Ghosted, Gagged and Gay!

Lonay

A podcast about queer love gone wrong (and right).

Real stories. Real chaos. All gay.

The podcast where queer folks spill the tea on their past relationships. From messy breakups and ghostings that haunt us, to whirlwind love stories that left us gagged (in the best and worst ways), no tale is too spicy or too awkward.

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S1 · E29
Monday · 19 min
Am I Needy, or Are My Needs Not Being Met? | Gay Dating & Attachment Anxiety
Are you being needy in gay dating, or are your emotional needs genuinely not being met? In this solo episode of Ghosted, Gagged & Gay, we're talking about dating anxiety, attachment patterns, texting expectations, and the fear of asking for what we want. Sometimes a delayed reply triggers old fears of rejection. Other times, we're dealing with real incompatibility or inconsistent behavior. So how do we tell the difference? In this episode, we explore: Why asking for clarity can feel so uncomfortable How anxiety can turn uncertainty into assumptions Why slow texting doesn't automatically mean emotional unavailability The difference between self-regulation and self-abandonment How to communicate your needs without chasing What healthy compatibility actually looks like Whether you're newly dating, recovering from heartbreak, or working on building healthier relationships, this episode is for you. 💚 JOIN MY FREE COMMUNITY Gay Men Done with Toxic Love: https://www.skool.com/gay-men-done-with-toxic-love-7204 🌈 RELATIONSHIP COACHING & RTT https://rainbowjourney.co 📱 INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/radiantheartsjourney/ QUESTION OF THE EPISODE What's something you used to feel guilty asking for when dating? Share your experience in the comments. #GayDating #AttachmentAnxiety #GayRelationships
S1 · E28
October 19 · 15 min
WHY DO I KEEP CHASING HIM?!!!!
Why do we keep chasing emotionally unavailable men, even when the relationship leaves us anxious, confused, and questioning our worth? In this solo episode of Ghosted, Gagged & Gay, we explore why we sometimes become so attached to men who can't give us the love and consistency we're looking for. Is it genuine chemistry? Are we falling in love with potential? Or are we desperately waiting for the moment someone finally chooses us? In this episode, we explore: Why being chosen can feel so important to our self-worth The difference between someone's potential and their actual behavior Why inconsistent attention can feel like intense chemistry How we sometimes abandon our own emotional needs How to recognize healthier relationship patterns and start choosing ourselves Whether you're recovering from heartbreak, dealing with mixed signals, or trying to break a repeating dating pattern, this conversation is for you. 🌈 JOIN MY FREE COMMUNITY Gay Men Done with Toxic Love is a supportive space for gay men who want healthier relationships, deeper connections, and greater self-worth. https://www.skool.com/gay-men-done-with-toxic-love-7204 💚 COACHING & SUPPORT Explore my relationship coaching and Rapid Transformational Therapy services: https://rainbowjourney.co 📱 INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/radiantheartsjourney/ 🎙️ PODCAST Ghosted, Gagged & Gay — honest conversations about gay dating, heartbreak, self-love, and building the relationships we deserve. Let's talk: Have you ever stayed attached to someone's potential rather than the relationship they were actually offering? Share your experience in the comments. #GayDating #GayRelationships #EmotionallyUnavailable
S1 · E27
September 1 · 34 min
Why Can’t I Stay Hard? The Hidden Psychology of Sexual Performance Anxiety with Shay Doran
What if your erection problem isn’t actually about your penis? In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged & Gay!, I’m joined by men’s coach Shay Doran, who specializes in helping men overcome sexual performance anxiety, erection problems, and the fear of losing their erection during sex. We’re going beyond the usual conversation about erectile dysfunction to explore what can actually happen when sex starts feeling like a performance test. Why can worrying about staying hard make it harder to stay hard? How does one difficult sexual experience turn into a cycle of anxiety and avoidance? And why can a man be completely attracted to his partner and still struggle with his erection? We also dive into the gay male experience of sexual performance anxiety, including the pressures around masculinity, body image, penis size, sexual roles, being a top or bottom, and the expectation to always be confident and sexually “ready.” We talk about: 🍆 Sexual performance anxiety and erection problems 🧠 The psychology behind losing an erection during sex 🏳️‍🌈 Performance anxiety among gay men ❤️ Attraction vs. sexual performance 📱 Porn, unrealistic expectations and real-life sex 🔥 Masculinity, body image and sexual confidence 🔄 The “what if it happens again?” anxiety cycle 💬 Shame and vulnerability around sexual difficulties 🧠 The deeper emotional patterns behind sexual anxiety 💡 Where to start if you're struggling with performance anxiety If you've ever thought “Why can't I stay hard?”, worried that something is wrong with you, or avoided sex because you're afraid of losing your erection, this conversation is for you. 🎙️ Guest: Shay Doran: Men's Coach specializing in sexual performance anxiety and erection problems 🔗 Find Shay and learn more about his work: https://shay-doran.com/ and don't forget to do the free quiz: https://shay-doran.com/free-quiz/ 📺 You can also find Shay on YouTube for more conversations about sexual confidence, erection problems and performance anxiety: https://www.youtube.com/@shay-doran 📍Connect with Me ⁠https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
