How to Get Over Your Ex

Breakup Coach Dorothy

Breakup coach Dorothy, outlines the steps to get over your ex without it "just taking time".

She has combined her background in psychology with her life coach certification tools to provide actionable insights so that you're not only learning the why but you're learning the HOW to getting over your ex.

Note: Dorothy utilizes the "he" pronoun when talking about her ex but this work can be applied to anyone. All genders and sexual orientations are encouraged to listen and apply the tools.

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Thursday · 52 min
The Ultimate Comeback Series: When you hit rock bottom in everything at once w/ Juliana Garcia
There's a specific kind of low that doesn't feel like a bad week — it feels like the floor is gone. Your business, your relationship, your sense of who you even are, all collapsing at once, with no clear sign you'll come out the other side. In this episode, Juliana Garcia — entrepreneur, mindset coach, and Dorothy's own personal coach — sits down to talk about the version of her life that most people never see: the point where everything she'd built felt like it was slipping away, and what actually pulled her out of it. Juliana breaks down the specific feeling she credits with getting her through her hardest comebacks (not motivation, not positivity — something with far more staying power), and why the trait people have criticized her for her whole life turned out to be the exact thing that saved her life (literally). If you've ever hit a low that made you question everything, this conversation gives you a completely different way to hold that moment — and what to do with it instead of waiting for it to pass. Trigger Warning: This episode includes an open discussion of suicidal ideation during a mental health low point. Listener discretion advised. Learn more about Juliana Garcia: Instagram: @itsjulianagarcia Website: https://www.julianagarcia.com/
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Monday · 27 min
Ep. 355 - What to do when your life no longer feels like you
Have you ever looked around at your life and thought, "How did I end up here?" Not because your life is bad, but because it no longer feels like you. In this episode, I share what happened after implementing the three decisions I talked about a few weeks ago—and why they've created more momentum, clarity, and alignment than I thought possible. We dive into the surprising pattern I discovered: every area of your life either begins to expand or naturally falls away once you start making decisions from alignment instead of obligation. We also talk about why letting go can feel so uncomfortable, how to loosen your attachment before you make a big change, and what to do when doubt shows up after you've already committed to a new direction. If you've been feeling stuck, disconnected from your own life, or like you've outgrown the version of yourself you've been living, this episode will give you a completely different way to think about your next chapter. Consultation call: www.lifecoachdorothy.com Ep. 353: 3 decisions that changed my life in 24 hours
August 20 · 39 min
The Ultimate Comeback Series: What to do when things keep getting worse w/ Gabrielle Stone
There's a moment in almost every comeback that we forget about: the relapse. The week your ex resurfaces and you're back checking his Instagram at 1am. The wave of spiraling that convinces you you're regressing, not healing. In this episode, author (and world explorer) Gabrielle Stone joins Dorothy to break down why that backslide is actually a predictable part of the process, not proof you're doing it wrong. Gabrielle explains the tool she uses to catch a thought spiral before it hijacks her day and what she did instead of gripping for control every time her life fell apart right before a major shift. If you've ever felt like you were three steps forward and ten steps back, this conversation names exactly what's happening in that moment — and what to do instead. Learn more about Gabrielle Stone: Instagram: @gabriellestone Tiktok: @gabrielle_stone Books: https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B07T9H6D58 Website: https://www.eatprayfml.com/
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August 17 · 44 min
Ep. 354 - How to meet commitment ready men after heartbreak w/ dating expert Torah
If you're wondering where you're actually supposed to meet commitment-ready men—or why you keep ending up with people who aren't looking for the same future you are—this episode is for you. Today we're shifting from getting over your ex to building a life that makes finding the right partner possible. Dating expert Torah's 2 Cents joins me to challenge some of the biggest assumptions women have about dating and shares practical ways to create a roster of emotionally available, relationship-minded men without relying on luck. We talk about where to meet them, how to think differently about dating, and the subtle shifts that can completely change the quality of the people you're attracting. If you're ready to stop wondering whether your person exists and start dating with more confidence, clarity, and intention, this conversation is one you won't want to miss. Learn more about Torah: Instagram: @torahcents Website: https://www.curved2cuffed.com/
August 13 · 42 min
The Ultimate Comeback Series: Why healing during your comeback feels so up and down w/ Georgie Collinson
