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Ern and TaTa

Ernest Holmon

After 15 years of marriage and raising a blended family of 9 kids, Ernest and Tyera bring honest conversations about love, conflict, growth, parenting, and everything in between—without the sugarcoating. From viral relationship debates to everyday situations couples actually face, nothing is off limits. You’ll hear both perspectives—the male and female point of view—sometimes aligned, sometimes completely opposite… but always real. Whether it’s communication issues, trust, finances, modern dating standards, or “who’s really right,” this podcast challenges how people think about relationships today. If you’ve ever said “that’s exactly how it is in my house,” this is the podcast for you.

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Thursday · 32 min
Marriage Isn't 50/50: Love, Sacrifice & Who Gives More | Ern & Tata Copy audio title
Is love really 50/50? Or does a successful marriage require something much deeper than equal percentages? On this episode of the Ern & Tata Podcast, we're challenging one of the most common beliefs about relationships: that both partners should always give equally. Inspired by Ella Mai's song "100," Tata shares a new perspective on what it means to support your partner, especially when they don't have much left to give. What starts as a discussion about love and commitment quickly turns into a personal conversation about our own marriage. We explore the differences between giving expensive gifts and showing everyday appreciation, the frustration of feeling taken for granted, and the importance of supporting your spouse through difficult times. We also discuss how rising living costs, financial stress, demanding jobs, and personal expectations can create tension in relationships. Is marriage supposed to be 50/50? Can one partner give 80% while the other gives 20%? And how do you know when you're giving too much? Join Ern & Tata for another funny, honest, and thought-provoking conversation about marriage, relationships, love, sacrifice, and partnership. Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us. Subscribe, rate, review, and share the Ern & Tata Podcast. And let us know: Is your relationship 50/50, or does it change depending on the day?
Tuesday · 23 min· Video
The AI Marriage Interview: 16 Years of Love, Sacrifice & Growth | Ern & Tata Copy audio title
What happens when you let artificial intelligence ask the questions about your marriage? On this special episode of the Ern & Tata Podcast, we're switching things up! Our AI co-host, G, takes over the interview and gives listeners an intimate look into our 16-year relationship. From the challenges of marriage and raising a blended family to personal sacrifices, communication, self-discovery, and unconditional support, this conversation goes deeper than our usual episodes. Tata reveals the woman behind the podcast, including her introverted personality, passion for dog grooming, and desire to make more time for herself. Ern reflects on the importance of choosing your spouse through every season of marriage, supporting each other's dreams, and becoming a better husband and father. The conversation also takes an unexpected emotional turn as Ern discusses his recent health scare and the importance of prioritizing your well-being. Can you fall out of love and find your way back? How do you maintain your identity while being a spouse and parent? And what sacrifices are necessary to build a lasting relationship? Join us for a heartfelt, funny, and thought-provoking conversation about marriage, love, family, personal growth, and life beyond the microphone. Ern & Tata Podcast — Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us. Listen, share, and join the conversation!
October 29 · 51 min· Video
**Philly Lifestyles: Marriage Expectations, City Life & Moving to the Suburbs**
Are we expecting too much from our partners, or have relationship standards changed? On this episode of the Ern & Tata Podcast, we're talking marriage expectations, communication, social media pressure, and the reality of being everything your spouse needs. But the conversation takes an unexpected turn when Ern explains why he's ready to leave Philadelphia for the suburbs, while Tata isn't quite ready to make that move. What follows is a hilarious debate about Philly lifestyles, North Philadelphia, city versus suburban living, neighborhood knowledge, and whether Tata really knows the streets of the city she calls home! Episode Highlights: 00:00 – Are Marriage Expectations Too High? 06:00 – Social Media and Relationship Pressure 08:30 – Sharing Locations in Marriage 20:00 – Philadelphia City Life 27:00 – Should We Move Out of Philly? 35:00 – City Life vs. Suburban Living 39:00 – Is Tata Really From Philadelphia? 42:00 – The Philly Street Knowledge Challenge Join Ern and Tata for another unscripted conversation filled with marriage advice, relationship debates, laughter, and authentic Philly personality. We want to hear from you! Would you leave Philadelphia for the suburbs? And do you think couples expect too much from one another? Follow, rate, review, and share the Ern & Tata Podcast on your favorite podcast platform. Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us.
