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HomeEc

Nick Ashburn

Welcome to HomeEc, the podcast where we explore the intersection of money, relationships, and emotional health - because managing a household isn’t just about dollars and cents, it’s about wellness and building a life that feels good from the inside out.


Hosted by Nick Ashburn and Moraya Seeger DeGeare, HomeEc dives deep into the psychology of financial decisions and the emotional side of managing your home. Join Nick & Moraya each week as they tackle topics that we often shy away from and explore how our values and biases shape both large and small economic decisions at home. You'll hear relatable stories, expert insights, and get practical tools to help you thrive—not just survive—as you navigate life’s everyday complexities.


This isn’t your parents’ high school Home Ec class. We’re talking about well-being through smarter decisions, better communication, and a deeper understanding of ourselves and our loved ones.


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  • S3 · E1
    September 17 · 1 hr 12 min

    Working With Your Brain: Money, ADHD & Dopamine, with Jessica Bayers

    Jessica Bayers is the founder of Bougie on a Budget, a neuroscience-informed personal finance educator helping people build financial stability without shame, discipline lectures, or another app that doesn't stick. Did you know dopamine doesn't just drive cravings? It also shapes your working memory, motivation, attention, and the habits you build around money. Jessica joins Nick and Moraya to kick off Season 3 with the neuroscience of ADHD, avoidance, and financial shame, and why a set of pans in a Target aisle can carry someone's whole identity. Jessica's #1 tip: start at done. Before you touch your to-do list, ask what one thing, if nothing else got done today, would actually count. Everything else can wait. In this episode: the ADHD dopamine gap, why budgeting alone never sticks, and the nervous system science behind financial avoidance. 🎧 Go deeper: Jessica Bayers, Bougie on a Budget → TikTok @imbougieonabudget · IG @im_bougieonabudget · hello@imbougieonabudget.com Her workshop, Breaking Out of Survival Mode → https://claude.ai/public/artifacts/e280f53e-deaf-41f5-8a82-97047b9deb05 Free for advisors + therapists, The Practitioner in the Room, Sept 24 → https://luma.com/r6obl4ve?tk=KscDLD HomeEc → IG @homeecpod Calibrate → IG @calibrate_app · linkedin.com/company/calibrateeq Got a topic for Season 3? moraya@calibrateeq.com This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not financial, legal, or clinical advice and does not replace working with a qualified financial professional or licensed therapist who understands your individual situation. Listening does not create a therapeutic or advisory relationship. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • S2 · E8
    July 14 · 1 hr

    Money Together ft. authors Heather & Douglas Boneparth

    Heather and Doug Boneparth run Bone Fide Wealth together, write a weekly substack The Joint Account, authored the book Money Together and are married with two daughters. Doug is a Certified Financial Planner and active funny meme creator and Heather is a lawyer, writer on love, money and family. In this episode, Moraya and Nick get into the real story behind Money Together: growing up with different money worlds, and they formed two different relationships to money, attachment, and belonging. Q: Can two partners handle money completely differently and still be a strong team? Yes. Heather and Doug describe reaching the same outcome through different math, "7 + 3 = 10, and 5 + 5 = 10." Their Calibrate Couples Mirror showed they share some of the same core challenges but lean on different strengths to work through them, they make a whole pie. As they beautifully write in their book, you expand and make room for your partner. Q: What's one financial gesture that can carry more meaning than its dollar value? Doug co-signed the refinance of Heather's $200k student loans after they were married. For Heather, it wasn't really about the loan, it meant "your burdens are my burdens." Their secure attachment helped heal deep shame. Q: Why should financial advisors treat both partners as equal decision makers? As Heather puts it in the episode and shouts in their book "caregivers are providers too." Advisors who only engage the higher earner miss the full financial picture, and the overlooked partner's wellbeing often suffers for it. And something we preach at Calibrate this creates more risk as families age and life can change fast. Q: Where do adult money patterns actually come from? Shaped in childhood. Both Heather and Doug trace their financial instincts, her drive for independence, his belief that any setback is fixable, back to money messages from their families long before they met. Both now have divorced parents and they share stories in their book. We give it a 10/10 and recommend reading their stories and the many diverse couples stories they share. Before recording, Heather and Doug took the Calibrate assessment. Moraya reflects on their individual results and Couples Mirror in a longer blog post at homeecpodcast.com. Curious how your strengths compare with your partner's? Take the free Calibrate assessment. It takes about 10 minutes because it’s not a buzzfeed quiz – it’s actual behavioral science. Follow: Doug on X & Instagram · Heather on Instagram · Bone Fide Wealth Connect with Moraya & Nick: Instagram @homeecpod & @Calibrate_app · TikTok · Calibrate on LinkedIn Email or send a voice memo with your thoughts and questions to Moraya@calibrateeq.com This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not financial, legal, or clinical advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • S2 · E6
    March 26 · 57 min

