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Coaching the Whole Educator

Becca Silver

Coaching the Whole Educator, hosted by education consultant and author Becca Silver, is a podcast on instructional coaching, teacher leadership, and school leadership for anyone who wants to strengthen their educators' effectiveness and resilience, especially the ones who need it most. Each week, you'll hear quick tips, proven coaching strategies, and coaching mindsets designed to keep you on top of your game.


This show is rooted in a human-centered coaching approach, where we get things done through people's humanity, not around it. Whether you're new to instructional coaching or a seasoned coach or leader looking for fresh perspective, you'll learn how to focus on the mindsets and motivations driving unproductive behaviors. By getting to the root of teacher resistance, using the Catalyst Mindsets framework from Becca Silver's book, The Resistance Solution, you'll discover how to build stronger relationships, lead with clarity, and create lasting impact in your school.


You can reach Becca Silver at info@thewholeeducator.com.

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  • S4 · E206
    Sunday · 35 min

    #206: Why Do Innovative Teachers Go Back to Traditional Instruction? Bob Lenz on PBL and the Systems That Pull Them Back

    Episode Summary What if the scripted curriculum we hand new teachers is the very thing burning them out? In this episode of Coaching the Whole Educator, Becca Silver talks with Bob Lenz, CEO of PBLWorks, about how project-based learning (PBL) helps early career teachers thrive instead of just surviving, and why school systems built for consistency keep pulling innovative teachers back into compliance. Bob shares findings from a randomized controlled trial of the Knowledge in Action AP curriculum, where PBL students outscored peers on AP exams by 8% in year one and 10% in year two, across all demographics. He explains why teachers trained in student-centered schools often revert to traditional instruction within three years of moving to a traditional school, and why giving new teachers high-quality PBL curriculum acts as a “floor,” not a script. Becca connects the conversation to her resistance work, naming the compliance culture that shapes how we treat both students and adults. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why the portrait of a graduate works as a “Trojan horse” for deeper learning and PBL adoption The biggest gap between teacher prep programs and day one in the classroom How PBL partner districts improved chronic absenteeism (one middle school went from 66% to 96% attendance) The four areas leaders need to address for systemwide PBL: vision, conditions, professional learning, and measurement Why “two projects a year” is a realistic starting point for reluctant departments How making expert thinking visible builds new teacher agency and confidence Why PBL is an equity issue, and why it may be less “innovation” than overdue updating Who this episode is for: instructional coaches, principals, district leaders, and teacher leaders supporting new teachers, implementing project-based learning, or working to reduce teacher burnout and turnover. Frequently asked questions Does project-based learning improve test scores? According to Bob, a randomized controlled study validated by USC found PBL students scored 8 to 10% higher on AP exams than students in traditional classes, with strong gains in critical thinking and communication. How can schools support new teachers with PBL? Pair high-quality, student-centered curriculum with embedded professional learning and coaching, so new teachers start from a strong floor instead of designing units from scratch on Sunday night. Why do innovative teaching practices fade? When school policies, pacing, and observation practices conflict with student-centered goals, teachers drift back to compliance-based instruction. Leaders have to surface those conflicts and build a coherent system. Timestamps 00:00 Welcome and introduction to Bob Lenz 00:58 What PBLWorks does and why agency matters 01:50 Portrait of a graduate as a path to PBL 05:10 Helping new teachers thrive, not survive 06:40 The AP study results 10:10 Curriculum as a floor and giving Sundays back to teachers 12:55 The gap between teacher prep and day one 15:00 Compliance curriculum, burnout, and attendance gains 16:20 Compliance culture and resistance 17:00 Schools built for consistency, not innovation 19:30 Moving the whole system: what leaders need in place 24:00 Agency, professional judgment, and making thinking visible 27:30 Innovation or overdue update? 29:20 PBL as an equity floor 30:20 Bob’s new book and resources Resources mentioned PBLWorks: pblworks.org PBL for All: A Leader’s Guide by Bob Lenz and Lisa Morales PBL World coaching academy (June, Napa Valley) Keep going Get The Resistance Solution: https://amzn.to/4pRCaa5 Lead your team through it with Book Study Facilitator Training: https://www.thewholeeducator.com/book-study-facilitator-training Let's Stay Connected! Website | Instagram | Twitter | Linkedin | Facebook | Contact Us

  • S4 · E205
    Thursday · 6 min

    #205: A Skill Gap Is Not the Same as a Will Gap [Resistance Solution Mini-Session]

