Find Love With Emily

Emily Bucknell

Welcome to Find Love With Emily, the podcast for successful, single women in their 30s and 40s, exhausted by dating and wondering why love’s so hard to find.

If you’ve tried all the dating advice; trying harder, swiping more, fixing yourself or “not looking”, and it still hasn’t worked, this podcast explains why.

Each episode breaks down how love really happens, the one rule it always follows and why dating has left you scared that maybe love is not meant for you.

This is the end of ridiculous dating games, trying to be the woman men want and hoping your luck changes.

Here, dating finally makes sense and real, lasting love becomes possible again.

Subscribe to Find Love With Emily for weekly episodes that cut through the usual dating BS and get to the root of what makes love inevitable.

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October 14 · 20 min
Why Love Is Still Very Possible For You | DATING DECODED 1/4
📝 Get The Dating Debrief workbook when you officially sign up for Dating Decoded here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/dating-decoded-direct If you’re single over 30 and you’ve reached the point where you genuinely don’t know what else you’re supposed to do to find love... Start here 🎧 Maybe you’ve tried the dating apps. Deleted them. Downloaded them again because… how else are you supposed to meet someone? Maybe you’ve spent years trying to be more open-minded, less picky, more feminine, less anxiously attached, more detached, better at dating, better at choosing men. And still you’re getting the same thing. Talking stages that go nowhere. First dates that never become second dates. Emotionally unavailable men. Situationships. Men who seem genuinely interested and then suddenly announce they’re “not ready for a relationship.” Or maybe it’s been months, even years, since anything has happened at all. After long enough, it’s almost impossible not to start wondering whether love is actually going to happen for you. This first episode of Dating Decoded is where we change that. Because there is a reason finding love has felt so much harder than it seems like it should be. And it has NOTHING to do with your age, men, or because you haven’t tried hard enough, put yourself out there enough or finally found the perfect dating strategy. There’s something much more fundamental that most dating advice completely misses. It took me almost 13 years of being single, heartbreak, dating apps, terrible advice, trying to make myself more attractive to men and one particularly devastating dating experience before I finally started asking a completely different question. Not: How do I get better at dating? But: How does love actually happen? That question changed everything. Within weeks of dating again, my experience with men was almost unrecognisable. I was meeting lovely men, going on multiple dates a week and actually enjoying dating. Four weeks later, I met the fiercely loyal, loving, genuine and kind man I've now been married to for almost 9 years. In episode 1/4 of this series, I'm walking you through the shift that started it all... and why the fact that dating hasn’t worked for you yet does not mean love isn’t going to. In fact, once you understand what’s really been happening, your entire experience of finding love starts to make a whole lot more sense. And this is only the beginning... 👉 DATING DECODED: Over 1400 women have listened to this 4-part audio series and finally understand why dating hasn't worked and how simple love really is. Available for a LIMITED TIME FOR FREE here on the Find Love With Emily podcast. You'll learn: ✅ Why dating hasn't worked for you → it's NOT you, men, apps, where you live or dating in 2026 🙌 It's that you've been following dating advice that has nothing to do with how love actually happens. ✅ The biggest mistake single women 30+ make when dating doesn't work → when finding love feels hopeless, most women do MORE of what's not working. I made this mistake for 13 YEARS!!! ✅ Why other women find love so easily and it's such a struggle for you → it's not your looks, personality, age, attachment style, luck or how in your "feminine energy" you are. ✅ How love ACTUALLY happens → you won't find this in regular dating advice (which is why so much of it hasn't worked for you). This is how I met my husband in ONLY 4 WEEKS 😮💥👩‍❤️‍👨 ✅ 📝THE DATING DEBRIEF: A personalized and honest breakdown of exactly why love has been so hard for you to find → which unlocks what to do to change that...FAST! ✅ Simple steps that skip the dating BS and attract love fast → no more wasted time on advice that pushes love away 🫸❤️ These steps are how I've helped 100s of women find love! ✅ BONUS: A small but mighty practice that helps you let go of all the fear, stress and desperation dating has left you carrying, so you can start fresh with LOVE. FINALLY 🙌 understand why you're still single and how to easily change that. 📝 Get The Dating Debrief workbook when you officially sign up for Dating Decoded HERE. 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
October 14 · 2 min
How To Use The Dating Decoded Series To Find Love FAST!
