Find Love With Emily

Emily Bucknell

Welcome to Find Love With Emily, the podcast for successful, single women in their 30s and 40s, exhausted by dating and wondering why love’s so hard to find.

If you’ve tried all the dating advice; trying harder, swiping more, fixing yourself or “not looking”, and it still hasn’t worked, this podcast explains why.

Each episode breaks down how love really happens, the one rule it always follows and why dating has left you scared that maybe love is not meant for you.

This is the end of ridiculous dating games, trying to be the woman men want and hoping your luck changes.

Here, dating finally makes sense and real, lasting love becomes possible again.

Subscribe to Find Love With Emily for weekly episodes that cut through the usual dating BS and get to the root of what makes love inevitable.

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Saturday · 17 min
Imagine If Dating Was Fun...
If you’ve spent years trying to figure out how to find love, there’s a good chance you’ve also consumed a LOT of dating advice. Which dating app should you use? Should you message first? How do you get past the talking stage? How do you get a man to actually ask you out? Should you be more in your feminine energy, less anxiously attached, play it cool, stop trying so hard? How do you "put yourself out there" more than you are already?? And yet despite doing all the “right” things, finding the relationship you want still feels ridiculously hard. In this episode of Find Love With Emily, you'll see exactly why typical dating advice is isn't what you want to be listening to AT ALL, if you genuinely want real, lasting love. It's actually what's been keeping you single. The recent experience of one of the women inside Attract YOUR Man illustrates this perfectly... Five weeks ago, she was utterly disheartened by dating, struggling to get past the talking stage and on a real date and it felt like it was just problem after problem she needed to somehow solve on her own. Now... She's talking to 5 men, has 2 dates planned and in her own words dating is "SO MUCH FUN!!" This wasn't because her luck changed, she found some new manipulative dating strategy, or rewrote her dating profile for the 75th time. Something much more fundamental changed and dating got easier. If you’re tired of dating advice, dating apps, situationships and constantly wondering what you’re doing wrong, hit play and listen to this episode now. You'll see: Why more of the usual dating advice isn't the answer What happens when you stop trying to “get dating right” Why finding love and being good at dating are not the same thing How to take the pressure out of dating What makes dating (legit) fun! What to focus on when what you actually want isn’t to be good at dating, it's love. 🎧 Episodes to listen to next: Love Is Simpler Than You Think - Here's What's Been Missing Self-Assessment: Your Blocks To Love | PART 1 Self-Assessment: Your Blocks To Love | PART 2 The Uncomfortable Truth About Following The One Rule Love Does 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
September 1 · 22 min
The Balance Between Chasing Love And Not Doing Enough
Are you trying too hard to find love… or are you actually not doing enough? Both can leave you in exactly the same place... Still single, still exhausted and frustrated by dating, unsure why you never get any closer to love and having absolutely no idea what you're meant to do differently. Are you supposed to "put yourself" out there more, meet more men, get on more dates?! Or is love simply going to happen when it's meant to?!? In this episode of Find Love With Emily I answer these questions and explain the fine line between chasing love and actually taking the steps that move you towards the meeting the man and having the relationship you want. And you'll know the questions to ask yourself so you can get this balance right. Because sometimes the thing that feels like "trusting love" is actually the thing keeping you stuck... And something "putting yourself out there" is doing the exact same thing. If you’ve been dating for years, you’re exhausted by dating advice, and you genuinely don’t know whether you need to do more or do less to find love, hit play and listen to this episode now. 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
August 29 · 27 min
What Makes It Easier To Find Love Over 30
If you’re single in your 30s or 40s, it probably feels like love's only getting harder for you to find. The dating pool is smaller. All the decent men are already taken. Men want younger women. It's harder to meet people. And after years of being single, dating the wrong men or watching seemingly everyone else find their person, it can start to feel less like a fear and more like a FACT... That finding love IS harder the older you get. But is that actually true? In the last episode, we talked about The REAL Reason Is Harder To Find Love After 30 (go listen to that one now if you haven't already) and in this episode we're taking that conversation one very important step further. Because if you want love to finally get easier, like you want it to happen for real, then you can't keep living in this story that love's harder for you to find with every year that passes. In this episode, I'm poking holes in some of the biggest “proof” your brain has collected about why love is harder to find in your 30s, 40s and beyond because if you ever want to find love, we've got to pull this story apart. There's a VERY different way to look at your age, your dating life and what’s possible for you in love. And once you see it, that rock-solid belief that finding love only gets harder the older you get might not feel quite so true anymore... Which is your FIRST step in finally finding love! 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
