Free Me from OCD

Dr. Vicki Rackner

This podcast offers a helping hand to families in which a teen or college-aged kid is learning to manage OCD. OCD impacts families; it can hold all family members hostage. Sometimes it feels like OCD is the family boss running the show. The goal of this podcast is to help people managing OCD, their parents and other OCD champions get in the driver's seat of their lives so they are in charge--not OCD. Come as you are and create the life you want.--even when OCD is part of the picture. Learn how to get and stay connected to the person with OCD doing the hard work of managing their minds.

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May 2, 2024 · 29 min
My Top OCD Tips
Episode Title: My Top OCD Tips Host: Dr. Vicki Rackner, MD Summary: In this episode of Free Me From OCD Podcast, Dr. Vicki Rackner reflects on the past decade of living with and supporting a family member with OCD. She shares the single most valuable lesson she’s learned through her journey of helping her son manage OCD and how it transformed her family’s life. Dr. Rackner emphasizes the importance of becoming an empathic witness, staying present, and managing your own emotional bus to better support your loved one. She also introduces the OCD Freedom Formula Bootcamp—a program designed to provide practical skills and strategies to help OCD caregivers and warriors effectively manage OCD in their lives. Key Topics Discussed: The Complexity of OCD: Understanding OCD as an unwelcome passenger on the "bus" of life. How OCD sees danger everywhere and creates persistent anxiety through obsessions and compulsions. Why traditional instincts of fixing or helping often worsen OCD rather than improve it. The Number One Lesson Learned: Manage Your Own Bus: The most helpful way to support a loved one with OCD is to manage yourself. Resist the urge to fix or control your loved one’s OCD. Instead, focus on being an empathic witness, offering love, presence, and belief in their ability to manage OCD. How to Show Up as an Empathic Witness: Be present and convey the message: "I see your pain, and I believe in your ability to rise to the challenge." Avoid trying to control or solve your loved one’s OCD. Instead, work on your own emotional regulation and provide a safe, non-judgmental environment. Building New Skills:Learn to manage your own emotions, thoughts, and actions while witnessing your loved one's struggles. Develop strategies to feel and regulate your own feelings rather than avoiding or fixing pain. Actionable Takeaways: Manage your own bus: Focus on yourself and your emotional responses instead of trying to fix your loved one’s OCD. Show up as an empathic witness: Be present, compassionate, and supportive without trying to control the situation. Invest in skills for self-regulation: Develop tools to manage your thoughts, emotions, and actions so you can be a source of calm for your loved one. Quotes: "OCD is like an unwelcome passenger on the bus, creating chaos. The best way to help your loved one is to manage your own bus." "Show up as an empathic witness, saying, 'I see your pain, and I believe in your ability to manage OCD.'" Final Thoughts: Dr. Rackner emphasizes that managing yourself and becoming an empathic witness are the most powerful tools you can use to support someone with OCD. Rather than trying to fix or control the situation, focus on providing a safe, calm, and loving environment. By doing so, you’ll be a stronger source of support, helping your loved one manage their OCD more effectively. Connect with Dr. Vicki Rackner: Website: FreeMeFromOCD.org Social Media: Follow Dr. Rackner on Instagram and Facebook for more insights and resources on managing OCD.
