Lesbian Chronicles: Coming Out Later in Life

Episode 363: Dating Without Losing Yourself

Melisa and Alli talk about dating without losing yourself, some early expectations in a relationship and the small ways to show you're in it with someone. 

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Episode 362: What's Your Number?

Melisa and Alli discuss a survey from the https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/nsfg/key_statistics/n-keystat.htm that found the median number of opposite-sex partners in a lifetime among women aged 25-49 years of age is 4.3. 

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Episode 361: The Power of Boy Jeans 

Our friend Robin joins the show to chat with Alli about her evolving style and what inspires their individual styles today -- and the power of "boy jeans"

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Episode 360: Your Brain's Rumination Loop

Melisa and Alli explain why your brain naturally ruminates after a breakup. It's not because you're "stuck," but because your mind is trying to make sense of what happened and solve an unresolved problem.

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Episode 359: All Lesbians Go to Heaven

Briana Smith joins the show to talk about growing up Mormon, getting married at 20 years old, having four kids by the time she was 29 --- and how meeting a woman at a wedding changed everything. Connect with Bri...

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Episode 358: The Rules of Attraction

Melisa and Alli answer a listener email about their attraction to masc women vs. femme after coming out. Also, is there a power dynamic when kissing?  

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Episode 357: Three Plus One

This week Alli and Melisa explore the "3+1" theory from Simon Sinek which says that relationships require three core pillars of compatibility combined with one external factor -- Intellectual Compatibility, Emotional Compatibility, Creative/Sexual...

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Episode 356: Meet Liliana Bakhtiar (Atlanta City Council Member)

Trigger Warning: Episode mentions rejection of trans kids, a violent murder, and self harm Liliana Bakhtiar -- the first queer Muslim person to be elected in Georgia and the first non-binary councilmember of a major U.S. city -- joins the show to...

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Episode 355: In Our Femme Energy

What distinguishes femme energy versus masculine energy when you take away the heels and the backwards hats? Our friend Robin joins the discussion with Alli and Melisa as they talk about how these energies present in different ways in our lives. 

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Episode 354: When Things Fall Apart

Alli shares how the book "When Things Fall Apart" is helping her right now. We also get into how to get comfortable with the discomfort of not knowing the future. (And how sometimes seeing a medium helps a little bit...)...

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Episode 353: The Capacity

Sometimes we take someone's capacity for a relationship really personal when the reality is, it's not that deep. This week Melisa and Alli discuss how much capacity plays a role in emotional bandwidth for a relationship. Sometimes someone's...

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Episode 352: Meet Kiki!

Kiki Joy joins us to share about life living in Minneapolis-Saint Paul, Minnesota and being on her own since the age of 17. She talks about her journey to coming out later in life and how the pandemic forced her to face her own sexuality. Kiki also...

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Episode 351: Lessons of Emotional Turmoil

Alli and Melisa explore the emotional ups and downs of relationships, both romantic and platonic that have taught us some lessons along the way. And accepting the fact that not everyone is going to like you or invite you to everything. 

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Episode 350: Dr. Lorri on Building Trust in Yourself

Dr. Lorri Sulpizio joins us to talk how modern “therapy speak” can sometimes make people second-guess themselves. What's the difference between true intuition and overthinking? Also, how do we hold space for our partner's anxious feelings and...

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Episode 349: Meet Abby Nissenbaum

Singer-songwriter Abby Nissenbaum joins the show to share her story of growing up in a Jewish-Catholic household, being outed as a teenager by a neighborhood mom and what life is like today navigating her music career, full-time job and dating in...

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Episode 348: Lesbian Visibility Week

Alli and Melisa talk about what it means to be a "visible" lesbian and how that image has evolved since we came out. And how friendships with couples look different now than when we were married to men. 

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Episode 347: Meet Jennifer and Mary

Our friends Jennifer and Mary join the show to share their coming out stories, how they've navigated life as a couple over the last five years -- blending children and raising a child with special needs. 

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Episode 346: Dr. Mallory's Firefly Study Results

Dr. Mallory Hanfling joins the show again to share the results of The Firefly Study -- which analyzed compulsory heterosexuality and how it impacted the experiences of those who came out as gay, lesbian or trans later in life.  Learn more about...

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Episode 345: Instant Enmeshment

Melisa and Alli talk how dating looks today compared to 25 years ago before smart phones encouraged near constant contact. We also address how to approach dating multiple people and how to avoid moving too quickly.  Send us a DM on...

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Episode 344: In Defense of "Baby Gays"

Alli joins us from Mexico City as she celebrates her niece's wedding -- and we talk about how therapy is finally paying off in the form of lessened anxiety -- and why people who say they won't date a "baby gay" are just very insecure.