    Whole Home Recalibration: Emotional Regulation and Decision Making

    Moraya Seeger DeGeare and Nick Ashburn sit down with Domonique Messing, LCSW, RPT-S™, MBA, to explore what dysregulation actually means and how it shapes family life, money stress, and decision making. They unpack why good advice often does not land when someone is overwhelmed, how stress in one person ripples through an entire household, and what it looks like to build a more regulated home. Domonique shares practical tools for parents, partners, and families, including repair rituals, coping skills, and stress management strategies that actually work in real life. If you are juggling kids, aging parents, work, and a full nervous system, this conversation is for you. Follow Domonique on Instagram @domoniquelcswrpt Take the free Calibrate assessment at the top of homeecpodcast.com. It takes about 10 minutes. Connect with Moraya & Nick on socials: Instagram : @homeecpod & @Calibrate_app TikTok Calibrate on LinkedIn Questions, reflections, write us a letter, send a voice memo…. Email Moraya@personawealth.com Important Notice: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not financial, legal, or clinical advice and does not replace working with a qualified financial professional or licensed therapist who understands your individual situation. Listening does not create a therapeutic or advisory relationship. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • S2 · E5
    February 25 · 56 min

    The Upside Down of Economic Mobility

    Episode Description: Most of us are walking around with loss in our bodies, sometimes acute, sometimes old, sometimes unnamed, yet we're still expected to perform, navigate change, and make decisions like nothing happened. What if the thing blocking someone's progress isn't motivation or discipline, but capacity?. In this episode of Home Ec, hosts Nick Ashburn and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Moraya Seeger DeGeare sit down with Michael O'Bryan, Executive Director of the Wealth and Work Futures Lab. Together, they sit inside a set of ideas that will completely change how you understand economic mobility. Instead of viewing financial success as a story about individual effort, they explore it as a story about conditions. What’s been lost, what’s never been provided, and what people are asked to carry anyway. About Our Guest: Michael O'Bryan is the Executive Director of the Wealth and Work Futures Lab based at Drexel University's Lindy Institute for Urban Innovation. The lab brings together employers, policymakers, and communities to transform how economic mobility is framed and fostered, specifically studying the impacts of grief and loss on workforce development. He is also founder and CEO of Human Nature, a management consulting firm with a mission of putting humanity at the heart of every organization. Connect with Michael & The Lab: Visit Humanature.works or WealthWorkFutures.org to sign up for their newsletter and access upcoming public research. Money Psychology & The Calibrate Assessment: So much of our financial life isn't about financial information. It's about stress physiology, emotional experience, identity, and the relational environment. If you want to find out more about your own personal approach to money, work with others, how you ask for help, and your unique decision-making style, take the FREE 15-minute Money Psychology Assessment. Take the assessment at: calibrateintelligence.com/assessment Connect with the HomeEc community: Instagram : @homeecpod & @Calibrate_app TikTok Linkedin Questions or reflections? Email Moraya@personawealth.com Important Notice This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not financial, legal, or clinical advice, and does not replace working with a qualified financial professional or licensed Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • S2 · E4
    January 21 · 51 min