Apr 10, 2024 · 18 min
4 Pillars of OCD Success
Episode Title: 4 Pillars of OCD Success Host: Dr. Vicki Rackner, MD Summary: In this episode of Free Me From OCD Podcast, Dr. Vicki Rackner introduces the Four Pillars of OCD Success—four foundational principles to help OCD Warriors and their caregivers thrive. These pillars provide a structure that supports healing, growth, and freedom from OCD. Dr. Rackner draws from her experience as a physician, mother of a son with OCD, and certified life coach, offering listeners valuable insights and practical tips to support their journey toward overcoming OCD. Key Takeaways: Pillar 1: Connection to the Science of OCD and Best Practices Understanding OCD through a biological model removes judgment and stigma. It’s important to replace myths with facts about OCD, such as the role of obsessions and compulsions. Therapy, especially Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP), is essential in managing OCD effectively. Explore new scientific discoveries about the nervous system, microbiome, and how they relate to OCD management. Pillar 2: Connection to Yourself Knowing yourself—your needs, desires, and brain wiring—helps you become a stronger caregiver. The goal of OCD management is to keep OCD at bay, like an annoying buzzing mosquito. Learn to manage your thoughts, regulate your nervous system, and embrace self-compassion to better support your loved one. Pillar 3: Connection with Your OCD Warrior Reclaim leadership in your family by fostering an environment of love and support, not one controlled by OCD. Be an empathic witness, showing up for your loved one with empathy and encouragement. Support your OCD Warrior in a way that empowers them to manage their own OCD. Pillar 4: Connection to Community Feeling isolated is common for OCD Warriors and caregivers. Finding a safe, supportive community can make a significant difference in managing OCD. Dr. Rackner emphasizes the importance of caregivers connecting with others who understand OCD to share experiences, insights, and encouragement. Actionable Steps: Educate yourself about OCD: Replace myths with a deeper understanding of OCD's biological roots and best therapeutic practices. Focus on self-awareness: Know what you need to thrive, and learn tools to regulate your own emotions and thoughts. Be a supportive force for your loved one: Create an environment that helps your OCD Warrior feel safe and understood. Join a supportive community: Don’t navigate this journey alone—connect with others who understand and can offer support. Quotes: “People with neurodivergent brains, like those with OCD, thrive when supported by solid external structures.” “The best way to help a loved one with OCD is to manage yourself first. Be the empathic witness they need.” “You have the potential to be a key force for healing in your loved one’s journey with OCD.” Connect with Dr. Vicki Rackner: Website: FreeMeFromOCD.org Social Media: Follow Dr. Rackner on Instagram and Facebook for more insights and resources on managing OCD.
Apr 5, 2024 · 32 min
The Connection Prescription: How to Plug into a Person in Pain without Shorting Out
Episode Title: The Connection Prescription: How to Plug into a Person in Pain without Shorting Out Host: Dr. Vicki Rackner, MD Summary: In today’s episode of the Free Me From OCD Podcast, Dr. Vicki Rackner discusses how to effectively connect with a loved one in pain, particularly those struggling with OCD. Drawing from personal experiences as a physician and mother of a son with OCD, she shares tools for reaching out with confidence, clarity, and compassion. This episode focuses on what caregivers can do differently to support their loved ones without feeling overwhelmed or "shorting out." Dr. Rackner introduces the Connection Prescription©️, a powerful method that helps caregivers provide comfort, strength, and hope. Actionable Steps: Set Your Calm: When your OCD Warrior is in pain, calm your own nervous system first before responding. Be Present: Listen deeply and acknowledge your loved one’s pain without trying to fix it or minimize it. Stay Regulated: Learn tools to stay in a calm, regulated state even when your loved one is dysregulated. Join a Community: You don’t have to do this alone. Join a support group or community to share your experiences and learn from others. Quotes: "Human connection is powerful medicine." "When you set your emotional thermostat to calm, you help your loved one catch your calm instead your catching their chaos." "The best way to help someone in pain is to say with your words and actions, 'I see you, I’m here, and together, we’ll get through this.'" Connect with Dr. Vicki Rackner: Website: FreeMeFromOCD.org Social Media: Follow Dr. Rackner on Instagram and Facebook for more insights and resources on managing OCD.
