Just Ask Her - Dating Advice for Single Men

Hosted by Gracie Pleschourt — Dating Coach + Confidence Expert for Men

Honest dating advice for single men from two women. Dating expert Gracie Pleschourt (@datingwithgracie on IG) and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt break down real dating questions, real struggles, and what actually works in modern dating.

Each week, they dive into listener-submitted questions about their toughest dating challenges and deliver unfiltered, constructive feedback. Submit yours here: https://forms.gle/34JLMADMcxhqdb7X7

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Wednesday · 45 min
She's Married... But She's Into Me! Should I Make a Move? (Ep. 101)
She's Married, But She's Interested... Now What? What do you do when the woman you're falling for is married but possibly heading toward divorce? And where are single guys actually supposed to meet women these days? In Episode 101 of Just Ask Her, hosts Gracie and Tracy tackle two dating dilemmas about attraction, timing, confidence, and creating opportunities for meaningful relationships. First, a listener finds himself developing feelings for a married woman he met at the gym. She's texting him regularly, they spend time together, and the chemistry seems mutual. But with a possible separation looming, should he tell her how he feels or keep his options open? Then, a 27-year-old man who's recently moved to Nashville wants to know how to meet women organically, expand his social circle, and navigate flirting with customers at his coffee shop job. The ladies share practical dating advice for men on emotional availability, healthy boundaries, approaching women, building social confidence, and meeting women without relying on dating apps. Plus, Truth or Trash returns with some spicy listener comments, questionable community nicknames, and a little mother-daughter roasting! Whether you're struggling with dating confidence, mixed signals, or finding the right places to meet single women, this episode is packed with real-world relationship advice and a few laughs along the way. #JustAskHer #DatingAdvice #Relationships #DatingConfidence Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://self-made-u.myshopify.com/products/self-made-man-dating-journal?utm_source=copyToPasteBoard&utm_medium=product-links&utm_content=web Coupon code: JUSTASKHER Submission Form: https://forms.gle/e7LTvCkT1fhkFQEF8 Join the 30 Day Rizz Challenge Waitlist: https://datingwithgracie.com/rizz-challenge-980810 Chapters:00:00 Today's Dating Dilemmas 00:50 Welcome to Just Ask Her 03:47 Falling for a Married Woman 06:43 Should He Pursue Her? 08:27 Finding Relationship Clarity 13:09 Are Rebound Relationships Bad? 15:16 How to Tell Her 18:12 Confidence & Boundaries 19:20 The Dating Journal 20:53 Where to Meet Women 22:42 Reinventing Your Social Life 24:26 Finding the Right Communities 26:50 Meeting Compatible Women 29:01 Building Your Social Network 31:02 Flirting at Work 33:31 The I'm Single Hat 35:14 Build a Social Life 36:49 Truth or Trash 39:46 The Spicy Comments 41:25 Handling Criticism 43:27 What's Next? Keywords: Dating advice for men, How to meet women, Relationship advice, Dating confidence, Dating a separated woman, Meeting women naturally, Flirting with women, Social skills for men, Emotional availability, Healthy dating boundaries
October 28 · 1 hr 11 min
What Women REALLY Want! A Single Woman Tells Men the Truth (Ep. 100)
🎉 EPISODE 100: What Women REALLY Want! Straight From a Single Woman Herself! For 100 episodes, Gracie and Tracy have been answering men's biggest dating questions. But this week, we're doing something different. We're putting a REAL single woman in the hot seat! Meet Jennifer. She's 56, divorced, raising three teenage boys, successful, independent, and ready to find love. So why has she only been on ONE date in the last TWO YEARS? In this milestone episode of the Just Ask Her Podcast, we're getting brutally honest about modern dating, why men hesitate to approach women, what makes a great first date, and what women actually want from men. Jennifer shares why she's done with dating apps, what turns her on and off during a date, why she wants a man to take the lead, and what dating a single mom really looks like. We also tackle the great first-date debate: Who pays? Are flowers too much? Should you call instead of text? And is using a coupon at dinner an automatic deal breaker? Plus, Jennifer plays Rizz or Cringe, where she gives her unfiltered opinions on common dating moves. And here's the twist. Jennifer is actually open to dating one of our listeners! Could we be turning Just Ask Her into a matchmaking podcast? Stranger things have happened! If you're looking for dating advice for men, relationship advice, dating confidence, tips for meeting women in real life, or an honest female perspective on finding love after divorce, this episode is for you. 100 episodes. Countless dating questions. And one single woman who might just find her match. 🎧 Listen now and celebrate episode 100 with Gracie, Tracy, and Jennifer! Hot Seat Hottie Application: https://link.apisystem.tech/widget/survey/biKTh17G3b91aHX4SGZX Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://self-made-u.myshopify.com/products/self-made-man-dating-journal?utm_source=copyToPasteBoard&utm_medium=product-links&utm_content=web Coupon code: JUSTASKHER Submission Form: https://forms.gle/e7LTvCkT1fhkFQEF8 Join the 30 Day Rizz Challenge Waitlist: https://datingwithgracie.com/rizz-challenge-980810 Chapters: 00:00 What Men Misunderstand 00:53 Meet Jennifer 03:15 Dating as a Single Mom 06:32 What Women Need From Men 08:28 One Date in Two Years 11:09 Why Men Should Approach 15:17 Reading Her Signals 17:02 How to Start a Conversation 20:30 Putting Yourself Out There 21:35 Should Women Approach Men? 25:09 Dating Women With Kids 27:35 How to Get a Second Date 30:30 What Women Want on Dates 32:43 First-Date Deal Breakers 35:03 Who Should Pay? 38:37 Why Consistency Matters 42:51 What Confidence Looks Like 43:39 Why Dating Apps Fail 48:33 The 30-Day Rizz Challenge 50:59 Rizz or Cringe? 55:09 Physical Attraction 56:13 Financial Compatibility 57:47 Building a Healthy Relationship 01:01:04 Jennifer's Ideal Man 01:06:18 Age Range & Deal Breakers 01:08:19 Would She Date a Listener? 01:09:39 Could You Be Her Match? 01:10:17 100 Episodes & What's Next Keywords: What women want in a man, Dating advice for men, How to approach women, What makes a man attractive, How to meet women in real life, Dating mistakes men make, First date tips for men, Dating over 50, Dating after divorce, Dating a single mom, How to get a second date, Who pays for the first date, Why women hate dating apps, How to build dating confidence, Signs a woman wants you to approach #JustAskHer #DatingAdvice #ModernDating #Relationships