October 27 · 48 min· Video
What If? | Cheating, Trust & the Questions Married Couples Avoid
What if your spouse cheated just once? Could you forgive them? What if you had to live apart for six months? And if you met your partner today, knowing everything you know now, would you still choose them? On this episode of the Ern & Tata Podcast, we're putting our marriage perspectives to the test with a game of "What If?" We explore some of the most challenging hypothetical situations couples can face, including infidelity, forgiveness, rebuilding trust, financial hardship, long-distance love, and the possibility of having more children. We also get personal about raising nine children, our expectations as parents, and the differences in how we see family responsibilities. And before it's over, we tackle a question that every married couple should think about: Can you still love someone even when the relationship no longer makes you happy? It's another episode filled with laughter, real opinions, and honest conversations from two people navigating love, marriage, and family together. Join the conversation: Would you still marry your spouse if you met them today? Follow the Ern & Tata Podcast, leave a five-star rating if you enjoy the show, and share this episode with a couple who would love these questions. Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us.
October 22 · 30 min· Video
The Price of Providing: Marriage, Fatherhood & Finding Balance
How much of your life are you willing to sacrifice to give your family a better one? On Episode 51 of the Ern & TaTa Podcast, we're having one of our most personal conversations yet about work-life balance, marriage, fatherhood, family responsibilities, and the emotional pressure of chasing success. Ern opens up about his struggle to find balance while working toward his goals and providing for his wife and children. He shares the guilt he sometimes feels about missing family moments, the fear of pursuing the wrong path, and the challenge of knowing when to stop working and simply enjoy life. TaTa shares her perspective on balancing marriage and family, reminding us that spending quality time together doesn't always mean going out or spending money. Together, we explore the pressure of being a provider, the importance of communication in marriage, learning to ask for help, overcoming ego, and finding peace during life's journey. We also discuss why so many people spend their lives preparing for a better tomorrow while forgetting to appreciate today. In this episode: Work-life balance and the pressure of providing The guilt of missing time with your children Marriage, quality time, and emotional connection The fear of failure and pursuing the wrong direction Learning to slow down and enjoy life Overcoming pride and accepting help Faith, gratitude, patience, and personal growth Breaking negative cycles and protecting your relationship Whether you're married, raising children, building a business, or simply trying to find your purpose, this conversation is a reminder that success isn't just about what you accomplish. It's also about the people and moments you experience along the way. Ask yourself: Are you building a life you actually have time to enjoy? Join Ern and TaTa for another honest conversation about the realities of love, family, and growing together. Ern & TaTa Podcast Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us. ❤️ Subscribe, rate, and review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and wherever you listen. #MarriagePodcast #WorkLifeBalance #Fatherhood #FamilyLife #ErnAndTaTa #RelationshipTalk #PersonalGrowth #fyp #ernandiso4president
October 20 · 38 min· Video
Married But Sleeping Apart? The Separate Bedroom Debate | Ern & TaTa
Can married couples sleep in separate bedrooms and still have a happy, healthy marriage? On this episode of the Ern & TaTa Podcast, we're discussing the growing conversation around separate bedrooms in marriage, sometimes called a "sleep divorce." It all starts when TaTa brings up the idea of husbands and wives having their own sleeping spaces. But when Ern starts imagining his own bedroom, complete with an Xbox, television, locked door, and uninterrupted alone time, things get hilarious! What was supposed to be a conversation about getting better sleep quickly turns into a deeper discussion about marriage, intimacy, privacy, independence, and personal space. In this episode, we discuss: Why some married couples prefer separate bedrooms How different sleep schedules can affect a marriage Whether sleeping apart can improve a relationship Maintaining intimacy when