post-baby-number-three return to exercise, specifically, an aggressive 8.5km power walk that has left her pelvis in absolute ruins. We also cover the lengths we've gone to impress men in our past lives: spearfishing, drones, the works. Then we get into it: Clavicular is… ‘penismaxxing’. The "high value woman doesn't accept coffee dates" TikTok trend Young Australians are collectively wasting $2 billion a year on skincare they buy and never finish. A woman in America has been arrested for posing as a real estate agent to film luxury $12–13 million Bel-Air mansions for her Instagram. TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Intro 0:56 — Laura's post-baby 8.5km walk broke her pelvis 6:19 — Clavicular is penis maxxing 13:56 — Matthew Hussey on the "high value woman doesn't accept coffee dates" trend 21:45 — Australians waste $2 billion a year on skincare they never finish 27:27 — Woman arrested for posing as a real estate agent to film Bel-Air mansions for Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
June 4 · 52 min
What It Actually Feels Like to Leave a Marriage When You Have Kids - Uncut with Tara Pavlovic
Today’s episode is with one of our very favourite Bach alums Tara Pavlovic. Tara was on Laura's season of The Bachelor back in 2017, and despite the slightly unusual premise of competing for the same man, she's one of the people Laura has genuinely stayed close with ever since. Tara is currently going through a separation. Not in the past tense, not with the benefit of two years of hindsight. She’s currently in the thick of it, while co-parenting two young kids and figuring out what life looks like on the other side. And she wanted to come and talk about it, because she knows there are women out there sitting exactly where she was sitting a few months ago, wondering if it's okay to make the decision to leave. We chat: The post-Bachelor world: fake attention, disingenuous people, and why it made trusting anyone so hard Years of couples counselling, trying everything, and the moment the penny finally dropped What it physically felt like in her body when the relationship was no longer working Why "staying for the kids" isn't always the best thing Separation and equal parenting The judgment that comes when you're the one who leaves Discovering she can kill spiders, mow lawns, and do everything she thought she needed someone else for "Do I believe in love anymore? Absolutely not" and what she actually means Life now: calm, present, peaceful, and genuinely happy Tara also teases an upcoming podcast she's launching with Bachelor alum David Lloyd! Watch this space. You can follow Tara on Instagram Timestamps 0:00 — Introducing our sister wife: Tara Pavlovic 9:45 — Tara's love of kids, starting in childcare at 18, and becoming a mum 11:10 — What the post-Bachelor world was really like 16:00 — Dating again after BiP and why she went back to someone she already knew and trusted 17:15 — Getting into the separation: years of trying, couples counselling, and going quiet 19:45 — The cruise that changed everything — feeling peace for the first time in years 22:20 — How couples counselling helped, and when the counsellor finally said "staying for the kids isn't enough" 24:55 — Why staying together isn't always the answer for kids 28:25 — Did she feel guilty? Honestly, no — here's why 29:00 — The mental load she didn't know she was carrying 33:15 — Navigating what to share (and not share) on social media during a separation 37:30 — The surprising things: friendships shifting, being seen as the one who "broke the family" 38:30 — All the things she's discovered she can do by herself: spiders, lawns, everything 47:00 — Dating with kids: what she would and wouldn't introduce into her children's lives 46:45 — "I'm living the fairytale right now" You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Laura Byrne & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
June 2 · 47 min
The ‘Roommate Phase’ - Are You Resting or Rotting?
Hey Lifers! We kick off this week with Britt calling in from Italy (hungover, again 👀) and why it took us YEARS to stop performing on camera and actually just be ourselves with our naturally low voices. Laura had a suspicious parcel arrive at her front door. It was full of syringes, tiny vials, and one very tanned man who came to collect it. We speak about the world of Melanotan, carrot maxing, and the very real question of whether eating 20 carrots a day will make you glow. The roommate phase Is your relationship resting or rotting? There's a big difference, and we break it all down from the red flags that say you're rotting to why the roommate phase is actually really common, and sometimes even kind of… nice? We chat about the trenches of parenthood, feeling a little flat in your relationship and finding novelty. Keeshia opens up about where she's at in her relationship and why she's genuinely embracing the rest. We wrap up with sucks and sweets; Britt is a year into marriage and almost forgot her anniversary, Laura's baby Poppy is pulling herself up on everything and immediately face-planting, and Laura's heading to India with her sister. TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Britt's calling from Italy, hungover (again) 2:00 — 7 years of podcasting and our voices have completely changed 7:40 — The mysterious package 14:00 — What IS carrotmaxxing? 17:20 — The roommate phase: is your relationship resting or rotting? 19:30 — Having kids and the relationship shift — does it have to be negative? 22:30 — How to tell if you're just in a lull vs. something more serious is happening 30:00 — Keeshia opens up: she's embracing the roommate phase 35:20 — Resting vs rotting and what the real line is between the two 43:00 — Suck and Sweet You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
May 31 · 49 min
Ask Uncut - Shared Toothbrushes Are NOT a Relationship Milestone & A Heartbreak That Came Out of Nowhere
Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deepest, darkest and most burning questions! Vibes of the week: Britt - Imperfect Women on Apple TV+ Laura - Kidnapped: Elizabeth Smart on Netflix Keeshia - Kylie on Netflix Then it's into your questions! Q1: MY BOYFRIEND HAS BEEN USING MY TOOTHBRUSH. REGULARLY. Six months in, she catches her boyfriend putting her toothbrush back in the holder. He casually says, "I thought we were at that stage." She was so shocked she didn't react. Now she has the biggest ick of her life and doesn't know how to bring it up. Q2: OUR FRIENDS COPIED OUR ENTIRE RENOVATION After years of work, late nights, and an enormous amount of emotional labour, her renovation is done and she loves it. Then her friends started their reno, asked a lot of very specific questions — and have now copied the whole thing. Right down to the tiles, stones and room colours. Her husband doesn't see the issue. She does. Q3: I THINK MY BOYFRIEND MIGHT BE SECRETLY RICH AND HIDING IT FROM ME Eight months in, she loves him and can see a future with him. But he's weirdly intense about splitting everything to the dollar and she's accidentally seen investment account balances, a large transfer, and a land tax invoice on his kitchen bench. He's never mentioned any of it. Q4: FIANCE BROKE OFF ENGAGEMENT AFTER ‘FALLING OUT OF LOVE’ They'd been together four years, engaged for one. Both mid-20s. This was her first relationship and therefore her first heartbreak. He told her he'd been dealing with doubts internally for months before finally saying he'd fallen out of love and ending the engagement. She moved back home to her mum's. They've had three weeks of no contact and it's killing her. She still loves him and wants to know: can people fall back in love? TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Intro 2:57 — Vibes of the week 10:31 — Q1: My boyfriend has been secretly using my toothbrush. Regularly. 15:40 — Q2: Our friends copied our entire renovation 22:52 — Q3: I think my boyfriend is secretly rich and hiding it from me 34:44 — Q4: My fiancé ended our relationship three weeks before our engagement party You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
May 29 · 48 min
Offcuts - The Nom Noms Are *Temporarily Gone, Plus Ones Are Banned & The Enhanced ‘Drug’ Olympics
Hey Lifers! Welcome back to your weekend treat. The nom nom nom discourse is real, it is divisive, and the feedback has been received. Laura is personally victimised. We will poll you. Then we get into it: Taylor Swift is getting married and there’s plus one drama. We ask if wedding guests have a right to feel hurt when their partner doesn't make the cut? A woman on TikTok cried on camera because 39 children took over the pool and hot tub at her hotel; a hotel she specifically chose for the pool and hot tub. You can hire a woman for $500 to turn up to your funeral. It’s petty, but it’s also impactful. The Enhanced Games just wrapped up in Las Vegas. We speak about legal doping, $1 million prize pools, and Aussie Olympic swimmer James Magnussen throwing himself back in a decade after his Olympic career ended. Did anyone break any records? Is the IOC being petty? Should the Olympics just pay their athletes more? We get into all of it. ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — The nom nom nom saga 7:56 — Taylor Swift's wedding: no venue on the invites, no plus ones, and is Blake even invited? 21:16 — Woman goes viral crying over 39 kids taking over the hotel pool and hot tub 30:57 — The $500 funeral mourner: arrives in a limo, cries, disappears 39:49 — The Enhanced Games: legal doping, $1 million prize pools, and it just happened in Vegas You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
May 28 · 55 min
117 Reasons I Don’t Want To Have Kids, Grief, Estrangement & What Hollywood Really Looks Like - Uncut with Ellie Gonsalves
Hey Lifers! Ellie Gonsalves is an Australian model, actress, podcaster and Wildlife Warriors Ambassador with a collective audience of over 5 million followers. Ellie first rose to prominence in the modelling world and has since built an international career, appearing in major campaigns like superbowl commercials and has transitioned into acting. Ellie has also been very open about some deeply personal experiences like losing her father to suicide, going no contact with her mum and the kind of life she wants to live. One of the things that sparked huge conversation online was Ellie’s viral list of “117 reasons not to have kids,” a post that challenged expectations around motherhood and opened up a much bigger conversation about choice, pressure and what a fulfilling life can look like. We chat: Ellie’s excellent driving skills How a Facebook page turned into a Super Bowl commercial and a Hollywood career 17 years with partner and manager Ross The dark side of Hollywood Losing her dad to suicide and the phone call that changed everything Cutting off her mum completely and how she responds when people say "but she's your mum" The viral list — 117 reasons she doesn't want kids — and what she says to people who call it selfish Why moving back to Australia during Covid made her fall back in love with this country TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Intro 1:20 — Most embarrassing story 4:18 — Growing up a tomboy, modelling rejections & building a following 8:58 — Getting discovered on Instagram & the Super Bowl commercial 10:15 — 17 years with Ross 12:38 — Filming Fighting with My Family with Dwayne Johnson 14:30 — The viral list: 117 reasons she doesn't want kids 26:39 — Losing her dad 33:08 — Estrangement from her mum 42:25 — Ross as chosen family 45:12 — The reality of Hollywood vs the glamour 49:30 — Falling back in love with Australia You can find everything from Ellie Gonsalves here You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
May 26 · 1 hr 3 min
Britt Almost Got Deported & Did Katie Price's Husband Fake His Own Kidnapping?
