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Heal Yourself Podcast · May 7 · 30 min

Episode 86: Your Goals Do Not Need A Death Grip

Send us Fan Mail The fastest way to exhaust yourself is to demand that life hits one exact outcome. We get honest about attachment and how it creates suffering, from money and success to homes, health, and the people we love most. We talk through a simple spiritual truth (including a Wayne Dyer reminder that we come in with nothing and leave with nothing) and translate it into real life: what it looks like when you’re “death gripping” a goal, spiraling in obsessive thinking, or tying your worth to external proof. Kira shares how values work revealed a painful misalignment between chasing business success and being present with family, and we unpack why detaching from the outcome can actually bring more peace, better choices, and more sustainable growth. We also connect attachment to healing. If you identify as “the sick person”, you may fear who you’ll be when you’re well. If you’re attached to perfect health, you can get stuck in desperation, overcorrecting with supplements, protocols, and control. We go there with parenting too: loving your kids fiercely while remembering they are their own people, and you are still you beyond soccer practice, college plans, or approval. Support the show Follow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster. Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust. The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. Follow our Instagram page Follow Kira on IG Follow Denise on IG Click here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide Book a complimentary consult with Kira

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The fastest way to exhaust yourself is to demand that life hits one exact outcome. We get honest about attachment and how it creates suffering, from money and success to homes, health, and the people we love most.

We talk through a simple spiritual truth (including a Wayne Dyer reminder that we come in with nothing and leave with nothing) and translate it into real life: what it looks like when you’re “death gripping” a goal, spiraling in obsessive thinking, or tying your worth to external proof. Kira shares how values work revealed a painful misalignment between chasing business success and being present with family, and we unpack why detaching from the outcome can actually bring more peace, better choices, and more sustainable growth.

We also connect attachment to healing. If you identify as “the sick person”, you may fear who you’ll be when you’re well. If you’re attached to perfect health, you can get stuck in desperation, overcorrecting with supplements, protocols, and control. We go there with parenting too: loving your kids fiercely while remembering they are their own people, and you are still you beyond soccer practice, college plans, or approval.

Support the show

Follow us on Instagram, leave a review, and share your experiences – we'd love to hear what resonates with you! And don't forget we have a PREMIUM channel as well on Apple! Bonus episodes to help you heal faster.

Ready to take your healing journey up a notch? Our new audio course will walk you through the real foundations that have to come first before anything else can stick—awareness, emotions, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and trust.

The 1% shift that takes you from zero to one. And from one, everything else becomes possible. Learn more HERE. 

Follow our Instagram page
Follow
Kira on IG
Follow Denise on IG

Click here to download Kira's free self-love hypnosis audio or her free gut guide

Book a complimentary consult with Kira

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