couples don't share a bed Personal space versus emotional distance Why marriage shouldn't mean losing your individuality The importance of privacy, boundaries, and communication Ern and TaTa's own experiences sleeping separately We also look back at classic television couples like Lucy and Ricky Ricardo and Cliff and Clair Huxtable to explore how the idea of sharing a bed has changed over the generations. But the biggest question remains: If your spouse wanted a separate bedroom, would you support it? And what if they seemed a little too happy about the idea? Join Ern and TaTa for another funny, relatable, and unfiltered conversation about marriage, love, communication, and the everyday realities of relationships. Ern & TaTa Podcast — Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us. ❤️ #MarriagePodcast #SeparateBedrooms #SleepDivorce #CouplesCommunication #ErnAndTaTa #RelationshipAdvice #MarriedLife #fyp #ernandiso4president
October 16 · 46 min· Video
Trust, Lies & Multiple Wives: The Marriage Conversation
After 15 years of marriage, is trust something you ever stop worrying about? On this episode of Ern & TaTa Podcast, the couple dives into one of the biggest challenges in any relationship: trust. What starts as a conversation about little white lies quickly turns into a much bigger discussion about infidelity, jealousy, past relationships, and whether trust can ever truly be restored once it's broken. But things take an unexpected turn when Ern suggests that adding another wife—or two—could actually benefit their household. TaTa isn't having it! From polyamorous relationships and open marriages to dating multiple people before commitment, Ern and TaTa challenge each other's perspectives while revisiting their own relationship history. Can a marriage survive without complete trust? Are small lies just as damaging as cheating? And could you ever share your spouse with someone else? Get ready for honest opinions, hilarious disagreements, and the kind of conversations married couples don't always have out loud. Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us. Ern & TaTa Podcast — where marriage, relationships, and real life meet.
October 13 · 48 min· Video
We Almost Didn't Record! | Marriage Arguments, Communication & Accountability
Every marriage has disagreements. But what happens when the argument starts before the microphones even turn on? On this episode of the Ern & TaTa Podcast, we're giving listeners an unfiltered look into our marriage after a disagreement nearly derailed our recording session. What started as a simple misunderstanding over Ern watching the Philadelphia Eagles quickly became a much deeper discussion about communication, emotional intelligence, accountability, financial stress, and how differently husbands and wives can interpret the same situation. Ern believes that remaining calm, agreeing, and walking away from unnecessary arguments shows personal growth. TaTa believes that acknowledging your emotions, even when you're not yelling, is essential to honest communication. But can both perspectives be valid? After 15 years of marriage, we're still discovering that loving someone doesn't automatically mean understanding how they think, communicate, or process emotions. We also explore the difference between defending yourself and creating drama, why spouses sometimes feel unheard, the importance of supporting each other's interests, and how past experiences influence the way we respond to conflict. This isn't a polished conversation about a perfect relationship. It's a real husband and wife having a real disagreement, sharing both perspectives, and figuring things out along the way. In this episode, we discuss: Communication problems in long-term marriages Emotional intelligence and accountability Silent treatment vs. healthy conflict resolution Feeling misunderstood by your spouse Marriage disagreements and financial pressure Supporting your partner's interests Standing up for yourself without creating unnecessary conflict Learning to handle arguments differently as your marriage grows Here's the question: Is staying quiet during an argument a sign of maturity, or can silence sometimes make your partner feel even more unheard? Join Ern & TaTa for another honest conversation about marriage, relationships, personal growth, and the realities of building a life together. Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us. Follow, rate, review, and share the Ern & TaTa Podcast with someone who appreciates authentic conversations about love and marriage.
October 8 · 16 min
Battle of the Sexes: 2000s Movie Trivia Gets Competitive!
