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Expecting Expats

Hosts Amanda and CJ

Welcome to Expecting Expats- a space where we’re expecting more than just babies—join Amanda, a childbirth educator and doula & CJ, a therapist , as they explore parenting, identity, emotional growth, and the journey of building a life in a new country.

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  • 25 episodes
  • fortnightly
  • Avg 40 min
  • English

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  • S3 · E14
    February 11 · 28 min

    Keeping the romance alive after kids: a Valentines Special

    In this episode, Amanda and CJ explores the significant decline in sex among couples after having children, highlighting the various factors contributing to this change, including fatigue, caregiving demands, and shifts in couple dynamics. Takeaways * A lot of studies show that couples' sex life tends to decline after having kids. * Fatigue, sleep disruption, and caregiving demands contribute to this decline. * Change in roles and less couple time affects intimacy. * As much as 60% of married couples report a decrease in sexual frequency after having kids. * 30% say that sex has become less satisfying in the last five years after having kids. * The decline in sexual frequency is a significant issue for many couples. * Understanding these changes is crucial for maintaining intimacy. * Couples need to find ways to reconnect after having children. * Communication is key to addressing sexual satisfaction. * Support systems can help couples navigate these challenges. Podcast Recommendation: Motherhood Sessions: 2 Years Without Sex : https://open.spotify.com/episode/4oQ1SbW6yVw6ILUhixUeOs?si=m0Nn1kC5RraRBG6mYl2bRA Book Recommendation: Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Ester Perel

  • S3 · E13
    January 29 · 34 min

    Who am I now? Identity changes in motherhood

    In this episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ explore the profound identity shifts that accompany motherhood, particularly for those parenting abroad. They discuss personal experiences, the evolution of relationships, the importance of community support, and strategies for reclaiming one's identity amidst the challenges of motherhood. The conversation emphasizes that while the journey can be difficult, it ultimately leads to personal growth and a new understanding of self. Takeaways * Becoming a parent reshapes your identity in profound ways. * Motherhood abroad adds layers of complexity to identity shifts. * It's common to feel a sense of loss regarding your old self. * The transition into motherhood often involves grief for your previous life. * Community support is crucial for navigating motherhood. * Reclaiming your identity is a step-by-step process. * Relationships with partners and friends evolve after having children. * Self-care practices, like meditation, can help in the transition. * Understanding that motherhood is an evolution can provide relief. * You're not alone in feeling lost; it's a shared experience among mothers. Podcast recommendation: This is Actually Happening (by Wondery) Book recommendation: Boy mom (by Ruth Whippman) Link to the podcast episode referred to: https://open.spotify.com/episode/26KSGRz0cYTubqqnp366d5?si=UynpSCuUS3ycpPzBhmursA

  • S3 · E12
    January 21 · 25 min

    Post holiday check in

    Amanda and CJ discusses how their New Years ritual unfolded and how they feel about the wish they are responsible for (listen to the holiday special episode for context). CJ also shares her considerations regarding having another child. Podcast recommendations: Dr. Death (from Wondery) A Little Bit Culty The Daily (from New York Times)

  • S3 · E11
    January 14 · 42 min

    Expectations for Maternity Leave: Comparison is the thief of joy

    In this episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ delve into the complexities of maternity leave, discussing the pressures of productivity, cultural differences, and the often invisible labor involved in new parenthood. They share personal experiences and insights, emphasizing the importance of self-care, community support, and reframing expectations around maternity leave as a time of transformation rather than a break. The conversation highlights the need to recognize the value of care work and the unique challenges faced by new parents, encouraging listeners to give themselves grace during this significant life transition. Podcast recommendations: Unpacked - with Anna & Emma Pink pill rx

  • S3 · E10
    Dec 31, 2025 · 50 min

    Expat Experts: The Pelvic Floor 101. Interview with Annie Ueyama

    In our first Expat Experts episode, we interview Annie Ueyama, cofounder of FitnessWerkstatt and extensive expertise in pre- and postnatal fitness. We discuss the often-overlooked topic of pelvic floor health. We explore the importance of pelvic floor training for women at all stages of life, the impact of pregnancy and aging on pelvic floor health, and the benefits of postpartum rehabilitation programs. Annie shares her personal journey as an expat and how sports have helped her build community across different countries. The conversation emphasizes the need for awareness and proactive care for pelvic floor health, as well as the importance of developing a good relationship with one's body. Takeaways * Pelvic floor health is crucial for women of all ages. * Over one in three women over 55 experience urinary incontinence. * Pelvic floor training is standard care in some countries. * Annie's journey highlights the importance of sports in building community. * Pregnancy and aging significantly impact pelvic floor health. * A healthy pelvic floor supports core stability and overall well-being. * C-sections still require pelvic floor training and care. * It's never too late to start training your pelvic floor. * Understanding your body is key to maintaining pelvic health. Podcast recommendations: ​Pink pill RX: episode 40, Midwives, witches and Nazis ​Mel Robbins’ podcast ​Pelvic floor connection

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