August 25 · 17 min
The REAL Reason It's Harder To Find Love After 30
Does it feel like finding love is hard because you're over 30, over 40? That there were more decent men to date when you were in your 20s? Dating was easier? You chances of finding love were better then? And now that you're in your 30s or 40s, it feels like you chance of meeting the right man and finding love are getting slimmer by the second? And 100%, you've got PLENTY of evidence that says yes, "the older I get the harder it is to find love"... But what if your age wasn't actually the problem? This episode uncovers the deeply ingrained belief that finding love gets harder after 30 and how that shapes what you see, how you date, the men you meet and whether or not you find love. You’ll discover: The real reason why dating after 30 can genuinely feel so much harder What actually determines your dating experiences and whether or not you find love Why the pressure to “find someone before it’s too late” changes the way you date Why trying harder to date well, only makes love feel harder to find What has to change if you want finding love to get easier (regardless of your age). If you’re a single woman in your 30s or 40s who’s scared you’ve left it too late, exhausted by dating apps, or wondering where all the good men have gone, this episode is one you need to hear. Because your age may not be the thing making love harder to find at all! Hit play to listen now. 🎧 Episode to listen to next: Self-Assessment: Your Blocks To Love | PART 2 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
August 22 · 13 min
"Is He Interested?" How To Know For Sure
If you've got a crush on a man and you're wondering… Does he like me? Is he actually interested? Is there something here… or am I imagining it? Maybe it's the guy at the gym. Someone you work with. A friend. The man you see every morning getting coffee. There are glances. Smiles. Conversations that feel like something. And meanwhile, you've already imagined approximately 47 different versions of your future relationship together 💭 But if what you actually want is a loving, committed relationship, you can't spend the next six months wondering whether this man likes you. In this episode, I'm giving you the simplest way to find out if a guy is genuinely interested in you... and what to do if he isn't. But more importantly, I'm showing you why your crush might have very little to do with this particular man and everything to do with the next step love is asking you to take. Because whether he turns out to be your man or not, this can still move you closer to the relationship you actually want. In this episode you'll discover: How to know if a man is genuinely interested in you Why you don't need to wait for the man to make the first move Exactly what you can say without asking, “Do you like me?” The point where you need to take his lack of action as your answer Why spending months obsessing over a crush can keep you stuck and single How to use this situation to actually move towards love If there's a man you're interested and you want to know if he feels the same way... 🎧 Hit play and listen to this epsiode now! Our next Loved Up Week: Dating To The REAL Relationship starts Monday 24th August inside Attract Your Man. If you're meeting men, getting matches, talking, maybe even going on a few dates, but it never seems to become the actual relationship, click the link below and come join us for this Loved Up Week. Over five days, we're changing the way you see dating and what you think it takes to get the relationship, so the relationship stops feeling like this enormous thing you have to somehow make happen and starts feeling like the natural next step. Join Attract Your Man 👇 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
August 20 · 13 min
How To Go From Dating To The REAL Relationship
If you're meeting men, getting matches, having conversations and going on 1st, 2nd maybe even 3rd dates but... It ends there and you NEVER the actual relationship 🤯 Hit play on this episode now! Because the answer isn’t getting better at dating. It’s not about learning what to say, how to act, when to text, how to keep him interested or how to finally get a man to commit. In this episode, I give you a sneak peek inside our next Loved Up Week: Dating To The REAL Relationship, that starts Monday 24th August 2026 inside Attract Your Man. Over five days, what you think it takes to go from meeting men to having the loving, committed relationship you want will radically shift, so that dating feels lighter, simpler and takes so much less energy and effort... And actually gets you the relationship you've wanted for so long. If you’re tired of being stuck on the dating merry-go-round and just want the relationship already... JOIN ATTRACT YOUR MAN and join us for this Loved Up Week 👇 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
August 18 · 20 min
How To Meet The Right Man Without Obsessing
