What are the 4 Fuhgedaboudits When Interacting with Someone with a High Conflict Personality?

Interactions with someone with a high conflict personality often become contentious and you may eventually get upset, storm off, or simply feel inadequate. We’re often left wondering why our best skills don’t work in these interactions. 

A primary reason for this is because we often respond in a way that doesn’t work — our own defaults that work well with most people. 

There are 4 Fuhgedaboudits in high conflict interactions that will revolutionize them. They are necessary but we often forget about the 4 Fuhgedaboudits.

In this episode, Megan and Bill will explain what they are and why they’re so important.

Links & Other Notes

• BOOKS
  • Mediating High Conflict Disputes
  • It’s All Your Fault!
  • 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life
• ARTICLES
  • When to let go of insight as a reasonable objective?
  • 4 Mistakes to Avoid When Dealing with Difficult People
  • The 4 “Fugetaboutits” in High Conflict Mediation

Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/

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Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

• (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
• (01:10) - The Four Fuhgedaboudits
• (03:55) - Choices Not Insight
• (06:11) - Don't Emphasize the Past
• (07:04) - No Emotional Confrontations
• (12:52) - Focus on Managing Your Relationship
• (13:48) - Opening Up Emotions
• (16:26) - Training Your Amygdala
• (19:00) - In the Moment
• (20:00) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Alienation vs. Estrangement