October 21 · 36 min
Is She Losing Interest or Are You Overthinking It? (Ep. 99)
When should you pursue a woman, when should you back off, and when is it time to take the hint? Dating would be a whole lot easier if everyone came with an instruction manual. Unfortunately, they don't, so Gracie and Tracy are here to help! In Episode 99 of the Just Ask Her Podcast, dating coach Gracie and her mom, Certified Life Coach Tracy, tackle three dating dilemmas involving matching energy, texting anxiety, long-distance relationships, mixed signals, emotional availability, rejection, and dating confidence. First, a divorced man wonders whether matching a woman's energy is a sign of healthy self-respect or just another way of protecting himself from rejection. Is there a difference between confidently pursuing a woman and desperately chasing her? Next, a man navigating a long-distance relationship is getting some serious emotional whiplash. Their chemistry is incredible in person, but her inconsistent communication and reluctance to commit have him questioning everything. Is she genuinely taking things slow, emotionally unavailable, or keeping him around as a placeholder? Finally, we have possibly the most creative dating attempt in Just Ask Her history! A man interested in a romance novelist sends her a full dating resume, complete with ex-girlfriend testimonials and a personalized Cameo from her favorite Survivor contestant. There's just one tiny problem. She never responded! Now he's about to see her at a book event. Should he bring it up, pretend it never happened, or accept that silence might already be his answer? Throughout the episode, Gracie and Tracy break down the psychology of dating, healthy communication, relationship expectations, overcoming rejection, and building the self-confidence to pursue women without losing yourself in the process. Whether you're struggling with dating apps, wondering if she's interested, navigating an undefined relationship, or learning how to stop chasing women, this episode is packed with practical dating advice for men who want healthier relationships and genuine romantic connections. 🎙️ In this episode: Matching energy vs. chasing women How to recognize genuine romantic interest Why texting can sabotage early dating Pursuing women without appearing desperate Long-distance relationships and mixed signals Emotional availability and relationship uncertainty Setting boundaries without trying to control someone How to handle rejection and unanswered messages Building confidence, self-respect, and emotional maturity Knowing when to move on from a romantic connection Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://self-made-u.myshopify.com/products/self-made-man-dating-journal?utm_source=copyToPasteBoard&utm_medium=product-links&utm_content=web Coupon code: JUSTASKHER Submission Form: https://forms.gle/e7LTvCkT1fhkFQEF8 Join the 30 Day Rizz Challenge Waitlist: https://datingwithgracie.com/rizz-challenge-980810 👍 Like, subscribe, and share Just Ask Her with someone who could use a little dating clarity. Follow Gracie at Dating with Gracie on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, and Facebook. #JustAskHer #DatingAdviceForMen #DatingConfidence #RelationshipAdvice #MixedSignals Chapters: 00:00 Dating Dilemmas 00:49 Welcome to Just Ask Her 01:04 Tracy's Caffeine Confession 03:16 Matching Energy 04:55 Texting Kills Connections 07:34 Self-Respect vs. Fear 09:07 Pursuing vs. Chasing 10:24 Communicate Clearly 11:30 The Silence Trap 13:40 Long-Distance Mixed Signals 18:27 Relationship Uncertainty 20:59 Accepting What Is 22:26 Stop Seeking Certainty 24:10 Dating Journal 25:22 The Dating Resume 28:13 A Bold Romantic Move 30:30 Handling Rejection 31:28 Should He Bring It Up? 32:41 Confidence After Rejection 34:18 Let Her Bring It Up 35:23 Episode 100 Preview Keywords: Dating advice for men, How to know if she's interested, Mixed signals from women, Stop chasing women, Matching energy in dating, Relationship advice for men, Dating confidence for men
October 14 · 46 min
FOUR YEARS Together... And She STILL Won't Commit?! (Ep. 98)
Are women secretly keeping a roster of men? Is taking a break in a relationship just a nicer way of breaking up? And how long is TOO LONG to wait for someone to finally choose you? This week on the Just Ask Her Podcast, hosts Gracie and Tracy are tackling three dating dilemmas that expose some uncomfortable truths about modern dating, relationship boundaries, emotional availability, and knowing when it's time to walk away. And trust us, some of these guys REALLY need to hear this. One man discovers that the woman he thought he had an amazing first date with may have been entertaining several other men at the same time. Now he's questioning her honesty, integrity, and whether dating multiple people is a massive red flag. After experiencing betrayal in his marriage, another listener finds himself in a painfully familiar situation when his new girlfriend asks to put their relationship on pause. Should he wait for her to figure things out, or is walking away the healthiest decision? Our final listener has spent four years investing in a woman he barely sees. We're talking unanswered messages, canceled plans, little physical time together, and an entire YEAR waiting for a response to a heartfelt letter. At what point does patience stop being a virtue and start becoming self-sabotage? In this episode, we're talking about: Dating multiple women or men before exclusivity Dating rosters, honesty, and relationship red flags How to recognize mixed signals and emotional unavailability Relationship breaks versus breakups Setting healthy boundaries after betrayal or divorce Avoidant attachment and one-sided relationships How to stop chasing someone who isn't reciprocating Dating with confidence, self-respect, and intention Knowing when to walk away from a relationship Whether you're struggling with modern dating, recovering from heartbreak, navigating an uncertain relationship, or wondering why someone won't make you a priority, Gracie and Tracy are here to help you stop overthinking, recognize your worth, and take back control of your dating life. Have you ever dated someone who was seeing multiple people? Have you taken a relationship break that actually worked? Or have you stayed in a one-sided relationship longer than you should have? Tell us in the comments! We want to hear your experiences. Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://self-made-u.myshopify.com/products/self-made-man-dating-journal?utm_source=copyToPasteBoard&utm_medium=product-links&utm_content=web Coupon code: JUSTASKHER Submission Form: https://forms.gle/e7LTvCkT1fhkFQEF8 Join the 30 Day Rizz Challenge Waitlist: https://datingwithgracie.com/rizz-challenge-980810 👍 Like, subscribe, and share this episode with someone who needs a little dating reality check. ⭐ Follow and rate Just Ask Her on Spotify and Apple Podcasts to help more men find the dating advice they need. 📱 Follow Gracie: @datingwithgracie on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube. #JustAskHer #DatingAdviceForMen #RelationshipAdvice #ModernDating #DatingConfidence Chapters: 00:00 Intro: Dating Red Flags 00:39 Welcome to Just Ask Her 01:26 Do Women Have Dating Rosters? 05:32 Hurt Feelings vs. Red Flags 08:03 Is She Being Shady? 09:46 Dating Multiple People 12:55 First Date Expectations 15:15 Honesty and Dating Values 17:53 Should You Take a Break? 19:25 Boundaries After Betrayal 23:27 Do Relationship Breaks Work? 25:42 When to Walk Away 26:51 Setting Healthy Boundaries 28:53 The Self-Made Man Dating Journal 30:03 Four Years Without Commitment 35:04 Is It Time to Let Go? 37:03 She's Not Your Girlfriend! 38:10 The Sunk Cost Trap 40:30 When Patience Becomes a Problem 43:00 Stop Making Excuses for Her 44:06 Building Dating Confidence 46:04 Final Thoughts Keywords: Dating advice for men, relationship advice for men, modern dating, dating red flags, dating multiple people, relationship boundaries, dating confidence, Just Ask Her Podcast
October 11 · 18 min
Do Women Really Speak in Code? | Truth or Trash (Ep.2)
Welcome back to Truth or Trash, the Just Ask Her series where Gracie and Tracy venture into one of the scariest places on the internet: Gracie's social media comment section. This time, they're putting more dating advice, assumptions, hot takes, and questionable internet wisdom to the test. Do women really "speak in code"? Are women secretly testing men? Can someone else actually hurt your feelings? Do actions speak louder than words? Should men always be expected to approach women, or should women start making the first move too? Gracie and Tracy break down five real comments and decide whether each one is TRUTH or TRASH. Along the way, they get into why some women struggle to communicate what they actually mean, how men can respond to mixed signals without playing guessing games, why mature relationships require direct communication, and how fear of rejection is affecting BOTH sides of modern dating. Because while some women are afraid approaching a man will make them look desperate, some men are afraid approaching a woman will make them look creepy. And then everyone wonders why nobody is meeting anybody. If you're navigating modern dating, dating apps, approaching women, fear of rejection, mixed signals, communication in relationships, women's dating signals, men's dating advice, dating confidence, relationship advice, dating myths, how to talk to women, how to know if a woman is interested, or who should make the first move, Gracie and Tracy have some thoughts. Some of them are truth. Some of them belong directly in the trash. 🗑️ Welcome to Truth or Trash. Let us know in the comments which takes YOU think are truth and which ones are complete trash. #TruthOrTrash #DatingAdvice #DatingAdviceForMen #ModernDating #JustAskHer
October 7 · 36 min
We’ve Been Dating 5 Months... I Don’t Know Her Last Name (Ep.97)
Dating can get complicated fast when fear of rejection, overthinking, mixed signals, and relationship uncertainty start running the show. This week on Just Ask Her, Gracie and Tracy are tackling two dating dilemmas that ultimately come down to one question: Are you willing to risk an uncomfortable answer to finally get some clarity? First, a listener writes in after two divorces and years of relationships that left him questioning his confidence and self-worth. Now that he's done the work to heal and figure out what he actually wants in a partner, there's a new problem: he freezes around women he's genuinely attracted to. Then things get... weird. Another listener has been dating a woman for FIVE MONTHS. They spend hours together. They go to dinner. They exchange gifts. He's bought her roses. Sounds promising, right? Well... he doesn't know her last name. He doesn't know exactly where she lives. They haven't kissed, held hands, or even really hugged. Oh, and he's afraid asking about any of this might push her away. Gracie and Tracy have questions. A lot of questions. This episode gets into dating confidence, rejection, approaching women, overthinking in dating, scarcity mindset, relationship anxiety, mixed signals, dating boundaries, emotional availability, communication, trust, self-esteem, relationship uncertainty, modern dating, men's dating advice, how to talk to women, how to build confidence with women, and how to know when it's time to define a relationship. Because sometimes the solution isn't another dating strategy. Sometimes you really do need to Just Ask Her. 🎙️ Hosted by Gracie and Tracy Have a dating dilemma of your own? Submit it to the show and Gracie and Tracy might break it down on a future episode. Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://self-made-u.myshopify.com/products/self-made-man-dating-journal?utm_source=copyToPasteBoard&utm_medium=product-links&utm_content=web Coupon code: JUSTASKHER Submission Form: https://forms.gle/e7LTvCkT1fhkFQEF8 Learn more about working with Gracie and the DWG Community: www.datingwithgracie.com/application Keywords: dating advice for men, men's dating advice, fear of rejection in dating, how to approach women, dating confidence, how to talk to women, dating anxiety, relationship uncertainty, mixed signals in dating, modern dating advice
September 30 · 51 min
Stop Waiting for Her to Choose You | Dating Advice for Men (Ep.96)