S1 · E26
August 6 · 26 min
He Sabotaged Real Love to Chase a Ghost (Gay Dating Story)
What if the emotionally unavailable men were never the real problem, what if you were terrified of the one person who actually showed up? In this week's listener story, we follow a gay man stuck in a brutal cycle: chasing men who pull away, sabotaging a genuine healthy connection, and watching it all unravel in real time. What looks like bad luck in gay dating is actually fearful attachment at work, a deep, subconscious terror of being truly loved. I walk through the psychological patterns behind this story: why gay men chase emotionally unavailable men, how self-sabotage in relationships protects you from something scarier than rejection, and what fearful attachment really feels like from the inside. This one hits close to home for a lot of people, if you've ever pushed away someone good while running toward someone unavailable, this episode is for you. If you want to break these toxic relationship patterns for good, reach out to me: https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
S1 · E25
July 21 · 47 min
Sex Is Easier Than Intimacy?! Trauma, Shame & the Sex Scripts with Radiance Sanneman & Vanessa Cushing
Why does sex sometimes feel easier than intimacy? In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, Lonay Halloum is joined by Radiance Sanneman (trauma specialist + IFS therapist) and Vanessa Cushing (AASECT-certified sex therapist) to unpack how trauma and shame shape our dating patterns, our nervous systems, and the way we use sex to manage anxiety or earn closeness. We talk about the difference between real chemistry and a trauma response, the signs you might be using sex as regulation, and how common “sex scripts” (masculinity performance, top/bottom expectations, porn pressure, and the “no feelings” rule) can quietly block emotional safety and real connection. We also share a “sexy-not-clinical” way to ask for what you want early without turning the date into a job interview and we get honest about self-consent: the subtle ways we override ourselves to keep someone interested. Bonus: After the outro, stay for a short IFS demonstration between Radiance and Vanessa so you can hear what “parts work” sounds like in real time.📍Guests: Vanessa Cushing & Radiance Sannemann Website: cushingcounseling.com Instagram: @cushingcounseling LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/vanessa-cushing-477051156 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/p/Cushing-Counseling-61578982936946/ 📍Connect with Me ⁠https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney⁠
S1 · E24
July 14 · 21 min
“I Thought He Was ‘Chill’”: A Grindr Date Story About Mixed Signals, Secrecy & Self-Abandonment
A listener sent me a Grindr date story that starts off promising (good morning texts, voice notes, “no games”) and ends exactly the way your nervous system is already predicting. In this short solo episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, we unpack the moment “chill vibes” turns into emotional avoidance, the difference between privacy vs secrecy, and why “you’re intense” is often what people say when you stop accepting confusion. In this episode: The “chill” profile that’s actually a warning label How your body clocks misalignment before your brain does Privacy vs secrecy (and why it matters for emotional safety) A simple boundary line you can borrow: “I’m not available for confusion.” If you've got a dating story you want me to read on the show funny, messy, painful, or all three send it to my email address: lonay@rainbowjourney.co Your support would be very helpful to keep this show available for our lovely community. Follow, like, share, comment..etc Thank you ^^ 📍Connect with Me https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
S1 · E23
July 6 · 28 min
Privacy vs Secrecy in Gay Dating: Shame, Closeting & Emotional Safety with Samuel Garza Bernstein