    You've modeled it, co-planned it, and practiced it side by side, and it's still not showing up in the classroom. In this Resistance Solution Mini-Session, Becca Silver reads from Chapter 2 of The Resistance Solution on why more PD and more modeling often miss the mark. Coaches and school leaders get one question to ask before their next coaching move. In this episode: Why resistance often looks like a skill problem on the surface The quiet calculation teachers run before trying something new: Is this worth it? What if it doesn't work? Can I pull this off? Why a fourth round of modeling rarely fixes a will gap This week's challenge: pick the coaching conversation that keeps looping and ask yourself, "Is this a gap in skill, or a gap in will?" If it's will, swap your next model for a question. Take the free quiz, What Is Resistance Costing You?: https://www.thewholeeducator.com/resistance-quiz Get The Resistance Solution: https://amzn.to/4pRCaa5 Free reader tools: thewholeeducator.com/book-resources Let's Stay Connected! Website | Instagram | Twitter | Linkedin | Facebook | Contact Us

  • S4 · E204
    October 12 · 33 min

    #204: Nobody Asked You to Be the Sheriff: How Aspiring Leaders Get Trapped by Other People’s Expectations

    What happens when a new school leader tries so hard to meet everyone’s expectations that they stop leading like themselves? In this episode of Coaching the Whole Educator, Becca Silver talks with Joshua Stamper, author of Aspire to Lead and host of the Aspire to Lead podcast, about perseverance, adversity, and the quiet ways aspiring leaders slip into compliance while trying to prove they belong. Josh shares his unexpected path from art teacher to athletic coach, Dean of Students, and assistant principal for nearly a decade, and now speaker, author, and leadership consultant. He opens up about his first months as Dean of Students, when staff and families expected him to be “the sheriff.” He tried to fill that role, and discipline referrals climbed every month. Then he made a shift: he got clear on his own values, rebuilt the campus approach to student behavior around teaching skills instead of punishment, and watched both the data and the culture turn around. Becca and Josh also dig into: Influence vs. control: how to tell whether you want to lead people or simply want more control over decisions, and why “I’m just a teacher” holds back progress How “no” creates compliance culture: why turning down a teacher’s idea can move them from ownership back to compliance, and what a “yes, and” leader does instead The cost of being chosen: navigating jealousy, rivalry, and shifting peer relationships when you’re tapped for leadership early Rejection as “not yet”: what Josh learned from being passed over for promotion, and why talking about what you have done beats what you would do in leadership interviews Regulation under pressure: why anticipating hard moments (and deciding in advance who you’ll be) is one of the strongest leadership practices, plus Becca’s reframe that every breakdown carries the seed of a breakthrough The ASPIRE framework: Activate, Support, Persevere, Identity, Reflection, and Execution, with practical advice on “activating” by becoming visibly available to your admin team This episode is for teachers considering an administrative path, assistant principals eyeing the next role, instructional coaches, and any educator who leads with or without a title. About the guest: Joshua Stamper is a former art teacher, coach, Dean of Students, and assistant principal who now speaks, writes, and coaches educators nationwide. He is the author of Aspire to Lead and The Language of Behavior, hosts three podcasts, and leads the Aspire to Lead cohort for aspiring school leaders. Connect with Joshua: https://joshstamper.com | Instagram and X: @joshua__stamper Explore Becca’s book: The Resistance Solution: https://amzn.to/4pRCaa5 Lead your own book study with the Book Study Facilitator Training: https://www.thewholeeducator.com/book-study-facilitator-training Let's Stay Connected! Website | Instagram | Twitter | Linkedin | Facebook | Contact Us