📝 Get The Dating Debrief workbook when you officially sign up for Dating Decoded here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/dating-decoded-direct Over 1400 women have listened to this 4-part audio series and finally understand why dating hasn't worked and how simple love really is. Available for a LIMITED TIME FOR FREE here on the Find Love With Emily podcast. Inside Dating Decoded you'll learn: ✅ Why dating hasn't worked for you → it's NOT you, men, apps, where you live or dating in 2026 🙌 It's that you've been following dating advice that has nothing to do with how love actually happens. ✅ The biggest mistake single women 30+ make when dating doesn't work → when finding love feels hopeless, most women do MORE of what's not working. I made this mistake for 13 YEARS!!! ✅ Why other women find love so easily and it's such a struggle for you → it's not your looks, personality, age, attachment style, luck or how in your "feminine energy" you are. ✅ How love ACTUALLY happens → you won't find this in regular dating advice (which is why so much of it hasn't worked for you). This is how I met my husband in ONLY 4 WEEKS 😮💥👩‍❤️‍👨 ✅ 📝THE DATING DEBRIEF: A personalized and honest breakdown of exactly why love has been so hard for you to find → which unlocks what to do to change that...FAST! ✅ Simple steps that skip the dating BS and attract love fast → no more wasted time on advice that pushes love away 🫸❤️ These steps are how I've helped 100s of women find love! ✅ BONUS: A small but mighty practice that helps you let go of all the fear, stress and desperation dating has left you carrying, so you can start fresh with LOVE. FINALLY 🙌 understand why you're still single and how to easily change that. 📝 Get The Dating Debrief workbook when you officially sign up for Dating Decoded HERE. 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
October 14 · 18 min
How Love REALLY Happens | DATING DECODED 2/4
📝 Get The Dating Debrief workbook when you officially sign up for Dating Decoded here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/dating-decoded-direct If you're a single woman over 30 and you've spent 3+ years trying to find love... Following all the usual dating advice, putting yourself "out there", swiping on apps, hoping the emotionally unavailable, avoidant man changes, stuck on the merry-go-round of first dates and trying to stay positive through it all. And finding love still feels like the HARDEST thing you've ever tried to do. Where you're just so exhausted by dating, seriously concerned that maybe love's not "meant for you", and genuinely not sure what else you could possibly do to make love finally happen for you. This episode of Dating Decoded is a MUST listen 🎧 The REAL reason finding love has been so hard for you, isn't because there's a lack of decent, available men. It also has nothing to do with your age, where you live, what you look like, your attachment style, how in your "feminine energy" you are or because you suck at dating and playing "the game". It's simply because... You've been trying to find love while working AGAINST the very way love happens. Which is why you can spend YEARS doing everything dating advice tells you to do, putting yourself out there, meeting men, going on dates, working on yourself, trying harder and harder and wating it more and more... And STILL not get the loving, committed relationship you want. And the longer this goes on, the harder finding love becomes. Love ONLY happens with you work WITH love. ...which is exactly why understanding how love really happens is so bloody important if you want love. In episode 2/4 of Dating Decoded, you'll FINALLY learn the one rule love always follows and see for yourself just how overcomplicated dating has made love. From here, finding love gets a whole lot simpler. 👉 DATING DECODED: Over 1400 women have listened to this 4-part audio series and finally understand why dating hasn't worked and how simple love really is. Available for a LIMITED TIME FOR FREE here on the Find Love With Emily podcast. You'll learn: ✅ Why dating hasn't worked for you → it's NOT you, men, apps, where you live or dating in 2026 🙌 It's that you've been following dating advice that has nothing to do with how love actually happens. ✅ The biggest mistake single women 30+ make when dating doesn't work → when finding love feels hopeless, most women do MORE of what's not working. I made this mistake for 13 YEARS!!! ✅ Why other women find love so easily and it's such a struggle for you → it's not your looks, personality, age, attachment style, luck or how in your "feminine energy" you are. ✅ How love ACTUALLY happens → you won't find this in regular dating advice (which is why so much of it hasn't worked for you). This is how I met my husband in ONLY 4 WEEKS 😮💥👩‍❤️‍👨 ✅ 📝THE DATING DEBRIEF: A personalized and honest breakdown of exactly why love has been so hard for you to find → which unlocks what to do to change that...FAST! ✅ Simple steps that skip the dating BS and attract love fast → no more wasted time on advice that pushes love away 🫸❤️ These steps are how I've helped 100s of women find love! ✅ BONUS: A small but mighty practice that helps you let go of all the fear, stress and desperation dating has left you carrying, so you can start fresh with LOVE. FINALLY 🙌 understand why you're still single and how to easily change that. 📝 Get The Dating Debrief workbook when you officially sign up for Dating Decoded HERE. 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
October 14 · 28 min
The Dating Debrief Part 1 | DATING DECODED 3/4
👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 📝 Get The Dating Debrief workbook when you officially sign up for Dating Decoded HERE. If you've trying HARD to stay positive and hopeful about finding love and love your single life... But deep down you're freaking the f out that maybe love's not meant for you or silently grieving that your life at 36 looks nothing like you thought it would, then this episode of Dating Decoded is an absolute MUST listen. Not because you're wrong for feeling this way. But because it's a massive sign that right now, you're unknowingly working AGAINST love... which is exactly why it doesn't matter how much you want it, what you do or how hard you try, it just never happens. You just NEVER get to feel the utter joy, relief, happiness and excitement you know you'll feel the second you finally meet the right man. In episode 3/4 of Dating Decoded we're getting into the first exercise of The Dating Debrief, where you'll see for yourself, in black and white, exactly how you've been working against love. The EXACT reason love's been so hard for you to find for so long... which means you'll also finally see what needs to change for dating to get a whole lot easier and for love to happen for you too. If you want love, there's NO getting around this. Don't skip this episode. From here, finding love gets a whole lot simpler. 👉 DATING DECODED: Over 1400 women have listened to this 4-part audio series and finally understand why dating hasn't worked and how simple love really is. Available for a LIMITED TIME FOR FREE here on the Find Love With Emily podcast. You'll learn: ✅ Why dating hasn't worked for you → it's NOT you, men, apps, where you live or dating in 2026 🙌 It's that you've been following dating advice that has nothing to do with how love actually happens. ✅ The biggest mistake single women 30+ make when dating doesn't work → when finding love feels hopeless, most women do MORE of what's not working. I made this mistake for 13 YEARS!!! ✅ Why other women find love so easily and it's such a struggle for you → it's not your looks, personality, age, attachment style, luck or how in your "feminine energy" you are. ✅ How love ACTUALLY happens → you won't find this in regular dating advice (which is why so much of it hasn't worked for you). This is how I met my husband in ONLY 4 WEEKS 😮💥👩‍❤️‍👨 ✅ 📝THE DATING DEBRIEF: A personalized and honest breakdown of exactly why love has been so hard for you to find → which unlocks what to do to change that...FAST! ✅ Simple steps that skip the dating BS and attract love fast → no more wasted time on advice that pushes love away 🫸❤️ These steps are how I've helped 100s of women find love! ✅ BONUS: A small but mighty practice that helps you let go of all the fear, stress and desperation dating has left you carrying, so you can start fresh with LOVE. FINALLY 🙌 understand why you're still single and how to easily change that. 📝 Get The Dating Debrief workbook when you officially sign up for Dating Decoded HERE. 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
October 14 · 25 min
The Dating Debrief Part 2 | DATING DECODED 4/4
👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 📝 Get The Dating Debrief workbook when you officially sign up for Dating Decoded HERE. If you're absolutely CONVINCED that there aren't any decent men left, that it's impossible to meet anyone, that dating never works for you, or that love will always be hard for you... Because after 5+ years of being single, disappointing dates, heartbreak and watching everyone else find love, you've got more than enough evidence that these things are TRUE. Then this final episode of Dating Decoded is an absolute MUST listen. Because what if the things you're so certain are true about dating, men and finding love are the very things that have been keeping you single all this time?! The most frustrating part being that you haven't realized how this has been happening in the background all this time. ...which is exactly why you can want love more than anyone, follow all the dating advice, put yourself out there, go on date after date after date, and STILLLL end up with more of the same dating BS. While actually meeting a genuine, loving man, having a real relationship and building a life together only feels more and more out of reach. In episode 4/4 of Dating Decoded, we're getting into the second exercise of The Dating Debrief. Where you'll see for yourself, in black and white, just how much what you believe to be TRUE has been working AGAINST love. And why changing your experience of dating and finding love might be a whole lot simpler than you ever imagined... and something you actually control. If you're DONE with more of the same dating BS and want love to finally happen for you, there's NO getting around this. Luckily though, this is what makes finding love a whole lot simpler! 👉 DATING DECODED: Over 1400 women have listened to this 4-part audio series and finally understand why dating hasn't worked and how simple love really is. Available for a LIMITED TIME FOR FREE here on the Find Love With Emily podcast. You'll learn: ✅ Why dating hasn't worked for you → it's NOT you, men, apps, where you live or dating in 2026 🙌 It's that you've been following dating advice that has nothing to do with how love actually happens. ✅ The biggest mistake single women 30+ make when dating doesn't work → when finding love feels hopeless, most women do MORE of what's not working. I made this mistake for 13 YEARS!!! ✅ Why other women find love so easily and it's such a struggle for you → it's not your looks, personality, age, attachment style, luck or how in your "feminine energy" you are. ✅ How love ACTUALLY happens → you won't find this in regular dating advice (which is why so much of it hasn't worked for you). This is how I met my husband in ONLY 4 WEEKS 😮💥👩‍❤️‍👨 ✅ 📝THE DATING DEBRIEF: A personalized and honest breakdown of exactly why love has been so hard for you to find → which unlocks what to do to change that...FAST! ✅ Simple steps that skip the dating BS and attract love fast → no more wasted time on advice that pushes love away 🫸❤️ These steps are how I've helped 100s of women find love! ✅ BONUS: A small but mighty practice that helps you let go of all the fear, stress and desperation dating has left you carrying, so you can start fresh with LOVE. FINALLY 🙌 understand why you're still single and how to easily change that. 📝 Get The Dating Debrief workbook when you officially sign up for Dating Decoded HERE. 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
