Kait Willett Podcast

Kait Willett

Dive into thought-provoking discussions on gender roles, men’s issues, relationships, and the psychology behind modern society. Kait unpacks polarizing topics with professionalism, intelligence, and an edge, exploring both sides of the conversation to encourage understanding, critical thinking, and healthier relationships. Whether you’re curious about red pill vs. blue pill dynamics, societal trends, or ways to bridge the gap between men and women, this is your space to engage, learn, and grow.

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Yesterday · 1 hr 19 min
He Predicted the Dating Collapse 20 Years Ago (Rollo Tomassi Interview)
If you or someone you know is struggling, the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline is free and available 24/7 in the US: call or text 988. Outside the US, you can find a helpline at findahelpline.comConnect With Kait: https://kaitwillett.com/Support My Work: https://buymeacoffee.com/kaitwillettI'm sitting down with Rollo Tomassi, the man who coined the term red pill twenty years before the mainstream found it. They cover how he predicted the dating collapse, why he calls modern marriage a contract no rational man would sign after 28 years inside his own, and what actually happens to the average man divorced at 45. They also get into the watch list: how a government-funded program flagged a married relationship writer as a radicalizing influence. The most hated man in the manosphere answers all of it.
Wednesday · 32 min
A Mother Killed 3 Children. Watch Who Defends Her.
Connect With Kait: https://kaitwillett.com/Support My Work: https://buymeacoffee.com/kaitwillettLindsay Clancy killed her three children and has never disputed it. The trial will decide criminal responsibility, but this video examines something the trial cannot. I look at the pattern in who defends her, why that pattern holds so consistently, and what it reveals about how we assign blame. I walk through the measured empathy gap between male and female defendants, what the research actually shows about how the same act gets read differently depending on who commits it, and what that gap predicts about the reaction to the verdict once it comes down.
September 2 · 39 min
Men Gave Up on Love but Nobody is Talking About Why
Connect With Kait: https://kaitwillett.com/Support My Work: https://buymeacoffee.com/kaitwillettMost people under 35 say they want a committed relationship, yet only a fraction are actually pursuing one. I break down what stands between the wanting and the doing: women policing women for settling, for staying, or for wanting marriage early, and men policing men for being visibly invested or committing at all.Then I cover the accelerant, an algorithm that replaced a friend group of six with millions of strangers rewarded for being harsher than the friends ever were. The result is exactly what the surveys show: a majority who want love, a minority who pursue it, and a growing group who learned to say they never wanted it at all.Your environment is making your relationship decisions, and nobody agreed to the rules it enforces.
August 21 · 17 min
The Double Standards Men Are Told To Accept
Men are expected to absorb a long list of double standards in silence, and naming them gets treated as complaint instead of observation. I break down the double standards men are told to accept, from criminal sentencing gaps to custody defaults to the draft, then apply each one back to women to show how differently the same behavior gets judged.The reversal does the work: the same expectation gets one reaction when it lands on men and another entirely when it lands on women. I also unpack what each asymmetry quietly trains men to expect, and why modern dating and society keep treating the observation itself as the offense.Same act, different rules.
August 18 · 18 min
0.1% of Men Meet Women's Standards
Six feet, six figures, and a list that keeps growing. I break down the delusion behind modern women's standards, run the actual numbers on how many men clear each expectation, and explain the psychology that makes every requirement feel reasonable from the inside. For each standard I show what it is really filtering for versus what women think it filters for, and who it quietly removes from the dating pool. Each standard is defensible alone, but stacked together they describe a fraction of a percent of men. Most women never run that math, and I run it for them. Support my work: https://buymeacoffee.com/kaitwillett
August 5 · 34 min
The Realities of Feminism
Feminism made women seven promises: liberation would bring happiness, income would bring security, career first and kids later would work out, sexual freedom would mean better relationships, marriage was unnecessary, the movement would lift all women, and you could have it all with no trade-offs.In this episode I measure every promise twice. Once for the women it was made to, and once for the men who caught the fallout. For each one: what was promised, what the data actually shows, who profited, and the second person in the room the promise never mentioned.None of this says women should not work or should not have choice, or that any man is owed anything by any individual woman. It says these choices were sold without their price tags, and the people who followed the script deserved to know the cost before the bill arrived.Whether you agree with every point or not, judging these promises fairly requires looking at what they actually delivered. That is what this episode does.