Mar 15, 2024 · 13 min
2 Kinds of Pain: Part 2 of 3 - OCD and Pain
Episode Title: 2 Kinds of Pain: Part 2 of 3 - OCD and Pain Host: Dr. Vicki Rackner Summary: In this second episode of a three-part series on pain and OCD, Dr. Vicki Rackner explores the difference between primary pain and poisonous pain. She explains how our natural responses to pain, especially when dealing with OCD, can either help us move forward or keep us stuck in a cycle of suffering. Dr. Rackner also shares insights into how our brains react to pain and offers practical advice on how to manage it more effectively, leaning into primary pain to heal and avoiding the traps of poisonous pain. Key Takeaways: Understanding Primary Pain: Primary pain is a natural response to real loss or difficult circumstances. It's the immediate pain we feel when something important to us is disrupted—like the loss of something meaningful, whether that’s a rose garden or a loved one’s peace of mind due to OCD. Primary pain is an unavoidable part of life, but feeling it and moving through it is the path to healing. It’s like letting the body heal a cut—natural and necessary. The Danger of Poisonous Pain: Poisonous pain occurs when we try to avoid, numb, or distract ourselves from the natural pain we feel. This includes avoiding situations that cause discomfort, numbing the pain with food, shopping, or other distractions, or blaming yourself or others for the situation. Avoidance, distraction, and self-blame keep you stuck and add layers of suffering to the primary pain. These responses come from the Paleo Brain, which interprets pain as dangerous and tries to help you avoid it, but in doing so, makes the situation worse. The Role of the Paleo Brain: Your Paleo Brain has three main strategies to protect you from pain: Avoidance – It tries to keep you away from things that might trigger pain, like looking away from the skeleton of a rose bush that was eaten by goats (or avoiding OCD-related triggers). Numbing – It encourages you to escape painful feelings through distractions like binge-watching TV, eating, or shopping. Blame and Resistance – It focuses your attention on fighting against what’s already happened, or blaming yourself or others for the pain. These strategies keep you stuck in poisonous pain, preventing you from moving forward and healing. The Importance of Leaning Into Primary Pain: Moving through primary pain is the key to growth and healing. Avoidance and distraction only increase suffering. In the context of OCD, trying to avoid the discomfort of obsessions through compulsions only strengthens the OCD cycle. Learning to feel your feelings—such as anxiety, sadness, or frustration—and trusting that you can survive them is a crucial step in overcoming both OCD and poisonous pain. Practical Tips for Managing Pain: Identify Primary vs. Poisonous Pain: Ask yourself, "Is this pain a result of my current circumstances (primary pain), or is it my brain's attempt to avoid or numb the pain (poisonous pain)?" Challenge Your Thoughts: Be mindful of thoughts that cause you to blame yourself or others, or to avoid the pain. Redirect your attention back to the primary pain and let yourself feel it. Be Kind to Yourself: Treat yourself with the same compassion you would offer a child. Avoid harsh self-judgment or self-blame. Practice Patience: Forming new habits of leaning into primary pain and letting go of poisonous pain takes time. Be patient with yourself as you practice these new skills. Actionable Steps: Reflect on Your Pain Responses: When you feel pain, take a moment to distinguish between primary pain and poisonous pain. Ar Connect with Dr. Vicki Rackner: Website: FreeMeFromOCD.org Social Media: Follow Dr. Rackner on Instagram and Facebook for more insights and resources on managing OCD.
Mar 1, 2024 · 11 min
The 5 Pain Personalities: Part 1 of OCD and Pain
OCD is associated with different kinds of pain. Your experience is shaped by your Pain Personality. In this episode, you will: Learn Dr. Vicki's 5 Pain Personalities Discover how your Pain Personality shapes your experience with OCD Understand how you can modify your innate response to. pain so you get a better result See how different Pain Personalities contribute to family conflict about OCD. Click here to learn more about the OCD Freedom Formula Bootcamp. This 28 day program kicks off 5/7/24. Connect with Dr. Vicki Rackner: Website: FreeMeFromOCD.org Social Media: Follow Dr. Rackner on Instagram and Facebook for more insights and resources on managing OCD.