Ern and TaTa face off in a 2000s movie trivia challenge, with their youngest daughter serving as the surprise host! Can they remember the details from Love & Basketball, ATL, Baby Boy, Barbershop, Training Day, and other favorites? Expect hilarious mix-ups, playful arguments, and plenty of nostalgia as this married couple races to 100 points. Listen along, test your own movie knowledge, and decide whether you're Team Ern or Team TaTa. Who deserves the bragging rights—and which movie era should come next? Follow the Ern & TaTa Podcast, leave a review, and share this episode with your favorite movie fan. Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us.
October 6 · 44 min· Video
We Gave Our Kids Everything… Was It Still Not Enough? | Parenting, Sacrifice & Adult Children
What happens when the children you sacrificed everything for grow up and tell you that you didn’t do enough? Ern and TaTa sit down for a raw conversation about parenting adult children, blended families, family conflict, sacrifice, resentment and the emotional toll of being a parent. After more than 15 years of marriage and raising a blended family, they discuss what happens when children become adults with their own memories, expectations and opinions about how they were raised. Can parents love their children while admitting they’re exhausted? Why do some adult children remember their parents’ mistakes more than their sacrifices? Did today’s parents overcorrect from the strict parenting they experienced growing up? And has social media changed what children believe their parents should provide? Ern and TaTa also discuss absent parents, discipline, setting boundaries with adult children, protecting the image of the other parent, keeping a marriage united through family conflict and realizing that sometimes parents and their grown children need to get to know each other all over again. It’s emotional. It’s uncomfortable. But it’s a conversation happening inside families everywhere. Are today’s parents underappreciated—or are adult children finally speaking honestly about how they were raised? Listen and decide for yourself. #ErnAndTaTa #Parenting #AdultChildren #Marriage #BlendedFamily #FamilyRelationships #fyp #ernandiso4president
October 1 · 31 min· Video
Compatible or Just Comfortable? The Truth After 15 Years
After 15 years together and raising a blended family of nine kids, Ern and TaTa ask a surprisingly difficult question: Are we actually still compatible—or are we just comfortable being together? Compatibility isn't only about what brought two people together. People grow, priorities change, children enter the picture, responsibilities pile up, and before you know it, a romantic relationship can start feeling more like two business partners running a household. In this episode, Ern and TaTa talk about the “roommate phase,” why couples have to keep dating each other, whether compatibility changes over time, unrealistic relationships on social media, taking responsibility for what you accept from a partner, and why being different from your spouse isn't necessarily a bad thing. They also turn the conversation inward and discuss where their own relationship could use more effort—from getting out of the house and trying new experiences to exercising together and intentionally finding new ways to connect. After 15 years, maybe the goal isn't to stay exactly the people you were when you fell in love. Maybe it's learning how to keep finding each other as you change. Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us. — Ern & TaTa Podcast
September 29 · 34 min· Video
The NEW Rules of Dating: Could You Survive Dating in 2026?
Dating isn’t what it used to be—and Ern & TaTa aren’t sure they’d want any parts of today’s dating world. In this episode, the married couple steps back to the stage before marriage and debates the new rules of dating. Who makes the first move? Can a woman ask a man out and still expect him to pay? How long is too long to text back? Is double texting embarrassing? When does exclusivity actually become a relationship? The conversation gets even more personal when Ern & TaTa revisit how they started dating—including the moment TaTa realized Ern was still talking to other women, their different views on dating multiple people, and the signs Ern may have completely missed along the way. They also tackle situationships, social media stalking after the first date, posting your partner, expensive first dates, who should pay, and whether spending big creates expectations. The dating game has changed. The question is: Are the new rules helping people find relationships—or making everything more complicated? Ern & TaTa Podcast — Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us.