Does it ever feel like you're making progress after your breakup… and then one bad day convinces you you're right back where you started? One week you feel hopeful, the next you're crying over something that didn't bother you yesterday, and suddenly you're questioning whether you're healing at all. In this episode of the Ultimate Comeback Series, I sit down with Georgie Collinson to talk about why real comebacks don't happen in a straight line. She shares a four-phase cycle that completely reframes the ups and downs of healing so you can stop treating every setback as failure and start understanding what it's actually preparing you for. If you've been frustrated by how unpredictable your healing feels or wondering if you'll ever truly get to the other side, this conversation will help you see your comeback through a completely different lens. Learn more about Georgie Collinson: Instagram: @georgiecollinson Website: https://georgiecollinson.com/
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August 10 · 26 min
Ep. 353 - 3 decisions that changed my life in 24 hours
Have you ever felt like you've lost yourself? Like you're overthinking every decision, waiting until you have the perfect reason before taking action, or looking to everyone else for permission before trusting yourself? This episode is for that version of you. I share the three realizations that completely changed the direction of my life and business in less than 24 hours—and why I think they apply just as much to heartbreak as they do to any season where you feel stuck, scared, or disconnected from yourself. We talk about what happens when you stop needing to justify what you want, stop outsourcing your decisions to other people's opinions, and stop believing that healing or building a life you love has to be hard to be meaningful. If you're ready to feel more like yourself again but don't know where to start, this conversation may give you the shift you've been looking for. Free consultation call w/ Dorothy: www.lifecoachdorothy.com
August 6 · 48 min
The Ultimate Comeback Series: The hardest decision led to her biggest comeback w/ Meagan Norris
Leaving a marriage is one of the hardest decisions a person can make—especially when children are involved. It's easy to wonder whether you're giving up too soon, whether you'll regret it, or whether life on the other side could ever feel better than the one you're leaving behind. In this episode, I sit down with divorce coach Meagan Norris to talk about the comeback that followed one of the hardest choices of her life. We discuss the parenting differences that ultimately led to the end of her marriage, what it took to trust herself through that decision, and how she rebuilt a life that felt more aligned than the one she left behind. If you've ever questioned whether choosing yourself means sacrificing your future, this conversation offers a perspective on what's possible when you stop building a life around fear and start building one around what matters most. Learn more about Meagan Norris: Instagram: @meagannorriscoaching Website: https://www.meagannorris.com/
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August 3 · 10 min
Ep. 352 - How to stop comparing everyone you date to your ex
If every date ends with you thinking, "They're nice… but they're not my ex," this episode is for you. One of the biggest reasons people stay emotionally stuck after a breakup is because they unknowingly use their ex as the benchmark for every new person they meet. But comparing someone new to your past doesn't tell you whether they're the right partner—it usually tells you something about where you are in your healing process. In this episode, I walk you through the three-step framework I use with my coaching clients to figure out why your brain keeps making these comparisons, how to know whether you're truly over your ex, and what to focus on instead so you can start dating with clarity rather than constantly looking backward. If you're tired of wondering whether no one will ever measure up to your ex, this episode will help you understand what's actually happening and what to do next. Reduce desire and attachment to your ex – Ep. 341: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/2026/05/18/when-youve-tried-everything-to-get-over-your-ex-and-nothings-worked/ Dating to engaged process - Ep. 162: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/2022/10/03/the-dating-to-engaged-process/
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July 27 · 12 min
Ep. 351 - How to stop songs from reminding you of your ex
Does hearing a certain song instantly pull you back into memories of your ex? Maybe you're fine one minute, then a song comes on in the grocery store or during your drive home and suddenly you're replaying the relationship, imagining getting back together, and wondering if you'll ever stop missing them. If that cycle feels familiar, this episode will show you a different way to handle those moments. I walk you through the exact breakup protocol I use with my coaching clients to stop emotional triggers from turning into hours of rumination and longing. Instead of avoiding songs, memories, or places that remind you of your ex, you'll learn how to respond to them in a way that helps you move forward rather than keeping you emotionally attached. If you're tired of one song ruining your entire day, this episode will give you a practical framework you can start using the very next time you're triggered. Free consultation call with Dorothy: www.lifecoachdorothy.com
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July 20 · 10 min
Ep. 350 - How to stop feeling like a failure after a breakup
If your breakup has left you questioning your own judgment, wondering how you could have loved someone who ultimately left, betrayed you, or wasn't right for you, this episode is for you. One of the most painful parts of heartbreak isn't just losing the relationship, it's starting to believe the relationship failed because you failed. That belief quietly chips away at your confidence, making it harder to trust yourself in dating, relationships, and even other areas of your life. In this episode, I share three questions I use with my coaching clients to help separate your identity from the outcome of the relationship, rebuild self-trust, and stop using your breakup as evidence that something is wrong with you. If you've been stuck thinking, "How can I trust myself after this?" this conversation will give you a completely different way to look at what happened and show you the first step toward believing in yourself again. Free consultation call with Dorothy: www.lifecoachdorothy.com
