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How To Be Real

Join besties, Tasha B and Taylor for the ultimate lifestyle podcast. Every other Friday they host candid chats about life experiences, wellness tips, therapy insights, pop culture, and of course how to be REAL in a world obsessed with the fake. Follow along as Tasha, the actor, model, director, and writer, and Taylor, the social media guru and overall creative, serve up divine realness. And remember: they’re not therapists…they just have them! Get Connected: IG + TikTok - @HowToBReal IG - @TheTashaB IG - @Justsay_Tay Send us an email: heyhowtobereal@gmail.com

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Saturday · 2 hr 7 min
Hot Takes
Kicking off a new month sharing a few of our recent small wins, then getting real with some hot takes and unpopular opinions like: the ways the Supreme Court and the Department of Ed keep failing the people they're supposed to protect, and thoughts on Raven-Symoné questioning Raven Baxter's Blackness. If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on our YouTube channel AAAND… 💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com 😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface 🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify 📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
#74
August 22 · 2 hr 18 min
The Limit Does Not Exist
Our limiting beliefs have been coming to the surface, and this week we're straight up addressing them. Plus things that desperately need a comeback and our takes on the House of Dragons finale and Spider-Man: Brand New Day. If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on our YouTube channel AAAND… 💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
#73
August 8 · 1 hr 2 min
Contradictions + check ins
Sometimes we contradict ourselves & don’t even know why…but tbh we’ve made peace with it. This week we got vulnerable & shared some current life updates PLUS three things currently getting on our nerves (for some razzle dazzle). If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on our YouTube channel AAAND… 💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com 😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface 🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify 📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
July 25 · 1 hr 48 min
Where tf are my friends??
Why is making friends as an adult so hard sometimes?! Sheesh. Also this week: advice for our younger selves, plus our reviews of The Odyssey, Love Island, and Million Dollar Nannies. If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on our YouTube channel AAAND… 💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
#71
July 11 · 1 hr 17 min
The Other Side Of Trusting Yourself
This week we got into self-trust, what it feels like when you finally start building it, and why the leap can feel scary. Plus parts of ourselves we’ve rediscovered this past year, some things that are getting on our nerves, and the story of Nolan Wells. If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on our YouTube channel AAAND… 💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
#70
June 26 · 1 hr 54 min
Re-Claiming Professional Power
Who defines what “professional” is anyway?! How we show up in spaces that weren’t built with us in mind, how we own our authority instead of asking for it, and what it takes to stand our ground when a fellow “professional” needs to be checked. Plus: what we’re loving about our lives right now, things in the world that aren’t complete trash, and a shoutout to the Obamas & Mamdanistan! 🖤 If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on our YouTube channel AAAND… 💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com 😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface 🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify 📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
#69
June 13 · 1 hr 35 min
Real Intimacy, Fake Closeness, and Why We Don't Like That
Real intimacy has gotten confused with being seen. With shows like Love Island, Love Is Blind & others (that we watch + enjoy 😅) shaping how we think about closeness, real intimacy is getting lost in the plot. This week, we get into intimacy in the age of overexposure, talk about what our real-life superpowers are, send some love to NY for the Knicks playoff energy, and a new round of our fave segment "I Don't Like That." If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on our YouTube channel AAAND… 💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com 😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface 🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify 📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
#68
May 30 · 1 hr 22 min
Why Do I Hate Transitions
Why does it always feel so hard to be in that transitional period from one life experience to the next?! It could be something as simple as a change in your daily routine, or that time spent waiting for your next big opportunity to come knocking. Either way, it can drive a girl crazy! If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on our YouTube channel AAAND… 💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com 😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface 🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify 📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
#67
May 16 · 1 hr 50 min
Fear Of Being Seen
Guess what: You can want to be great and still be terrified of being seen at the same time! Also on the docket this week: the Roast of Kevin Hart, our thoughts on the Michael Jackson biopic, and why what’s happening to voting rights in the South right now deserves more of our attention. If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on our YouTube channel AAAND… 💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
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May 2 · 2 hr 19 min
Control Freak Rehab
In this episode we get into how we balance our need for control with the courage to surrender and of course we share what's been irritating us in our favorite segment" I don't like that" This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