September 24 · 1 hr 3 min
We Almost Lost Us: When Grace, Hurt & Accountability Collide in Marriage | Part 2
In Part 2, the conversation gets personal. What began as a discussion about traditional relationships, providing and expectations turns into Ern and TaTa taking an honest look at their own marriage. Can two hurt people actually heal together? What happens when a husband and wife begin feeling more like roommates than partners? How much grace should you give the person you love—and when does that grace become permission for the same behavior to continue? Ern and TaTa open up about difficult seasons in their marriage, expectations they never fully discussed, moments when they fell out of love with the situation, and the decisions that ultimately helped them find their way back to each other. But they don't agree on everything. TaTa believes marriage requires grace because relationships naturally go through peaks and valleys. Ern questions whether repeatedly accepting behavior that hurts you can eventually make you partly responsible for allowing the cycle to continue. This isn't about pretending to have a perfect marriage. It's about looking honestly at love, hurt, accountability, healing and what it actually takes to keep choosing each other. So here's the question: When does giving your partner grace become giving them permission? And can two hurt people really heal together? Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us. The Ern & TaTa Podcast #ErnAndTaTa #MarriagePodcast #Relationships #Marriage #LoveAndMarriage #CouplesPodcast #fyp #ernandiso4president
September 22 · 41 min· Video
Should a Man Pay 100%? Traditional Men, Modern Women & Relationship Expectations | Part 1
Should a man pay 100% of the bills? That's the question that starts this episode of Ern & TaTa — but it definitely isn't where the conversation ends. Ern and TaTa debate the growing conversation around men being expected to financially provide for the household while women maintain their own independence and income. But what does “providing” actually mean? Does paying the bills make a relationship traditional? What should the other partner contribute? Why does the word “obey” create such a strong reaction? Can someone want a traditional provider while rejecting traditional relationship roles? Then things get personal. Ern and TaTa move into a deeper conversation about failed relationships, red flags, second chances and whether we have to accept some responsibility when we stay with someone after they've repeatedly shown us who they are. It's an honest disagreement between two people with very different perspectives — and neither one is backing down. This is PART 1 of a two-part conversation and intentionally ends in the middle of the discussion. TO BE CONTINUED… Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us. The Ern & TaTa Podcast.
September 17 · 31 min· Video
Why Doesn’t Anyone Talk About the GOOD Side of Marriage?
Everybody tells you what you could lose by getting married—but what about everything you could gain? On this episode of the Ern & TaTa Podcast, Ern and TaTa push back against the constant negative conversation surrounding marriage and talk about the benefits people don't discuss enough: companionship, security, commitment, shared memories, responsibility, growth, and building a life with someone you love. After more than 15 years of marriage, they ask a bigger question: does becoming husband and wife actually change a relationship, or could you have everything marriage offers without ever signing the papers? From divorce and prenups to choosing the right partner, fighting through difficult seasons, learning from failed relationships, and understanding what commitment really means, Ern and TaTa have an open conversation about why marriage may still have value in a generation increasingly questioning whether it's necessary. Is marriage still worth it—or has society simply gotten better at talking about everything that can go wrong? Tap play and join the conversation.
September 15 · 39 min· Video
Why Did We REALLY Get Married? After 15 Years, We Tell the Truth
Why did you marry the person you're with—and would your answer today be the same as it was when you said “I do”? On this episode of the Ern & Tata Podcast, we turn that question on each other. We revisit the beginning of our relationship, Tata's cold feet before getting married, Ern wondering whether he put too much pressure on the decision, and the different experiences from childhood that shaped what each of us thought marriage was supposed to look like. We also talk about past relationships, finding your match, recognizing the signs that someone may—or may not—be right for you, and how a marriage can move through completely different phases as two people grow and change. After 15+ years together, this isn't a conversation about having a perfect marriage. It's about understanding why we chose each other, why we've continued choosing each other, and what we've learned along the way. So we're asking you too: Why did YOU get married?
September 10 · 22 min
Would You Stay? 👀 The Relationship Questions That Could End a Marriage
Would you stay… or would you leave? Ern & Tata put their 15+ year relationship to the test with a series of “Would You Stay?” scenarios — and what starts off funny gets real QUICK. Would you stay with someone who's constantly messy or always late? What about a partner who makes significantly more money but still demands everything be split 50/50? Then things get deeper. Secret credit card debt. Liking thirst traps. Following exes. Deleted messages. Jealousy. Losing affection. And the dreaded words: “I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore.” Ern & Tata give their answers, challenge each other's logic, revisit situations from their own relationship, and debate where compromise ends and disrespect begins. Because it's easy to say what you'd NEVER tolerate…until you're actually faced with it. So play along while you listen: Would YOU stay—or would you leave? Ern & Tata — Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us.