Are you actually making choices in your dating life, or are you waiting for someone else to make them for you? This week on Just Ask Her, Gracie and Tracy tackle three very different dating dilemmas that all have one thing in common: letting someone else take the driver's seat in your dating life. First, a 25-year-old man is recovering from the end of a nearly five-year relationship and trying to figure out whether he actually wants his ex back or just wants the heartbreak to stop. After years of changing himself, chasing connection, and trying to be "enough" for his partner, how does he rebuild his confidence without turning healing into another performance? Then, Jacob is dating a woman who had just gotten out of a relationship days before their first date. The chemistry started strong, but now the texting has slowed down and the energy feels different. Is she emotionally unavailable? Is he becoming the rebound? Should he give her space, walk away, or let her set the pace? Finally, our returning submitter Travis is back after putting himself out there at singles events in Dallas. Some have gone well. Others have felt like walking into a company Christmas party where everyone knows each other except you. So what do you do when a singles event feels cliquey, awkward, or completely closed off? From breakup recovery and emotional availability to singles events, dating confidence, communication, self-respect, anxious attachment, meeting women, overcoming rejection, and taking control of your dating life, this episode is all about one big shift: Stop waiting to be chosen. Plus, Gracie and Tracy somehow end up debating what Just Ask Her listeners should be called, discover they still haven't figured it out after 96 episodes, and immediately demonstrate exactly why it has taken them 96 episodes to figure it out. Got a name for the Just Ask Her community? PLEASE help them. Drop it in the comments. Maybe we can solve this before Episode 100. 🎙️ Just Ask Her is hosted by Gracie and Tracy, helping single men date with confidence, understand women, build stronger relationships, improve communication, overcome dating anxiety, and create the dating life they actually want. Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://self-made-u.myshopify.com/products/self-made-man-dating-journal?utm_source=copyToPasteBoard&utm_medium=product-links&utm_content=web Coupon code: JUSTASKHER Submission Form: https://forms.gle/e7LTvCkT1fhkFQEF8 Join the 30 Day Rizz Challenge waitlist at: https://datingwithgracie.com/rizz-challenge-live Chapters: 00:00 Stop Letting Others Choose 00:55 Welcome to Just Ask Her 01:10 Gracie Is Struggling 05:03 Help Support the Podcast 05:22 Recovering From Heartbreak 12:26 Are You Already Healing? 15:12 Stop Chasing "Enough" 17:30 Growing Together 19:20 Do You Really Want Her Back? 21:05 Learning to Rebuild 24:01 Dating After Her Breakup 25:50 Is She Emotionally Available? 26:51 The Third Option 27:16 Stop Guessing, Just Ask Her 29:28 Her Availability Isn't Your Worth 31:11 The Self-Made Man Dating Journal 32:22 Are Singles Events Worth It? 35:25 Why Singles Events Feel Awkward 36:29 Become the Chooser 37:56 The Five Conversation Rule 39:00 Assumptions Kill Connections 40:09 Make Others Feel Welcome 42:22 Focus on What You Control 43:48 Which Singles Events Are Best? 44:26 Blind Date Photo Shoots 45:49 Finding Better Singles Events 47:14 Can We Call Him Trav? 47:54 What Should We Call Our Listeners? 50:34 Episode 100 Is Coming 50:53 Just Ask Her Keywords: dating advice for men, relationship advice for men, dating podcast for men, how to meet women, how to talk to women, dating confidence, modern dating advice, dating coach for men, how to get over a breakup, breakup recovery for men, moving on from an ex
September 23 · 40 min
Stop Trying to Decode Her Mixed Signals (Ep.95)
Mixed signals are confusing. But at what point do you stop trying to figure out what SHE means and start deciding what YOU actually want? This week on the Just Ask Her Podcast, Gracie and Tracy tackle three dating dilemmas involving mixed signals, fear of rejection, vulnerability, friendship, breakups, and the exhausting habit of trying to decode someone else’s behavior. First, a guy has been told very clearly that she DOESN’T want to date him... except she keeps kissing him. Repeatedly. So what exactly are you supposed to believe when her words say “no” but her actions keep handing you a “maybe”? Next, a listener realizes he has a habit of rejecting himself before a woman ever gets the chance. When a promising long-distance connection suddenly goes quiet, he assumes the worst and emotionally checks out. Plot twist: she comes back asking where HE stands. Finally, after the end of a seven-year relationship, one listener develops feelings for the female friend who helped him through the breakup. Is she interested? Is he rebounding? Is he even ready for another relationship? And should he be trying to decode her mixed signals when he already admits he isn't ready to date? Plus, Tracy explains what being a certified life coach actually means, Gracie talks about how life coaching tools helped transform her own dating experience, and somehow the phrase “have your cake and eat it too” sends the entire episode into an important investigation of cake, chocolate, peanut butter, Dairy Queen ice cream cakes, and why anyone would acquire cake without intending to eat it. If you struggle with dating anxiety, mixed signals from women, fear of rejection, overthinking dating, dating confidence, setting boundaries, emotional regulation, vulnerability, self-rejection, relationship anxiety, getting over an ex, understanding women, or knowing when to move on, this episode is for you. Just Ask Her helps single men stop guessing, date with confidence, understand themselves better, build healthier relationships, and connect with real women without turning every text, kiss, silence, or vague “maybe” into a full-scale criminal investigation. And since apparently this is important now: What’s your favorite kind of cake? Drop it in the comments. 🎂 Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://self-made-u.myshopify.com/products/self-made-man-dating-journal?utm_source=copyToPasteBoard&utm_medium=product-links&utm_content=web Coupon code: JUSTASKHER Submission Form: https://forms.gle/e7LTvCkT1fhkFQEF8 Join the 30 Day Rizz Challenge waitlist at: https://datingwithgracie.com/rizz-challenge-live Chapters: 00:00 Mixed Signals or Your Decision? 00:49 Welcome to Just Ask Her 01:04 What Is a Certified Life Coach? 03:40 What Makes a Dating Expert? 05:01 Why Dating Is Hard for Everyone 07:14 Fear of Rejection Starts Here 09:07 The Real Dating Problem 10:54 Submission #1: She Keeps Kissing Me 12:24 Okay... We’re Confused Too 13:16 Set a Boundary or Move On 15:13 Words vs. Actions 16:58 Why Does She Keep Kissing Him? 18:24 The Dopamine Hit of “Maybe” 19:17 Stop Trying to Explain Her 20:41 Submission #2: He Rejected Himself 22:16 The Self-Rejection Trap 23:58 Ignoring the Signs She Likes You 24:31 What Do YOU Want? 25:43 Vulnerability Builds Trust 27:34 The Self-Made Man Dating Journal 28:44 Submission #3: Friend or Rebound? 30:05 Stop Trying to Force It 31:37 When Are You Ready to Date Again? 33:25 Ask Her on an Actual Date 34:14 “You’re Special” Means What? 35:04 What Do You Want Next? 36:50 Somehow We’re Talking About Cake 39:32 Send Us Your Dating Dilemma #DatingAdvice #DatingAdviceForMen #RelationshipAdvice #DatingConfidence Keywords: mixed signals from women, dating advice for men, how to know if she likes you, understanding women, fear of rejection, dating confidence, dating anxiety, self-rejection in dating, relationship advice for men, dating podcast for men