Hey Lifers! We come to you today after 2.5 hours of technical chaos. Britt nearly got deported from Italy. With ten days until she legally had to leave the country, Ben revealed he had not, in fact, sorted the visa that he was meant to. Laura's baby Poppy had what we are calling an incident involving the family dog Buster and sensory play. Buster was mortified. Poppy was unbothered. There's also a Slimy Rock Johnson update. The garden snail that Marlie Mae brought home five weeks ago, that half of you were very invested in, has been ceremonially released to the garden after Laura quietly became the only one caring for him. Then the story that has been living rent-free in our heads for two weeks. Katie Price, UK glamour model, national treasure of chaos, recently married a man named Lee Andrews after knowing him for approximately two days. Lee lives in Dubai. Lee is allegedly a billionaire. Lee has photos with Elon Musk and Kim Kardashian that are so obviously photoshopped you will need to sit down. Multiple women have come forward saying Lee is a serial romance scammer who took significant amounts of money. A Texan nurse lost over £123,000. His previous fiancée is apparently wearing the same ring Katie now has. Lee was supposed to fly to the UK to appear live on Good Morning Britain to prove he could leave the country and instead called Katie from the airport to say he was being bundled into a white van and cable-tied. He has been "kidnapped" ever since. We unpack the whole unhinged saga including Katie’s particularly interesting timing to be doing CBD gummy ads. We speak about tactics that romance scammers use like ‘future faking’ and the ‘double trauma’ that victims of romance scams experience. Britt also has some personal experience with why people might not listen when someone tries to warn you. You can listen to our chat with Cecilie and Pernilla from the Tinder Swindler here TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Tech chaos, cross-continent recording 2:00 — Britt almost got deported from Italy 12:30 — What life actually looks like in Italy day-to-day 21:00 — Poppy's dog poo incident. 25:00 — Slimy Rock Johnson's farewell ceremony (RIP) 30:30 — Katie Price: who is she and why is the whole world watching right now 34:00 — Lee Andrews, the fake kidnapping and a van with cable ties 45:00 — Why women stay: love bombing, isolation and the psychology of the con 54:00 — The embarrassment of being scammed and why Katie might already know 1:01:00 — Can we laugh at this? Where the comedy ends and the concern begins 1:02:30 — Suck & Sweet of the week You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
May 24 · 41 min
Ask Uncut - I Called Off The Wedding 6 Weeks Before. Do I Keep My Dress and Ring?
Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deepest, darkest and most burning questions! We kick things off with Britt's very public apology to an unnamed language app she accused of scamming her last week. Spoiler: she wasn't scammed. She just used the wrong email. She's back on track to becoming fluent in Italian. Vibes of the week: Britt - Olivia's House podcast Keeshia - Mac Locked Kiss Ink 24 Hour Lip Colour Laura - The Crash on Netflix Then it's into your questions! IS IT A BAD IDEA TO SLEEP WITH MY EX'S MATE? My ex and I were together for 9 years. The last couple of years were pretty rough. I officially left in September 2025 but didn’t move out straight away. We briefly got back together over December/January for about 5 weeks, but I knew it wasn’t right. I moved out properly in February. We have 2 kids together, and I have them 100% of the time. Anyway, I jumped on Tinder the other night because, honestly, a girl has needs. I came across one of his friends. They used to be really close, but over the last couple of years they barely talk anymore. I always thought he was attractive but obviously never acted on it. We ended up matching and started talking, and we agreed it would just be a one night thing. Neither of us would ever tell my ex, and I genuinely don’t think he would either; he’s not the drama type. So… is this a terrible idea? I’ll probably do it anyway because I trust him, already know him, and find him attractive. Also, I haven’t been with anyone else in almost 10 years, so I’m feeling every emotion right now. DO I KEEP MY WEDDING DRESS AND RING? (CALLED OFF THE WEDDING) I called off my wedding in March last year with 6 weeks to go. However, my fiance and I remained together and tried to work on the relationship. After a year of giving it everything, I finally decided that I could no longer continue the relationship and asked him to move out in March this year. I bought my beautiful wedding dress and also selected and paid for my own ring. My question is, would you keep the wedding dress so you can one day wear it, or is the dress now "tainted" and it's better to sell and buy a new one (if I had another wedding with a different guy). Also, given I paid for the wedding ring, is it weird to wear it on a different hand (like an occasional ring), or is that too sad? IS IT THE NORM TO TELL NEWS PUBLICLY ON SOCIALS SAME TIME AS YOUR CLOSE FRIENDS? Over the past couple of years, I’ve had a few close friends go through major life milestones like engagements, pregnancies and the birth of a baby, and the way that I’ve found out is through Instagram… at the same time as everyone else. I know nobody owes anyone private access to their news, but for me personally, if I had huge life news, I’d instinctively tell my closest friends privately before posting it publicly. So now I’m wondering, is this just the new norm or is this weird and am I justified in feeling a little hurt by it? I also never know whether it’s something worth bringing up with them, or if that just makes it seem bigger than it needs to be. MY EX CRIED AFTER WE HAD SEX. WHAT DOES IT MEAN? I have an unusual one for you. For context, I was with my partner for a little over a year when we broke up. Now, I recently slept with him after eight months of no contact. And to be honest, it was incredible. But then something happened. He cried immediately after. I don't actually know what this means and I'm too scared to ask. It has been ten days now since the crying sex. What should I do? TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Britt's apology 1:55 — Vibes of the week 7:52 — Q1: Is it a bad idea to sleep with your ex's mate? 19:48 — Q2: Do I keep my wedding dress and ring after calling it off six weeks out? 26:22 — Q3: Is it normal to find out your friends are engaged/pregnant on Instagram? 36:52 — Q4: My ex cried immediately after we had sex — what does it mean? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
May 22 · 47 min
Offcuts - Is Your Partner a Plastic Bag?