    Wallet Dysmorphia: Why Money Feels Scarier Than It Is During Life Change

    You don’t need more advice thrown at you. You need someone who can stay with you. When everything is changing, you don’t need another expert telling you what to do. You need someone who can stay with you in the uncertainty and help you make decisions without rushing, shaming, or overwhelming you. In this episode of Home Ec, hosts Nick Ashburn and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Moraya Seeger DeGeare sit down with Josh Dunlop, founder of Even Path, to explore what real financial support looks like during high-stakes life transitions like divorce, retirement, loss, and complex family change. Josh explains why he prefers the word guidance over advice. Advice creates a power dynamic. Guidance is collaborative. It is someone walking with you when you feel activated, isolated, and unsure what comes first. We talk about what clients often look like when they arrive: burned out, overwhelmed, and late to asking for help. Josh shares how avoidance compounds stress, and how creating structure and executive support in high-pressure moments can lower anxiety and restore confidence. We also explore what people are really fighting for in divorce and major transitions: not just money, but balance, safety, dignity, and the need to feel whole again. Josh introduces a concept he is developing called wallet dysmorphia, describing how trauma can distort someone’s perception of their financial reality even when the numbers are stable. Often, the person least able to assess the situation clearly is the one living inside the upheaval. In this episode Guidance vs advice and why the difference matters in transition What being “activated” looks like in divorce and major life change Why structure lowers panic and helps people regain footing How grief and identity loss shape financial positions Wallet dysmorphia and the gap between feelings and facts About Josh and Even Path Josh Dunlop is a financial advisor and the founder of Even Path, a fee-only practice (no commissions, no product sales). He is a CFP, CDFA, and a board member of the Financial Therapy Association. Josh is currently accepting new clients: Individuals navigating divorce Couples preparing for retirement Families holding complex transitions and financial dynamics Links Work with Josh: Even Path Episode reflections and Our FREE Money Psychology Assessment : homeecpodcast.com Follow us on socials: Instagram : @homeecpod & @Calibrate_app TikTok Linkedin Questions or reflections? Email Moraya@personawealth.com Important Notice This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not financial, legal, or clinical advice, and does not replace working with a qualified financial professional or licensed therapist who understands your individual situation. Listening does not create a therapeutic or advisory relationship. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • S2 · E3
    January 6 · 55 min

    Couples and Money: Trust, Play and Staying Connected

    Money rarely causes conflict for couples because of the numbers alone. It creates tension because it touches safety, trust, fairness, curiosity and the question couples rarely say out loud, even when they feel it: “Am I alone in this?” Like sex, honest money talks with our partners ask for self-awareness, emotional risk, and a willingness to be imperfect together. In this episode of HomeEc, Nick Ashburn and Moraya Seeger DeGeare sit down with Couples Therapist Renee Segal to explore why money conversations between partners can feel so charged, how couples therapists navigate money tension in the therapy room, and her own money story. To utilize the podcast with your own insights start with the free 15 minute Calibrate Assessment Key Terms Attachment describes how we learn to seek safety, connection, and reassurance, especially when we’re stressed or uncertain. These patterns are shaped early in life and often show up in adult relationships, including how we respond to money, conflict, and support. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) An evidence based therapy approach that helps partners understand and reshape emotional and nervous system patterns underneath conflict. Used with couples, individuals, and families. Pursuer and Withdrawer dynamics In EFT, pursuers tend to reach for connection under stress, while withdrawers tend to move away to regulate overwhelm. Neither is wrong. Both are protective strategies in an effort to maintain the health of the relationship. About Our Guest Renee Segal is a licensed marriage and family therapist, certified EFT therapist and supervisor, and founder of Evolve Therapy in Minnesota. Evolve therapy is accepting new couples at this time. Learn more at Evolvetherapymn.com and follow her on instagram & Linkedin. Renee brings a rare perspective shaped by lived experience on both sides of money, from her early career in accounting and financial services to clinical work with couples and running her EFT training clinic for therapists. Explore More Episode reflections are available at homeecpodcast.com & we have your customized journal & voice memo prompt for the week posted to help you go deeper into your relationship with money. Learn about your own relationship with money and attachment at calibrateintelligence.com with our free personalized insights. Follow us on socials: Instagram : @homeecpod & @Calibrate_app TikTok Linkedin Slide into our DMs or email questions directly to Moraya@personawealth.com Important Notice This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as financial, legal, or clinical advice, nor is it a substitute for working with a qualified financial professional or licensed therapist who understands your individual situation. Listening to this episode does not create a therapeutic or advisory relationship. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • S2 · E2
    Dec 16, 2025 · 46 min