If you just want to meet the right man, but in the back of your mind you're constantly thinking about: How, where and when you're going to meet him. And what else you could be doing to to finally find him... Hit play on this episode now! Because you know, that even if you focus on yourself, build a life you love, take up all kinds of new hobbies, say yes to every opportunity, even take a break from dating alotgether... You're still wondering: Will I meet him here? Should I be doing more? Am I getting any closer to meeting him? Where the F is he?!?!?! And THAT'S the part nobody tells you how to switch off. In this episode of Find Love With Emily, I’m showing you what actually needs to change if you want to meet the right man without obsessing over how and when it’s going to happen: Why the usual “love happens when you’re not looking” advice is so bloody unhelpful What’s really happening before you meet your person that you probably can’t see yet And the shift that allows you to stop trying to orchestrate exactly how love is going to happen... so that it FINALLY can! I’ll also take you behind the scenes of Attract Your Man and show you the actual practices I teach you to use when the impatience, disappointment and I JUST WANT TO MEET HIM ALREADY feeling comes roaring back. So you don’t end up right back in the cycle of overthinking, forcing and trying to make love happen. Because you don’t need to stop wanting love. You need to know how to let love lead you there. 🎧 Episode to listen to next: The Signs You’re Missing That Love Is Happening For You 👉 Our next 5-day Loved Up Week: FROM DATING TO THE REAL RELATIONSHIP starts the 24th August 2026 inside Attract YOUR Man... Where I'll help you completely change your approach to dating, so you can get off the endless dating merry-go-round and finally (and easily) get the relationship you wanted all along. Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
August 15 · 17 min
Why You Just Can't Crack Finding Love
If you’ve been trying to find love for YEARS, there comes a point where you genuinely don’t know what else you’re supposed to do. You’ve worked on yourself. You’ve used the dating apps. You’ve put yourself "out there". You’ve followed the advice, healed the patterns, tried to stay positive and kept going even after yet another promising man disappeared. And still… you’re single. So what the actual f are you missing?!?!? 😖 In this episode I share a realization that hit me HARD this when I found myself experience my own version of that same frustration... Trying so hard to create something I deeply want and just not know why it stilllll wasn't clicking. What happened next made me realize how easy it is to keep trying to “crack” finding love in a way that can actually make the whole thing feel infinitely harder. We’re talking about why finding love can feel so frustrating when you’ve already tried everything already... Why doing MORE isn't actually the answer... And how your approach to finding love changes when you understand how love really happens. If you’re tired of wondering why you’re still single, you just can't figure out what you're missing, or what else you need to do to finally meet the right man, hit play on this episode now. You'll discover: Why finding love can feel so damn hard when you’ve already tried everything What the exhausting cycle of trying to “fix” your dating life really does Why strategy won't help you meet the right man The lesson own frustrating week made me realise about finding love How to stop feeling like you constantly need to do MORE to meet the right man The shift makes finding love feel completely different. And of course, what to do to to finally crack finding love! 🎧 Episodes to listen to next: The Signs You're Missing That Love IS Happening For You 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
August 13 · 13 min
Why Dating Never Gets You The Relationship
You can meet men. You can get matches, have great conversations, go on dates, even meet someone you think might actually have potential… But somehow dating never seems to get you to the actual relationship. So you start trying to work out what you’re doing wrong. Do you need to choose better men? Be less available? Play it cooler? Change your profile? Be more in your feminine energy? Finally fix whatever it is that keeps making men disappear? Because after years of dating, it starts to feel like dating is this thing you have to finally get "right" before you get the relationship. And that’s exactly where the problem is. In this episode, I show you why trying to get dating "right" can actually keep the relationship feeling permanently out of reach. And why if you want to finally have the relationship, we have to entirely change the way that you see dating and what you think it takes to get the relationship. Because the relationship doesn’t have to be this huge thing you’re trying so hard to finally get. It gets to become easy. A no-brainer. The natural next step. If you’re sick of another man, another talking stage, another couple of dates and then somehow ending up right back where you started, hit play and listen to this episode now. 🎧 Episode to listen to next: How To Break The "3rd Date Curse" 👉 AND if this is exactly where you're stuck, be sure to join us inside Attract YOUR Man... Our next 5-day Loved Up Week: FROM DATING TO THE REAL RELATIONSHIP starts the 24th August 2026. Where I'll help you completely change your approach to dating, so you can get off the endless dating merry-go-round and finally (and easily) get the relationship you wanted all along. Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
August 11 · 18 min
The Signs You're Missing That Love IS Happening For You