Welcome to Offcuts, where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Laura's post-baby hormones are cooked Conservatives are calling Alex Cooper's pregnancy a "gotcha moment" Kylie Jenner wore a ponytail to a basketball game and TikTok called it a revolutionary new hairstyle The plastic bag partner Neutrogena dropped Hayden Panettiere under a morality clause after she spoke openly about her postnatal depression TIMESTAMPS 0:00 Intro 7:30 Conservatives vs Alex Cooper 18:56 Kylie Jenner's ponytail 25:10 The plastic bag partner 34:20 Neutrogena fired Hayden Panettiere for speaking about her postnatal depression You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
May 21 · 1 hr 9 min
Groomed And Abused Daily By His Step Mother. Then He Changed the Law - Uncut with Harrison James
Harrison James is an award-winning activist, author, and co-founder of the national law reform campaign #YourReferenceAintRelevant. Before all of that, he was a 13-year-old boy who became a victim of abuse that no child should ever experience. After his parents separated, Harri moved in with his father at 13, seeking connection and a fresh start. What followed was years of grooming and sexual abuse at the hands of his stepmother; abuse that resulted in a pregnancy, a daughter Harri was forced to call his sister, and a web of silence and shame that nearly cost him his life. Harri has since channelled that pain into something extraordinary. His #YourReferenceAintRelevant campaign,which he co-founded with fellow survivor Jarad Grice, has now driven legislative change across multiple jurisdictions, abolishing the use of good character references in the sentencing of convicted sex offenders. He's also the author of Transform Your Pain into Purpose, a part-memoir, part-practical guide for survivors and advocates. We chat: The turbulent household Harri grew up in and why his parents' divorce made him so vulnerable How grooming actually works and why it looks exactly like love and care to a child who's starved of both The moment Harry's dad walked in on the abuse and did nothing What it was like to be a 15-year-old boy secretly caring for his own baby daughter while calling her his sister The day his stepmother fled to the Philippines How Harry ended up at a mental health facility at 19, and why that saved his life His first experience of good character references: watching them being read aloud at his own father's DV sentencing Why good character references are not just unfair they're the very thing that enables abuse to happen in the first place The long, politically complicated road to law reform, and what's still left to do Harry's partner Bella, their unexpected love story, and the baby girl they're expecting You can follow Harrison on Instagram @itsharrijames You can get Transform Your Pain into Purpose at all good bookstores. Timestamps 0:00 — Trigger warning & introducing Harrison James 2:30 — What Harri's childhood looked like before his parents separated 5:45 — Choosing his dad at 13: the appeal of freedom and a fresh start 9:12 — How the grooming started 16:28 — His dad walked in on the abuse. His response was devastating 20:06 — The vasectomy: his dad's impossible denial of what was right in front of him 21:08 — Finding out his stepmother was pregnant on the school bus 33:00 — Telling his mum the truth for the first time 37:12 — Going public in 2022: why Harry posted that raw 11-minute Instagram video 40:30 — The good character references read aloud at his father's DV sentencing and how the campaign was born 46:48 — Writing Transform Your Pain into Purpose 48:30 — Meeting co-founder Jarad over a beer at the pub 52:00 — How abuse warped Harry's understanding of love and how Bella changed everything 56:17 — The campaign's wins: NSW, ACT, Victoria, Tasmania and New Zealand 58:20 — Sitting in the courtroom at Paul Frost's sentencing, and the moment he walked past the Downing Centre knowing it had changed 1:06:00 — Why this campaign isn't just legislative: it's a cultural shift 1:08:30 — His message to every survivor: you don't have to change a law to be worthy You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Laura Byrne & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
May 19 · 51 min
Shoe Gate 2026 - "Bethenny Frankel Is a Weirdo" And We’re Questioning The Expectations Of Influencers
Hey Lifers! Have we been scammed by Meta? Britt is trying to learn Italian but she’s faced some hurdles! We talk about Meta ad scams and the great bot clear out of 2026. Laura shares a story about… how do we encapsulate this?? a reformer Pilates machine, a spread eagle and someone who shouldn’t have been there to see it. We also talk about a new phase of parenting that Laura has entered: her kids have worked out how to play Matt and Laura off against each other. How do you get back on the same page when your kids have found the gap? Shoe Gate 2026. An influencer fight that none of us should care about as much as we do. Here's the timeline: Female founder Lexi Ioannou (daughter of Real Housewives' Dina Manzo) sent a pair of shoes from her brand Nou to Bethenny Frankel. Bethenny wore them multiple times but never tagged the brand. However, when a follower directly asked where the shoes were from, Bethenny linked an affiliate dupe instead. Lexi posted a now-viral callout video. Bethenny said that she did this because the shoes were sold out and that would annoy her followers, and that Lexi has played the ‘short game’ and has some business lessons to learn. We unpack both sides: the value of celebrity endorsement even without a tag, whether the exchange is ‘fair’, whether the affiliate link is the villain, and what it means when a small female-founded brand watches their product get replaced with a paid link. TIMESTAMPS 0:00 - Britt's in Italy and may have been scammed by a language app 9:16 Laura's nanny situation and the thing she shouldn’t have seen 16:00 New parenting phase: the kids are playing mum and dad off against each other 25:19 Shoe Gate 2026: Bethenny Frankel, Lexi Ioannou and the affiliate dupe 49:46 Suck and sweet of the week You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