What’s the real difference between privacy and secrecy in gay dating and why does it matter so much for emotional safety? In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, Lonay is joined by Samuel Garza Bernstein (screenwriter, author, and playwright) for a conversation about how shame shapes the way gay men date, love, and protect themselves. We talk about what “authenticity” can look like when being publicly out isn’t safe, the real-life risks that shaped earlier generations, and how those survival strategies can still echo in modern dating dynamics today. We also get into Samuel’s new book, the first biography of Hollywood icon Roddy McDowall and what Roddy’s life reveals about visibility, chosen family, and living truthfully in a world that punished it. In this episode, we cover: Authenticity vs visibility: what it means to live “authentically” without being publicly out The difference between privacy and secrecy in gay dating (and why it impacts trust) How shame shows up in dating patterns and emotional availability Roddy McDowall’s story and what queer history can teach us about love today 📍Guest: Samuel Garza Bernstein Website: samuelgarzabernstein.com Instagram: @samgbernstein Other social media: @starringsamuelgarzabernstein 📍Connect with me: https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
S1 · E22
June 30 · 30 min
Beautiful Masks in Gay Dating: Shame, Secrecy & Emotional Availability with Frank Spinelli
In gay dating, the biggest red flags aren’t always loud. Sometimes they’re polished. Charming. Reasonable. Sometimes they’re beautiful masks. In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, Lonay sits down with Frank Spinelli—physician and author of Precious Friends: Murder in Sag Harbor—for a conversation about shame, secrecy, emotional availability, and the relationship patterns that keep so many gay men stuck. We talk about: How shame shows up in gay men’s dating lives (even when you’re “out” and successful) Signs someone is performing instead of truly connecting A practical “first step” to stop letting shame run your choices in love Frank’s new psychological thriller Precious Friends: Murder in Sag Harbor and the theme of masks, betrayal, and hidden darkness A quick game: Two Truths & a Mask to practice spotting grey-area dating dynamics 📍Guest: Frank Spinelli Website: https://frankspinelli.com Instagram: @spinellimd 📍Connect with me All Links: https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
S1 · E21
June 23 · 25 min
Quiet Red Flags in Gay Dating: Chemistry vs. Compatibility with Lamont White
What if the biggest red flags in gay dating aren’t the obvious ones, but the quiet ones you rationalize because the chemistry is strong? In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, Lonay sits down with Lamont Scales White (the Gay Dating Coach), a certified matchmaker, dating coach, and couples counselor who has matched hundreds of gay men since 2014, to break down what predicts long-term relationship success early. We cover: The quiet red flags that signal future instability (even when someone seems charming) Chemistry vs. compatibility and how to tell when attraction is masking misalignment A simple way to screen for emotional maturity in the first few dates How to talk about relationship expectations (labels, monogamy/open, needs) without sounding “needy” A rapid-fire scenario game: Proceed / Pause / Pass, so you can stop overthinking and start choosing clearly If you’re tired of mixed signals, situationships, and repeating the same dating cycle, this episode will help you date with more clarity, boundaries, and self-respect. 📍Guest: Lamont White Website: https://betterwaytomeet.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thegaydatingcoach LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lamontscaleswhite/ 📍Connect with me All Links: https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
S1 · E20
June 16 · 38 min
Being Seen: Queer Love, Digital Intimacy & Liberation with Kestral Gaian
What happens when queer connection starts online, but your nervous system still thinks being fully seen is unsafe? In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, Lonay sits down with Kestral Gaian, best-selling author and award-winning writer exploring identity, connection, and queer liberation across poetry, fiction, theatre, and screen, to talk about the difference between being visible and being known. We explore how modern queer dating can quietly train us to perform, curate, and keep things surface-level and how that shows up as situationships, emotional distance, and the fear of being “too much.” This conversation is equal parts emotional, political, and practical, with grounded takeaways for anyone who wants deeper love without self-abandonment. In this episode, we cover: Why queer people often learn to edit themselves in love How social media, apps, and digital culture shape intimacy and vulnerability The hidden “scripts” we repeat in dating (and how to rewrite them) Shame, “acceptable queerness,” and the fear of being fully seen Small, real-world ways to practice deeper connection this week If you’re tired of performing for love and ready to feel chosen for who you actually are, this episode is for you. Guest: Kestral Gaian Website: https://kestr.al/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/kes.tr.al Connect with me: https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
S1 · E19
June 11 · 34 min