    Knowing Better Isn’t the Blocker to Doing Better

    Episode Summary What if your financial history isn’t a knowledge problem or a personal failure, but a nervous system story? In this episode of HomeEc, we sit down with aspiring Rich Auntie Rachel to unpack a year of emotional, relational, and financial transformation that led to one unexpected move: she submitted her Calibrate Growth Profile alongside her mortgage paperwork. She got the mortgage. Financial Therapist Nick Ashburn and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Moraya Seeger DeGeare explore what happens when context meets numbers, when behavior is understood instead of judged, and why “knowing what to do” so often breaks down without safety, regulation, and support. This episode challenges the idea that financial success is about discipline alone and asks a bigger question: what would change if lenders and advisors understood the human behind the spreadsheet? What We Cover Why knowing better does not automatically lead to doing better Emotional spending as regulation, not moral failure How strengths become blind spots under stress Over-giving as a bid for connection Showing up as an adult versus a younger, activated self How context changes financial behavior What Rachel’s story reveals about credit, care, and trust Why This Episode Matters Rachel’s story shows what becomes possible when self-awareness, therapy, and behavioral insight enter real financial systems. This is not a story about perfection. It is a story about being seen, supported, and regulated enough to follow through. If you have ever felt behind, misunderstood by your numbers, or stuck in patterns you “know better” than to repeat, this episode is for you. Let’s Calibrate take the FREE 15 minute Assessment Join the HomeEc conversation on Instagram HomeEc TikTok Disclaimer This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute mental health, financial, or legal advice. It is not a substitute for guidance from a licensed mental health professional or a qualified financial advisor familiar with your personal circumstances. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • S2 · E1
    Dec 2, 2025 · 45 min

    Stir the Pot

    From Avoidance to Quiet Financial Power

  • S1 · E10
    Apr 1, 2025 · 44 min

    HomeEc Bonus Episode – From Intangible to Invaluable: Behavioral Science, AI and the Future of Work

