How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

Connell Barrett

Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!

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July 21 · 30 min
The Date Seemed Great… So Why Did You End Up in the Friend Zone? (Part 1)
The date seemed to go well—conversation flowed, and there were no awkward silences. Yet she texted you those painful words: “I just didn’t feel a connection.” In Part 1 of this two-part episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and...
July 10 · 56 min
“You’re Not Broken!” 3 Steps to Lasting Dating Confidence (with Attachment Style Expert Thais Gibson)
If fear of rejection keeps you from taking romantic chances—sending that text or approaching an attractive stranger—Thais Gibson has a solution. Gibson has helped more than 70,000 people build thriving relationships, both through her book, “The New...
July 2 · 30 min
11 Pickup Lines That Are Classy, Not Creepy—Say These to Any Woman, Anywhere
You see an incredible woman you want to talk to, but you’re not sure what to say—and the pickup lines you’ve heard sound cheesy or creepy. On this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett gives you 11 natural, non-cringe...
June 26 · 29 min
“The Best First Date of My Life” — How Tony Learned to Flirt and Won Jennifer Over
If you’ve ever wondered, “What do I say? How do I flirt?” Tony’s story will resonate. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett talks with Tony, a divorced dad and software engineer who had some flirting breakthroughs...
June 23 · 43 min
5 Flirting Moments that Broke My Brain (and Rewired What I Thought Was Possible)
When you get good at flirting, you’ll be shocked by what you can achieve. Dating coach Connell Barrett sure was. Once a dateless introvert stuck in the friend zone, he never imagined his love life would include instant make-outs, fun flings, and...
June 18 · 25 min
7 Days, 7 Online Dating Openers: What to Write on the Apps Every Day of the Week
Imagine never struggling to come up with a good online dating opener. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares seven proven, playful dating-app openers that you can use every day of the week! You’re about to...
June 18 · 21 min
It’s the Least Sexy Skill in Dating—and It Might Land You Your Dream Girl
There’s one dating skill that will help you smash through almost any dating challenge, from rejection to ghosting to approach anxiety. The skill? Resilience. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett reveals why...
June 11 · 28 min
My Flirting Hall of Shame: 7 Times I Screwed Up Royally with Women (Learn from My F-ups!)
You can’t get great at flirting without making mistakes, as dating coach Connell Barrett learned the hard way. In this candid and hilarious episode, Connell shares 7 huge flirting mistakes he made—including the time a woman poured a pitcher of...
June 9 · 24 min
Ghosted? Not for Long! Here are 22 Funny Text Messages to Get Her Writing You Back
You texted, but she didn’t reply. So you assume you’re ghosted. Not so fast! Dating coach Connell Barrett says that one unanswered text isn’t ghosting. It’s just dating in 2026. On this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” Connell breaks down why...
June 5 · 27 min
Struggling to Get Second Dates? Take Drastic Action: “Blow Up” Your Next First Date!
Most guys struggle on first dates by playing it too safe. Same dull questions, same dull answers, same text she sends the next day: “I didn’t feel a connection.” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares a...
June 2 · 21 min
In 2026, Women Want You to Approach Them More Than Ever (Seriously!) Here’s Why
You want to meet women in the real world, but you you worry that it’s weird or socially creepy. In this episode of the “How to Get a Girlfriend” podcast, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett explains why now is the best time ever to...
May 28 · 34 min
Stop Running Out of Things to Say: 8 Topics that Ignite Flirty Conversations with Women
Nothing kills a date faster than running out of things to say—and the awkward silence that follows. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and author Connell Barrett breaks down 8 great first-date topics that lead to free-flowing,...
May 26 · 23 min
“Should I Start an OnlyFans?” 31 Funny, Flirty Things to Say to Women When You Approach
You see a woman in the real world you want to meet—but you freeze, get stuck in your head, and have no clue what to say. On this episode of the “How to Get a Girlfriend” podcast, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares 31 flirty,...
May 21 · 29 min
5 Pickup Lines for Guys Who Hate Pickup Lines: Stop Overthinking, Approach Her, and Just Say This
Do you want to meet women without sounding like some weird pickup artist? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares five pickup lines for men who hate pickup lines. You’ll hear how his...
May 19 · 1 hr 26 min
“Women Want Hot Guys” Is Bullsh*t: How Shekar Went from Self-Doubt to Approaching Confidence (Live Coaching)
If you feel you’re just not handsome enough to get a great girlfriend, this episode will change how you think. Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett sits down with his client Shekar, who used to feel like he wasn’t handsome enough to...
May 15 · 53 min
How Robbie Went from Panic Attacks to Fearless Approaching—and Got 7 Numbers in 1 Night (Live Coaching)
Robbie was once so anxious around women he couldn’t even say hi to his crush, the cute cashier. And the idea of approaching women felt impossible. Then came one unforgettable Friday night. With dating coach and author Connell Barrett as his wingman,...
May 13 · 21 min
37 Flirty Things to Say on First Dates to Escape the Friend Zone and Get Second Dates
Not knowing what to say or how to flirt on first dates can get any guy trapped in the dreaded friend zone. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares 37 flirty things to say that spark...
May 7 · 52 min
How to Flirt So Good She Can’t Stop Thinking About You (Live Coaching with Evan)
You see a woman you’d love to meet… and you freeze, overthinking the “perfect” line. And you’re left kicking yourself. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and best-selling author Connell Barrett helps his client Evan flirt so...
May 5 · 1 hr 5 min
How to Date in Your Social Circle—without Being “That Creepy Guy” (Live Coaching with A.J.)
You want to date women in your social circle, but you don’t want to be “that creepy guy.” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett helps his client A.J. navigate meeting women in social groups....
April 30 · 32 min
JUST. SAY. THIS. Your Cheat Sheet to Stop Freezing and Start Flirting in 7 Scary Dating Moments
If you struggle with what to say to women, this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend” is your flirting cheat sheet. Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett gives you exact lines to use in 7 tricky dating situations. Plus, he shares his...