Why Gay Dating Feels So Hard Now with Trevor Kuhn (Love Daddy)
Gay dating can feel harder than ever — endless swiping, mixed signals, “not ready” energy, and chemistry that burns hot but goes nowhere. In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, I sit down with Trevor Kuhn (aka Love Daddy), a love, relationship, and confidence coach and matchmaker for gay and bi men, to break down why modern gay dating feels so exhausting…and what actually works if you want a real relationship. We talk about: The biggest reasons gay dating feels difficult right now (and the myths keeping men stuck) The inner patterns that sabotage connection: anxious chasing, avoidance, validation-seeking, and fear of being seen What to look for in the first 14 days of dating that predicts relationship potential A simple question you can ask early that creates real intimacy (without oversharing) A rapid-fire “Keep / Cut / Clarify” game with real dating scenarios (ghosting, inconsistency, avoidance, and more) One practical action step you can take this week to date with more clarity, self-respect, and emotional safety If you’re tired of situationships and want something grounded, consistent, and real, this episode is your reset. 📍Connect with Trevor: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovedaddytrev/ Website: https://www.lovedaddy.co/ 📍Connect with me: https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
S1 · E18
June 3 · 35 min
From Survival to Self-Love: Healing, Boundaries & Identity with Stef Vachon
What does it actually look like to move from survival mode to self-love as a queer man, especially after years of homophobia, bullying, and pressure to “be a certain kind of man”? In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, I sit down with Stef Vachon, proud queer man, husband, father, keynote speaker, former international professional figure skater, and host of the Together Moving Forward podcast, for a grounded conversation about healing, identity, and the relationship patterns many queer men normalize without realizing the cost. We talk about: What “survival mode” can look like in queer life and relationships Common patterns that keep queer men stuck (emotional shutdown, chasing unavailable people, fear of vulnerability) How masculinity rules and shame shape self-worth and connection The real work of building self-love, practices that help you feel safer in your body and in intimacy One sign you’re healing (Do I need The Pill?) Why setting boundaries can feel terrifying and how to handle people’s reactions when you finally stop over-explaining, over-giving, or shrinking If you’ve been telling yourself you’re “fine” but your nervous system says otherwise, this episode is your reminder: healing is possible, boundaries are allowed, and you don’t have to earn love by abandoning yourself. Connect with Stef: Podcast: https://togethermovingforwardpodcast.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/togethermovingforwardpodcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@togethermovingforward If you would like to be on the show or book a free clarity call with me, all links are here: https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney
S1 · E17
May 7 · 21 min
Why Grindr Is Destroying Gay Men’s Self Esteem | Ghosting, Rejection & Gay Dating Trauma
In this solo episode of Ghosted, Gagged and Gay, I unpack a shocking Grindr story that perfectly exposes the emotional damage hookup apps can create in the LGBTQ+ community. What started as hours of chemistry and connection ended in instant rejection, ghosting, blocking… and unexpected karma at a job interview. But this episode goes much deeper than one story. I talk about how apps like Grindr can slowly damage self esteem, create addiction to emotional rollercoasters, and condition toxic dating patterns through repeated rejection and validation seeking. We dive into: Why ghosting and blocking hit so deeply How repeated rejection rewires the subconscious mind The psychology behind toxic attraction patterns Why healthy connections can start feeling “boring” The mental health impact of gay hookup culture How LGBTQ+ people internalize rejection Why kindness matters more than ever in our community I also share my personal experience with seeking validation on hookup apps, how it affected my confidence, and the healthier perspective I eventually developed around dating and rejection. If you’ve ever felt addicted to validation, emotionally drained by gay dating apps, or questioned your worth after rejection, this episode is for you. I’m Lonay, a gay relationship coach and Rapid Transformational Therapy practitioner helping rainbow people build healthier relationships starting with the relationship they have with themselves. 🌈 Website: rainbowjourney.co 📩 Story submissions: lonay@rainbowjourney.co Explore my world: https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney New episodes of Ghosted, Gagged and Gay explore queer love, hookup culture, relationships, dating psychology, healing, and mental health through real stories from the LGBTQ+ community.