Feb 23, 2024 · 19 min
How to Manage Perfectionism...with or without OCD
Episode Title: How to Manage Perfectionism...with or without OCD Host: Dr. Vicki Rackner, MD Summary: In this episode, Dr. Vicki Rackner explores the concept of perfectionism and its impact on people with and without OCD. Key Takeaways: The Difference Between Healthy Striving and Perfectionism: Healthy striving is about personal growth and aiming for excellence based on what you value. Perfectionism is about fear of judgment, driven by external validation and the belief that by being perfect, you can avoid blame or shame. While healthy striving leads to growth, perfectionism leaves you stuck in cycles of anxiety and disappointment. Perfectionism’s Backfire Effect: Perfectionism often leads to procrastination, missed deadlines, and exhaustion. Perfectionism is harmful not only in your professional life but also in personal relationships. Perfectionism and the Brain: Perfectionism is linked to the fear-driven response from our evolutionary Paleo Brain, which sees mistakes as threats to survival. In people with OCD, perfectionism can manifest as compulsions, increasing anxiety rather than alleviating it. Social media can exacerbate perfectionism by constantly presenting "perfect" images that fuel unrealistic expectations. Exercises for Overcoming Perfectionism: Examine Your Language: Stop identifying yourself or others as a "perfectionist" and view perfectionism as a behavior, not a character trait. Identify Your Perfection-Seeking Habits: Reflect on specific examples of perfectionism in your life and the fears driving them. Weigh the Costs and Benefits: Ask yourself how perfectionism serves or harms you, and challenge the belief that perfection leads to better outcomes. Have a Conversation with Your Perfectionism: Imagine perfectionism as a being you interact with and ask why perfection is necessary in your life. Practice Making Mistakes on Purpose: Try "mistake therapy" by intentionally making mistakes to desensitize yourself to the fear of imperfection. For Those with OCD: If perfectionism is linked to compulsions, work on them with your therapist using ERP (Exposure and Response Prevention). Actionable Steps: Reflect on where perfectionism shows up in your life. Is it about what you value, or is it driven by fear of judgment? Practice making small, intentional mistakes each day to break the cycle of perfectionism. Shift from a fixed to a growth mindset by celebrating efforts and progress, rather than chasing the unattainable goal of perfection. Seek support from a therapist if your perfectionism is intertwined with OCD compulsions. Quotes: “Perfectionism is not a badge of honor. It’s a set of behaviors that will keep you stuck.” “Healthy striving is about you. Perfectionism is all about what others think about you.” “Once you know you can live through a feeling, you have nothing to fear anymore.” Connect with Dr. Vicki Rackner: Website: FreeMeFromOCD.org Social Media: Follow Dr. Rackner on Instagram and Facebook for more insights and resources on managing OCD.
Feb 16, 2024 · 15 min
A Powerful OCD Thought Swap Inspired by the Super Bowl
In this podcast episode you'll take away one thought to swap to make it easier for you to be freed from OCD. It was inspired while watching the Super Bowl. Click here to learn more about the OCD Freedom Formula Bootcamp. This 28 day program kicks off 5/7/24. Connect with Dr. Vicki Rackner: Website: FreeMeFromOCD.org Social Media: Follow Dr. Rackner on Instagram and Facebook for more insights and resources on managing OCD.
Feb 9, 2024 · 31 min
When Someone Says NO to OCD Treatment
If you have OCD, you might arrive at a day when you say NO to treatment. What do you do then In this podcast episode, Dr. Vicki Rackner explains how and why people with OCD get stuck, and offers some thoughts about getting unstuck. The Article: Letting Naomi Die. Send in an OCD Confessions Postcard Join the "Get Unstuck from OCD" Challenge Learn about ERP Reach out to NOCD to find an ERP practitioner Click here to learn more about the OCD Freedom Formula Bootcamp. This 28 day program kicks off 5/7/24. Connect with Dr. Vicki Rackner: Website: FreeMeFromOCD.org Social Media: Follow Dr. Rackner on Instagram and Facebook for more insights and resources on managing OCD.