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July 13 · 14 min
Ep. 349 - How to stop romanticizing your ex
After a breakup, it's amazing how quickly your brain can erase everything that wasn't working in the relationship. The arguments, the incompatibilities, the moments you questioned whether they were really right for you suddenly disappear, and all you can think is, "I lost the love of my life." If you've found yourself obsessing over why your ex didn't choose you while barely considering whether you would actually choose them today, this episode will change the way you think about your breakup. I'll walk you through three powerful questions I use with my coaching clients to help them stop idealizing their ex, reconnect with their own standards, and shift from feeling rejected to making intentional choices about the kind of relationship they actually want. And if part of you still hopes your ex comes back, we'll also explore why getting clear on what would need to change before you ever considered reconciliation can completely transform the way you move through heartbreak. This episode is a simple exercise with the power to change how you see your past—and your future. Free consultation call with Dorothy: www.lifecoachdorothy.com
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July 6 · 14 min
Ep. 348 - How to stop spiraling after something your ex did
If something your ex did recently sent you into a spiral, they unfollowed you, started dating someone else, viewed your story, ignored your message, or did something that left you questioning your worth, this episode will help you get back on solid ground. The hardest part of these moments usually isn't what happened. It's the meaning your brain immediately assigns to it and the behaviors that follow. In this episode, I walk you through the same three-step process I recently used with a client after one unexpected action from her ex unraveled an entire weekend. You'll learn how to uncover the thoughts fueling the spiral, challenge the stories keeping you stuck, and create a simple plan so the next trigger doesn't have the same power over you. If you're tired of one interaction with your ex undoing weeks or months of progress, this episode will show you how to recover faster, respond differently, and keep moving toward the life you actually want. Free consultation call for private coaching: lifecoachdorothy.com The Get Over Your Ex Program w/ Coaching: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/ The Get Over Your Ex Self Paced Course: http://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexcourse
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June 29 · 20 min
Ep. 347 - How to get over a friendship breakup
Friendship breakups can be just as painful and confusing as romantic ones, yet most of us have no idea how to move through them. If you've been replaying conversations, questioning what you did wrong, wondering if you'll ever find friendships that feel as meaningful again, or feeling unexpectedly heartbroken over someone who was "just a friend," this episode is for you. I'm sharing my own first experience navigating a friendship breakup and walking you through the exact three-part process I use to help people heal romantic heartbreak, adapted for losing a friend. We explore the stories we create about ourselves after a relationship ends, why forcing yourself into strict no contact isn't always the answer, and how to stop organizing your future around a connection that no longer fits. If you're ready to grieve the friendship without carrying it forever and start creating friendships that feel even more aligned, this episode will give you a completely different way to move forward. Schedule a free consultation call with Dorothy: https://lifecoachdorothy.com/
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June 22 · 21 min
Ep. 346 - Maybe I'm not as good as I thought I was
After a breakup, it's easy to think you're grieving the relationship when what you're actually grieving is the version of yourself you thought you were. The confident version. The chosen version. The version who never questioned her worth. If you've caught yourself wondering whether your ex leaving means you're not as lovable, valuable, successful, attractive, or capable as you once believed, this episode is for you. In this conversation, we unpack why heartbreak often turns into a crisis of identity and how your brain quietly uses the breakup as evidence against you. I share the exact exercises that helped me rebuild trust in myself after losing my engagement and pregnancy, along with the same work I use with clients who feel like they've lost their confidence, momentum, or sense of self after heartbreak. If you're tired of measuring your worth through the lens of what happened with your ex and ready to reconnect with who you are beyond the breakup, this episode will give you a completely different way to look at your healing journey. Free consultation call to work together: www.lifecoachdorothy.com Free on-demand video training on How to Fast Forward Getting Over Your ex: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overyourexpodcast/
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June 15 · 20 min
Ep. 345 - A Bigger & Better Life Mid-Year Check-In
If you've drifted from the intentions you set at the beginning of the year, this is your reminder that you can always recommit. I'm sharing a personal mid-year check-in on marriage, movement, complaining less, and what helped me get back on track after a challenging season. If you're ready to reset and move into the second half of the year with more intention, this episode is for you.