September 16 · 56 min
The Fear of Rejection Is Keeping You Single (Ep.94)
What if the thing you’re doing to protect yourself from rejection is actually keeping you alone? This week on Just Ask Her, Gracie and Tracy tackle three very different dating dilemmas that all have one thing in common: fear. Fear of rejection, fear of getting hurt again, and fear of finally asking the question that could give you the clarity you need. First, a 58-year-old man struggling to move on after betrayal and infidelity ended a relationship he still can’t stop thinking about. How do you rebuild trust, stop comparing new women to an ex, and open yourself up to love again after heartbreak? Next, a divorced man travels from San Diego to Zurich to visit a longtime female friend after their connection begins feeling like something more. But when he finally brings up a long-distance relationship, everything changes. Did he misread the signs, or is this exactly why honest communication and choosing clarity over guessing matter so much in dating? Finally, a 56-year-old man who has never been on a date admits he intentionally pursues unavailable women because he’s terrified of rejection. Gracie and Tracy break down why avoiding rejection can become a self-fulfilling cycle, how your brain turns fear into evidence that you “can’t” date, and why learning to tolerate uncomfortable emotions can completely change your dating life. Plus, Gracie and Tracy discuss the controversial Callaway Golf ad, their family trip to Seattle, and somehow end up debating whether “Rick Hopper” is secretly a Stranger Things character. If you’re struggling with dating anxiety, fear of rejection, getting over an ex, infidelity, heartbreak, dating after divorce, approaching women, the friend zone, long-distance relationships, building confidence with women, emotional availability, relationship anxiety, or finding a healthy relationship, this episode is for you. Just Ask Her helps single men date with confidence, understand women, build genuine connections, and create healthier relationships without playing games or pretending to be someone they’re not. Have a dating dilemma of your own? Submit it using the link in the show notes, and Gracie and Tracy may answer it on a future episode. Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://self-made-u.myshopify.com/products/self-made-man-dating-journal?utm_source=copyToPasteBoard&utm_medium=product-links&utm_content=web Submission Form: https://forms.gle/e7LTvCkT1fhkFQEF8 Take the Rizz Quiz: https://datingwithgracie.com/dwgrizzquiz Chapters: 00:00 Fear of Rejection 01:05 Welcome Back 02:23 Seattle Adventures 08:22 The Callaway Controversy 13:27 When a Joke Goes Too Far 19:47 Submission #1: Betrayal 21:28 Facts vs. the Story 25:16 Letting Go of an Ex 28:51 Betrayal Is Not a Life Sentence 31:48 Rebuilding Confidence 33:29 Submission #2: More Than Friends? 36:03 Did He Misread the Signs? 37:15 Ask for Clarity 41:13 What Does She Represent? 43:17 Find Someone Who Chooses You 45:20 Submission #3: Never Been on a Date 46:37 Afraid to Actually Date 48:29 Facing Rejection 49:21 Gracie's Fear of Public Speaking 51:11 Learning to Feel the Fear 54:10 One Approach Can Change Everything 55:08 Send Us Your Dating Dilemmas #DatingAdvice #DatingAdviceForMen #RelationshipAdvice #DatingConfidence Keywords: dating advice for men, fear of rejection, dating confidence, relationship advice for men, how to approach women, how to talk to women, how to get over an ex, dating after divorce, emotionally unavailable women, fear of dating
September 15 · 22 min
TRUTH or TRASH? We React to Men’s Dating Hot Takes (Ep.1)
TRUTH or TRASH? 🗑️ Gracie and Tracy are diving into the comment section, and nobody is safe. In this new Just Ask Her segment, Gracie and Tracy react to dating advice, hot takes, and questionable wisdom pulled straight from Gracie’s social media comments. Should men take dating advice from women? Should women make the first move? Is it okay to approach women at the gym, bar, or out in public? Do “high quality women” get the ick? And apparently, should every single man just get a dog? Some takes are truth. Some are trash. And some earn a spicy rant. If you’re a single man navigating modern dating, approaching women, making the first move, building confidence, or trying to separate good dating advice from absolute garbage, welcome to Truth or Trash. #DatingAdvice #DatingAdviceForMen #ModernDating #TruthOrTrash
September 9 · 47 min
Does She Like You? You’re Asking the Wrong Question. (Ep.93)
What if uncertainty isn’t the problem with dating? What if learning how to handle it is the skill that changes everything? In this episode of Just Ask Her, Gracie and Tracy tackle three dating dilemmas from men at very different stages of life, all struggling with the same thing: trying to know the outcome before taking the next step. First, a great first date turns into mixed signals, canceled plans, Instagram comments, and silence. Is she genuinely interested or stringing him along? Next, a 49-year-old listener struggling with social anxiety asks how to become more attractive to women. But his real challenge might not be attraction at all. Finally, a 23-year-old wants to turn a college friendship into something more without making things awkward. Should he tell her he’s interested? How much should they text first? Plus, Gracie shares an incredible dating story involving a bachelorette party, country dancing, a Pitbull costume, a bald cap, a wrong phone number, and some impressive LinkedIn detective work. Whether you’re dealing with mixed signals, dating anxiety, rejection, overthinking, texting, approaching women, asking someone out, building confidence, or figuring out if she likes you, this episode is about getting comfortable with not knowing what happens next. Because dating confidence isn’t knowing she’ll say yes. It’s knowing you’ll be okay with the answer either way. Have a dating dilemma? Submit yours for a chance to be featured on a future episode. Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://self-made-u.myshopify.com/products/self-made-man-dating-journal?utm_source=copyToPasteBoard&utm_medium=product-links&utm_content=web Submission Form: https://forms.gle/e7LTvCkT1fhkFQEF8 Join the 30 Day Rizz Challenge at https://www.skool.com/rizz-challenge/about Chapters: 00:00 Stop Chasing Certainty 01:00 Welcome to Just Ask Her 01:31 Baseball & Concerts 05:53 The Pitbull Love Story 14:30 Submission #1: Mixed Signals 16:22 Did He Mess Up? 17:41 Is She Stringing Him Along? 20:52 Why Mixed Signals Hook You 21:50 Are You Missing Her? 24:15 Should He Give Her Another Chance? 25:24 The Self-Made Man Dating Journal 26:34 Submission #2: Fear of Rejection 27:35 Attraction vs. Avoidance 29:18 Why Asking Women Out Feels Terrifying 30:28 Building Social Confidence 32:01 Redefining Dating Success 33:18 How to Handle Rejection 36:25 Stop Waiting for Certainty 37:00 Submission #3: Friends to Dating 38:52 Should He Ask Her Out? 40:25 You’re Not Supposed to Know 42:18 Can Friendship Become Romance? 43:47 Stop Overthinking Texting 45:25 How Much Should You Text? 46:34 Final Thoughts #DatingAdvice #DatingAdviceForMen #RelationshipAdvice #DatingConfidence
September 2 · 56 min
When Do You Stop Keeping Your Options Open? (Ep. 92)
Dating with confidence isn’t about pretending you don’t care. It’s about knowing what you want, communicating honestly, and trusting yourself enough to handle the answer. In this episode of Just Ask Her, Gracie and Tracy answer three dating submissions that look completely different on the surface but share the same underlying challenge: when do you stop protecting your options and actually choose? One man is considering reaching back out to an ex after a major mistake damaged trust. Another is afraid that asking the woman he’s dating “what are we?” will make him look needy. And another has finally created abundance in his dating life—only to discover that choosing between multiple great women brings a new challenge. They break down what real confidence looks like, why clarity is better than trying to control an outcome, how to approach exclusivity, and why dating successfully eventually requires the courage to make a decision. Time Stamps / Chapters: 03:58 Why Charisma Is a Skill You Can Build 09:29 The Rise Challenge and Building Charisma 12:37 What Charisma Looks Like in Real Life 15:13 How the 30-Day Charisma Challenge Works 17:55 Three Dating Dilemmas With One Common Problem 18:46 Should You Reach Back Out to an Ex? 20:35 Why You Need to Disclose That You’re a Dad 28:59 Should He Actually Send the Message? 36:01 How to Have the “What Are We?” Conversation 38:07 What Real Dating Confidence Looks Like 43:13 Clarity, Exclusivity, and Fear of Losing Her 45:29 How to Choose Between Multiple Women 50:31 How to Know Who You Actually Want 53:23 When to Stop Dating Multiple People Join the 30 Day Rizz Challenge at https://www.skool.com/rizz-challenge/about Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://self-made-u.myshopify.com/products/self-made-man-dating-journal?utm_source=copyToPasteBoard&utm_medium=product-links&utm_content=web Submission Form: https://forms.gle/e7LTvCkT1fhkFQEF8 Apply to work with us: https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/bookings/dwg-consultation-call #DatingAdvice #DatingForMen #Relationships Keywords: dating advice for men dating with confidence relationship clarity when to become exclusive dating multiple women how to choose a partner confidence versus neediness what are we conversation dating abundance mindset intentional dating for men how to contact an ex should I text my ex commitment in dating choosing the right woman relationship advice for men
August 26 · 48 min
The Dating Mindset That’s Keeping You Single (Ep. 91)
Dating confidence for men isn’t built by never getting rejected—it’s built by trusting yourself regardless of the outcome. In this episode of Just Ask Her, Gracie and Tracy answer three listener dating dilemmas about rejection, insecurity, self-sabotage, and approaching women with confidence. What happens when you assume women will reject you because of your height? Are you protecting yourself from dating because a past relationship hurt you? And what do you do when you’ve made huge improvements socially but still feel like you’re failing? Gracie and Tracy break down the beliefs underneath these struggles and explain how to stop making your self-worth dependent on whether a woman chooses you. They discuss vulnerability, charisma, emotional availability, approaching women, “out of my league” thinking, and learning to measure dating progress by how you show up—not just by whether you get a relationship. This episode is for single men who are tired of overthinking dating, fearing rejection, or feeling like they have to prove they’re good enough. Join the 30 Day Rizz Challenge at https://www.skool.com/rizz-challenge/about Time Stamps / Chapters: 00:40 Welcome to Just Ask Her 00:55 The Odyssey, movies & what they’re watching 09:37 Help Just Ask Her reach more single men 09:56 JJ: Dating and rejection because of height 11:22 Stop trying to prove your worth on dates 14:29 The reality of height preferences in dating 18:28 Stop predicting rejection before you approach 20:12 Rejection vs. values and relationship compatibility 25:08 Self-made Man Dating Journal 26:16 Coach Trey: Is he self-sabotaging his dating life? 28:05 When self-sabotage is actually self-protection 37:03 Ryan: Growing socially but still feeling like a failure 40:26 Build confidence without moving the goalposts #DatingAdvice #DatingConfidence #MensDatingAdvice
August 19 · 55 min
How to Approach Women Without Being Creepy (Ep. 90)