May 17 · 59 min
Ask Uncut - Zero Libido, Forgotten Grandkids and Absent Husbands
Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning dilemmas! There’s some very spicy questions going down in our facebook group and most of it is done using nicknames. We need to poll if you want us to keep the nicknames or not! Vibes and Unsubscribes Britt - Unsubscribe from non Aussie actor being used in APEX Vibe - Should I Marry A Murderer? on Netflix Keeshia - @jeromecooksfood Laura - Yuka App Then we jump into your questions! TRANSACTIONAL W*NK So I listened to today’s episode when you asked who is wanking their partner off without sex?! The answer is me. I am doing that and have been for many years! My husband and I have been together for 10 years and he often asks for a wank so casually as if he is asking me to put the kettle on. I don’t even pretend to be in the mood, it almost just feels like a transaction and I have told him this, it doesn’t seem to bother him. For context, we both have very mismatching libidos. I wouldn’t say he wants sex a lot, probably just the normal amount, but I literally never want it. It comes up as a problem regularly in our relationship but we never seem to do anything about it. I have floated the idea of how he would feel about an open relationship if he feels his needs are not being met but he won’t entertain the idea. I also have said he has 2 perfectly good hands if he wants to sort himself out but that doesn’t work either! I have told him I just don’t enjoy sex and I would happily go the rest of my life without it. I’m never satisfied and I just give in to satisfy him but leaves me feeling icky like I’m just pretending. I never orgasm. Both alone and together we have tried using toys but still no joy! Sorry for the long message but would appreciate any advice to help me stop a lifetime of transactional wanks! GRANDPARENTS DON’T CARE ABOUT MY KID, THEIR 9TH GRAND CHILD My parents aren't really interested in being grandparents anymore, or that is how it feels. I am the youngest child in my family, when my siblings had children, especially the first 2 my parents were besotted, they saw them everyday, took photos, and showered them with affection. My son is the 9th grandchild and it just feels like they are over it, nothing is exciting or new. They never ask about him, they don't ask for photos, they have never offered to mind him. He is beautiful and well behaved most of the time. They are older now and both have health issues, my sister is also a single mom and they have given her a lot of support. I just spent a week at home and I barely saw them. I am starting to feel very resentful toward my siblings even though it's not their fault. I don't feel like I can say anything but I just feel so sad about it. I don't have one but I am finding motherhood so lonely. My husband's parents have passed and it is really hitting me that we won't have support. Has anybody else been through this? I DON'T WANT TO GO TO MY BROTHERS DESTINATION WEDDING - AM I BEING A BRAT OR REASONABLE? My brother is getting married next year and it’s a destination wedding on a tropical island, but the wedding is the day before my 30th birthday. I know a wedding is obviously a way bigger deal than a birthday, and I’m not expecting everyone to make it about me. But turning 30 feels like a big milestone, and I already know my actual birthday will probably just become the recovery day after his wedding. Because it’s mostly siblings and friends going, I also probably won’t even have my parents with me on the day. What makes it worse is that I’m doing a Master’s, working in a hospital, and completing specialist training, so I’m already flat out. The wedding is also one month before my specialist written exam, so the timing feels awful. I feel guilty saying this, but I genuinely don’t want to go. Am I being a brat, or is this understandable? And how do I tell my brother and family without causing huge drama? For more context, this won’t be my brother’s only wedding. They’re also having a bigger wedding back home with our extended family and all the older relatives, so it’s not like I’d be missing the wedding altogether. Part of why I feel so torn is that this island wedding is mostly made up of the bride’s friends and people from her side. On my brother’s side, it’s really just one of his high school best mate, me, and one cousin he’s close with. So if I don’t go, I honestly feel like there’ll barely be anyone there for him from our side, and that makes me feel really guilty. At the same time, I know I’d probably feel so out of place. Her friends and family are all very glamorous, influencer-type people, and I’m just really not that kind of person. I’m pretty low-key, I barely wear makeup, and I’m not into partying or drinking, so a destination wedding like this just isn’t something I’m excited about at all. I’m also worried that if I do go, I’ll be uncomfortable the entire time and it’ll show all over my face. I really don’t want to bring that energy to his wedding, which almost makes me feel like not going would be better than showing up and clearly not wanting to be there. I’d really love to know what you girls think, because I genuinely can’t tell if I’m being selfish or if this is a fair thing to be so torn over. Thank you so much for reading this and for always helping people make sense of life’s messier situations, it