inside OUT with Jojo Cottle

4 Sneaky Patterns Ruining Your Relationships

Jojo is bringing this one back because it’s one of those episodes that hits different every time you hear it. We all know the obvious relationship ruiners, like lying and cheating. But what about the quiet ones? These are the patterns that slowly poison a connection without either person noticing, in romance, friendships, family, even at work. In this episode, Jojo names four of them, and she raises her hand on every single one. She shares personal stories she’s never told on the show before, including one she’s still a little embarrassed about. She also unpacks why “you complete me” might be one of the most damaging things we’ve been taught about love, and tells the story of the one word she banned from a relationship on the spot. Once you see these patterns, you can’t unsee them. And that’s where the real work begins. As always, Jojo gets MESy: mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Plus there’s homework, so come ready to get honest with yourself. Send me a MESsage :) Thank you for listening! Don't forget to follow along on social media @_insideout.podcast, rate and review. And Join the MESy Mailing List for exclusive content, insights on what is coming up and more!

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Attention v. Intention: Why You Keep Sending That Text

Constant contact isn’t connection. Jojo breaks down attention vs. intention, why we reach out from lack, and how sitting in the silence can rewire your relationships and your sense of worth. Send me a MESsage :) Thank you for listening! Don't forget to follow along on social media @_insideout.podcast, rate and review. And Join the MESy Mailing List for exclusive content, insights on what is coming up and more!

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How to Actually Date Different

Every city is “the worst city to date in.” But is it the city, or how we’re showing up?This week Jojo breaks down why the flashy first date backfires, why a $5 coffee and a walk will tell you more than a $400 dinner, and why connection starts with asking questions and actually listening. Men, women, this one’s for both of you. Send me a MESsage :) Thank you for listening! Don't forget to follow along on social media @_insideout.podcast, rate and review. And Join the MESy Mailing List for exclusive content, insights on what is coming up and more!

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Boundaries & the Block Button

We talk a lot about setting boundaries, but what about keeping them? In this episode of Inside Out, Jojo gets honest about the boundaries she sets with herself and others, where they slip, and the uncomfortable question that changed how she sees the whole thing. From late-night scrolling to the family questions that never stop to the person who just won't take the hint, this one might hit a little close to home. If you've ever felt like your "no" isn't landing, or like you keep giving yourself away, press play. Send me a MESsage :) Thank you for listening! Don't forget to follow along on social media @_insideout.podcast, rate and review. And Join the MESy Mailing List for exclusive content, insights on what is coming up and more!

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Slow Love: Building a Foundation Before You Build a Life

In this throw back solo episode, Jojo gets MESy about love, and why so many relationships crumble when the foundation was never built. She unpacks how instant gratification culture pushes us to rush into intimacy, and how slowing down to truly know and integrate a partner creates connection that lasts. Send me a MESsage :) Thank you for listening! Don't forget to follow along on social media @_insideout.podcast, rate and review. And Join the MESy Mailing List for exclusive content, insights on what is coming up and more!

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I Want To Hear From You, Yes YOU: A Personal Check In

Jojo shares her personal journey through mental, emotional, and spiritual growth, inviting listeners to engage and shape future content based on their interests. Send me a MESsage :) Thank you for listening! Don't forget to follow along on social media @_insideout.podcast, rate and review. And Join the MESy Mailing List for exclusive content, insights on what is coming up and more!

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From Love Bombing to Real Love: Masculine & Feminine Energy Pt. 2 with Yats

Inner child and relational therapist Yats returns to unpack masculine and feminine energy: why giving and receiving get so tangled between men and women, where our blocks to receiving love actually come from, and how the subconscious mind decides who we attract. Send me a MESsage :) Thank you for listening! Don't forget to follow along on social media @_insideout.podcast, rate and review. And Join the MESy Mailing List for exclusive content, insights on what is coming up and more!

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The Intimacy Gap: What Men & Women Get Wrong About Love with Yats

In this episode, Jojo sits down with relationship and inner child therapist Yats to explore the deep roots of relationship dynamics, inner child healing, and the balance of masculinity and femininity. They discuss how childhood experiences shape adult relationships and practical ways to foster emotional safety and authenticity. Connect with Yats on Instagram: @theinneryats Send me a MESsage :) Thank you for listening! Don't forget to follow along on social media @_insideout.podcast, rate and review. And Join the MESy Mailing List for exclusive content, insights on what is coming up and more!