S1 · E16
March 2 · 26 min
Internalized Homophobia: A Guide to Overcoming Shame and Self-Hatred
Internalized homophobia doesn’t always look like self-hatred on the surface. Sometimes it’s the quiet flinch when you’re seen. The urge to hide your relationship. The pattern of chasing emotionally unavailable men. The “I’m fine” while your nervous system is bracing. In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, Lonay (certified hypnotherapist + Rapid Transformational Therapy practitioner) breaks down what internalized homophobia actually is, how it forms, and how it shows up in queer men’s dating lives, relationships, sex, body image, community, and even work or family spaces. We cover: Internalized homophobia vs. external homophobia vs. internalized shame Common signs in dating: situationships, overgiving, pulling away after a good date, confusing chemistry with safety How shame impacts mental health (anxiety, depression, loneliness, perfectionism) and attachment patterns A practical healing path: naming shame, tracking triggers, challenging the inner critic, building real self-compassion, and practicing secure-love behaviors What progress actually looks like (it’s quieter than you think) A simple 3-day mini plan to start shifting the pattern If you’re “out” but still feel stuck in shame, you’re not broken, you’re conditioned. And you can heal this. Book a free clarity call: https://rainbowjourney.co/book-a-call
S1 · E15
February 16 · 31 min
How to Find A Boyfriend (Gay)?
If you’re a gay man looking for a healthy, long-term relationship, finding a boyfriend isn’t about trying harder, performing better, or fixing yourself into someone “more desirable.” It’s about clarity, emotional availability, and dating from a grounded place, not from fear, loneliness, or burnout. In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, Lonay breaks down how to find a boyfriend as a gay man (and how to stop repeating the same situationships). Lonay talks about getting honest about what you actually want, setting relationship goals and non‑negotiables, using dating apps with boundaries, meeting people beyond hookup culture, approaching your crush, and building real intimacy without rushing. You’ll learn: How to tell if you truly want a boyfriend or just relief from loneliness What intentional dating looks like (without controlling the outcome) Why chemistry without emotional safety isn’t connection How to handle rejection without collapsing or hardening How to spot red flags early and stop settling Why authenticity and clear communication are non‑negotiable for healthy gay relationships If you’re tired of confusing connections and want something secure, consistent, and real, this episode is your reset. Visit my website for a free call, free guide, and to explore my program or be a guest on the show: rainbowjourney.co
S1 · E14
January 27 · 41 min
The Relationship Killers: What to Stop Doing in Gay & Queer Love
Most gay men don’t fail at relationships because they don’t love enough, they fail because certain behaviors slowly kill emotional safety, attraction, and trust (often without realizing it). In this solo episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, Lonay breaks down the biggest DON’Ts that sabotage gay and queer relationships, like insults disguised as jokes, blame, competition, distrust, resentment, denial, threats, disrespect, grudges, criticism, secrecy, demands, ridicule, and more. Free resources: Download the free relationship guide: https://rainbowjourney.co/free-relationship-guide Book a free clarity call: https://rainbowjourney.co/book-a-callRead my blog: https://rainbowjourney.co/blog
S1 · E13
January 15 · 22 min
What Does It Mean to Be Emotionally Available? Signs, Causes & How to Heal
What does it actually mean to be emotionally available, beyond the Instagram buzzwords and therapy speak? In this episode, I break down emotional availability from a grounded, real-life perspective, especially within gay and queer dating dynamics. Because being “nice,” “loving,” or “spiritual” does not automatically mean you’re emotionally available. As a gay relationship coach, RTT practitioner, and someone who has been emotionally unavailable (and dated emotionally unavailable men), I talk about: What emotional availability really looks like in practice The green flags most people overlook The hidden ways emotional unavailability shows up (even when you think you’re healed) How trauma, shame, and attachment wounds shape our dating patterns This episode isn’t about blaming or labeling anyone. Emotional unavailability is usually a wound, not a personality flaw. But untreated wounds will sabotage intimacy. If you’ve ever wondered: “Am I emotionally available or just emotionally intense?” “Why do I keep attracting unavailable partners?” “Is emotional unavailability always a deal breaker?” This conversation will give you clarity and probably challenge you in the best way. 🎧 Listen now and if this resonates, check out my related article: https://rainbowjourney.co/post/what-does-it-mean-to-be-emotionally-available and my earlier episode about "Why Do We Fall for The Unavailable?": https://open.spotify.com/episode/2XBifXfTjP3vJKH3fyxpd0?si=0bWJ2ohqTByJjlaXaOj5eg To book a free clarity call with me or be my next guest, visit my website: rainbowjourney.co