October 14 · 14 min
The Reset | DATING DECODED BONUS
👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man If you've been single for YEARS, and you're just so bloody tired of how hard, disappointing and heartbreaking finding love has been... Of getting your hopes up about a man, only to be let down AGAIN. Watching everyone around you fall in love, get married, have babies, while you're still wondering when the hell it's going to be your turn. And carrying around this awful fear that maybe it never will be. Then I have something pretty bloody special for you ❤️ Because I know how much you want to just be DONE with all of this. To finally feel excited about love again, to believe it's going to happen for you, and to stop feeling like being single is this enormous weight you're carrying around everywhere you go. And that's exactly why I've given you The Reset, a beautiful guided practice taken straight from the first week of Attract YOUR Man. This isn't another episode where I'm going to talk to you about finding love. You're going to actually DO something you've needed to do for yourself for a very, VERY long time. This is where you finally put down all the heartbreak, disappointment, fear and heaviness that have built up over YEARS of dating that hasn't worked. And feel what it's like to be free from all of that. To have a fresh start with love, instead of dragging everything that's happened until now into whatever happens next. If you're ready for finding love to be an entirely different experience from here, press play now. Find yourself somewhere quiet and comfortable, and give yourself this time. There's so much relief waiting for you ❤️ 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
October 3 · 17 min
Protect Your Peace (While Dating)
❤️ JOIN AYM HERE AYM is the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love. Have you stopped dating? Or seriously thought about it? Because life would feel just feels SO much more peaceful without it? No dating apps. No wondering if he’s going to text. No boring talking stages, disappointing dates or getting excited about someone only for it to go nowhere. Honestly, I get it. But what if you love the peace you’ve found and you still really want love? Because if you want a relationship, the answer can’t be to protect your peace by keeping every man far enough away that he can never disappoint you. But it also can’t be forcing yourself through dating that leaves you anxious, exhausted and wondering why finding love has to feel this bloody hard. There IS another way. In this episode, I’m talking about how to protect your peace while dating, without becoming detached, shutting yourself off from men or giving up on the relationship you still want. You’ll discover: Why protecting your peace and staying open to love are NOT opposites What makes dating disappointment send you straight back into “this always happens to me” How to stop one man or one bad dating experience changing what you believe about love Why learning to come back to love changes not only dating, but the relationship you eventually have too Because protecting your peace doesn’t mean protecting yourself from love. You can feel bloody good and date. You can let someone matter to you without losing yourself in what he does or doesn’t do. And you can keep moving towards love even when dating doesn’t go exactly how you hoped. Love follows love. 🎧 EPISODES TO LISTEN TO NEXT: Imagine If Dating Was Fun... The Break From Dating That Doesn't Cost You Love 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
September 26 · 22 min
The Break From Dating That Doesn't Cost You Love
❤️ JOIN AYM HERE AYM is the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love. If you’re thinking about taking a break from dating because you cannot face swiping on another dating app, forcing yourself through another boring talking stage or dealing with the aftermath of another first date that goes nowhere... I get it. You’re tired of getting your hopes up, putting in the effort, and never getting any closer to finding love. Dating can really suck! And so if you want to take a break, take it. Seriously. Step away from the dating apps, men, boring "getting to know you" conversations and just enjoy the relief of not having to think about dating for a while. ...but maybe you've done that before? You felt better, but then those "how will I ever meet anyone if I'm not dating" thoughts take over and you're back dating, putting yourself out there. And somehow it's the same men, the same disappointing experiences, till you get to that same point where you can't take it anymore and need another break. There’s a reason a break from dating can feel so good and still not change what happens when you go back. In this episode, we’re getting into the difference between taking a break and having a real reset, one that changes how you experience dating and finding love from here. You’ll discover: Why forcing yourself to keep dating when you’ve had enough isn’t helping you find love Why the relief of a dating break doesn’t always last What you’ve been carrying from years of disappointing dates and dating advice What changes when love becomes the main thing, and dating becomes just one part of finding it. If you’re ready to step away from dating, listen to this before you decide what comes next! 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