really means a lot. PARTNER HAS TOO MANY HOBBIES My fiancé, the father of our two children (7 and 4 months old) is a rather social butterfly. He is often out at the pub, fishing, surfing, checking the surf and working 5 days a week on top of that. He very rarely plans anything in advance; it's commonly spontaneous (especially fishing and surfing as its condition based). I feel so frustrated with him as he is out living his life like he’s a bachelor. I try to set a time for him to come home. He’s ALWAYS late anywhere from 10 minutes to an hour. I ask him to come home to help with the children and it’s always met with a “yep soon” and that’s always anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour. It drives me crazy! When I speak to him about my frustrations and concern about him being out more than he's spending time with his family he meets me with a “well I’m here now and because I want to be” but I feel like he doesn’t. Like if I didn’t ask or set a time he wouldn’t be home for hours! He spends up to 6 -10 hours at a time with his mates at the pub or out doing other stuff with them…is this normal? Am I crazy? TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Intro 4:43 — Vibes of the week: 14:22 — Q1: The Transactional Wank 26:30 — Q2: My parents have run out of grandparent energy 37:27 — Q3: I don't want to go to my brother's destination wedding 49:40 — Q4: Is my husband living his best bachelor life while I have a 4-month-old? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
May 15 · 48 min
Offcuts - The AI Boyfriend, Cadaver Fat & Why We All Just Want To Be Bored Again
Hey Lifers! Welcome to your weekend nom nom nom nom 🎙️ We kick things off with Keeshia finally receiving the long-awaited Santa sacks of Laura's hand-me-downs only to discover Laura accidentally donated a brand new alpaca shirt she never even wore. With the security tag still on it. A bloke went viral after using Claude AI to be his girlfriend's boyfriend for two weeks while she was in Bali — morning texts, good night messages, inside jokes, weather updates, the lot. He even coded in a jealousy function. Next, the "ghost lift" — the cosmetic procedure where surgeons are harvesting fat, skin and rib cartilage from cadavers to inject into the living. Bigger lips, chiselled jaws, breast augmentation. All from dead people. PSA 📣 If you're in Australia, you can no longer register as an organ donor on your driver's licence — you now have to sign up separately at Donate Life Denmark has officially banned the cry-it-out sleep method, backed by 700 psychologists who say the neuroscience is clear. Laura shares what it was really like in the trenches with Lola, and we discuss what this means for exhausted parents everywhere. Australia is revoking passports of parents who owe child support and an Aussie dad who went viral after being pulled aside by the AFP at the airport before his Bali holiday with his fiancée did not get the sympathy he was looking for. And finally, we came across a survey of a million women in their 30s asking what they miss about life before the internet. We get into phone use at dinner, always being contactable, the pressure to learn every AI tool before you get left behind, and why we all just want to be properly bored again. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Intro 6:36 — Man uses Claude AI to be his girlfriend's boyfriend for 2 weeks 13:06 — The "ghost lift": cadaver fat injections for cosmetic surgery 21:47 — Denmark bans the cry-it-out sleep method — backed by 700 psychologists 30:12 — Passports being revoked for unpaid child support 38:30 —What do women in their 30s miss about life before the internet? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
May 14 · 48 min
Call Girl Confidential: Guest Ask Uncut with Kayla Jade
Hey lifers! Our guest Ask Uncut is BACK! Once a month (ish 😂) we bring in a special guest to help unpack your deep and burning questions, and this month's guest is the one and only Kayla Jade, also known as Blue Eyed Kayla Jade! Kayla Jade is an OnlyFans star, porn creator, podcaster, entrepreneur, call girl, and now a debut author. With over 3 million followers across social media, Kayla Jade is one of the most fascinating, open, and honest voices talking about sex work today. She joins us in the studio to answer your deep and burning questions, but first... the pettiest hill she'll die on. Then we jump into your questions! HE'S CHEATING AND I HAVE ALL THE EVIDENCE — NOW WHAT? I've been with my partner for almost five years. Long distance, great chemistry. Last weekend I found out he's been living a double life and I caught him via a hiking app. I went full NYPD and connected the evidence back two years. I know I'm the other woman. Do I go along with it, end it, or go nuclear and detonate his entire life? MY EX STARTED GOING TO THE GYM AFTER WE BROKE UP AND I'M FURIOUS For four years I could not get this man to take a 20-minute walk. I suggested the gym approximately 100 times. He said he "just wasn't a gym person." He absolutely is a gym person. He was just not a gym person for me. Do I message him about it? I'M THINKING ABOUT STARTING AN ONLYFANS BUT I'M SCARED I'm 26, working as a DJ, and financially it just makes sense. The thing stopping me isn't the content itself it's what other people might think. My family are conservative, I grew up in a small town and I've moved somewhere that's still not a capital city. Any advice? I LOVE MY KIDS BUT I MISS MYSELF I have two kids and I love them more than I knew it was possible to love anything. But I genuinely grieve the person I was before I became a mum. How can you love something completely and still want to be the person you were before them? Does everyone feel like this? You can find everything Kayla Jade including her book Call Girl Confidential here ⏱️ Timestamps 0:00 — Introducing Kayla Jade: OnlyFans star, porn creator, podcaster & debut author 1:35 — How Kayla got started: from small town to OnlyFans during Covid 3:40 — OnlyFans vs. full service sex work — which pays more? 6:30 — Being doxxed as a mum 9:35 — The biggest misconceptions about sex work 14:50 — Pettiest hill 16:00 — How sex work has affected Kayla's ability to trust and date 20:15 — Listener Q: Caught cheating via a hiking app 27:45 — Listener Q: My ex started going to the gym after we broke up 33:55 — Listener Q: Should I start an OnlyFans? 