August 3 · 23 min
Why Men Are Walking Away From Relationships
Women keep saying there are no good men left, while the men they want quietly retreat from dating altogether. In this episode, Kait uplifts real men's voices to reveal 17 hard truths about what men actually want from a woman. None of it is about looks or status. It's a mirror, a wake-up call, and an invitation to get both sides of the gender war talking again.
July 29 · 31 min
40 Brutal Truths Men Wish Women Knew
Ive spent a lot of time studying relationships and what creates the conflict many experience in intimate partnerships. Men and women have different brains, different wiring, and different biological programs. These differences, when misunderstood, can create a lot of friction. A few years ago I asked men what women want and here is what they had to say.
July 27 · 4 min
This Podcast Is Changing...Here's Why
This episode marks the beginning of a new chapter. For years, this podcast focused on health, fitness, nutrition, and behavior change. Those topics will always matter to me, but over time, I realized the conversations that fascinated me most weren't about calories or training plans. They were about people. Why do relationships succeed or fail? Why are men and women struggling to understand each other? How do our beliefs, childhood experiences, attachment styles, and culture shape the way we love, communicate, and connect? In this episode, I share why I'm making this shift, what led me here, and what you can expect moving forward. This isn't about chasing controversy or taking sides. It's about asking better questions, following the evidence wherever it leads, and having thoughtful conversations about modern relationships, gender dynamics, psychology, marriage, family, and the challenges we're all trying to navigate. Whether you've been here since the fitness days or you're joining for the first time, I'm grateful you're here. Welcome to the next chapter. If you enjoy the conversation, be sure to subscribe and leave a review; it helps more than you know.
July 20 · 59 min
The Best Advice We Heard This Year
In this episode, we reflect on some of the biggest lessons we've learned so far this year and share the quotes and ideas that have shaped the way we think about health, relationships, and personal growth. We discuss why growth requires letting go of old beliefs, how the challenges you face today don't have to define your future, and the importance of gratitude, endurance, and surrounding yourself with people you trust. From marriage to body transformation to navigating the noise of social media, this conversation is a reminder that lasting change is built through consistent choices and a willingness to keep learning. We talk about: -Why you should always pursue growth -Whether your past has to determine your future -The ripple effect of problems in marriage -The language we use online and why it matters -The importance of gratitude -Learning to let go to move forward -The value of endurance and resilience -Becoming comfortable being a beginner -Finding people you can trust Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 1:32 there are season in life 10:45 gaining by letting go 12:40 prioritizing your marriage 17:59 the concept of endurance 23:29 the internet is a PsyOp 32:50 If you can’t fast from it, you’re a slave to it 39:38 would you trade problems with someone else? 44:58 everything is hard until you understand it 48:37 being a beginner at something 52:55 having people to trust 54:55 understand what you’re seeking CONNECT WITH KAIT & MAV: Get 1:1 coaching here: https://go.elev8coaching.net/weight-loss-journey Get our weekly emails: https://go.maverickonlinecoaching.net/mailing-list Ebook: https://go.elev8coaching.net/consistency-book
July 13 · 35 min
I Know What to Do… So Why Am I Not Doing It
In this episode, we unpack one of the most common phrases we hear: "I know what to do, I just won't do it." The truth is, lasting transformation isn't about learning another strategy. It's about closing the gap between what you know and how you consistently show up. We explore why knowledge alone rarely changes behavior, how trying to follow too many "rules" can leave you overwhelmed, and why every person's journey requires a different approach. We also discuss the importance of acting in alignment with the person you want to become, letting go of all-or-nothing thinking, and finding peace in a process that is sustainable for life. Whether you're navigating perimenopause or simply feeling stuck, this episode will help you shift from knowing to doing. We talk about: -the gap between knowing and doing -what transformation actually takes -every situation is different -doing something for yourself -be willing to let go -stop living in the extremes -finding peace and freedom Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 5:20 considering the nuance of “the rules” 9:02 it doesn’t have to be hard 16:09 your to do list is too long 20:01 acting in alignment with who you want to be 25:55 getting results in perimenopause 28:55 why this is important CONNECT WITH KAIT & MAV: Get 1:1 coaching here: https://go.elev8coaching.net/weight-loss-journey Get our weekly emails: https://go.maverickonlinecoaching.net/mailing-list Ebook: https://go.elev8coaching.net/consistency-book