  • S4 · E203
    October 8 · 24 min

    #203: The "Always Be Coaching" Mindset with Chrissy Beltran

    Ever leave a coaching conversation feeling great about the advice you gave, only to come back a week later and find nothing has changed? You're not alone, and it's probably not the teacher's fault. In this episode, Becca sits down with her friend and colleague coaching master Chrissy Beltran, known to many as Buzzing with Ms. B, to unpack why coaching conversations so often go nowhere. Chrissy shares why coaches feel pressure to have all the answers, how teachers often ask for help in the only way they know how (a complaint), and the simple mindset shift that keeps every interaction moving toward real partnership. In this episode, you'll learn: Why our "advice monster" is so loud as coaches (hint: it feels really good) The difference between coaching and consulting, and why quick fixes rarely change thinking Why "it doesn't matter what you say, it matters what they hear" Chrissy's ABC model: Always Be Coaching, and where the idea came from (spoiler: knives) How to narrow your follow-up to a simple yes or no ("Can I come by tomorrow at 9?") Why you should offer two or three support options, tops The red flag phrases that signal it's time to point the finger back at yourself The difference between manipulation and intentionally building connection Why connection is the shortest distance to coachability Timestamps: 00:00 Welcome and introducing Chrissy Beltran 00:55 The problem: a whole conversation and nothing changes 01:29 Why coaches feel they have to have all the answers 03:26 Taming the advice monster 05:22 That's not coaching, that's consulting 06:30 The psychology on both sides of unsolicited advice 08:00 When "okay" at the end of PD really means compliance 08:57 Selling Cutco and the birth of Always Be Coaching 11:45 Making follow-up easy to say yes to 13:00 Showing up the next day with two or three options 14:37 "Guess what? They're coming back tomorrow." 15:42 Red flag phrases like "Well, I told them" 18:07 Manipulation vs. authentic connection 19:47 Being right vs. making a difference 21:24 Chrissy's new book, Expand Your Coaching Toolbox About Chrissy Beltran: Chrissy Beltran is an instructional coaching expert, the voice behind Buzzing with Ms. B, and host of the Instructional Coaching with Ms. B podcast. Her new book, Expand Your Coaching Toolbox: 20 Practical Strategies That Improve Teaching and Learning (ASCD), is a hands-on guidebook with strategies for relationship building, knowledge and alignment, and instructional skill, each with a note on how to forward the coaching conversation. Resources mentioned: Expand Your Coaching Toolbox by Chrissy Beltran: pre-order through ASCD now, available everywhere (including Amazon) in November Connect with Becca: Learn more about Becca's work and The Resistance Solution at thewholeeducator.com. Let's Stay Connected! Website | Instagram | Twitter | Linkedin | Facebook | Contact Us

  • S4 · E202
    October 4 · 6 min

    #202: The Eye Roll You Can't Stop Thinking About [Resistance Solution Session]

    The strategy everyone nodded along to in August? It's thriving in one classroom and missing in action next door. And that eye roll from the back of the room is still living rent-free in your head. In this first episode of Solution Sessions, a new weekly segment of Coaching the Whole Educator, Becca reads the opening pages of The Resistance Solution and names what most leaders feel but rarely say out loud: the emotional whiplash of thinking a teacher is on board, then walking into their classroom and finding nothing has changed. When that happens, most of us reach for one of two explanations. Either some people just don't want to change, or we need more accountability. Both are understandable. Neither gets you very far. Becca offers a different read: the eye roll, the polite nod, and the strategy that never shows up aren't verdicts on the teacher or on you. They're information. In this episode: Why uneven implementation is one of the most common pain points coaches and leaders report The two default reactions to resistance, and why neither one works One question to bring into your walkthroughs this week Your challenge: Pick one classroom where the training isn't showing up yet. Before restating the expectation, ask, "What's getting in the way right now?" Then listen. Wondering what resistance is costing your school? Take the free What Is Resistance Costing You? quiz and get next steps matched to where you are: https://www.thewholeeducator.com/resistance-quiz Let's Stay Connected! Website | Instagram | Twitter | Linkedin | Facebook | Contact Us

  • S4 · E201
    September 28 · 24 min

    #201: Your Staff's Hidden Superpowers: Building a Neuroinclusive Workplace Without Lowering Expectations

    What if the colleague you've been describing as "quirky" is the most underused talent in your building? In this episode of Coaching the Whole Educator, Becca Silver sits down with Justin Permenter of NDI Institute to talk about building workplaces where neurodivergent educators, coaches, and leaders can perform, contribute, and lead without lowering expectations. Roughly one in five people is neurodivergent, including people with ADHD, autism, dyslexia, and dyspraxia. Yet most schools and organizations are built for neurotypical ways of working by default. Students get IEPs and 504 plans. Adults get a workplace that expects everyone to sit at the same table, the same way, on the same timeline. Justin shares his journey from the classroom in Kansas City to international education in Qatar and his work with Franklin Covey's Leader in Me, plus the story of Omar, a 16-year-old autistic intern who outperformed full-time staff at the Waldorf Astoria within three weeks. Becca opens up about her own ADHD diagnosis and the moment she started seeing it as a strength instead of a deficit. You'll learn: Why accommodation and compliance checklists aren't the same as strengths activation How curiosity (the C in NDI's CLEAR framework) replaces judgment when a colleague works differently What "results alignment" means: keeping outcomes high while allowing multiple pathways to get there One thing school leaders and instructional coaches can do tomorrow to lead more neuroinclusively Perfect for instructional coaches, principals, district leaders, and anyone who leads adults in schools. Resources mentioned: Website: www.ndiinstitute.com Webinar on October 6th: https://www.ndiinstitute.com/webinar Free C.L.E.A.R. Framework: https://www.ndiinstitute.com/download The Resistance Solution: Why Educators Resist and What They Need Instead: amzn.to/4pRCaa5 Resistance Solution Book Study Facilitator Training: https://www.thewholeeducator.com/book-study-facilitator-training Let's Stay Connected! Website | Instagram | Twitter | Linkedin | Facebook | Contact Us