#65
April 18 · 1 hr 58 min
Look at her go!
We took a beat this episode to actually look at ourselves: the women we are now vs. who we used to be, what we had to unlearn about womanhood, and what it’s meant to build a space where we can talk about all of it honestly. Plus, our thoughts on why TV/movies have become so grotesque, churches doing the right thing with their money, the Artemis 2 crew, and so much more! 🖤 If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on our YouTube channel AAAND… 💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com 😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface 🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify 📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
#64
April 4 · 1 hr 53 min
Fighting the Flow
This week, let’s explore what it really looks, sounds, and feels like when you’re fighting the flow instead of riding it…and when “going with the flow” starts looking a lot like just checking out. PLUS: our fave no-skips albums, bikers who need they ass whooped, the OD protein push, and much more! If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on our YouTube channel AAAND… 💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com 😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface 🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify 📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
#63
March 20 · 1 hr 2 min
Code Switch Debt
There’s a debt that builds quietly every time you let people meet a masked version of you instead of the real one. This episode, we’re discussing what code switching has actually cost us personally and where you even begin when the performance has become automatic. PLUS Oscars reactions, old school movies that still go hard, LaRussell’s ‘heaven sent’ song, Jack Harlow’s pandering era, and more! If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on our YouTube channel AAAND… 💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
#62
March 7 · 1 hr 55 min
Low down dirty SHAME
This week, we talked about the shame monster: where it comes from, how it gets its grip on you, and what it’s actually taken to start loosening that grip. We share moments when we felt like failures and the slow, sometimes uncomfortable work of learning that our worth is never tied to what we can produce. Plus: Who we’d want to represent humanity in an alien invasion, Jonathan Majors’ “anti-woke Sinners” comeback film, the NAACP Awards, and Jim Carrey at the Césars (y’all think he’s a clone?) If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on our YouTube channel AAAND… 💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com 😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface 🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify 📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
#61
February 21 · 2 hr 12 min
You Wanna Be on Top…Or You Wanna Be Well
You wanna be on top? Cool. But at what cost? We’re revisiting America’s Next Top Model, reality TV culture, and the blueprint we were handed about success (then redefining it on our own terms). Plus, a nod to the Black pioneers we celebrate all year long. If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on episodes on our YouTube channel AAAND… 💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
February 8 · 1 hr 57 min
A regulated nervous system in 2026...lol
We love when our nervous systems feel regulated, but let’s be real… moments like that can be few and far between. But what does it feel like to be regulated vs disregulated? How do we get to those points? Let’s dig deep and find out! If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on episodes on our YouTube channel AAAND… 💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com 😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface 🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify 📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
January 24 · 1 hr 23 min
Anger isn't the villain
Anger has been labeled the villain for way too long. We’re told to calm down, be softer, be more evolved, when really, righteous anger is often the first thing telling us the truth. This episode explores how we can heal our relationship with anger and use it as a source of clarity and information. If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on episodes on our YouTube channel AAAND… 💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com 😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface 🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify 📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
January 10 · 1 hr 19 min
Maybe It's Time to Pivot
We’re diving into the mindset behind pivoting, what alignment actually feels like, and how to change course without shame. Plus, our favorite segment, ‘I don’t like that,’ returns as we vent about the things we are simply not into right now. If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on episodes on our YouTube channel AAAND… 💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
Dec 27, 2025 · 1 hr 36 min
The Art of Letting Sh*t Go
It’s time to pack light, as Ms. Badu said. Like most things, it’s easier said than done, but we can’t go into 2026 still holding onto things that are weighing us down. If you’re more of a visual girlie, catch up on episodes via our YouTube channel! AAAND… 💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
Dec 13, 2025 · 2 hr 8 min
I'm a hater...but I'm onto something
Some of these takes might sound wild at first. Give it a second. If you can step out of your own head, they start lining up real quick. From calling out therapist cosplay to side-eyeing streamers. In this episode, we discuss a few hills we’re absolutely standing on…and we said what we said. If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on episodes on our YouTube channel AAAND… 💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, heyhowtobereal@gmail.com😉 🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify 📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com

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