S1 · E12
Dec 12, 2025 · 30 min
From Dusty to Radiant: Confidence, Pleasure & Queer Dating with Erica Wiederlight
Feeling stuck, burnt out, or like you’ve lost your sparkle after heartbreak? This week on Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, Lonay sits down with Erica Wiederlight, renowned confidence coach, speaker, and host of the top-rated podcast Welcome To The Wiederlife. Together, they explore how confidence, self-love, and pleasure can completely transform your queer dating experience, and help you break free from toxic patterns. You’ll discover: The biggest obstacles queer folks face when it comes to confidence in dating Practical steps to rebuild self-love after ghosting, rejection, or heartbreak How to reconnect with your body and desires (even if you’ve felt shame or disconnect) Real ways to recognize burnout and set healthy boundaries How perfectionism shows up in queer dating, and how to shift toward authentic pleasure One small confidence-boosting practice you can start today Erica’s work has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Galore, and NYFW. She offers a free book, From Perfectionist to Pleasure Expert, and a free 60-minute Mojo Makeover coaching session. Ready to go from dusty to radiant? Connect with Erica: www.wethelight.org | @wethelight_llc Book your free Mojo Makeover: https://wethelightschedule.as.me/ Free book: https://www.wethelight.org/subscribe Ready to transform your love story? Book a free call with Lonay: https://rainbowjourney.co/book-a-call Other links and resources: ⁠https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney⁠
S1 · E11
Nov 27, 2025 · 33 min
Black, Fat, Femme & Loved: Liberation and Queer Relationships with Dr. Jon Paul
In this powerful episode of Ghosted, Gagged and Gay, Lonay is joined by award‑winning writer, educator, and media critic Dr. Jonathan Paul Higgins (Doctor Jon Paul) for a conversation at the intersection of Blackness, queerness, fatness, and love. Together, they explore what liberated, affirming love can look like for Black queer folks in a world that constantly tells them to shrink. From visibility and body politics to media representation and self-worth, this episode goes deep into how identity shapes our dating lives, our relationships, and what we believe we deserve. You’ll hear Dr. Jon Paul share: How being visibly Black, fat, and femme impacts dating and relationships The harm of feeling “too much” or “not enough” in queer love How media representation shapes who we think we can love—and who can love us Practical ways to support and uplift Black queer folks beyond performative allyship Why self-love and liberation are essential to building healthy, lasting relationships If you’ve ever felt unseen, unworthy, or “too queer” for love, this conversation is for you. 🔗 Connect with Dr. Jon Paul: Website: DoctorJonPaul.com Instagram: @DoctorJonPaul ✨ If you’re ready to break toxic patterns and call in the love you actually deserve, you can book a free call with Lonay— Click Here
S1 · E10
Oct 18, 2025 · 19 min
Stop Chasing What Hurts: Why Do We Fall for the Unavailable?
Are you tired of falling for people who can’t (or won’t) show up for you? You’re not alone. In this episode, we dive deep into why so many LGBTQ+ rainbows find themselves chasing emotionally unavailable partners, and what it really means for your self-worth and future happiness. ✨ Here’s what you’ll get in this episode: The hidden reasons behind chasing emotional unavailability How childhood patterns and beliefs shape our love lives Real talk about breaking free from toxic cycles Mindfulness and practical exercises you can use right now Affirmations and tools to build self-love and raise your standards Ready to stop settling for less and start attracting the love you deserve? If this episode hits home, send me an email, DM me on Instagram with your biggest relationship challenge or share your story for a chance to be featured in a future episode. Want more support? Check out the Radiant Hearts Transformation program for personalized coaching. All links are here: ⁠https://linktr.ee/radiantheartsjourney⁠

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