September 22 · 23 min
The Lesson I Wasn't Expecting That'll Help You Find Love
❤️ JOIN AYM HERE AYM is the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love. If you’re exhausted by dating, doing everything you’re told to do and STILL not getting any closer to finding a real relationship, this episode is for you. Because there’s a huge difference between being busy dating and actually creating momentum towards love. Swiping more. Changing dating apps. Rewriting your profile. Trying another dating strategy. Working on your attachment style. Trying to say the “right” thing to men. It can feel like you’re doing something to finally change your love life, but really? NOTHING is changing. And I’ve recently had a very big reminder of this in my own life. In this episode of Find Love With Emily, I’m taking you behind the scenes of what’s been happening for me over the last year, the huge change I’ve made recently, and why I’ve realised I’m living the exact process I teach women inside Attract YOUR Man. You’ll hear: Why frustration and exhaustion are signs to stop pushing harder What to do when dating feels like something you constantly have to manage and control Why following more dating strategies can create noise instead of real momentum How to get clear on how you actually want dating and finding love to feel Why you don’t need to know HOW your relationship is going to happen What happens when you stop trying to force results and start letting love guide your next steps Why the quiet period after you change how you’re dating can feel so uncomfortable How to recognise the small signs that real momentum towards love is already building Why I’m going back through Attract YOUR Man myself — and inviting you to go through the entire process with me. If you’re tired of feeling like finding love is something you have to constantly work harder at, strategise about and somehow figure out, listen to this episode. Because there is another way to find your man, and I’m living it right alongside you! 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
September 19 · 15 min
You Don't Have To Be Happy Being Single
❤️ JOIN AYM HERE AYM is the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love. If you’re single and desperately want a relationship, being told to “just be happy being single” can feel pretty freaking annoying. Because you might already have an incredible life... Amazing friends and family, a career you love, a cozy home, plenty of things you genuinely enjoy doing. And yet underneath all of that, there’s still this relationship-sized hole in your life with a whole lotta sadness attached. You still want your person. You still want someone to come home to, someone beside you for all the ordinary moments, someone to build a life with. And no amount of taking yourself on dates, finding another hobby or making your single life even more amazing is going to replace that. So what the hell are you supposed to do with that relationship-sized hole while you’re still waiting to find love? Because there IS something you can do with it that's very different from trying to convince yourself you should be perfectly happy without the relationship you really want. In this episode, you’ll discover: Why “just be happy being single and love will happen” gets it so wrong Why it’s completely okay to admit that something IS missing from your life when you want a relationship What’s really sitting inside that relationship-sized hole after years of dating and disappointment Why filling your life with friends, hobbies and fun experiences doesn’t actually change how you feel about finding love How years of difficult dating experiences can change what you associate love, men and relationships with Why finding love can start to feel heavy, hopeless and near impossible even when it didn’t always feel that way What needs to change so you can feel genuinely good about love again A simple practice you can start using now to change how you feel about the relationship you want What to pay attention to when doubts, fear or hopelessness come up Why this isn’t about being happy being single, it’s about being really gosh dang happy about love! If you’re a successful single woman in your 30s or 40s who has been dating for years, wants a loving committed relationship and is tired of being told to just enjoy being single, this episode of Find Love With Emily is for you. 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
September 15 · 8 min
"I Never Get Past A First Date"
❤️ JOIN AYM HERE AYM is the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love. If you’ve been dating for years and love still hasn’t happened, there are ways you could be holding yourself back from love without having any idea you’re doing it. And this is happening all the bloody time. Because there are certain things you say about yourself when it comes to men, dating and love that might seem completely true based on your experience so far. “I never get past a first date.” “Men don’t want someone like me.” “Dating doesn’t work for me.” But what if the way you see yourself is actually helping to keep those same dating experiences playing out again and again? In this episode of Find Love With Emily, I’m sharing one of the best breakthroughs that happened inside Attract YOUR Man recently, because it shows just how easily you can hold yourself back from the relationship you want without being able to see it. And once you DO see what’s happening, you