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Is It Intuition or Just Overthinking? How to Tell the Difference with Tania Ho

How do you know if it's intuition or overthinking? Intuitive soul guide Tania Ho on gut feelings, energy leaks, sensitivity as a superpower & soul-led living. Connect with Tania Ho: Website: https://taniaho.me/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/taniasoulguide Museflower Retreat and Spa: https://musefloweretreat.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/musefloweretreat YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/musefloweretreat Listen to Tania's podcast, Embrace Your Sacred Nature: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7LWJNBsXcKNcB7HAfP9PQK?si=8cd6a2c9e65943c5 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/embrace-yoursacred-nature/id1812599337 Send me a MESsage :) Thank you for listening! Don't forget to follow along on social media @_insideout.podcast, rate and review. And Join the MESy Mailing List for exclusive content, insights on what is coming up and more!

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Feng Shui for Skeptics: Small Shifts at Home That Change Your Sleep, Money & Relationships with Lisa Morton

In this episode, Lisa Morton shares how Feng Shui can transform your space and life by focusing on energy flow, color, clutter, and intentional design. Discover practical tips to create a home that supports your health, relationships, and abundance without major remodels. Connect with Lisa: Website, book, classes and free 15 minute discovery call: Here Aligned at Home (book) and the companion workbook are available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble and wherever you order books Free live Color Mastery class, next one coming mid September The Aligned at Home Collective membership, one hour a month devoted to you and your home Feng Shui Living podcast Instagram: @purelivingwithlisamorton Send me a MESsage :) Thank you for listening! Don't forget to follow along on social media @_insideout.podcast, rate and review. And Join the MESy Mailing List for exclusive content, insights on what is coming up and more!

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Perfectionism, Self-Betrayal & The MESsy Middle w/ Amanda Baker

What if your perfectionism isn't a personality trait, it's a survival strategy that's quietly burning you out? Therapist, yoga psychology teacher, and poet Amanda Baker joins Jojo to unravel why we strive to be "amazing," what's actually underneath the fear of being average, and how burnout is really self-betrayal in disguise. Connect with Amanda: Website: https://www.youamazeme.org Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontheflip YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@youamazemeamandabaker You Amaze Me Podcast on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7tCJ7z91HFfsFw8Zm8gfwB Send me a MESsage :) Thank you for listening! Don't forget to follow along on social media @_insideout.podcast, rate and review. And Join the MESy Mailing List for exclusive content, insights on what is coming up and more!

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The Episode I Almost Deleted: A Case Against Perfectionism

This week Jojo does something a little different. No studio, no polish, no edits. Just a mic, a patio overlooking the water, wind in the background, and yes, even a bee. Because this episode is about the very thing that would normally make her scrap it: perfectionism. Who told you everything has to be buttoned up before you're allowed to show up? Why does the pressure to be the perfect parent, partner, professional or version of yourself always land on the one person who never makes the list: you? And what actually happens to connection, creativity and flow when we finally stop performing and get honest about the messy middle? Jojo gets into it mentally, emotionally and spiritually, and leaves you with one small, slightly uncomfortable challenge you can try today. Consider this the prologue. A deeper conversation on the psychology of perfectionism, burnout and self-betrayal is coming soon with a therapist, so make sure you're following the show. Take your shoes off, step outside, and press play. Send me a MESsage :) Thank you for listening! Don't forget to follow along on social media @_insideout.podcast, rate and review. And Join the MESy Mailing List for exclusive content, insights on what is coming up and more!

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Why Are We Always Late? The Psychology of Not Showing Up

We have all been on both sides of it. Waiting on someone who never showed. Or being the one who was late... again. This week Jojo scraps her original fired up take and asks a much more interesting question: why do we actually do this? In this solo think piece, Jojo unpacks the surprising research on chronic lateness, from the planning fallacy to time blindness, and the deeper emotional roots most of us never look at: anxiety, self worth, control, perfectionism, self sabotage, old childhood wiring and people pleasing. She also shares a recent personal story about being completely no showed, and how she chose to respond with warmth and a very clear boundary. This one is not a lecture. It is a mirror. Because the question is not just why is lateness rude. It is what is really going on underneath when we cannot seem to show up on time, or at all. No tidy answers this week. Just a question worth sitting with: is your lateness about time, or about what you feel when you try to be on time? Share this one with the friend who is always late. Lovingly, of course. Send me a MESsage :) Thank you for listening! Don't forget to follow along on social media @_insideout.podcast, rate and review. And Join the MESy Mailing List for exclusive content, insights on what is coming up and more!