  • S5 · E200
    September 20 · 24 min

    #200: Will Drivers: The Motivations Behind Every Conversation

    Ever notice how the same piece of feedback lands beautifully with one person on your team and completely bombs with another? Robyn Jackson is back, and this time we're digging into Will Drivers, her framework for the four things that motivate every human being: mastery, purpose, belonging, and autonomy. Here's the twist. Each driver comes with its own core question running in the background of someone's mind: how, why, who, and what. Once you know someone's dominant driver, you stop guessing why they're not responding to your coaching and start speaking a language they can actually hear. We get into: What Will Drivers are and where the theory came from Why the people you connect with most easily probably share your dominant driver How the same feedback needs to be delivered four completely different ways depending on who's receiving it Why some of the meanest, most aimless, or most struggling people on your team are driven by the exact thing they seem worst at The principal who couldn't get his staff moving because he was autonomy driven and they were mastery driven, and neither one understood the other Robyn's reframe for ditching the shoulds: be curious, not furious This one will have you diagnosing your own driver, your partner's, and probably three people on your leadership team before the episode is even over. 📖 The Resistance Solution: amzn.to/4pRCaa5 Book Study Facilitator Training: www.thewholeeducator.com/book-study-facilitator-training About Robyn Jackson: Robyn R. Jackson is the founder of Mindsteps and the creator of the Buildership framework. She's spent years helping leaders move from compliance-driven management to real ownership, and her Will Drivers work grew out of motivation research she originally applied to students before realizing it works just as well on adults. Connect with Robyn: 100PercentPrincipal.com — free weekly newsletter with practical tools for the challenges you're actually facing. Let's Stay Connected! Website | Instagram | Twitter | Linkedin | Facebook | Contact Us

  • S5 · E199
    September 7 · 34 min

    #199: Stop Waiting for PD: How Self Mentorship Builds Ruckus Maker Principals

    **Join the Resistance Solution Facebook Community** https://www.facebook.com/share/g/19TRR5VfpX/ Danny Bauer of Better Leaders Better Schools joins Becca Silver to unpack self mentorship, why traditional PD falls short, and how to become a ruckus maker. Most professional development follows the same script: someone else decides what educators need to learn, when they need to learn it, and how. Danny Bauer, founder of Better Leaders Better Schools and creator of the Ruckus Maker movement, calls this "permission-based development," and he thinks it is holding school leaders back. In this episode, Becca Silver talks with Danny about self mentorship: a radical ownership model where school leaders define their own growth instead of waiting for central office to approve it. Danny shares real stories of principals who used self mentorship to build "sticky core values," eliminate outdated practices like midterms and finals, and protect their own boundaries without sacrificing results. He and Becca also dig into an uncomfortable pattern Danny has seen again and again: leaders who win Principal of the Year and then get placed on an improvement plan for doing the very work that made them stand out. If you have ever sensed something was off in how your school or district operates but could not quite name it, this conversation gives you language and a starting question to explore it. What You'll Learn What self mentorship is and how it differs from traditional professional development Why Danny calls conventional PD "permission-based development," and why that framing matters Real examples of self mentorship in action: sticky core values, eliminating midterms and finals, and protecting personal boundaries as a leader Why some of the most innovative school leaders get quietly punished for standing out How systems resist disruption, and why that resistance is not personal A simple question you can ask tomorrow to start thinking like a "Ruckus Maker" **Join the Resistance Solution Facebook Community** https://www.facebook.com/share/g/19TRR5VfpX/ 📖 The Resistance Solution: amzn.to/4pRCaa5 Guest Bio Danny Bauer is the founder of Better Leaders Better Schools and the voice behind the Ruckus Maker movement in education. After years in the classroom and central office, Danny now helps school leaders build campus experiences worth showing up for through coaching, a mastermind community, and the Ruckusmakers Media Substack. Key Quotes Danny Bauer on traditional professional development: PD is often too little, too late, and disconnected, arriving on a schedule the system sets rather than the leader. On self mentorship: it is a radical ownership over your own growth and vision, not a curriculum someone else hands you. On why leaders get punished for innovating: fragile egos at central office sometimes resent when a subordinate gets the credit for doing something new. On the mindset shift: the real question is not "can I change this," but what would need to be true for it to be different. Timestamps 03:00 What is self mentorship, and how is it different from professional development 05:30 Why Danny renamed PD "permission-based development" 07:30 Real self mentorship stories: sticky core values, eliminating midterms and finals, protecting boundaries 12:00 The Ruckus Maker movement and questioning how school "has to be" 15:00 Why Principal of the Year winners sometimes end up on improvement plans 18:30 Systems built to stay alive, and why disruption meets resistance 20:30 Where to find Danny's free resources 22:00 One question to ask tomorrow to start your own self mentorship journey Resources Mentioned Better Leaders Better Schools: betterleadersbetterschools.com Ruckusmakers Media (Danny's Substack of mini-books on leadership and school change) The Art of Self Mentorship (Danny's free mini-book) Let's Stay Connected! Website | Instagram | Twitter | Linkedin | Facebook | Contact Us