    Episode Overview Where are Nick & Moraya? Planning some yummy upcoming episodes. In the meantime, enjoy this bonus episode on human capital, employee well-being, workplace culture, behavioral economics and investment returns - hosted by Nick. Introduction Welcome to a special episode of HomeEc, where we explore money, relationships, and everything in between. While developing our financial wellness platform, we’re sharing this insightful CFA Society of Philadelphia webinar, moderated by host Nick Ashburn. Visit PersonaWealth.com to take our free financial psychology assessment and uncover your money blind spots. In future episodes, we’ll dive into user stories and actionable steps to improve financial well-being. Key Terms ESG (Environmental, Social, Governance): This episode focuses on the "S"—how companies treat employees. Human Capital Factor: An investment metric showing companies with strong employee sentiment outperforming benchmarks by 3-6% annually. Good Job Strategy: A model proving that investing in employees leads to operational and financial success. Intrinsic Motivators: Factors like recognition, purpose, and fairness that drive employee engagement beyond pay. Meet the Experts Nick Ashburn (Host): Founder/CEO of PersonaWealth, former Head of Responsible Investing at PNC Bank, and sustainable investing expert at Wharton. Sarah Kalloch: Executive Director, Good Jobs Institute; MIT Sloan lecturer; expert in job quality and business performance. Bart Houlahan: Senior Partner, Irrational Capital; Co-founder of B Lab and the B Corp movement. Memorable Quotes 💡 "Making the invisible visible is a superpower." – Nick Ashburn 💡 "Service jobs are the bedrock of communities—we must make them good jobs." – Sarah Kalloch 💡 "The human capital factor is based on employee sentiment—how they feel about their employer." – Bart Houlahan Key Takeaways ✔️ Good Jobs Drive Business Success – Companies with strong employee cultures outperform financially. ✔️ Human Capital as an Investment Factor – Employee sentiment is a leading indicator of business success. ✔️ AI & Workplace Transformation – Companies with strong cultures will navigate AI disruption more effectively. Resources & Connect 📚 Learn More: Good Jobs Institute Irrational Capital B Lab & B Corp Certification MIT Living Wage Calculator 📲 Follow Us: Instagram/TikTok @homeecpod 🌐 Websites: PersonaWealth.com | HomeEcPodcast.com 📩 Email: Nick@personawealth.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • S1 · E9
    Feb 20, 2025 · 1 hr 1 min

    Sandwich Generation Series: College Financing Decisions with Finiverse

    Nick and Moraya talk with Dr. David Musto from Wharton about Finiverse, an app designed to help families navigate college financing decisions. Guest Expert 🎤 Dr. David K. Musto - Ronald O. Perelman Professor in Finance and Faculty Director of the Stevens Center for Innovation in Finance at the Wharton School. Expert in consumer credit, predatory lending, and financial distress. 🥘 Key Insights: $1.7 trillion student loan debt affects 43 million Americans (average $38,000 per borrower) Finiverse uses "multiverse" approach to simulate different financial outcomes Parents start "pre-suffering" about college when children are still in elementary school Children pick up on college financing anxieties even when not directly discussed Safe learning environments where students feel represented significantly impact outcomes Finding the right educational environment (teaching styles, diversity, culture) is as important as financing Essential Planning Steps 📋 Research 529 college savings plans in your state for tax advantages Look beyond college "sticker prices" to understand actual costs after financial aid Understand federal vs. private student loans (federal loans offer more protections) Learn about income-driven repayment options for federal student loans Consider multiple educational pathways rather than focusing on one option Discuss what "psychological safety" in education means for your specific child What conversations can families have right now? ❤️ Talk openly about family financial resources and limitations Start age-appropriate conversations about education costs earlier Create psychological safety for children to ask questions about college Explore with your child: "Where do you feel most comfortable learning?" Discuss environments where your child feels respected, challenged, and engaged Consider how identity, diversity, and belonging impact educational experience Observe what settings bring out your child's natural curiosity and strengths Memorable Quotes 💭 "You're making this borrowing decision and taking this multiverse approach to thinking about your future." - Dr. Musto "The unknown creates so much fear in our brains. Curiosity helps you push past fear." - Moraya "Student loans represent a fundamentally complex cost-benefit analysis because the benefit is uncertain." - Dr. Musto "You're going to be the only advocate for your kid." - Nick Resources Mentioned 📚 Finiverse.org - Interactive college financing simulation app Federal student loan income-driven repayment programs FAFSA (Free Application for Federal Student Aid) 529 College Savings Plans HillmanTok - Digital community where Black educators teach Black history and culture, demonstrating how communities create culturally affirming learning spaces in the present moment 📱 Join Our Kitchen Table Conversations Website: www.homeecpodcast.com Social Media: @homeecpod Email: Nick@personawealth.com + Moraya@personawealth.com Whether you're years away from college decisions or currently navigating them, we welcome you to our ongoing conversation about managing the financial, emotional, and relational aspects of education planning. You are not alone in your presuffering anxieties; we share them, even though two of our combined three children have not yet started kindergarten. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • S1 · E8
    Feb 7, 2025 · 56 min

