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It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People

From Reacting to Responding: High Conflict at Work, Part 3 of 4

June 25 · 41 min · Season 9 · Episode 20 · 40.1 MB
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High conflict behavior doesn't just disrupt your team—it follows leaders home, costs organizations hundreds of thousands of dollars, and gets worse when managers react without a plan. The question Part 3 of this four-part workplace series answers is the one every leader eventually faces: once you know conflict is in the room, what do you actually do?

Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, and Megan Hunter, MBA, co-founders of the High Conflict Institute in Scottsdale, Arizona, are joined again by Michael Lomax, JD, lawyer, mediator, and HCI speaker and trainer. Together they walk through the BIFF response for hostile emails and verbal exchanges, EAR statements for de-escalating in the moment, the CARS method—Connect, Analyze, Respond, Set Limits—for structuring any high conflict conversation, and New Ways for Work® coaching as a measurable alternative to suspension. Whether you're managing a difficult employee, caught between HR and your team, or working under a difficult boss, these are the tools that shift the dynamic without making things worse.

It's All Your Fault is produced by TruStory FM.

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Important Notice: Our discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area.

  • (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
  • (02:02) - Why Smart People Get Drawn Into These Conflicts
  • (08:00) - BIFF Method
  • (12:46) - Other Ways It’s Applied
  • (17:20) - CARS Method
  • (25:50) - What If It's the Boss?
  • (29:11) - Solutions and Methods of Application
  • (39:37) - Wrap Up