Stop Splitting Your Relationship 50/50: Two Rules From a 47 Year Marriage

What does it take to stay in love for 47 years? In this short and sweet episode, Jojo shares the relationship advice a store owner gave her, the two simple rules he swears by after nearly five decades of marriage, and why he says he falls more in love with his wife every single day. Everyone talks about relationships, dating culture, and communication, but somewhere along the way we lost the plot on how to actually build a strong one. This conversation brought it all back to basics. In this episode: The one number most couples get wrong about relationships A tiny mindset shift that stops fights before they start The popular relationship saying Jojo thinks we need to retire for good How to hear feedback from your partner without your ego taking the hit Whether you're married, dating, or working on any relationship in your life, this under 10 minute episode gives you a mindset shift you can use today. Follow Inside OUT for weekly conversations navigating the MES: mental, emotional, and spiritual wellness. Let's get MESy. Send me a MESsage :) Thank you for listening! Don't forget to follow along on social media @_insideout.podcast, rate and review. And Join the MESy Mailing List for exclusive content, insights on what is coming up and more!

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Doing Well but Not Feeling Well: Why Success Still Feels Empty with Pratiqk Jaani

You can do everything "right": hit the goal, get the title, build the life that's supposed to feel good, and still feel empty. In this episode of Inside OUT, Jojo sits down with Pratiqk Jaani, an accountant turned transformation teacher and author of Dhrasti, to unpack why doing well doesn't always mean feeling well. After 20+ years advising entrepreneurs, Pratik discovered the real problem was never the money. It was the perception people were unconsciously living through. They explore how childhood conditioning creates a default state of "lack," why every new goal (or new relationship) only feeds it, and how shifting into "wholeness" changes your entire experience of life. Pratik also shares two exercises you can do at home tonight to glimpse your true self beneath the conditioning. Then we close by getting MESy: mental, emotional, and spiritual questions to sit with this week. Connect with Pratiqk: https://www.pratiqkjaani.com/ or on IG @dhrastipratiqkjaani Send me a MESsage :) Thank you for listening! Don't forget to follow along on social media @_insideout.podcast, rate and review. And Join the MESy Mailing List for exclusive content, insights on what is coming up and more!

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The Breakup Nobody Talks About: Why Losing Your Best Friend Hurts More Than Losing a Partner

Nobody brings you ice cream when your best friend breaks up with you. There are no rituals, no sympathy cards, no space to grieve. Yet research shows your brain processes platonic rejection through the exact same neural pathways as romantic heartbreak. So why do we pretend it hurts less? This week on Inside OUT, Jojo gets MESy with the breakup nobody talks about. After an overwhelming response from listeners, she dives deep into why friendship endings can cut deeper than romantic ones, the real reasons friendships fall apart, how to know when it is truly time to walk away, and what to do when there is no closure. She shares her own three major friendship breakups and the hard truths she had to face about codependency, abandonment, and choosing herself. We break it down mentally: where are you blocking honesty about where a friendship really stands? Emotionally: have you actually let yourself grieve? And spiritually: can you trust that every ending is shaping the life you are meant to lead? If you have ever lost a friend and quietly carried that pain alone, this episode is for you. And it might be for someone you love too. Send it to them. Send me a MESsage :) Thank you for listening! Don't forget to follow along on social media @_insideout.podcast, rate and review. And Join the MESy Mailing List for exclusive content, insights on what is coming up and more!

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Breaking Up & Starting Over: Friendship Edition

We do not talk enough about friendship breakups. Romantic breakups get the songs, the books, the girls' night support system. Friendship loss gets a shrug and a "people grow apart." In this solo episode, Jojo sits with what it actually means to lose a close friend, not to conflict, not to a fight, but to time, distance, and evolution. After moving away from a decade in New York and starting over in a brand new city, she is facing the hardest part of adult friendship: building connection from the ground up while grieving the people who used to feel permanent. Inside this episode: Why making friends as an adult feels so much harder than it used to The difference between a friend for a reason, a season, and a lifetime How to know when a friendship has become misaligned with your season of life Why we take friendship loss personally, even when it was never really about us Processing a friendship breakup when there was no closure What it means to ask yourself not just who you want to find, but who you want to be as a friend This is a mental, emotional, and spiritual conversation about connection, grief, and growth. If you have ever quietly wondered whether a friendship still fits your life, this one is for you. Follow along at @_insideout.podcast and subscribe to the Substack for more reflections between episodes. Send me a MESsage :) Thank you for listening! Don't forget to follow along on social media @_insideout.podcast, rate and review. And Join the MESy Mailing List for exclusive content, insights on what is coming up and more!