    Beyond the Bet: Understanding Sports Betting & Gambling Addiction

    As Americans prepare to legally wager an estimated $1.4 billion on the Super Bowl, we address sports betting, gambling addiction, and mental health with Dr. Lia Nower, Director of the Center for Gambling Studies at Rutgers University. Key Terms Pathways Mode for Problem and Pathological Gambling: A framework identifying three main pathways to gambling disorder: behaviorally conditioned (no pre-existing conditions), emotionally vulnerable (pre-existing mental health conditions), and antisocial impulsivists developed by Blaszczynski and Nower and published in 2002 Interval Ratio Reinforcement: Pattern where uncertain payoff timing increases anticipated reward Mixed Venue Gambling: Combined online and land-based gambling, linked to higher disorder rates Chapters 00:00 Sports Betting Intro 06:30 Gambling Addiction Expert Background 18:45 Online Gambling Tech Impact 25:30 Family Financial Impact 32:00 Addiction Prevention 42:00 Gambling Help Resources Gambling Addiction Warning Signs Increased isolation Loss chasing Hidden gambling activities Problem Gambling Prevention Betting limits Cash-only gambling Separate bank accounts 📱 Connect With Us: IG/TikTok: @homeecpod General: info@personawealth.com Nick: nick@personawealth.com Moraya: Moraya@personawealth.com Personawealth.com homeecpodcast.com Center for Gambling Studies at Rutgers BFFTherapy.com 🆘 Emergency Resources National Problem Gambling Helpline: 1-800-522-4700 National Council on Problem Gambling: ncpgambling.org Rutgers Center for Gambling Studies: gambling.rutgers.edu Recovery and prevention work best when shared with others and adjusted to individual needs. For more insights on navigating financial wellness and relationships, visit HomeEcPodcast.com #GamblingAddiction #FinancialWellness #MentalHealth #SuperBowl Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • S1 · E7
    Feb 4, 2025 · 1 hr

    Sandwich Generation Series: A Holistic Guide to Senior Care Conversations

    Episode Description 📝 Nick and Moraya continue their series on the sandwich generation with an insightful conversation featuring Mindy Mozenter from Senior Living Specialists Philadelphia. While the episode provides concrete steps for senior care planning, it goes beyond typical checklists to explore the deeper emotional terrain of aging and family dynamics. Through candid discussion, they surface often-unspoken challenges: gender roles in caregiving, power dynamics, shame, and the beliefs about not deserving a good life as we age. The conversation offers both practical strategies and emotional wisdom for navigating these difficult but essential family discussions. Guest Expert 🎤 Mindy Mozenter - Senior Living Specialists (Philadelphia) 16 years of experience working with seniors Serves on nonprofit boards that align with her purpose, focused on senior care and arts in dementia 🥘 Key Insights: Essential Planning Steps 📋 Establish Power of Attorney (medical and financial) Create emergency contacts and "What If" scenarios Document passwords and financial information Assess home safety and mobility needs Quality of Life & Purpose ❤️ Maintain engagement through community involvement and purpose. Consider physical and emotional therapy for both health and social connection A Beautiful Connection: During our conversation about maintaining purpose while aging, we discovered Mindy's connection to Clearwater, the environmental non-profit Moraya's grandparents (Pete and Toshi Seeger) started in the 1960s - a reminder that meaningful connections can emerge even in difficult conversations about aging, the universe will give us a sign, wink, or even a laugh if we are willing to listen. As Mindy shares what a force of nature Toshi was. Memorable Quotes 💭 From Mindy: "Be their kid again, not their caregiver. You want to go there and have a conversation, say 'Dad, tell me about where your parents came from in Ireland' [...] Not like, 'Did you bathe today?'" "How small has your world gotten?" From Nick: "Beyond checklist goals, we need to understand their 'why' - their higher purpose and identity. It goes to 'I love you, I'm a loving parent, I'm a loving child.' When we start from these internal values, that's where the real conversations begin." From Moraya: "We need purpose not just in these big career related moments, we need that to age well - engagement, education, and purpose." Resources Mentioned 📚 Area Agency on Aging (AAA) - Available in every county Penn's Village (Philadelphia area) ARTZ Philadelphia (Arts and dementia program) Mindy Mozenter: mindy@seniorlivingphilly.com 📱 Join Our Kitchen Table Conversations Website: www.homeecpodcast.com Social Media: @homeecpod Email: Nick@personawealth.com + Moraya@personawealth.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • S1 · E6
    Jan 24, 2025 · 51 min