40:42 — Listener Q: I love my kids but I grieve who I was before becoming a mum 46:30 — All about Call Girl Confidential You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Keeshia Pettit & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
May 12 · 57 min
What the Michael Jackson Biopic Doesn't Want You to Remember
Hey Lifers! Keeshia is back from Bali. If you go on leave, do you want your work team to miss you? Surely we all come back and want to hear how much we are needed! 😂 Happy belated Mother’s Day! Did you celebrate with your own mum or the mother of your children? Nick Cannon most certainly let his thoughts around mother’s day known. We talk about the very online debate over whether Mother's Day belongs to grandmothers or the mums currently in the trenches. Then, petty exes. It started with a (fake) story about a Dallas Cowboys cheerleader who hired a marching band to follow her ex to work for nine days straight. We wish it was real. We read your best revenge stories! 60 Minutes Australia released a world exclusive this week called Michael Jackson’s “secret” second family break their silence. Tara Brown sat down with the Cascio family, Michael Jackson's so-called secret second family, who are now speaking out about what they say happened to them. With the Michael biopic breaking box office records, Leaving Neverland quietly pulled from HBO, and the estate worth an estimated $3 billion, we unpack why this conversation is so divisive. We talk about the question of whether a biopic co-produced by the subject's own estate can ever be an honest one. ⚠️ Content note: this episode includes discussion of child sexual abuse allegations. TIMESTAMPS 0:00 Intro 3:25 Nick Cannon's Mother's Day 7:10 The Mother's Day debate: is it about grandmothers or mums in the trenches? 13:03 Britt's spa getaway 20:20 The (fake) marching band revenge 23:11 Your petty revenge stories: prawns, passports, seagulls and fingernails in the post 28:00 60 Minutes Michael Jackson world exclusive 29:42 Who are the Cascio family and what are they alleging? 31:34 The Michael biopic: box office juggernaut 41:20 What the Jackson estate is worth 43:54 Can you separate the art from the artist? 45:38 "It's just a money grab" — unpacking the Cascio family's allegations 50:52 The parasocial defence of Michael Jackson and what the Epstein files taught us You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
May 10 · 54 min
Ask Uncut: Hungover in Italy, My Boyfriend's Drug Habit Is Costing $12k a Year & The Blind Date That Never Happened
Hey Lifers! Welcome to Ask Uncut - your deepest, darkest and most burning questions, answered. Today’s episode comes to you slightly compromised. Britt had a few drinks in Italy last night… their wedding photographer Cass arrived with his partner Sarah and, well, “when in Rome” turned into a few too many cocktails. She was up at 5:30am, giant glass of water in hand, ready to earn her bacon. She earned it! Vibes for the week: Britt: Raising Chelsea https://www.disneyplus.com/en-au/browse/entity-0b7ad228-5160-4dde-8a64-bd7c9e7f2ebf Laura: A Bit Hippie Hair Repair Kit https://abithippy.com.au/collections/hair-treatments?srsltid=AfmBOooqgRYDlZikT0tq8IB2dgd3pHYKVp1-XPr4pGaPtN_VoUU1Nceb Then we get into your questions! MY PARTNER AND I ARE HAVING A BABY SOON Won't ramble on about how he is a great partner otherwise I wouldn't have chosen him to be my person…The only problem we have is that like most young people these days we used to do cocaine, not a lot..just a few times a year. Mostly at special occasions with friends. Now in our 30's since we started trying for a baby I stopped drinking/drugs to give it our best chance to conceive. My partners use has become more and more regular in the past year, he will bender for a whole weekend once and month and spend $1000+. I thought he would have changed in this new season in our lives together. He tells me he will change when the baby comes. I think he should be supporting this new life now as it makes me really anxious for our future. We have been battling this for a year, constant fighting, I told him how it upsets me when he does it so often. I care about his health, his job, the wasted finances, a possible addiction etc. He tells me he won't change, it's not a big deal as he only does it once a month and it's not a daily/weekly thing and I'm a hypocrite because I used to do it. The last fight we had was really bad because he promised me we wouldn't anymore and then a few days later I caught him doing it. I was so upset | left and stayed with my parents for a few days.. he begged me to come back and that things would change, they haven't. We have been battling this for a year, constant fighting. I love him but it hurts me so much, it feels like he doesn't respect me at all. And the stress on top of being pregnant is not good for me. What should I do? Am I overreacting? Is it not that big of a deal? Do I wait and see if the baby will change him? Is this a dealbreaker? It doesn't feel that easy now as there will be a baby involved. Any advice would be great TO MOVE OR NOT TO MOVE My best friend got engaged last year, and