July 6 · 40 min
GLP-1s, Shame, and the Truth About Fat Loss
In this episode, we discuss some of the biggest contradictions and misconceptions we see in the fitness industry. From the growing conversation around GLP-1 medications to the habits that quietly sabotage progress, we explore why so many people struggle to turn knowledge into action. We also talk about the importance of nutritional literacy, the role of shame and accountability, and why lasting change requires honesty paired with compassion. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by conflicting advice or found yourself repeatedly breaking promises to yourself, this episode will help you think more critically about your health and the choices that support it. We talk about: -Who can truly benefit from GLP-1 medications Muscle loss and the importance of resistance training Building a long-term plan instead of relying on quick fixes Developing nutritional literacy Why we keep breaking promises to ourselves The difference between shame and accountability Speaking the truth with compassion Moving from knowledge to meaningful action Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 1:30 who can actually benefit from GLP-1s? 9:00 long-term plan after GLP-1 12:41 shame and accountability 18:44 identifying with behaviors through shame 22:19 are you actually in a calorie deficit? 26:45 where you may be falling short 30:59 moving past knowledge and into action 36:25 can you still with yourself? CONNECT WITH KAIT & MAV: Get 1:1 coaching here: https://go.elev8coaching.net/weight-loss-journey Get our weekly emails: https://go.maverickonlinecoaching.net/mailing-list Ebook: https://go.elev8coaching.net/consistency-book
June 29 · 26 min
The Day Becky Stopped Starting Over
In this special client interview, we sit down with Becky to hear the story behind her transformation and the mindset shifts that finally helped her break free from years of yo-yo dieting. Like so many women, Becky spent years searching for the "secret" diet while putting everyone else's needs ahead of her own. She shares what made this experience different, how learning to accept support changed everything, and why lasting transformation had far more to do with changing her beliefs than changing her meal plan. If you've ever felt invisible, struggled to see your own progress, or wondered if it's too late to become the person you want to be, Becky's story will remind you that real change is possible. We talk about: -the search for the diet “secret” -never putting yourself first -feeling invisible -fear is holding you back -quitting when you don’t get fast results -learning to love yourself Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 5:01 the history of yo-yo dieting 8:42 realizing this was different 11:26 being fully supported 12:38 the change that made this time stick 16:15 the compassionate side of coaching 18:15 not being able to see your own progress 21:53 a message to other women CONNECT WITH KAIT & MAV: Get 1:1 coaching here: https://go.elev8coaching.net/weight-loss-journey Get our weekly emails: https://go.maverickonlinecoaching.net/mailing-list Ebook: https://go.elev8coaching.net/consistency-book
June 22 · 45 min
The Mental Traps That Keep You Stuck
In this episode, we break down some of the most common thinking errors and logical fallacies we see holding people back from reaching their goals. Many people believe their biggest challenge is a lack of information, but more often, the problem is how they think about themselves, their habits, and the process of change. We discuss why the "Monday reset" keeps people stuck, how all-or-nothing thinking sabotages progress, and why knowledge alone doesn't create transformation. If you've ever felt trapped in a cycle of starting over, lowering your standards, or questioning whether you're capable of lasting change, this episode will help you identify the mental patterns standing in your way. We talk about: -The trap of the Monday reset -Confusing information with transformation -Current behavior versus permanent identity -The value of tracking macros and collecting data -Lowering your standards instead of raising your actions -Creating a fear-based identity -The dangers of all-or-nothing thinking -Why knowledge doesn't automatically lead to results -Overcoming imposter syndrome and self-limiting beliefs Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 4:09 the all-or-nothing mindset 12:15 but is it sustainable? 20:39 knowledge does not equal results 25:45 changing your behaviors 31:14 struggling with identity fallacy 44:09 feeling like an imposter CONNECT WITH KAIT & MAV: Get 1:1 coaching here: https://go.elev8coaching.net/weight-loss-journey Get our weekly emails: https://go.maverickonlinecoaching.net/mailing-list Ebook: https://go.elev8coaching.net/consistency-book