  • S5 · E198
    August 23 · 34 min

    #198: What Great Lesson Planning Teaches Us About Great Coaching (with Lori Cohen)

    In this episode, Becca sits down with instructional coaching and lesson planning expert Lori Cohen (co-author of The PD Book) to talk about her new book, The Science of Lesson Planning, and what transformative lesson design can teach coaches and school leaders about building psychological safety in schools. They dig into psychological safety, the difference between coaching and "coaxing," and why celebration and reflection only work when they happen together. In this episode: Why great lesson planning is about more than activities and standards How psychological safety gets built (and spent) in daily interactions, not just at the start of the year The real difference between conventional and transformative practice: who holds control of the "right answer" Why "coaxing" isn't coaching, and how it breaks trust Why celebration and reflection have to happen together for real growth 📖 The Resistance Solution: amzn.to/4pRCaa5 Book Study Facilitator Training: www.thewholeeducator.com/book-study-facilitator-training About Lori Cohen: Lori Cohen has spent three decades in education as a teacher, instructional coach, school leader, consultant, and author. Her new book, The Science of Lesson Planning, releases in September through ASCD (preorders open now). She is also co-author of The PD Book: 7 Habits that Transform Professional Development (with Elena Aguilar) and Integrating Educator Well-Being, Growth, and Evaluation: Four Foundations for Leaders. Let's Stay Connected! Website | Instagram | Twitter | Linkedin | Facebook | Contact Us

  • S4 · E197
    August 2 · 47 min

    #197: Why Being Clear Can Feel Hard (with Jennifer Abrams): Do “Hard” Conversations Actually Have to Be Hard?

    In this episode, Becca sits down with Jennifer Abrams, author of five books on adult-to-adult communication in schools including Having Hard Conversations and Stretching Your Learning Edges, for a conversation on hard conversations, school culture, and adult development in education. Topics covered in this episode: The difference between resistance and a hard conversation, and where one line ends and the other begins Why "niceness culture" in schools gets confused with kindness, and how it undermines belonging The cognitive load behind clear communication, and why so many educators avoid it The neuroscience of being right: why our brains reward judgment over effectiveness The five capacities from Stretching Your Learning Edges: knowing our identities, suspending certainty, taking responsibility for communication, building resilience, and engaging in reciprocity A simple, practical cue for naming dysregulation in a meeting, without shame Robert Kegan's stages of adult development (instrumental, socialized, self-authoring, self-transforming) and how understanding them builds empathy across a school team Guest: Jennifer Abrams, adult communication and school culture expert, jenniferabrams.com | LinkedIn | jennifer@jenniferabrams.com Grab your copy of 📖 The Resistance Solution Book Study Facilitator Training: www.thewholeeducator.com/book-study-facilitator-training Let's Stay Connected! Website | Instagram | Twitter | Linkedin | Facebook | Contact Us

  • S4 · E196
    July 18 · 23 min

    #196: The "We vs. Me" Test: Why the Same Staff Meeting Energizes Some Teachers and Drains Others (with Dr. Sheldon Eakins)

    What if the pushback you're getting from teachers isn't about the initiative at all, but about a hidden cultural mismatch in how your school defines belonging? In this episode of Coaching the Whole Educator, Becca Silver sits down with Dr. Sheldon Eakins, author of Meaningful Classroom Management, What Are You Bringing to the Potluck?, and Leading Equity, to explore a dimension of belonging that rarely gets airtime in school leadership conversations: individualism versus collectivism. Dr. Eakins explains why American schools are built around individualist norms (GPAs, valedictorians, teacher of the month, "stay in your classroom") while many students and staff come from collectivist backgrounds where success is defined by "we," not "me." When leaders don't recognize this mismatch, the result looks like resistance, disengagement, and retention problems. In this episode, you'll learn: How individualism vs. collectivism shows up in staff meetings, PLCs, and professional development, and why "sit and get" works for some educators and alienates others Dr. Eakins' LENS framework for leaders: Look for biases, Examine communication, Notice group dynamics, Shift perspective How to separate facts from interpretations when you catch yourself labeling a colleague "rude" or "disengaged" Why introversion and extroversion are NOT the same as individualism and collectivism Practical ways to design staff culture that balances individual recognition with collective connection This conversation is essential listening for instructional coaches, principals, and district leaders working on teacher retention, staff culture, psychological safety, and buy-in for change initiatives. Grab your copy of 📖 The Resistance Solution Book Study Facilitator Training: www.thewholeeducator.com/book-study-facilitator-training Connect with Dr. Sheldon Eakins: IG: @sheldoneakins Twitter: @sheldoneakins Website: purposeful247.com Books: Amazon Let's Stay Connected! Website | Instagram | Twitter | Linkedin | Facebook | Contact Us