June 12 · 7 min
BONUS: I felt forced to leave my relationship
If you were the one who ended the relationship, but still feel heartbroken, guilty, or unsure if you made the right decision…this episode is for you. You'll hear about the emotional aftermath of leaving someone you still loved, especially when you felt like you had no other choice. This episode explores the guilt of hurting someone, the pressure of feeling responsible for their emotions, and the confusing mix of desire, attachment, grief, and second-guessing that can happen after a breakup you initiated. You'll also learn why doubting your decision is often connected to unresolved attachment and what it actually looks like to feel grounded and confident in your choice to leave. If you keep wondering whether you gave up too soon or replaying the relationship in your mind, this conversation will help you understand what's really underneath that spiral, and how to finally find peace with your decision. Join the Get Over Your Ex program, enrollment ends on June 14th: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
June 11 · 7 min
BONUS: The relationship was an affair
This episode dives into one of the most complicated and emotionally loaded forms of heartbreak: affairs. Whether you were cheated on, were the one who cheated, are trying to repair a marriage, or are struggling to let go of an affair partner, this conversation explores the shame, attachment, grief, and confusion that can exist on every side of the experience. You'll hear an honest and compassionate discussion about why affairs happen, what people are often truly seeking underneath them, and why judgment usually keeps people stuck instead of helping them heal. This episode also breaks down the role desire and attachment play in decision-making after infidelity, especially when emotions are running high. If you've been silently carrying guilt, heartbreak, anger, or emotional chaos around cheating or an affair, this conversation will help you feel less alone and offer a more grounded path forward. Join the Get Over Your Ex program, enrollment ends on June 14th: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
June 10 · 8 min
BONUS: The relationship was a long term marriage
If you're navigating the end of a long-term marriage, this episode speaks directly to the grief, identity shifts, and emotional complexity that can come with divorce. You'll hear about what happens when the future you planned disappears, how heartbreak after marriage carries layers far beyond a typical breakup, and why healing in this season often requires a more nuanced approach. This episode explores the emotional aftermath of divorce, including rebuilding trust in yourself, untangling the meaning you've attached to the end of the relationship, and learning how to move forward without living in bitterness or victimhood. If you're struggling with the loss of your marriage, your family dynamic, or the life you thought you'd have, this conversation will remind you that healing and a meaningful future are still available to you, even if this was never the path you would have chosen. Join the Get Over Your Ex program, enrollment ends on June 14th: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
June 9 · 2 min
You're Invited -- OPEN HOUSE Get Over Your Ex in 90 days or Less
I'm hosting an open house for the Get Over Your Ex in 90 days or less program where you'll get a tour INSIDE of the Braveheart Academy portal, an inside sneak peak of what's in our Get Over Your Ex workbook, what your first couple of days inside of the program would look like (hint: Breakup Bingo), and you get to ask any and all questions you might have to know if GOYE is right for you right now! Can't wait to see you there! When: Thursday, June 11th at 3pm CT Where: zoom (link is here: https://us06web.zoom.us/j/83893739993)
June 9 · 7 min
BONUS: The relationship was a situationship
If you're heartbroken over a situationship and secretly judging yourself for how much it hurts, this episode will help you feel seen. You'll hear why undefined relationships can create just as much attachment, obsession, and grief as fully committed ones… and sometimes even more. This conversation explores the emotional impact of ghosting, mixed signals, fantasy futures, and the stories we build in our minds about what "could have been." You'll also learn why telling yourself it "shouldn't hurt this much" keeps you stuck and what actually helps you move forward instead. If you've been replaying a situationship that never fully became a relationship, this episode will help you understand the attachment underneath it and show you a healthier path toward letting go. Join the Get Over Your Ex program, enrollment ends on June 14th: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/

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