Jan 31, 2024 · 20 min
How to Manage Disgust--With or Without OCD
Disgust is one of the strongest, most common and most commonly misunderstood emotions we have. In this podcast episode, we’ll explore what disgust is, how it helps us and how it harms us. Specifically, let’s address how to manage disgust if it’s part of the OCD picture—or part of your life even if you don’t have OCD. Click here to download the Exploring Disgust Worksheet Click here to learn more about the OCD Freedom Formula Bootcamp. This 28 day program kicks off 5/7/24. Connect with Dr. Vicki Rackner: Website: FreeMeFromOCD.org Social Media: Follow Dr. Rackner on Instagram and Facebook for more insights and resources on managing OCD.
Jan 23, 2024 · 28 min
Common Feelings about OCD--and How to Manage Them
When you or someone you love is diagnoseds with OCD, you may have strong feelings. In this episode, Dr. Vicki Rackner shares common feelings, and offers ideas about how to manage them. Click here to download a worksheet about your thoughts and feelings. Click here to learn more about the OCD Freedom Formula Bootcamp. This 28 day program kicks off 5/7/24. Connect with Dr. Vicki Rackner: Website: FreeMeFromOCD.org Social Media: Follow Dr. Rackner on Instagram and Facebook for more insights and resources on managing OCD.
Jan 11, 2024 · 34 min
OCD's #1 Question: "Am I safe, am I in danger or am I gonna die?
Feeling unsafe is woven into the fabric of OCD. AND feeling unsafe makes it harder to manage OCD. In this podcast, you'll get some tips for avoiding the dangers of the danger response, and seeking safety more safely. Click here to download a worksheet to explore what contributes to your sense of safety. Click here to learn more about the OCD Freedom Formula Bootcamp. This 28 day program kicks off 5/7/24. Connect with Dr. Vicki Rackner: Website: FreeMeFromOCD.org Social Media: Follow Dr. Rackner on Instagram and Facebook for more insights and resources on managing OCD.
Dec 27, 2023 · 24 min
How to Yell Less --and Recover Faster
If you are the parent of a child with neurodiverse brain wiring--OCD or ADHD or autism--you might lose your cool and yell at your child or partner or friend. You might even yell at yourself!. Do you want to yell less? Would you like to recover faster when you do? Dr. Vicki Rackner, physician founder of Free Me from OCD, offers some tips. Click here to get on the waiting list to be notified when we open membership to the OCD Haven. It's a virtual online community for people with OCD-- and the people who love them. You'll find a safe place to become educated, share stories, get coached and know you are not alone! Connect with Dr. Vicki Rackner: Website: FreeMeFromOCD.org Social Media: Follow Dr. Rackner on Instagram and Facebook for more insights and resources on managing OCD.
Nov 23, 2023 · 25 min
OCD and Money: Taking on a Taboo Topic
Do you know someone with OCD who struggles with money? Join us as we reveal the financial challenges faced by individuals living with OCD and their families . Click here to learn more about the OCD Freedom Formula Bootcamp. This 28 day program kicks off 5/7/24. Connect with Dr. Vicki Rackner: Website: FreeMeFromOCD.org Social Media: Follow Dr. Rackner on Instagram and Facebook for more insights and resources on managing OCD.
Oct 30, 2023 · 30 min
Unraveling Trauma
What is trauma? What's happening in the brains of people with trauma? How do you know if you have it? What's the connection between trauma and OCD? What is intergenerational trauma? In this podcast episode, Dr. Vicki Rackner offers some answers. Click here to learn more about the OCD Freedom Formula Bootcamp. This 28 day program kicks off 5/7/24. Connect with Dr. Vicki Rackner: Website: FreeMeFromOCD.org Social Media: Follow Dr. Rackner on Instagram and Facebook for more insights and resources on managing OCD.
Oct 18, 2023 · 14 min
What is ERP?