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Are Your Friendships Lifting You Up or Holding You Back?

"You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with." So who are yours? This week on Inside OUT, Jojo brings back one of the very first episodes, Friendship: Toxic or Transformative, and it hits different now that the friendship at the center of it no longer exists in her life. We get honest about the friendships that quietly shape us. The ones we outgrow. The ones that end with no explanation. And the ones worth watering for fifteen years and counting. Jojo opens up about losing a childhood best friend overnight, walking away from people she loved, and being on the receiving end of someone choosing to walk away from her. If you have a friendship right now that feels more draining than nourishing, or one you keep quietly wondering about, this one is for you. Inside this episode: Why one rotting raspberry can spoil the whole box (and what that means for your circle) The difference between a friend you have fun with and a friend who sits in the muck with you How expectations quietly kill the relationships we care about most The one conversation that saved a friendship instead of ending it How to take honest inventory of your five people without pointing fingers This is your invitation to get real about who you let close. Press play. Let's get MESy. Send me a MESsage :) Thank you for listening! Don't forget to follow along on social media @_insideout.podcast, rate and review. And Join the MESy Mailing List for exclusive content, insights on what is coming up and more!

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WTF Is Tarot & How Do We Use It with Dina Berrin

Before you click away because you think tarot is too "out there," stay with me. In this episode of Inside OUT, Jojo sits down with Dina Berrin, an author, certified life coach, and intuitive guide who treats tarot as a language and a map of the human experience, not a party trick or a crystal ball. If you have never touched a deck in your life, this is your grounded, no judgment way in. Dina breaks down what tarot actually is: a deck of 78 cards split into the minor arcana and the major arcana, full of symbolism that reflects the universal human story of love, fear, growth, endings, and new beginnings. You will learn how to read the colors and images on a card, how to look for patterns in a spread, and how tarot quietly moves you from asking "is he going to call me back" to asking "what am I learning" and "what am I avoiding." Then Jojo puts Dina on the spot for a live reading, and what comes up is so specific it is a little scary. They get into the 2026 year card, personal year cards, numerology, and the one question underneath every question people ever bring to the deck: am I going to be okay? If you are a skeptic, an overthinker, or someone who needs it to make logical sense before you let it in, this one is for you. Let's Get MESy. Dina's book The Way Within: Igniting Your Intuition with Sacred Tools (on Amazon here) Listener offer: 15% off a One Hour Personal Reading with Dina, regularly $270. The session focuses on your birth cards and personal numerology. Use code INSIDEOUT15 when booking. Valid for first time clients who book within 30 days of this episode airing. You can also ask Dina about her 90 minute "Understanding You" deep dive. Book here: https://dinaberrin.com/contact/ Find Dina Website: https://dinaberrin.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dinaberrin or @dinaberrin YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dinaberrin5975 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dina-perlmutter-berrin-cpcc-pcc-5b812022 Divination Charm Set: https://dinaberrin.com/product/magical-divination-charm-set/ Send me a MESsage :) Thank you for listening! Don't forget to follow along on social media @_insideout.podcast, rate and review. And Join the MESy Mailing List for exclusive content, insights on what is coming up and more!

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The 7 Keys to Wellness: A Nervous System Reset with Kiana & Andrew Joyner

Everyone's nervous system is jacked. We're vibrating at high levels, stuck in the rat race, and calling a shopping spree "self-care." On this episode of Inside OUT, Jojo sits down with married therapist + coach duo Kiana and Andrew of Soul Journey Project to break down what real wellness looks like, the kind that actually resets your nervous system instead of just looking good on TikTok. We walk through their 7 Keys to Wellness, one by one, with practical, no-cost ways to bring each one into a busy life. Then we get into co-regulation: what actually happens when two dysregulated people try to communicate, and the difference between a relationship and a true partnership. This one's all about going internal for the external, not the other way around. Connect with Kiana & Andrew: Website + newsletter: souljourneyproject.com Their journal, Take the Step Instagram & Facebook: @SoulJourneyProject If this resonated, take a deep breath, think of one person who needs to hear it, and send it to them. Let's get MESy! Send me a MESsage :) Thank you for listening! Don't forget to follow along on social media @_insideout.podcast, rate and review. And Join the MESy Mailing List for exclusive content, insights on what is coming up and more!

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