Divorce University Online

Tammy R. Ferreira

Tammy (Child Custody Coach) shares her experience and insights gained from her own divorce and subsequent step family. She also worked alongside her late husband, Attorney Thomas D. Ferreira, for over 15 years as a paralegal and mediator before beginning her child custody coaching practice in 2019. Thomas passed away on May 1, 2023 and Tammy continues to share the wisdom she gained from Thomas through the years as well as her own perspective. Tammy specializes in helping parents who are dealing with co-parents that have high-conflict personality traits such as narcissism, borderline personality disorder and bipolar.

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#348
April 15 · 32 min
Top 5 Accusations in Child Custody Court
Top 5 Accusations in Child Custody Court - Episode 348 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Accusations abound in child custody court but we typically see a few issues that appear repeatedly. In this episode, I'll discuss the 5 most common ones that I see and how to navigate them in the courtroom. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
#347
April 7 · 25 min
5 Ways Narcissists Manipulate Children
5 Ways Narcissists Manipulate Children - Episode 347 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Narcissists have a long list of ways they manipulate children. In this episode, I'll discuss 5 of the most common ones and give you tips on how you can counter these manipulative techniques in an effort to protect your children and your own sanity. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
#346
March 11 · 25 min
Can ChatGPT Solve Your Child Custody Issues?
Can ChatGPT Solve Your Child Custody Issues? - Episode 346 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. ChatGPT can be a great tool and many of my clients rely on it for everything from communication with their ex, to organizing the large volume of documentation and even preparing court documents. I've also had many clients, after extensive use of ChatGPT, start to realize the things that it doesn't do well. Courts are also becoming more aware of and sensitive to ChatGPT and I've seen Judges go as far as ordering a party not to use it. So, it's important to understand what it does well, what it does not do well, and to always remember that it is simply a tool. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
#345
Oct 14, 2025 · 29 min
Keys to Success with a GAL (Guardian Ad Litem)
Keys to Success with a GAL (Guardian Ad Litem) - Episode 345 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In this episode, I'm going to giving keys to succeeding in your interactions with your children's attorney. Different states have different names for this, it's most frequently called a GAL, which stand for Guardian Ad Litem, a BIA, which stands for Best Interest Attorney, or Minor's Counsel. But regardless of the name, the keys to success are the same. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
#344
Sep 17, 2025 · 34 min
Surviving Custody with a Narcissist
Surviving Custody with a Narcissist - Episode 344 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Surviving Custody with a narcissist or any other high conflict personality without losing your sanity is all about developing the right strategies. For examples, the more conflict, the more specific you need to be in your interactions and your court orders. In this episode, I'm going to give you six strategies to help you survive and succeed in custody with a narcissist. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
#343
Aug 26, 2025 · 26 min
2 Types of Family Law Attorneys
2 Types of Family Law Attorneys - Episode 343 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Most Family Law Attorneys have one of two approaches to how they handle cases. One of these approach makes you feel better emotionally and usually makes clients feel really seen and advocated for but it's not necessarily the "winning approach" for your case. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
#342
Jul 31, 2025 · 29 min
#Coldplaygate
#Coldplaygate - Episode 342 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. A recent social media post from a Coldplay concert went viral. It was a video of a couple who were having an affair and attended the concert together, only to end up on the "kisscam". Ironically, their reactions to being on the screen gave away their secret. Affairs are painful and devastating for everyone involved but many lessons on divorce, child custody and building your future can be learned from these situations if you choose to use them positively. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
#341
Jul 23, 2025 · 28 min
Destroying Your Ex Does Not Win Your Case
Destroying Your Ex Does Not Win Your Case - Episode 341 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Family Court hearings are typically full of all kinds of mudslinging in both directions. Since we are in an adversary system and most people experience the law as "guilty vs innocent", this may seem like a logical approach. But a Family Law Judge doesn't think in terms of "guilty vs innocent" so trying to destroy your ex in court doesn't necessarily solve your problems. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
#340
Jul 16, 2025 · 27 min
Core Foundations in Child Custody
Core Foundations in Child Custody - Episode 340 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. There are core foundations in child custody that apply in almost every case. These principles will give you more success in your case, regardless of your situation and regardless of where you are at in the timeline of your case. Even if you've done these things poorly in the past, you can turn your case around but applying these techniques today. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
#339
Jun 12, 2025 · 26 min
Retaliation in Child Custody Court