  • S4 · E195
    July 11 · 10 min

    #195: The Resistance Tax: The Hidden Costs of Misunderstood Resistance

    In this episode of Coaching the Whole Educator, Becca Silver explores the hidden costs schools and districts pay when resistance is misunderstood. She calls it the resistance tax: the quiet drain on resources, relationships, and results that happens when leaders respond to resistance with pressure, compliance, or more accountability instead of understanding what is driving it. Becca breaks down five major forms of the resistance tax: • The turnover tax • The implementation tax • The time tax • The trust tax • The student success tax She also shares why resistance should be treated as information, not defiance, and how educational leaders can begin identifying where their organization may be paying more than they realize. The episode also introduces The Resistance Solution and the Resistance Solution Book Study Facilitator Training, a train-the-trainer experience designed to help schools and districts build the internal capacity to diagnose resistance, strengthen ownership, and lead sustainable change. If your organization is struggling with teacher turnover, initiative fatigue, low buy-in, inconsistent implementation, or stalled change efforts, this episode will help you see the true cost of resistance in a new way. [Book Study Facilitator Training] www.thewholeeducator.com/book-study-facilitator-training Grab your copy of 📖 The Resistance Solution Let's Stay Connected! Website | Instagram | Twitter | Linkedin | Facebook | Contact Us

  • S4 · E194
    June 14 · 27 min

    #194: Stop Assuming Great Teachers Make Great Mentors

    What if one of the biggest missing pieces in teacher retention is how we support mentor teachers? In this episode, Becca talks with John Pascarella, professor of clinical education at USC and Chief Academic Officer of the USC Race and Equity Center, about why mentor teachers are often asked to support new teachers without the training, role clarity, compensation, or coaching they actually need. They unpack why being a great teacher does not automatically make someone a great mentor, how mentoring adults requires a different skill set, and why schools need to stop treating mentorship like informal volunteer work. This conversation is for instructional coaches, school leaders, district leaders, and teacher leaders who want to strengthen new teacher support, improve teacher retention, and build more effective mentoring systems in schools. John's Info: Faculty profile | CCTE Policy Brief (free download, includes my brief on mentor teachers) | Learning Policy Institute (Stanford University) Grab your copy of 📖 The Resistance Solution Access the FREE book resources here. Let's Stay Connected! Website | Instagram | Twitter | Linkedin | Facebook | Contact Us

  • S4 · E193
    June 8 · 24 min

    #193: When High Expectations Meet Resistance: What Should Leaders Actually Do?

    In this episode of Coaching the Whole Educator, Becca Silver talks with Principal Kafele about what happens when high expectations meet resistance in schools and how leaders can respond without slipping into compliance-driven leadership. Together, they explore how school leaders can create a true culture of high expectations, not by demanding instant transformation, but by helping educators experience steady, measurable growth. Principal Kafele shares why leaders must connect expectations to a larger purpose, build authentic relationships with staff, and understand what is beneath the pushback before deciding how to respond. This conversation digs into the difference between teacher resistance, overwhelm, and low expectations, and why leaders cannot diagnose those differences without ongoing trust, coaching, and collaboration. Becca and Principal Kafele also discuss the role of leadership identity, including how the way leaders see themselves shapes how they respond to hesitation, pushback, and resistance. Listeners will walk away with practical insight into how to: Hold high expectations without leading through compliance Recognize growth as progress, not perfection Build a school culture where expectations become normal behavior Respond to resistance with curiosity instead of judgment Strengthen leadership identity during difficult conversations Support educators through change while maintaining clear standards This episode is especially valuable for principals, assistant principals, instructional coaches, district leaders, and school leadership teams who are navigating resistance to change, supporting adult learning, and working to build cultures of growth, accountability, and meaningful progress. [BOOK] Grab There Resistance Solution: Why Educator Resist and What They Need Instead HERE! Grab your copy of 📖 The Resistance Solution Let's Stay Connected! Website | Instagram | Twitter | Linkedin | Facebook | Contact Us