Join the 30 Day Rizz Challenge at https://www.skool.com/rizz-challenge/about How do you approach women without being creepy? The difference often isn't whether you approach—it's how you handle the moments leading up to it. In this episode of Just Ask Her, Gracie shares a grocery-store encounter that started with prolonged staring and eventually turned into an approach in the parking garage. She explains exactly what was going through her mind as the interaction unfolded—and why the man's hesitation made an apparently well-intentioned approach feel increasingly unsafe. Gracie and Tracy use the experience to break down a better way to start conversations with women: stop searching for the perfect line, pay attention to context, read the situation, and learn how to have normal conversations with new people. This episode is for men who want to become more confident approaching women without making interactions feel forced, rehearsed, or uncomfortable. Time Stamps: 00:31 Welcome to Just Ask Her 01:10 Why This Approach Story Matters 11:27 The Grocery Store Encounter Begins 13:19 How to Make Eye Contact Without Being Creepy 15:17 The First Red Flag 18:33 When Awkward Attention Starts Feeling Unsafe 21:07 The Self-Checkout Encounter 23:28 He Approaches Her in the Parking Garage 28:29 Why Waiting Too Long to Approach Backfires 33:20 What He Should Have Done Instead 36:35 There Is No Perfect Opener 39:49 How Women Actually Want Men to Approach 42:41 Approaching Is Really a Social Skill #DatingAdvice #DatingForMen #SocialSkills Keywords: how to approach women approaching women without being creepy how to talk to women how to start conversations dating advice for men conversation starters with women confidence approaching women how to meet women social skills for men charisma for men natural conversation starters approaching women in public how women want to be approached dating confidence for men become more charismatic
August 12 · 54 min
What Women Actually Want: Real Dating Advice for Men (Ep. 89)
What do women actually want when dating? We asked real women the dating questions men want answered—from how to approach women to first dates, texting, dating profiles, and more. In this special episode of Just Ask Her, Gracie and Tracy take the podcast to Country Jam 2026 to hear real, unscripted answers from women of different ages. If you're a single man trying to date with more confidence, this episode gives you a firsthand look at women's perspectives. You'll hear what women notice when a man approaches them, what makes a positive impression, what turns them off on dating apps, and how they want a guy to take the next step. One of the biggest themes? Context matters. Preferences aren't universal, but the conversations reveal recurring themes around confidence, respect, authenticity, effort, intentionality, and actually getting to know someone. Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://self-made-u.myshopify.com/products/self-made-man-dating-journal?utm_source=copyToPasteBoard&utm_medium=product-links&utm_content=web Submission Form: https://forms.gle/e7LTvCkT1fhkFQEF8 Join the 30 Day Rizz Challenge at https://www.skool.com/rizz-challenge/about Apply to work with us: https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/bookings/dwg-consultation-call Time Stamps / Chapters: 00:00 What women actually think about dating 11:20 Taking Just Ask Her to Country Jam 13:56 What surprised Gracie and Tracy 24:42 Where women prefer to meet men 27:50 Small things that win women over 30:56 How to approach a woman with her friends 35:13 Dating profile mistakes women notice 39:59 Should you ask for her number? 43:19 How long should you wait to ask her out? 47:08 What makes a good first date? 54:09 Final thoughts on the special episode #DatingAdvice #DatingTipsForMen #WhatWomenWant
August 5 · 46 min
How to Handle Relationship Conflict Without Losing Connection (Ep. 88)
Looking for summer first date ideas that actually help build attraction? In this episode of Just Ask Her, Gracie and Tracy share creative date ideas before diving into two powerful listener questions about repairing relationship conflict and dating after heartbreak. Whether you're struggling to communicate during conflict, wondering how to validate your partner's emotions, or questioning why dating feels emotionally flat after a breakup, this conversation offers practical mindset shifts and relationship advice. If you're a man who wants healthier relationships, stronger communication, and more confidence while dating, this episode is for you. Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://self-made-u.myshopify.com/products/self-made-man-dating-journal?utm_source=copyToPasteBoard&utm_medium=product-links&utm_content=web 20%off coupon code = JUSTASKHER Submission Form: https://forms.gle/e7LTvCkT1fhkFQEF8 Join the 30 Day Rizz Challenge at https://www.skool.com/rizz-challenge/about Apply to work with us: https://datingwithgracie.com/application?utm_medium=YTepisode Time Stamps: 00:35 – Welcome back to Just Ask Her 00:51 – Summer first date ideas 02:30 – Picnic dates, breweries, and game nights 05:57 – Live music, fairs, and memorable summer dates 12:11 – Volunteer opportunities as unique date ideas 16:18 – Listener Question #1: Repairing a relationship after conflict 27:35 – Misunderstandings, communication, and relationship repair 35:12 – Self-Made Man Dating Journal 36:18 – Listener Question #2: Dating after a painful breakup 43:09 – Why your first heartbreak isn't your last 45:22 – Final thoughts and where to submit questions #DatingAdvice #RelationshipTips #FirstDateIdeas Keywords: summer first date ideas dating advice for men emotional validation relationship communication dating after heartbreak healing after breakup relationship repair emotionally available dating healthy relationship advice first date conversation tips dating confidence conflict resolution in relationships intentional dating vulnerability in relationships relationship mindset
July 29 · 1 hr
Are These Dating Red Flags... or Are You Overthinking Them? (Ep. 87)
What are the biggest dating red flags in women—and which ones actually aren't red flags at all? In this episode of Just Ask Her, Gracie and Tracy break down common assumptions men make while dating and explain why context matters more than quick judgments. They also answer real listener submissions about mixed signals after a promising first date, overcoming the feeling of being "behind" in dating, and navigating modern dating while blind. Whether you're rebuilding confidence after rejection or trying to date with more intention, this episode offers practical advice and mindset shifts that can help. Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://self-made-u.myshopify.com/products/self-made-man-dating-journal?utm_source=copyToPasteBoard&utm_medium=product-links&utm_content=web Submission Form: https://forms.gle/e7LTvCkT1fhkFQEF8 Join the 30 Day Rizz Challenge at https://www.skool.com/rizz-challenge/about Time Stamps / Chapters 00:00 Intro & today's dating topics 00:42 Welcome to Just Ask Her 02:17 Podcast updates & listener feedback 03:23 Red flags in women discussion begins 20:10 Is hating every ex a red flag? 28:42 Submission: Should he reach back out after declining a second date? 37:50 Submission: Feeling left behind in dating 48:23 Self-Made Man Dating Journal 49:36 YouTube listener: Dating while blind 59:58 Episode wrap-up #DatingAdvice #DatingForMen #Relationships Keywords: dating red flags red flags in women dating advice for men dating confidence first date advice dating mixed signals relationship communication feeling behind in dating dating after rejection dating coach advice modern dating tips dating mindset confidence in dating dating podcast healthy relationships