    Sandwich Generation Series: Lowering the Barrier to Connections and Caretaking

    Sandwich Generation Series Lowering the Barrier to Connections and Caretaking ⚠️ Content Warning: This episode discusses grief, loss, and mentions suicide. If you're struggling, text, call, chat 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (24/7). In this episode, Nick and Moraya explore loneliness in the sandwich generation and ways to build deeper connections while caregiving. They respond to a listener's letter about friendship and sibling dynamics, discuss how to lower barriers to connection, and share personal stories about grief and family values. 🥘 Main Course Topics: Responding to a listener navigating caretaker loneliness Building deeper intimacy in friendships Personal stories of grief, including Moraya's memories with her grandparents Toshi & Pete Seeger and Newport Folk Festival - particularly timely as a drop of their legacy is highlighted in Edward Norton's Oscar-nominated performance in "A Complete Unknown" about Bob Dylan's early years played by Timothée Chalamet. Discussion of "The Rabbit Listened" by Cori Doerrfeld 🫕 Memorable Quotes: "Why do we wait until after someone's gone to ask the questions that matter? What if we found the courage to ask them now?" - Moraya "How can we process everything we're carrying if we're carrying it alone?" - Nick "Your friend reaching out with 'How are you?' - that's an invitation to connect." - Moraya 📑HomeEc Key Terms: Sandwich Generation: Caring for both aging parents and children under 18 Openface Sandwich Generation: Adult children caregiving their parents without kids Club Sandwich Generation: Multiple generations of caregiving at once, including in the same generation Emotional Pursuer (EFT): A partner who responds to relationship stress by moving toward the other to meet attachment needs Emotional Withdrawer (EFT): A partner who responds to relationship stress by moving away to protect attachment needs. Genogram: A visual tool that expands on a family tree to map relationships, patterns, and dynamics across generations, revealing inherited behaviors and attitudes about topics like money and gender roles. 📖Chapter Guide 00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage 04:07 The Sandwich Generation: Definitions and Experiences 08:10 Understanding Genograms and Family Systems 17:08 Listener Letter: Seeking Support and Connection 30:53 Navigating Elder Care Decisions 42:56 Breaking Barriers in Difficult Conversations 48:29 Emotional Support and Connection loop 📱 Join Our Kitchen Table Conversations Instagram/TikTok: @homeecpod Moraya@personawealth.com Nick@personawealth.com Want more wellness recipes? Sign up for our monthly newsletter on the HomeEcPodcast.com website. ⚠️ Disclaimer: The advice in this show are a guide and sharing personal stories are for entertainment. Please speak directly with a professional for personalized guidance. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • S1 · E2
    Dec 17, 2024 · 39 min