recently we were talking about timelines for weddings. She basically said that if someone in your close circle (like a best friend or cousin) is engaged before you, it’s kind of “rude” to get married before them, like there’s an unspoken order you should follow. Apparently in her family/social circle, people wait their turn so no one “cuts in” with their wedding, and it’s caused actual fallouts when people didn’t follow that. I had literally NEVER heard of this and thought weddings were just whenever suits the couple? But now I’m second guessing myself. She spoke about waiting for her to have her moment before anyone else can have theirs. Personally, I don’t care about my “moment”, I just want to marry the love of my life when it suits us. Is there actually an unspoken etiquette around not getting married before friends who got engaged first? Or is this just a cultural/family-specific thing MY FRIEND WON'T SET ME UP I recently had a friend tell me that she was too busy to organise a set up with a guy whom she had suggested to me without organising. For context: I’m the only single friend in a group of 7 people. This has meant countless weddings, baby showers, first birthdays and general catch ups where I am attending on my own. My friends have struggled to understand the impact that this has on me and at 32, I find all of these interactions pretty hard. Recently my friend told me that a colleague potentially knew someone who they could set me up with, without me even asking for her to do this. When I tried to follow up 2 months later to casually see what the go is (after being ghosted by a guy I liked and having minimal support), she bluntly told me that she and her colleague had been too busy at work. I tried to say that it had been two months so was just curious and I got a list of why she had been too busy. I feel like as the single friend I am constantly turning up for everyone with minimal return; I’ve listened to this friend talk about her fertility struggles and her co-parenting struggles with her step child, and I also listen to her work stressors. I’m also working in a high pressure job as well as living on my own and carry the burden of this on my own with most friends too preoccupied with their partners and children to listen or let me debrief. Am I being overly sensitive or should I raise with her how it made me feel to shut me down and say she had been too busy to send a text CAN YOU USE BINS I was on a walk with my friend the other day and we grabbed a takeout coffee. To add context we were walking around our suburb and it was bin day. Once I finish my coffee, I put it in someone’s bin that was on the curb. Now this bin had already been collected so it was empty but I still put my coffee cup in it. She said that that is so rude and I shouldn’t have done that. I didn’t see an issue with it because it was a little coffee cup and it was a bit. What are your thoughts on this? Thank you. ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 — Britt accidentally got drunk in Italy and is recording at 5:30am 03:56 — Vibes of the week 11:04 — Q1: My pregnant partner keeps going on cocaine benders - am I overreacting? 23:13 — Q2: Is there an unspoken rule about who gets to get married first? 31:54 — Q3: My friend promised to set me up months ago and still hasn't sent the text! 44:06 — Q4: Can you put your rubbish in a stranger's bin? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Video & Audio Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
May 8 · 46 min
Offcuts: Met Gala Served Nipples, A Reddit Thread About Men Who Stayed Too Long & The Corporate Worker Who Did Nothing for 12 Months
Hey Lifers! Welcome to your weekend num num 🎙️ The Met Gala happened and we need to talk about the nipples. All the Kardashians coordinated sheer looks with visible nipples and Britt is calling it... this was a business decision, something Skims is coming. We also cover Kim's limo vlog, the Olympian who shot actual bubbles from her gown, Blake Lively showing up post-trial completely unbothered, and Zendaya quietly pulling the pin, which might be its own statement. Then a Reddit thread where men explained why they didn’t propose or finally left. One had “one foot out the door for years.” Another said the sex was “dog shit” but he was “too emotionally weak to end it.” We get into fertility vampires and why “I didn’t want to hurt her” isn’t landing the way they think it is. Next, a UK corporate worker who suspected her job might not be real and quietly did almost nothing for a year to test it. She sent a 15-minute task list on Monday mornings and a couple of emails to show she was online. No one noticed. She had to quit herself! We debate whether it’s actually her fault and how much work people are really doing anyway... It's Sir David Attenborough100th Birthday!! We celebrate accordingly. And we close with Holly Butcher’s viral letter, written at 27 before she passed from cancer, urging us to whinge less and give more - her perspective on life is worth sitting with this Saturday morning. ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 — Are we still doing the Met Gala? And why the vibe is shifting 03:17 — The nipples: coordinated, intentional, and probably a Skims launch 04:25 — Kim's behind-the-scenes vlog: late, lost her phone, can't move in the outfit 08:01 — Met Gala chaos, bubble dresses & who actually delivered 13:41 — The Reddit thread: why men didn't propose or finally left 20:29 — The woman who did nothing at her corporate job for a year and no one noticed 33:55 — Happy 100th birthday Sir David Attenborough 40:00 — Holly’s letter: a final reminder on how to live You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Video & Audio Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.