September 8 · 30 min· Video
How Compatible Are You REALLY? Take This Couples Test With Us 😂❤️
How compatible are you and your partner REALLY? On this episode of the Ern & Tata Podcast, we're doing something different: a 30-question Couples Compatibility Test — and we want you and your partner to play along. From money and household responsibilities to friendships, jealousy, arguments, family, social media, affection and intimacy, these questions reveal just how much two people actually agree on. Of course, Ern & Tata quickly discover that answering a simple YES, NO, or CAN'T AGREE isn't always so simple. 😂 Some questions lead to instant agreement, while others turn into full-blown debates about communication, friendships, cooling off after arguments, social media likes and what your partner should automatically know about you. After all 30 questions, Ern & Tata finish with 21 YES answers for a 70% compatibility score. Now we want to know YOUR score. Grab your partner, answer along with us, keep track of your YES answers and see where your relationship lands. Are you a Power Couple, a Solid Team, Happy Debaters, Beautiful Chaos, a Work in Progress… or do y'all just Need to Talk? 😂 It's another funny, unfiltered and very real conversation from Ern & Tata — Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us.
September 3 · 49 min
$5,000 a Month Isn’t Enough?! The Marriage Debate Got HEATED! | Ern & Tata
Is $5,000 a month enough when somebody else is already paying ALL your bills? Ern brings the viral conversation surrounding Joy Taylor to Tata and asks a simple question: If your man handled every bill and gave you $5,000 a month for yourself, would that be enough? Tata says NO—and says she might need closer to $10,000 a month to live comfortably. 😂 That answer sends Ern & Tata down a rabbit hole about shopping, eating out, the “soft girl” lifestyle, financial responsibility, and what it really means for one partner to take care of another. But underneath the money conversation is a much deeper discussion about marriage and reciprocity. Ern explains why he believes some men feel like they're constantly expected to provide while receiving less understanding for what they need emotionally. Tata pushes back with her own experiences and perspective, leading the couple into a passionate debate about gender roles, independence, double standards, traditional marriage, and whether husbands and wives have moved too far away from working together as a unit. Eventually, the conversation comes back to what Ern & Tata believe marriage should really be about: helping each other when one person needs it, challenging each other to grow, raising the family together, and appreciating what your spouse DOES instead of constantly focusing on what they don't do. Funny, heated, personal, and definitely debatable—this is another real conversation from the Ern & Tata Podcast: Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us.
September 1 · 45 min· Video
We Fell for the Image: When Social Media Love Turns Out to Be a Lie
⚠️ Listener discretion: This episode contains discussion of alleged domestic violence and abuse. On this episode of the Ern & Tata Podcast, Ern and Tata revisit their previous conversation surrounding Yada Awakening after serious allegations involving his relationship with Divine Queen Yada surfaced. Tata shares why hearing Divine Queen Yada's story affected her personally after previously watching and supporting Yada's relationship content. Ern takes the conversation in another direction, questioning how easily people can become invested in the version of someone's life they see online. Can someone say all the right things publicly while being a completely different person privately? Are we sometimes attracted to the lifestyle someone represents instead of paying attention to their character? And when someone presents the relationship we've always wanted to see, do we become more willing to ignore the warning signs? Ern and Tata discuss manipulation, love-bombing, control, money, relationship expectations, social-media personas, and why the real test of a relationship isn't always the good days—it's how two people handle the bad ones. The conversation later shifts to the story of a man accused of posing as an NFL player and allegedly scamming women, sparking a funny but revealing debate between Ern and Tata about dating, appearances, money, research, and how easily an image can influence what we believe. It's serious, funny, uncomfortable, and unmistakably Ern & Tata. Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence or abuse, please reach out to someone you trust or an appropriate support organization for help.

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