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Breaking the Silence

Raynea Wallace

Welcome to Breaking the Silence—honest conversations about grief, faith, healing, and becoming whole again. I’m Raynea Wallace, joined by my cohost Kelli. This podcast is for women navigating the quiet after loss—finding their footing, identity, and voice again. We talk about motherhood in hard seasons, midlife shifts, relationships, unanswered prayers, and learning to live again. Real stories, deep conversations, and grace—because healing doesn’t happen alone. You’re not alone. Welcome to our community.

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  • 25 episodes
  • weekly
  • Avg 37 min
  • English

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  • S3 · E13
    May 6 · 59 min

    Why You’re Not Overreacting… You’re Dysregulated

    If you’ve ever asked yourself… “Why do I overthink everything in relationships?” “Why do I panic when someone pulls away?” “Why do I shut down when things feel too close?” “Why do I feel triggered by things that seem small?” This episode is for you. In this week’s episode of Breaking the Silence, Raynea and Kelli are unpacking the connection between attachment styles and nervous system regulation and why you may not be overreacting at all… you may be dysregulated. They break down how this shows up in anxious attachment, fearful avoidant attachment, and dismissive avoidant attachment and explain why your body can respond to relationship triggers as if danger is happening right now. Raynea shares how the nervous system can feel like a bear is chasing you, even when there’s no actual threat, and how old wounds, grief, trauma, abandonment, and past relationship pain can keep your body stuck in survival mode. They also talk about: • nervous system dysregulation in relationships • trauma responses and emotional triggers • healing anxious attachment • healing avoidant attachment • fearful avoidant attachment patterns • how trauma is stored in the body • faith and emotional healing • how God created your nervous system • how God meets you in moments of anxiety, fear, and emotional activation • practical tools to regulate your nervous system and move toward secure attachment Healing is about teaching your body that you are safe now. And most importantly… remembering that God meets you right in the middle of your healing journey. If this episode resonated with you and you’re looking for a simple way to begin feeling grounded and supported, download my free resource, 10 Minutes to Feel Held, a guided prayer and grounding experience created to help you regulate your nervous system and reconnect with God in moments of overwhelm. I’ll share the link below. 10 Minutes to Feel Held And if you’d like to connect further, you can find me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/RayneaWallace We’re so grateful you’re here. We send you off with so much love.

  • S3 · E12
    April 22 · 35 min

    The Guilt Mothers Carry (That No One Talks About)

    Motherhood comes with a kind of guilt that most women never say out loud. The quiet kind. The guilt when you feel overwhelmed. The guilt when you need space. The guilt when your kids are struggling. The guilt when you want something for yourself. In this episode, Raynea and Kelli talk honestly about why so many mothers feel responsible for everyone’s emotional world. They walk through: • How attachment shapes this pattern • How guilt shows up in real, everyday moments • The added weight of grief and blended families • How faith helps you release what was never yours to carry This is a conversation that will help you slow down and notice where guilt has been running the show… and begin to loosen its grip. You were never meant to carry it all. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or stretched thin, Raynea also shares “10 Minutes to Feel Held” inside the episode. A simple way to ground yourself, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with God. We send you off with so much love. Click here to be Held

  • S3 · E11
    April 15 · 32 min

    Who Am I Outside of Who Everyone Needs Me to Be?

    Who are you… outside of everything and everyone that depends on you? In this episode, we’re having an honest conversation about what happens when your identity slowly becomes wrapped up in caring for everyone else. If you’ve spent years showing up as the one who holds it all together, you may find yourself wondering when you stopped asking what you need… or who you even are anymore. We talk about how this shift happens so quietly in motherhood, relationships, and caregiving. How you become the one who remembers everything, manages everyone’s emotions, and keeps life moving… while slowly losing connection with yourself. We also open up about how grief can deepen this experience. When loss forces you into survival mode, there often isn’t space to process your own needs or desires. You just keep going. But this episode isn’t just about what’s been lost. It’s about beginning again. We talk about: • How identity gets shaped through caregiving and survival • The guilt many women feel when they want something for themselves • Why reconnecting with yourself is not selfish • Small, gentle ways to start rediscovering who you are You’ll be reminded that God didn’t create you to only exist for others. You are allowed to be a mother, a caregiver, and a whole person with your own desires, dreams, and identity. If you’ve been feeling like a version of yourself got left behind somewhere along the way… this conversation is for you. And if you need a place to start, Raynea shares a simple resource, “10 Minutes to Feel Held,” to help you slow down, breathe, and reconnect with God in the middle of it all. You’re not lost. You’re still in there. We send you off with so much love.

  • S3 · E10
    April 8 · 48 min

    Attachment in Blended Families: When Love Isn’t Instant

    What if love… doesn’t come instantly? In blended families, we’re often told everything should just “fall into place.” But what happens when it doesn’t? In this episode of Breaking the Silence, Raynea and Kelli have an honest conversation about the reality of blending families — when connection is slow, emotions are layered, and attachment takes time. Raynea shares from her experience fostering for 8 years and adopting 5 children, while Kelli opens up about blending her family — bringing her son into a marriage where her husband had two children of his own. Together, they unpack why attachment can feel complicated, how children process change and loss, and the quiet pressure mothers carry to make everything work. If it feels harder than you expected… you’re not alone. And you’re not doing it wrong. 💛 Plus, a gentle invitation into 10 Minutes to Feel Held — a free guided prayer and reflection to help you rest and reconnect when you’re carrying so much. 10 Minutes to Feel Held

  • S3 · E9
    April 1 · 33 min

    Motherhood Without the Fairytale: When Your Story Didn’t Turn Out the Way You Imagined

    Motherhood isn’t always the fairytale we were promised. In this episode of Breaking the Silence, Raynea and Kelli talk about what happens when motherhood includes grief, loss, divorce, betrayal, blended families, financial fear, or becoming the only stable parent overnight. You can love your children deeply… And still grieve the way your story unfolded. If you’ve ever thought: • “This wasn’t supposed to look like this.” • “Why do I feel exhausted even when I’m doing everything right?” • “Who am I outside of who everyone needs me to be?” This conversation is for you. In this episode, we talk about: • Grieving the motherhood you imagined • Losing a spouse and raising children alone • How survival mode reshapes identity • When your worth becomes tied to productivity • Emotional exhaustion in single motherhood • Reclaiming identity in midlife • Faith, healing, and remembering you are a whole woman Motherhood doesn’t have to be the place you disappear. It can be the place you deepen. But only if you untie your worth from what you provide. 💛 Need a moment to feel held? If this episode stirred something in you, I created something simple and gentle for you. 10 Minutes to Feel Held is a short guided prayer and reflection designed for tired moms who are constantly pouring out and rarely poured into. You don’t have to be strong. You don’t have to fix anything. You just get to sit and let God hold the parts of you that feel heavy. Click here to access 10 Minutes to Feel Held: (Perfect for before bed, in the car, or in the quiet moments you rarely give yourself.) If this episode encouraged you, please share it with another woman who is mothering through something hard. Leaving a review helps more women find this space. We’re so grateful you’re here.

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