Retaliation in Child Custody Court - Episode 339 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When Narcissists win in Court, they often become emboldened and when they lose, they want a rematch. Often, that means retaliation against you that results in constant court hearings and chaos. Does the Court even care about retaliatory motives? Listen now to find out. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
#338
May 30, 2025 · 24 min
Were You the One Doing Everything
In Episode 338 "Were You the One Doing Everything?" we will discuss how I often hear clients say they "did everything" in their relationship. What you may not realize is that doing everything is a trauma response. People who "do everything" also frequently over-commit , struggle to delegate, mistrust others, are perfectionists, and are reluctant to ask for help. Hyper-independence is a way of avoiding needing on others in order to avoid being hurt. It also makes you the perfect target for a narcissist.
#337
May 7, 2025 · 31 min
What You Say V. How You Say It (In Court)
What You Say V. How You Say It (In Court) – Episode 337 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Most people get very focused on the "what" part of the information they want the court to know. Much of my work as a coach is teaching people "how" to say the things they need to in a way that will resonate with the court. I'm going to give you 5 examples of what vs. how and then share 5 key principles to help you apply these techniques to your own examples. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
#336
Apr 30, 2025 · 30 min
Trauma Bond with a Narcissist
Trauma Bond with a Narcissist – Episode 336 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Trauma bonds are created through a biochemical reaction in your body similar to addiction. So, it's no wonder we have trouble breaking free, long after the relationship has ended. We often continue on the emotional rollercoaster that is a relationship with a narcissist. How do you know if you have a trauma bond and what can you do to break it? To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
#335
Apr 22, 2025 · 27 min
5 Common Legal Traps with a Narcissist
5 Common Legal Traps with a Narcissist – Episode 335 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In this episode, I'll discuss five of the most common traps we see narcissists use to try to gain the upper hand in Court. Understanding how the narcissists weaponize these traps and what steps you can take to prevent them is crucial to your success against them in your child custody case. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
#334
Apr 16, 2025 · 27 min
Exposing the Narcissist's Abuse
Exposing the Narcissist's Abuse – Episode 334 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Parents are often concerned about being able to expose narcissistic abuse from the other parent. In this episode, I'll share tips to help you gather the information you need to help you expose the behaviors. I'll also talk about how to present the information in a child-focused way that succeeds and not in a narcissist-focused way, which almost always fails. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
#333
Apr 8, 2025 · 26 min
Self Love is Key to Ending Toxic Relationships
Self Love is Key to Ending Toxic Relationships– Episode 333 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. The toxic patterns of a narcissist-codependent relationship don't magically end just because the relationship ends, especially if we have to co-parent with the narcissist. The same unhealthy dynamics continue t until we do the internal work that is required to develop self-love and break our unhealthy relationship patterns. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
#332
Apr 1, 2025 · 27 min
Presenting Your Child Custody Case
Presenting Your Child Custody Case – Episode 332 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Whether presenting your case to the court or another expert, one of the big mistakes people make is they talk about their case using words that are open to interpretation or by using feeling words such as angry, upset, etc. There is a very simple technique you can use to present your case in a way that will help the Judge to get a clear picture of the situation and make the labor of presenting your case easier for you. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
#331
Mar 26, 2025 · 27 min
Coercive Control by Narcissists
Coercive Control by Narcissists – Episode 331 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Coercive control is an act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim. Several states have recognized coercive control as a form of domestic violence. Narcissists use coercive control to interfere with the free will of their partners and these behaviors carry over into custody issues after separation. There. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
#330
Mar 18, 2025 · 26 min
Narcissists Want a Rematch
Narcissists Want a Rematch – Episode 330 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. So, you finally made it through your court process and have your orders. Now, you'll have some peace, right? If you're dealing with a narcissistic or high-conflict person, that's not the likely scenario. They frequently want to appeal or want a rematch at the next possible date, which means court over and over again. I've seen people spend years in and out of court. There are key strategies you need to implement to help protect you and your children from future requests for modification of your orders. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
#329
Mar 10, 2025 · 27 min
Court-Ordered Custody Mediation Against a Narcissist
Court-Ordered Custody Mediation Against a Narcissist – Episode 329 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Mediation is required in most states prior to going to court on custody issues. But, mediation can look very different depending on where you are located. In this episode, I'll break down the different types of mediation to help you know what to expect and then I'll share some basic success principles for negotiating with a narcissist. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!

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