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Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse

Nobody Taught Us What a Healthy Relationship Looks Like — Here's the Cost

June 1 · 25 min · Season 5 · Episode 274 · 18.5 MB
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Nobody taught us what a healthy relationship should feel like. Not in school. Not in graduate training. Not in the culture we grew up in.  

And that missing lesson? It's costing survivors years of confusion, repeat heartbreak, and an obsession with understanding the very people who harmed them. 

This week marks a major shift for Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse. After a year of flying solo, Dr. Kerry welcomes Lynn Strathdee as her new co-host — a UK-based psychodynamic psychotherapist, echoism specialist, and survivor whose path to this work mirrors so many of yours. 

Inside this episode:

  • How Kerry and Lynn met through echoism — and why their shared focus on the survivor's inner world changes everything  
  • How free, violent porn rewired intimacy into rage  
  • The Predator's Playbook: cobras, pit bulls, and the deliberate targeting of survivors  (Get your copy of the Predator's A-Z Playbook here!)
  • Why you can't stop talking about the abuser 

🔹 PODCAST EXTRA — MEMBERS-ONLY BONUS SEGMENT 

Why does studying the abuser feel productive but actually keep you stuck? 

In this exclusive bonus, Lynn and Dr. Kerry break down the difference between understanding your abuser and healing from them — and the one shift that moves you from analysis to recovery. 

Find the exclusive second segment and weekly newsletter here: https://substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuse  

LYNN STRATHDEE is a UK-based psychodynamic psychotherapist specializing in echoism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and the unconscious patterns that keep survivors stuck in repeating relationship cycles. A former educator turned therapist, Lynn brings both clinical training and lived experience to her private practice, where she works with clients online and in person. Her approach goes beyond surface-level psychoeducation to the deeper identity work that creates lasting change. 

Lynn’s Website

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