  • S4 · E192
    June 7 · 40 min

    #192: The Resistance Solution in Action: An Instructional Leader's Perspective

    What does The Resistance Solution actually look like in a real school? In this episode, Chrystin Sheffield shares how the book transformed the way she leads. She talks about how it helped her: • Stop taking teacher resistance personally and start diagnosing what's really driving it • Navigate difficult conversations with less frustration and more confidence • Give walkthrough feedback that feels meaningful instead of repetitive • Build trust more intentionally instead of simply hoping relationships develop • Create accountability without creating defensiveness • Understand why teachers say "I don't have time" and how to respond in a way that actually helps • Move beyond surface-level coaching conversations to uncover root causes One of my favorite moments was hearing Chrystin say that before reading the book, she often felt like she should have all the answers as a leader. What she discovered instead was that the most powerful thing she could do wasn't solve the problem for people. It was understand the unmet need underneath the resistance. This conversation is about what happened when the ideas in the book were applied in a real school by a real leader facing real challenges. If you're a principal, assistant principal, coach, or district leader who has ever wondered why feedback isn't sticking, coaching conversations aren't leading to change, or teachers seem resistant despite your best efforts, I think you'll see yourself in this conversation. Grab your copy of 📖 The Resistance Solution Access the FREE book resources here. (And you can find it at all major book outlets) Let's Stay Connected! Website | Instagram | Twitter | Linkedin | Facebook | Contact Us

  • S4 · E191
    May 31 · 23 min

    #191: How to Collect Data on Teacher Well Being

    In this episode, Becca sits down with Jessica Werner, founder of North Shore Learning, to unpack a hard truth in schools: many leaders believe they understand staff well-being, but are relying on assumptions instead of real data. Together, they explore how well-being, retention, and leadership decisions are deeply connected and why anecdotal signals like “people seem happy” or “no one is in crisis” are not enough to guide action. Jessica shares how collecting simple, meaningful data can help leaders identify what is actually impacting teacher satisfaction, workload, and long-term retention. The conversation highlights how proactive support, rather than reactive responses, can reduce burnout and turnover while strengthening school culture. They also discuss how schools with stronger retention intentionally pair every new initiative with a support plan, recognizing that added expectations without support erode well-being over time. In this episode: • Why leaders often misread staff well-being without data • The difference between anecdotal impressions and actionable insights • Simple ways to start gathering meaningful well-being data immediately • How attendance patterns, workload, and informal check-ins reveal hidden trends • Why every initiative should include a parallel plan for teacher support • The financial and cultural cost of reactive turnover versus proactive retention • How acknowledging teachers’ full lives outside of school shapes morale and sustainability The core message: well-being is not a single program or strategy. It is a set of conditions that can be measured, supported, and strengthened when leaders shift from assumptions to data-informed action. Learn more about Jessica & Northshore Learning at northshorelearning.org, the place where school support meets real classroom impact. Grab your copy of 📖 The Resistance Solution Access the FREE book resources here. [FREE WEBINAR] Breaking Through Resistance: Contact us for the recording Let's Stay Connected! Website | Instagram | Twitter | Linkedin | Facebook | Contact Us

  • May 26 · 26 min

    #190.5: "The Resistance Solution": A CELEBRATION!

    Okay y’all… this episode is basically what happens when two people who are deeply obsessed with leadership, resistance, ownership, and human behavior finally hit “record.” 😂 Becca sits down with leadership expert Casey Watts to celebrate the release of The Resistance Solution… but the conversation quickly turns into a deep, real-time exploration of what actually causes resistance in schools and why so many leadership strategies fall apart after the initial excitement fades. What makes this episode different is that Becca doesn’t just explain the ideas from the book. She tells the story of how the work evolved over years of coaching, research, frustration, trial and error, and eventually discovering the five Catalyst Mindsets™. The episode also dives deeply into ownership mindset, why buy-in is not the end goal, and the missing piece most schools overlook: agency. There’s also a powerful conversation about language and why phrases like “resistant teachers” quietly shape the way leaders interact with people. Becca and Casey unpack why resistance is not a personality trait, but a temporary human experience tied to unmet needs. If you’ve ever thought: “Why are people still pulling back even after we communicated the vision clearly?” or “Why do some accountability strategies completely flop?” …this episode is going to hit home. 📘 The Resistance Solution gives instructional coaches and school leaders practical tools, diagnostic frameworks, coaching processes, and human-centered strategies for navigating resistance without relying on pressure, compliance, or generic one-size-fits-all solutions. Grab your copy of 📖 The Resistance Solution [FREE WEBINAR] Breaking Through Resistance: Contact Us for the recording Let's Stay Connected! Website | Instagram | Twitter | Linkedin | Facebook | Contact Us