July 22 · 40 min
You're Not Behind: The Truth About Dating, Breakups, & Commitment (Ep. 86)
Wondering whether to text your ex, when to commit, or why dating feels so difficult? This episode explores healthy dating, emotional growth, and dating confidence for men navigating modern relationships. Gracie and Tracy answer three thoughtful listener questions covering breakups, dating uncertainty, and healing from childhood experiences that continue to affect relationships today. Whether you're returning to dating after heartbreak, struggling with dating apps, or wondering if you're "behind" compared to everyone else, this conversation offers practical mindset shifts that can help you build healthier relationships. Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://self-made-u.myshopify.com/products/self-made-man-dating-journal?utm_source=copyToPasteBoard&utm_medium=product-links&utm_content=web Submission Form: https://forms.gle/e7LTvCkT1fhkFQEF8 Join the 30 Day Rizz Challenge at https://www.skool.com/rizz-challenge/about Time Stamps / Chapters: 00:26 Welcome Back to Just Ask Her 00:40 Celebrating 100 Community Members 05:09 How to Join the Dating Community 06:14 Netflix Recommendation: The Four Seasons 08:11 Leave a Podcast Review 08:28 Jason's Breakup and Unanswered Text 12:27 Why Her Silence Is the Closure 18:49 Brett's Dating Dilemma: When Do You Commit? 23:09 Commitment Creates Certainty 29:10 Brandon's Story: Childhood Trauma and Dating 33:00 You're Not Behind—You're Healing 38:07 Stop Trying to Create Attraction 39:46 Final Thoughts & Outro #DatingAdvice #Relationships #DatingConfidence
July 15 · 39 min
Why Your Dating Mindset Matters More Than You Think (Ep. 85)
Are your dates feeling one-sided? In this episode of Just Ask Her, Gracie and Tracy tackle one of the most common dating frustrations for men: feeling like you're doing all the work in conversation and wondering whether women actually want to get to know you. They also answer a listener's question about whether women have an advantage in modern dating, discuss why mindset matters more than keeping score, and celebrate an inspiring listener success story after years of struggling with dating. Whether you're trying to build confidence, communicate better, or date with more intention, this episode offers practical advice that can help you approach dating in a healthier way. Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://self-made-u.myshopify.com/products/self-made-man-dating-journal?utm_source=copyToPasteBoard&utm_medium=product-links&utm_content=web Submission Form: https://forms.gle/e7LTvCkT1fhkFQEF8 Apply to work with us: https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/bookings/dwg-consultation-call Time Stamps / Chapter: 00:00 Opening message: Don't date with negativity 00:00 Welcome back & Tracy's 31st wedding anniversary 07:08 Listener Submission #1: Emil's dating conversations feel one-sided 09:36 Are you asking questions for the right reasons? 12:07 Stop using dating "strategies" and communicate honestly 18:11 Listener Submission #2: Do women have it easier in dating? 20:08 The realities of dating for men vs. women 27:44 Why a victim mindset won't help your dating life 30:05 Self-Made Man Dating Journal announcement 31:17 Listener Success Story: Chris finds a healthy relationship 36:07 Staying grounded after entering a relationship 38:16 Final encouragement and where to submit questions #DatingAdvice #Relationships #DatingConfidence Keywords: dating advice for men one sided dating conversations women asking questions on dates dating confidence tips healthy dating mindset dating communication skills intentional dating modern dating advice dating coach for men relationship communication dating expectations building confidence in dating dating after heartbreak healthy relationships dating self improvement
July 8 · 52 min
Confidence Isn't Something You Find, It's Something You Build (Ep. 84)
Confidence with women isn't something you're born with—it’s something you build through action. In this episode, Gracie and Tracy break down dating confidence, rejection, social anxiety, and why trying to become "what women want" is holding so many men back. If you've ever overanalyzed a rejection, struggled to approach women in person, or wondered why dating feels so confusing, this conversation offers practical advice that focuses on becoming confident in yourself instead of chasing external validation. The episode also explores how to rebuild confidence after painful relationships, why your dating history doesn't define your value, and how trusted friends and family can become one of the best ways to meet compatible partners. Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://self-made-u.myshopify.com/products/self-made-man-dating-journal?utm_source=copyToPasteBoard&utm_medium=product-links&utm_content=web Submission Form: https://forms.gle/e7LTvCkT1fhkFQEF8 Apply to work with us: https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/bookings/dwg-consultation-call Time Stamps / Chapters: 00:00 Confidence comes from taking action 00:00:32 Welcome to Just Ask Her 00:01:14 Community dating success stories 00:06:36 Submission #1: She rejected me after a great second date 00:15:06 Talking about never having a serious relationship 00:23:08 Self-Made Man Dating Journal 00:24:16 Submission #2: What do women actually want? 00:33:34 Submission #3: Fear of rejection and social anxiety 00:36:14 How confidence is really built 00:41:24 Should family set you up? 00:47:08 Why your network is your biggest dating asset 00:49:53 ADHD, anxiety, and building confidence 00:51:30 Final thoughts #DatingAdvice #Confidence #JustAskHer

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