If you've been trying to find love for YEARS... You've been dating, swiping on the apps, following all the dating advice, but you still don't have the loving, committed relationship that you want... You get to the point where you'd do anything for some kind of sign, some glimmer of something that tells you love still possible. It's still worth holding onto hope for. When finding love hasn't happening yet, it's easy to assume that NOTHING is happening. ...but that's where so many single women over 30 get love all wrong. Because the signs that love IS already happening for you are there. They just don't look the way you expect them to. So you completely miss them. And finding love becomes a whole lot harder than it needs to be. In this episode, you'll learn: How to recognised the signs that love IS happening for you (even when it feels like the opposite is true). Why the earliest signs love is happening are so easy to completely misread How to turn those first signs into something that grows into more, into love. So instead of stumbling around blindly, wondering "is any of this getting me any closer to love?!?!" 🎧 Hit play and listen to this episode now. And finally see how love has been happening for you this whole time. 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
August 8 · 20 min
How To Find Love When You're Burnt Out By Trying To Find Love
Feeling completely burnt out by dating and trying to find love? Maybe you're exhausted by swiping through (very!) average men on the dating apps. You're sick of investing in conversations that go nowhere. Tried of disappointing dates. Thinking you've finally found something that'll help you find love...and it doesn't. It feels like you've tried everything already to find love. All the dating strategies, manifestation techniques, anxious attachment advice, how to be more in your "feminine energy" tips... Yet you're still single, finding love feels more hopeless than ever and you're just so burnt out by trying so hard for so long. If that's you, this episode will bring you a whole lot of relief... Because the very thing that will heal your burnt out is the same thing that makes love infinitely easier to find. In this episode, you'll discover: Why taking a break from dating never makes dating any easier What your dating burnout is really trying to tell you The shift that helps you stop working against love so finding love becomes something that (actually!) leaves you feeling better than you do now. If you're getting closer and closer to the point where giving up on love would feel better than continuing how you have been... 🎧 Press play and listen to this episode now. Because finding love isn't supposed to leave you feeling burnt out, soul destroyed and exhausted. And how you find love from here, is the very thing you most need 😘 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
August 2 · 13 min
He's Nice… But There's No Physical Attraction
Have you ever met a man who's everything you've been looking for... ✅ He's kind ✅ Emotionally available ✅ You feel safe around him ✅ He's exactly the sort of man you've been hoping to meet. But there's just no spark? No chemisty. 0 physical attraction 😐 So now what??! Do you keep dating him and hope attraction grows? Or is that your sign that he's simply not your person? This exact question came up inside Attract YOUR Man recently. And it sparked a fascinating conversation that revealed the truth about dating and physical attraction when what you want is a long term, lasting, loving relationship. Inside this episode, you'll discover: Whether physical attraction can actually grow What to do when a man has everything you're looking for... except the spark The dating mistake that could be causing you to walk away from the right men What women who've found lasting love had to say about attraction, chemistry and first dates A completely different way to think about physical attraction that makes finding the whole package man a whole lot easier! If you've ever worried about settling... Walked away from a genuinely good man because something felt "missing"... Or wondered whether you're expecting the wrong things in the early stages of dating... 🎧 Hit play and listen to this episode now! 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
August 1 · 17 min
Why Healing Your Anxious Attachment Doesn't Work
If you've ever called yourself anxiously attached, chances are you've also spent MANY months trying to heal it. You’ve read the books. Followed all the experts. Tried distracting yourself. Keeping yourself busy with new hobbies and friends. Hid your phone. Worked on becoming more “secure”. And yet somehow… You’re still caught up in the same exhausting cycle of overthinking, waiting, worrying, constantly checking your phone and ending up with emotionally unavailable men who only your anxious attachment worse. What if the problem isn't actually that you haven't healed your anxious attachment? In this episode, I'm sharing why your anxious attachment isn’t the thing you need to focus on if you want to find love. Because I was the woman compulsively checking my phone, obsessing over mixed signals and wondering why I kept attracting avoidant men. I know exactly what it’s like to be anxiously attached… And I also know what makes becoming securely attached so much easier. Inside this episode, you'll hear: • Why calling yourself "anxiously attached" makes it harder to overcome it and find love. • The hidden trap that keeps so many women over 30 stuck trying to fix themselves instead of finding love. • Why chasing every new piece of dating advice only delays the relationship you actually want. • The one shift that changed everything for me (FINALLY!) • How it transformed the way I dated • How I went from years of being anxiously attached to meet my husband after just 4 weeks of dating. If you're exhausted from trying to overcome your anxious attachment so that love can happen for you to, this episode will completely change the way you’ve been going about it. 🎧 Hit play to listen now. This is an episode every anxiously attached woman needs to listen to, so be sure to share it with all your anxiously attached friends! 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
July 26 · 9 min
Dating Hasn't Worked? Don't Make This Mistake...