In almost every podcast episode I mention ERP. Today I would like to share with you what ERP is, how it works and speculations about why it's so effective. Click here to visit NOCD and find and ERP therapist. Click here to learn more about the OCD Freedom Formula Bootcamp. This 28 day program kicks off 5/7/24. Connect with Dr. Vicki Rackner: Website: FreeMeFromOCD.org Social Media: Follow Dr. Rackner on Instagram and Facebook for more insights and resources on managing OCD.
Sep 15, 2023 · 21 min
A Story About How the Human Brain Works
Our brains are obsessed with answer to a singular question: Right here and right now, am I safe? In this podcast episode you'll hear a story about how the brain works, and how and why being safe is still a top priority. Click here to learn more about the OCD Freedom Formula Bootcamp. This 28 day program kicks off 5/7/24. Connect with Dr. Vicki Rackner: Website: FreeMeFromOCD.org Social Media: Follow Dr. Rackner on Instagram and Facebook for more insights and resources on managing OCD.
Aug 30, 2023 · 21 min
How a Diagnosis of OCD Can Help You--Or Harm You
Finally your healthcare professional delivers the three little words. Obsessive compulsive disorder. You might have heard. “You have OCD.” Or “Your child has OCD.” The diagnosis of OCD does not have magical powers. Your brain wiring is the same the day before and after a health care professional delivers the diagnosis. However, the meaning you ascribe to the diagnosis and what you do with a diagnosis can radically transform your life. So today, let’s discuss: Why a diagnosis is so important, especially when a diagnosis describes how neurodiverse brains work. What is the value of an accurate diagnosis? How and why do people use the diagnosis against themselves and do more harm than good? Click here to learn more about ERP. Click here to go to NOCD and find an ERP practitioner. Click here to learn more about the OCD Freedom Formula Bootcamp. This 28 day program kicks off 5/7/24. Connect with Dr. Vicki Rackner: Website: FreeMeFromOCD.org Social Media: Follow Dr. Rackner on Instagram and Facebook for more insights and resources on managing OCD.
Aug 14, 2023 · 22 min
What To Do When Your Kids Are Disappointed
Do you feel uncomfortable when your kids are disappointed? You are not alone! In this podcast episodes you will find: Insights into why our kids’ disappointment tends to be such a problem for us parents. The high cost of an unwillingness to live with the discomfort of disappointment. What you CAN do when your child is disappointed. Click here to learn more about the OCD Freedom Formula Bootcamp. This 28 day program kicks off 5/7/24. Connect with Dr. Vicki Rackner: Website: FreeMeFromOCD.org Social Media: Follow Dr. Rackner on Instagram and Facebook for more insights and resources on managing OCD.
May 30, 2023 · 16 min
How to Manage Disappointment Part 1
We all face disappointment at some point in our lives, and it can be challenging to manage those feelings. In this podcast we will: Explore what disappointment is Identify common ways of managing disappointment that are NOT effective Lay out a process for effectively managing disappointment. This is Part 1 in which we help you manage your own disappointment. In the next episode we'll talk about how to help your child manage his/her disappointment. We'll also address what you say and do when someone disappointment you, or someone expresses their disappointment in circumstances in which you are involved. Click here to learn more about the OCD Freedom Formula Bootcamp. This 28 day program kicks off 5/7/24. Connect with Dr. Vicki Rackner: Website: FreeMeFromOCD.org Social Media: Follow Dr. Rackner on Instagram and Facebook for more insights and resources on managing OCD.
May 11, 2023 · 19 min
Are You Burned Out?
By the time parents of adult kids with OCD find me, they are almost uniformly burned out. In this podcast episode, you’ll find: A working definition of burnout The most common and most commonly overlooked cause of burnout What one thing you can do TODAY to break through burnout. Click here to learn more about the OCD Freedom Formula Bootcamp. This 28 day program kicks off 5/7/24. Connect with Dr. Vicki Rackner: Website: FreeMeFromOCD.org Social Media: Follow Dr. Rackner on Instagram and Facebook for more insights and resources on managing OCD.