June 15 · 51 min
Menopause Belly, Creatine, and Fat Loss: Live Q&A
In this episode, we answer your questions in a live Q&A covering some of the most common topics in fat loss, muscle building, and long-term health. From the truth about menopause belly and calorie deficits to creatine, body recomposition, and weekend overeating, we cut through the confusion and focus on what actually matters. If you've ever wondered whether you're eating too little, how often you should strength train, or if popular diets like carnivore are worth it, this episode is packed with practical, evidence-based answers. We talk about: -The truth about menopause belly and fat loss after 40 -How the body adapts over time -Whether you can be eating too little and still struggle with weight loss -Progressive overload and muscle growth -The benefits of tracking macros -Creatine, body recomposition, and strength training -The role of NEAT in fat loss -Popular nutrition trends and whether they're worth it Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 1:24 losing fat during menopause 6:50 are you actually in a calorie deficit? 13:13 what’s the deal with creatine? 14:43 strength training frequency 19:05 is starvation mode real? 22:49 handling exercise on a long vacation 25:01 building muscle after big weight loss 26:09 growing your glutes 27:13 thoughts on Liquid IV 31:01 is carnivore worth it? 36:32 how much does NEAT matter? 40:55 is body recomp possible? 45:02 gym etiquette question 47:08 does IIFYM work? CONNECT WITH KAIT & MAV: Get 1:1 coaching here: https://go.elev8coaching.net/weight-loss-journey Get our weekly emails: https://go.maverickonlinecoaching.net/mailing-list Ebook: https://go.elev8coaching.net/consistency-book
June 8 · 24 min
From Self-Sabotage to Self-Trust
In this special client interview, we sit down with Iva to talk about the mindset shifts, habits, and decisions that helped her create lasting change. After years of trying different approaches and feeling stuck in the cycle of starting over, Iva realized that the real transformation had very little to do with finding the perfect diet. She shares how living with lupus, navigating grief, and overcoming all-or-nothing thinking forced her to approach health differently. This conversation is about closing the gap between who you are and who you want to be, learning to ask for help, and building a life that feels aligned with your values instead of driven by fear. We talk about: -The lies we tell ourselves that keep us stuck -Why achievement alone doesn't create happiness -How she knew this time was different -Fear-based versus love-based decision making -Navigating health challenges while living with lupus -Learning to ask for help -Closing the integrity gap -Letting go of perfection and embracing progress Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 2:20 deciding something had to change 4:25 trying everything and nothing working 6:56 overcoming the all-or-nothing mindset 10:13 dealing with your inner critic 11:58 dealing with grief 16:55 showing up differently in life 18:55 feeling safe to not be perfect 20:38 the real changes CONNECT WITH KAIT & MAV: Get 1:1 coaching here: https://go.elev8coaching.net/weight-loss-journey Get our weekly emails: https://go.maverickonlinecoaching.net/mailing-list Ebook: https://go.elev8coaching.net/consistency-book
June 1 · 42 min
When Good Intentions Aren’t Enough
In this episode, we talk about the standards and commitments that shape every area of your life, from your health and relationships to your career and personal growth. Many people say they have goals, but their daily actions reflect a different set of standards. We break down the difference between preferences and true standards, why ego can keep you stuck, and how perfectionism often disguises itself as productivity. If you've ever wondered why you're not making the progress you want despite having good intentions, this conversation will help you identify the gap between what you say you want and what you're actually committed to. We talk about: -standards versus preferences -open minds for productive conversations -how ego keeps you stuck -communicating your standards -how perfectionism derails progress -are you missing what actually matters? -learning from your mistakes Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 2:59 standards are personal 10:45 having realistic standards 13:53 clarity from standards 19:35 having a vision for your life 22:32 how standards affect your health 26:26 you’re currently living the dream 32:55 when is enough enough? 37:11 seeing standards in others CONNECT WITH KAIT & MAV: Get 1:1 coaching here: https://go.elev8coaching.net/weight-loss-journey Get our weekly emails: https://go.maverickonlinecoaching.net/mailing-list Ebook: https://go.elev8coaching.net/consistency-book