If you’ve been dating for years, you’re barely holding onto hope you’ll find love while you still have chance… You’ll know how easily the fear, anxiety, overthinking and need to control comes back whenever dating doesn’t go the way you hoped. It’s a normal human reaction. What matters though is what you do next. In this episode, I explain why these moments don’t mean you’ve gone backwards, why they’re not a sign to give up on love and what the women who go on to find love do differently when this happens. You'll learn: Why dating setbacks aren’t a sign you won’t find love What to do when anxiety and overthinking come flooding back Why trying to control dating only keeps you stuck How to stop slipping back into old dating patterns The simple course corrections that keep you moving towards love Why finding love isn't about getting everything right, it's about what you do when life and dating knocks you off course. If it feels like dating just hasn’t and won’t work for you, then this episode will give you an entirely new perspective on what’s happening and what this means you do from here to find love. Just because you’ve had a moment where dating hasn’t worked, it doesn’t mean love isn’t. 💖 Episode to listen to next: "Is It Too Late For Me To Find Love And Become A Mum?" 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
July 25 · 14 min
How To Break The "3rd Date Curse"
What doesn’t dating EVER lead you to love? To the relationship you’ve always wanted? Why does it always end at date 2 or 3… if that?! If you’re stuck in this cycle, where you keep meeting men who have potential. The first date goes well. The second date feels even better. You get kinda excited! 🥳 And then… He pulls away. Says he isn’t looking for anything serious. Ghosts you. Or things simply fizzle out before they ever become a real relationship 💔 🎧 Hit play on this episode now! Because inside, I’ll let you in on how to break what one of the women inside AYM calls the “3rd Date Curse”. That frustrating pattern where dating goes well… until it doesn’t. You’ll see why this pattern keeps repeating no matter what you do or how hard you try. And how it has NOTHING to do with a lack of decent, available men who want love or you being someone that the men you want, just don’t “choose”. I also share a story you’ll love from one of the women inside Attract Your man who couldn’t get past a 3rd date for years. …until one simple question I asked her changed everything. Seriously. She’s now getting married to the man she once believed she’d never meet (and on their son’s first birthday too!). In this episode you'll learn: Why it’s so hard to get past a 2nd or 3rd date The hidden belief that means dating never leads to an actual relationship Why this has nothing to do with men How your expectations shape your dating experiences Why trying harder, texting differently or playing hard to get won't fix the problem How to stop expecting relationships to fall apart before they've even begun The real reason some women naturally move from dating into committed relationships. If you're exhausted by getting excited about someone only to find yourself back at square one a few weeks later, this episode will help you understand why that keeps happening and how to finally break the cycle. 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
July 22 · 15 min
3 Things That Determine Whether (Or Not) You Find Love
I’ve had 1,633 women join Attract Your Man and honestly? Not every woman who joins finds love 🫣 I’ve watched 100s of women meet incredible men, engaged, married, become mothers. But this doesn't happen for everyone. And so I’ve spent the last year asking… WHY? It's not because what I teach in AYM doesn’t work. It's not because there’s a lack of the right men. It's not because dating’s changed in a way that makes finding love harder. There are 3 clear reasons some women find love (and fast!) inside AYM and others simply don't. Inside this episode, I share those 3 reasons. And how I’ve now completely changed the structure of Attract Your Man, so no one who wants love gets left behind. In this episode you'll learn: Why some women find love through Attract Your Man while others don't The three things that actually determine whether or not you find love How Attract Your Man is now structured in a way that makes easier to find love (and easier to join!) How consistency creates lasting change (not perfection) Why dating “setback” aren’t setbacks at all What you need around you to stay on track until love happens for you too. If you've ever bought a course, started strong and then slowly drifted away from it… Or wondered why nothing seems to help you actually find love… Then this episode will clear up all of this for you. 🎧 Hit play to listen now! 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
July 19 · 5 min
Exhausted By Dating? [Do This For Love]