    Family Systems & Holiday Dynamics: Serving Up Better Conversations

    Prep Time: 40 minutes Serves: Those navigating complex family dynamics and seeking healthier ways to communicate during holiday gatherings 🥄 Key Ingredients Attachment theory & family systems Holiday triggers & emotional responses Communication strategies Financial conversations in relationships 🫕 Memorable Quotes "The family system wants to go to homeostasis." - Nick "Do you want to be right, or do you want to be in relationship?" - Moraya "The little things are how we are modeling wellness for our family too." - Moraya 🥘 Main Course Topics Understanding attachment in family dynamics Managing emotional triggers during gatherings Navigating financial conversations with partners Building psychological safety in family settings 🍳 Recipe for Better Family Gatherings Practice curiosity instead of judgment Identify your support system before gatherings Take "adult timeouts" when needed Remember change is gradual - "it's building a muscle" Taste It: experiential: Try an adult time out this week before you burn out Prep before an event to reduce the resistance to reaching out if you feel activated Journal prompt - when do you often say to yourself when you want to leave a conversation or gathering? 📱 Join Our Kitchen Table Conversations Instagram/TikTok: @homeecpod Email: info@HomeEcPodcast.com, Moraya@homeecpodcast.com Nick@homeecpodcast.com Website: Personawealth.com + HomeEcPodcast.com Want the full financial wellness recipe? Check out our newsletter for an expanded version with more data, insights, and action steps! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • S1 · E1
    Dec 17, 2024 · 40 min

    Walk of Shame - Spending Regret, Shame, and The Holidays

    Prep Time: 45 minutes Serves: Anyone seeking relief from holiday spending pressure and craving more intentional ways to celebrate without breaking their budget or spirit. Your Hosts Nick Ashburn is the CEO and founder of Calibrate where he's redefining our relationship with money to support overall well-being, bringing experience from leading responsible investing at PNC Bank and directing impact investing at Wharton. From singer to Fulbright scholar to fintech founder, his unique journey shapes his approach to making financial wellness more accessible and personal. Moraya Seeger DeGeare, MA, LMFT is a Black Biracial therapist and sought-after expert advising in tech and marketing. She is featured in NPR's Life Kit, Forbes, and Vice, bringing over a decade of experience helping couples build strong sustainable intimate relationships. As co-founder of BFF Therapy and couples therapist at Evolve Therapy, she combines her multicultural upbringing and clinical expertise to create honest conversations about wealth, culture and wellbeing. 🥄 Quick Bites (data driven baking) Research shows we lose about 50% of our friendships every 7 years (Science Daily) Black Friday 2024 spending hit $10.8 billion, up 10.2% (CBS News) Average holiday spending forecast: $1,000 per person, up 14% from 2023 48% of parents report guilt driving holiday overspending 🫕 Main Ingredients Discussed Holiday spending pressures & family dynamics Shopping psychology & emotional triggers Gender differences in holiday spending Marketing tactics during holiday season 🎁 Key Quotes "We're not here to tell you how to get rich quick or that you shouldn't have that latte or avocado toast... we're leaning into what makes you – you." - Nick "Marketing, social pressure, emotional spending, family expectations are in a lot of families. You don't even wanna do any of this. It has nothing to do with your shame, but your mom, your aunt, someone's gonna be like, 'I can't believe you didn't do more.'" - Moraya 🥘 Recipe for Better Holiday Spending Set realistic budgets before shopping starts Consider alternative gift approaches (experiences, homemade) Communicate financial boundaries with family Focus on traditions over transactions 📱 Join Our Kitchen Table Conversations Instagram/TikTok: @homeecpod Email: info@HomeEcPodcast.com, Moraya@homeecpodcast.com Nick@homeecpodcast.com Website: Personawealth.com + HomeEcPodcast.com Want the full financial wellness recipe? Check out our newsletter for an expanded version with more data, insights, and action steps! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  • Dec 5, 2024 · 1 min

    The HomeEc Podcast is Coming Soon!

    Nick Ashburn and Moraya Seeger DeGeare dig into all the stuff they didn't teach you in high school about money, relationships, and managing your life. The HomeEc Podcast is coming soon! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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