  • S4 · E190
    May 24 · 31 min

    #190: The 5 Powerful Coaching Practices (and a surprising secret to success)

    [FREE] Find Your Resistance Type Quiz: Find out the type of resistance you are navigating In this episode of Coaching the Whole Educator, Becca sits down with Jason Adair from the Southern Regional Education Board to explore what actually makes instructional coaching effective in schools. Together, they unpack SREB’s new Powerful Coaching Practices framework and discuss why so many coaching initiatives fail to create lasting instructional change. This conversation dives into instructional coaching strategies, teacher feedback, coaching cycles, relationship-based leadership, professional learning, and implementation challenges in K-12 schools. Becca and Jason discuss the importance of trust, goal-setting, observation and feedback, instructional leadership, and why coaching must move beyond compliance-based approaches to create real teacher growth and student learning outcomes. They also tackle common coaching mistakes, including “facili-manipulation,” surface-level feedback, unclear goals, and the breakdown of coaching due to lack of time, competing priorities, and weak systems. The episode offers practical insight for instructional coaches, principals, district leaders, and anyone focused on improving teacher development and school improvement efforts. Key topics include: Instructional coaching best practices Building trust with teachers Coaching cycles and feedback loops Teacher goal-setting and ownership Observation and actionable feedback School leadership and implementation Professional learning communities (PLCs) Coaching for meaningful instructional change Avoiding compliance-driven coaching Time management for instructional coaches and principals If you’re a school leader, instructional coach, or educator trying to improve follow-through, teacher engagement, and instructional practice, this episode offers practical frameworks and real-world coaching insights you can immediately apply in schools. Links from the episode: SREB Summer Conference (Coaching Community) Powerful Coaching Practices Powerful instructional Practices [FREE WEBINAR] Breaking Through Resistance: Contact us for the recording Let's Stay Connected! Website | Instagram | Twitter | Linkedin | Facebook | Contact Us

  • S4 · E189
    May 17 · 25 min

    #189: Inside the Lived Experiences of Black Women Instructional Coaches

    Discover a conversation unlike any you’ve heard before as Dr. Courtney Tate joins Becca Silver to shine a spotlight on the real challenges and triumphs experienced by Black women in instructional coaching. This episode pulls back the curtain on the unseen emotional workload, the navigation of daily microaggressions, and the relentless pursuit of recognition faced by these dedicated professionals. Dr. Tate brings her research and personal journey front and center, revealing strategies for building support systems, dismantling stereotypes, and ensuring visibility and respect within educational spaces. You will walk away with fresh insight, vivid stories, and clear guidance, straight from the source, on how schools can foster true inclusion and leadership for Black women coaches. Check out Courtney's work here: Website: https://alignedcoachingandconsulting.com Leading From the Middle Podcast Instagram: the_alignedcoach or ctatewrites Book signed from my website Order on Amazon [FREE RESOURCE] Find Your Resistance Type Quiz: Find out the type of resistance you are navigating (previously called The Resistance Audit) Grab the RESISTANCE PLAYBOOK for only $7 HERE. [FREE WEBINAR] Breaking Through Resistance: Contact us for the recording Let's Stay Connected! Website | Instagram | Twitter | Linkedin | Facebook | Contact Us

  • S4 · E188
    May 10 · 5 min

    #188: The Coaching Mistake We Make When Teachers Are Exhausted

    In this episode of Resistance Chronicles, Becca Silver unpacks a coaching mistake many instructional coaches and school leaders make at the end of the school year: trying to solve exhausted teachers instead of helping them feel understood first. When teachers are overwhelmed, emotionally drained, and running on fumes, even well-intentioned coaching strategies can accidentally create more frustration. Too often, leaders hear exhaustion and immediately jump into problem-solving, advice, or pushing for solutions. But exhausted educators usually do not need someone to fix them first. They need someone to slow down long enough to truly hear them. In this short episode, Becca shares a practical communication strategy called Looping for Understanding, a research-backed approach that helps educators feel seen, heard, and less emotionally alone during high-stress moments. She explains how this simple shift can reduce defensiveness, strengthen trust, and create more productive coaching conversations during one of the hardest stretches of the school year. If your teachers are tired, emotionally maxed out, or struggling to stay engaged right now, this episode will give you one concrete strategy you can use immediately. Perfect for instructional coaches, principals, assistant principals, and school leaders supporting exhausted educators at the end of the year. Breaking Through Resistance webinar: Contact us for the recording Let's Stay Connected! Website | Instagram | Twitter | Linkedin | Facebook | Contact Us

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