can start calling BS on yourself, and finally stop being the woman who keeps having the same experience with men and dating. In this episode, you’ll discover: Why the way you describe yourself when it comes to dating and love matters more than you might realise How to start noticing the patterns that could be keeping you stuck in dating Why you might keep having the same experiences with men even when you desperately want something different What might really be happening when you feel like you never get past a first date Why you could be unknowingly holding yourself back from finding love A completely different way to approach first, second and third dates Why you don’t need to decide whether a man is your future husband on a first date What I mean when I say, “When you slow down, love speeds up” How to stay open to love instead of ruling men out too quickly How changing what you do can begin to change what you believe is possible for you If you’re a successful single woman in your 30s or 40s who is exhausted by dating, struggling to get second dates, wondering why dating never seems to go anywhere, or scared you’ll never find the relationship you want, this episode will give you a completely different perspective on what might actually be happening. EPISODE TO LISTEN TO NEXT: 🎧 He's Nice... But There's No Physical Attraction 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
September 12 · 18 min
"I'm So Tired Of Being Told To Give Up On Love"
❤️ JOIN AYM HERE AYM is the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love. If you’re a single woman dating in your 30s, 40s or 50s, you’ve probably noticed just how much negativity there is around dating, men and finding love. Dating apps are awful. Men only want sex. Romance is dead. Finding a good man after 30 is impossible. It's EVERYWHERE. And if you want to find love, you need to start noticing how much of it you’re letting into your world. In this episode of Find Love With Emily, I’m talking about the negativity that surrounds single women who want a relationship, from being made to feel like you shouldn’t want a man at all, to the endless stream of stories telling you how terrible modern dating has become. It's not that you have to pretend every dating experience is wonderful or ignore the disappointment when something doesn’t work out. But there’s a HUGE difference between feeling it, moving through it and getting back to love… and making all that negativity your home and therefore the story you keep living. I’ll show you how to start getting out of the “dating is shit and men suck” story, get clear on what you actually want to experience with men and dating, and surround yourself with more of THAT instead. Because love follows love. And where you put your energy, attention and focus matters. In this episode you'll discover: Why wanting a relationship doesn’t make you any less smart, successful or independent How other people’s opinions can make you question your desire for love Why negativity about men and dating can keep you stuck in experiences you don’t want How social media can quietly reinforce the belief that dating is awful What to focus on instead if you want to meet kind, genuine and emotionally mature men Why women inside AYM often find themselves naturally stepping away from negative conversations about dating How to move through a disappointing dating experience without letting it drag you back into “I’m never going to find love” If you’re exhausted by dating and surrounded by messages telling you that finding a good man is impossible, this episode will help you see just how much that noise is affecting you, and what needs to change if you want to move towards love instead. Hit play and listen now! 🎧 Episode to listen to next: There's Nothing Embarrassing About Wanting Love 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
September 8 · 21 min
Why It's Always A Fight For Love & Attention
❤️ JOIN AYM HERE AYM is the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love. Finding love can feel like one, exhausting long fight you never win. It can feel so unfair when you think about how much love you have to give. And that you're not asking for anything ridiculous, or what other people don't have. You just want a loving, committed relationship with a man who actually shows up for you. A relationship where you can just relax. But for some reason, who you are and what you do, it never seems to be enough. It feels like you're always having to try harder, put more effort in, rethink what you're doing to find love, unsure of what else you can possibly do to finally make love happen. But what if the answer was never to try harder or put more effort in?!?! What if it was doing the opposite?! Because there’s something much deeper that's kept you fighting for love and attention... and never actually getting it. And once you understand this, you'll see how coming at finding love in a way that actually feels better, might be all that you've need to do all along. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why finding love can feel so much harder for you than it seems to be for everyone else What’s actually driving the constant need to try harder when dating feels uncertain How the fight for love and attention keeps repeating itself in your dating life Why it feels near impossible to hard to relax and focus on your life What begins to change when you finally stop fighting and come back to love How to find love without the fight. If you’re exhausted from trying to make dating work and wondering why finding a loving relationship has been so damn hard, hit play and listen to the full episode now. 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
September 5 · 17 min
Imagine If Dating Was Fun...