Every week in Do This For Love you'll get a simple step to take this week that gets you following the one rule love does... And infinitely closer to actually finding love 🙌 Because the reason love's so hard to find for so many single women over 30 isn't because: ❌ There's something wrong with you ❌ Dating in 2026 is hopeless ❌ There's lack of genuine, loving, available men ❌ Or that love's just not meant for you. It's simply that love ALWAYS follows the one rule: Love follows love. And right now, if: ✔️ You're scared you'll never find love ✔️ It feels like maybe love's not meant for you ✔️ You're exhausted by dating ✔️ You feel the pressure to find love fast (while you still have a chance) ✔️ And it's been months (or even years) since you've been on a decent date... Then those are big old signs that you're not following the one rule love does. Thankfully it's an easy fix. Be sure to follow Find Love With Emily and tune in every Monday for Do This To Find Love, where I show you how. Because it's these simple steps (not more of the usual BS dating advice) that make dating easier and are how love happens for you from here. Love always, Em xx 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
July 18 · 11 min
Finding Love Gets Easier When You Stop Doing This
If the fact that you’re still single (after years of dating!) feels like the biggest problem in your life right now, this episode will tell you what needs to happen for you to actually solve this problem and find love. As you know, dating more, trying harder to be the kind of woman you think men want, overthinking, strategizing, following allllll the dating advice… While it makes logical sense, it doesn’t actually help you find love. So what if finding love was never a problem you were supposed to solve in the first place? In this episode, I share a perspective that completely changes the way you'll think about dating and finding love. It explains why trying so hard has left you exhausted rather than closer to the relationship you want. And why finding love gets so much easier when you take an entirely different approach. Inside this episode, you'll see: Why wanting love so badly can accidentally turn it into a problem you're constantly trying to fix. The reason all the strategizing and trying harder never changes your experience of dating. The surprisingly simple shift that makes finding love feel lighter, easier and far more enjoyable. What your actual role is when it comes to finding love (and where you have to release control). Why so many women inside Attract YOUR Man found love after they stopped approaching dating the way everyone tells them to. If you're tired of feeling like finding love is a problem you have to solve (and it’s ALL resting on your shoulders), this episode will leave you feeling relieved, hopeful and excited about finding love again 🙌 🎧 Hit play to listen now! 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
July 12 · 7 min
Exhausted By Dating? [Do This For Love]
Every week in Do This For Love you'll get a simple step to take this week that gets you following the one rule love does... And infinitely closer to actually finding love 🙌 Because the reason love's so hard to find for so many single women over 30 isn't because: ❌ There's something wrong with you ❌ Dating in 2026 is hopeless ❌ There's lack of genuine, loving, available men ❌ Or that love's just not meant for you. It's simply that love ALWAYS follows the one rule: Love follows love. And right now, if: ✔️ You're scared you'll never find love ✔️ It feels like maybe love's not meant for you ✔️ You're exhausted by dating ✔️ You feel the pressure to find love fast (while you still have a chance) ✔️ And it's been months (or even years) since you've been on a decent date... Then those are big old signs that you're not following the one rule love does. Thankfully it's an easy fix. Be sure to follow Find Love With Emily and tune in every Monday for Do This To Find Love, where I show you how. Because it's these simple steps (not more of the usual BS dating advice) that make dating easier and are how love happens for you from here. Love always, Em xx 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
July 11 · 22 min
How To Feel Confident Dating
If dating makes you feel nervous, insecure or you feel the pressure to get things “right” this episode is for you. So often single women over 30 are told to build your confidence dating, simply by dating more. But you’ve been dating for 3+ years, you’ve probably also realized that isn’t actually true! In this episode, I share how you actually build dating confidence and why simply forcing yourself to date more isn’t the answer. Because if on every date… 🫣 The stakes feel HIGH 🫢 You’re terrified or doing or saying the wrong thing 💔 Being rejected 🤦‍♀️ Messing up this chance at love Then it’s almost impossible to relax, actually enjoy yourself and genuinely connect with the man you’re with. And love can’t happen. In this episode you’ll discover the 4 STEPS that build solid dating confidence. These are the steps I took that helped me go from cancelling on dates last minute because I was too scared to go, to genuinely loving dating!! And it was this confidence I gained that meant within ONLY 4 WEEKS I’d met my husband 💫❤️😲 In this episode you'll learn: Why dating feels so scary (even if you're confident everywhere else in life). The real reason dating more doesn't automatically make you more confident. The beliefs that quietly destroy your confidence before you even go on a date. How to stop making every date feel like such high stakes. Why the right man doesn't need a perfect version of you. The perspective shift that calms pre-date nerves so you can date with confidence. 🎧 Listen to next: How To Use Dating Apps To Find Love Why The Right Men Don’t Notice You [Do This For Love] 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily

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