May 25 · 26 min
The Skills Nobody Taught You
In this episode, we talk about one of the most damaging beliefs keeping people stuck in their 30s, 40s, and 50s: “I should have this figured out by now.” That mindset creates shame, avoidance, and the pressure to pretend you know more than you do. The truth is, many people were never taught the foundational skills around nutrition, health, self-awareness, or emotional resilience in the first place. We break down why protecting your ego keeps you from growing, how to define what you actually want, and why asking for help is a sign of self-awareness, not weakness. This conversation is about meeting yourself where you are and recognizing that your future is still shaped by the choices you make today. We talk about: -Missing foundational skills around health and nutrition -Defining what you actually want -The gap between professional and personal success -Why protecting your ego keeps you stuck -Asking for help without shame -Meeting yourself where you are -Taking ownership of your journey -Choosing yourself for the people you love Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 3:40 you never learned basic skills around nutrition 5:30 replace “should” with “want” 12:40 you get what you choose 13:55 struggling on the personal side 18:41 meeting yourself where you are 21:40 you have the power over your journey 24:25 choosing yourself for your family CONNECT WITH KAIT & MAV: Get 1:1 coaching here: https://go.elev8coaching.net/weight-loss-journey Get our weekly emails: https://go.maverickonlinecoaching.net/mailing-list Ebook: https://go.elev8coaching.net/consistency-book
May 18 · 47 min
Honest Conversations About Marriage and Growth
In this episode, we switch things up and ask each other questions we have not prepared for ahead of time. The conversation ranges from relationships and personal growth to funny hypotheticals and deeper reflections on marriage, identity, and what we value most. We talk about the importance of empathy, believing you are worthy of the life you want, and appreciating the small moments that often matter the most. This episode is a mix of humor, honesty, and real conversation about life and relationships. We talk about: -Believing you are worthy -Having empathy in relationships -What we love most about each other -Living what you teach -Appreciating small moments and memories -Lessons learned from past relationships -Choosing what is right over what is popular -Pride, growth, and partnership in marriage Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 1:07 what causes you to yo-yo diet 4:50 Kait’s most likely crime 6:31 biggest personal challenges 8:01 learning from relationships 20:47 surprises about Maverick 22:59 surprises about Kait 27:50 pursuing what is right over what’s popular 31:20 biggest role models 32:34 what would you change about your spouse? 35:14 pride in your marriage 42:12 best memories or marriage CONNECT WITH KAIT & MAV: Get 1:1 coaching here: https://go.elev8coaching.net/weight-loss-journey Get our weekly emails: https://go.maverickonlinecoaching.net/mailing-list Ebook: https://go.elev8coaching.net/consistency-book
May 12 · 45 min
Stop Starting Over Every Time Life Gets Hard
In this episode, we talk about navigating the different seasons of life and how to maintain your health when life inevitably gets hard. So many people feel like they were “doing great” until stress, grief, work, relationships, or unexpected challenges knocked them off track. We break down why health should complement your life instead of consume it, how to adjust your approach without completely derailing, and why compassion for yourself matters just as much as discipline. This conversation is about learning to stay grounded, living according to your values, and continuing to move forward even when life doesn’t go according to plan. We talk about: -Getting back on track without starting over -Navigating stressful seasons of life -Using fitness to support your life, not control it -Altering course instead of fully derailing -Living in alignment with your values -Letting go of the need to control everything -Having compassion for yourself without becoming complacent -Building peace of mind through consistency Time Stamps: 1:00 Introduction 6:08 fitness as a lifestyle 12:55 imagining a life with peace of mind 15:45 dealing with discouragement 19:13 your values should support your vision 24:50 deciding to be better 30:50 having conviction in your beliefs 37:45 compassion versus complacency 41:15 seasons don’t last CONNECT WITH KAIT & MAV: Get 1:1 coaching here: https://go.elev8coaching.net/weight-loss-journey Get our weekly emails: https://go.maverickonlinecoaching.net/mailing-list Ebook: https://go.elev8coaching.net/consistency-book

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