❤️ JOIN AYM HERE AYM is the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love. If you’ve spent years trying to figure out how to find love, there’s a good chance you’ve also consumed a LOT of dating advice. Which dating app should you use? Should you message first? How do you get past the talking stage? How do you get a man to actually ask you out? Should you be more in your feminine energy, less anxiously attached, play it cool, stop trying so hard? How do you "put yourself out there" more than you are already?? And yet despite doing all the “right” things, finding the relationship you want still feels ridiculously hard. In this episode of Find Love With Emily, you'll see exactly why typical dating advice is isn't what you want to be listening to AT ALL, if you genuinely want real, lasting love. It's actually what's been keeping you single. The recent experience of one of the women inside Attract YOUR Man illustrates this perfectly... Five weeks ago, she was utterly disheartened by dating, struggling to get past the talking stage and on a real date and it felt like it was just problem after problem she needed to somehow solve on her own. Now... She's talking to 5 men, has 2 dates planned and in her own words dating is "SO MUCH FUN!!" This wasn't because her luck changed, she found some new manipulative dating strategy, or rewrote her dating profile for the 75th time. Something much more fundamental changed and dating got easier. If you’re tired of dating advice, dating apps, situationships and constantly wondering what you’re doing wrong, hit play and listen to this episode now. You'll see: Why more of the usual dating advice isn't the answer What happens when you stop trying to “get dating right” Why finding love and being good at dating are not the same thing How to take the pressure out of dating What makes dating (legit) fun! What to focus on when what you actually want isn’t to be good at dating, it's love. 🎧 Episodes to listen to next: Love Is Simpler Than You Think - Here's What's Been Missing Self-Assessment: Your Blocks To Love | PART 1 Self-Assessment: Your Blocks To Love | PART 2 The Uncomfortable Truth About Following The One Rule Love Does 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
September 1 · 22 min
The Balance Between Chasing Love And Not Doing Enough
❤️ JOIN AYM HERE AYM is the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love. Are you trying too hard to find love… or are you actually not doing enough? Both can leave you in exactly the same place... Still single, still exhausted and frustrated by dating, unsure why you never get any closer to love and having absolutely no idea what you're meant to do differently. Are you supposed to "put yourself" out there more, meet more men, get on more dates?! Or is love simply going to happen when it's meant to?!? In this episode of Find Love With Emily I answer these questions and explain the fine line between chasing love and actually taking the steps that move you towards the meeting the man and having the relationship you want. And you'll know the questions to ask yourself so you can get this balance right. Because sometimes the thing that feels like "trusting love" is actually the thing keeping you stuck... And something "putting yourself out there" is doing the exact same thing. If you’ve been dating for years, you’re exhausted by dating advice, and you genuinely don’t know whether you need to do more or do less to find love, hit play and listen to this episode now. 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
August 29 · 27 min
What Makes It Easier To Find Love Over 30
❤️ JOIN AYM HERE AYM is the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love. If you’re single in your 30s or 40s, it probably feels like love's only getting harder for you to find. The dating pool is smaller. All the decent men are already taken. Men want younger women. It's harder to meet people. And after years of being single, dating the wrong men or watching seemingly everyone else find their person, it can start to feel less like a fear and more like a FACT... That finding love IS harder the older you get. But is that actually true? In the last episode, we talked about The REAL Reason Is Harder To Find Love After 30 (go listen to that one now if you haven't already) and in this episode we're taking that conversation one very important step further. Because if you want love to finally get easier, like you want it to happen for real, then you can't keep living in this story that love's harder for you to find with every year that passes. In this episode, I'm poking holes in some of the biggest “proof” your brain has collected about why love is harder to find in your 30s, 40s and beyond because if you ever want to find love, we've got to pull this story apart. There's a VERY different way to look at your age, your dating life and what’s possible for you in love. And once you see it, that rock-solid belief that finding love only gets harder the older you get might not feel quite so true anymore... Which is your FIRST step in finally finding love! 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
August 25 · 17 min
The REAL Reason It's Harder To Find Love After 30
❤️ JOIN AYM HERE AYM is the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love. Does it feel like finding love is hard because you're over 30, over 40? That there were more decent men to date when you were in your 20s? Dating was easier? You chances of finding love were better then? And now that you're in your 30s or 40s, it feels like you chance of meeting the right man and finding love are getting slimmer by the second? And 100%, you've got PLENTY of evidence that says yes, "the older I get the harder it is to find love"... But what if your age wasn't actually the problem? This episode uncovers the deeply ingrained belief that finding love gets harder after 30 and how that shapes what you see, how you date, the men you meet and whether or not you find love. You’ll discover: The real reason why dating after 30 can genuinely feel so much harder What actually determines your dating experiences and whether or not you find love Why the pressure to “find someone before it’s too late” changes the way you date Why trying harder to date well, only makes love feel harder to find What has to change if you want finding love to get easier (regardless of your age). If you’re a single woman in your 30s or 40s who’s scared you’ve left it too late, exhausted by dating apps, or wondering where all the good men have gone, this episode is one you need to hear. Because your age may not be the thing making love harder to find at all! Hit play to listen now. 🎧 Episode to listen to next: Self-Assessment: Your Blocks To Love | PART 2 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
August 22 · 13 min
"Is He Interested?" How To Know For Sure
❤️ JOIN AYM HERE AYM is the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love. If you've got a crush on a man and you're wondering… Does he like me? Is he actually interested? Is there something here… or am I imagining it? Maybe it's the guy at the gym. Someone you work with. A friend. The man you see every morning getting coffee. There are glances. Smiles. Conversations that feel like something. And meanwhile, you've already imagined approximately 47 different versions of your future relationship together 💭 But if what you actually want is a loving, committed relationship, you can't spend the next six months wondering whether this man likes you. In this episode, I'm giving you the simplest way to find out if a guy is genuinely interested in you... and what to do if he isn't. But more importantly, I'm showing you why your crush might have very little to do with this particular man and everything to do with the next step love is asking you to take. Because whether he turns out to be your man or not, this can still move you closer to the relationship you actually want. In this episode you'll discover: How to know if a man is genuinely interested in you Why you don't need to wait for the man to make the first move Exactly what you can say without asking, “Do you like me?” The point where you need to take his lack of action as your answer Why spending months obsessing over a crush can keep you stuck and single How to use this situation to actually move towards love If there's a man you're interested and you want to know if he feels the same way... 🎧 Hit play and listen to this epsiode now! Our next Loved Up Week: Dating To The REAL Relationship starts Monday 24th August inside Attract Your Man. If you're meeting men, getting matches, talking, maybe even going on a few dates, but it never seems to become the actual relationship, click the link below and come join us for this Loved Up Week. Over five days, we're changing the way you see dating and what you think it takes to get the relationship, so the relationship stops feeling like this enormous thing you have to somehow make happen and starts feeling like the natural next step. Join Attract Your Man 👇 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
August 20 · 13 min
How To Go From Dating To The REAL Relationship
❤️ JOIN AYM HERE AYM is the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love. If you're meeting men, getting matches, having conversations and going on 1st, 2nd maybe even 3rd dates but... It ends there and you NEVER the actual relationship 🤯 Hit play on this episode now! Because the answer isn’t getting better at dating. It’s not about learning what to say, how to act, when to text, how to keep him interested or how to finally get a man to commit. In this episode, I give you a sneak peek inside our next Loved Up Week: Dating To The REAL Relationship, that starts Monday 24th August 2026 inside Attract Your Man. Over five days, what you think it takes to go from meeting men to having the loving, committed relationship you want will radically shift, so that dating feels lighter, simpler and takes so much less energy and effort... And actually gets you the relationship you've wanted for so long. 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily
August 18 · 20 min
How To Meet The Right Man Without Obsessing
❤️ JOIN AYM HERE AYM is the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love. If you just want to meet the right man, but in the back of your mind you're constantly thinking about: How, where and when you're going to meet him. And what else you could be doing to to finally find him... Hit play on this episode now! Because you know, that even if you focus on yourself, build a life you love, take up all kinds of new hobbies, say yes to every opportunity, even take a break from dating alotgether... You're still wondering: Will I meet him here? Should I be doing more? Am I getting any closer to meeting him? Where the F is he?!?!?! And THAT'S the part nobody tells you how to switch off. In this episode of Find Love With Emily, I’m showing you what actually needs to change if you want to meet the right man without obsessing over how and when it’s going to happen: Why the usual “love happens when you’re not looking” advice is so bloody unhelpful What’s really happening before you meet your person that you probably can’t see yet And the shift that allows you to stop trying to orchestrate exactly how love is going to happen... so that it FINALLY can! I’ll also take you behind the scenes of Attract Your Man and show you the actual practices I teach you to use when the impatience, disappointment and I JUST WANT TO MEET HIM ALREADY feeling comes roaring back. So you don’t end up right back in the cycle of overthinking, forcing and trying to make love happen. Because you don’t need to stop wanting love. You need to know how to let love lead you there. 🎧 Episode to listen to next: The Signs You’re Missing That Love Is Happening For You 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the simple, step-by-step proven process, tools and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love inside: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man 💌 You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily

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