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Beyond the Norm

Endings, Transitions, and the Courage to Rise

A podcast for those navigating endings and standing at the edge of change.
Norma O’Kelly guides you through life’s transitions with systemic insight, real stories, and the courage it takes to rise into your next chapter.

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Tuesday · 33 min
The Responsible One: Why Carrying Everyone Keeps You Stuck (Rescuer, People Pleasing & Burnout)
You're not exhausted because you care too much. You're exhausted because you've been the responsible one, the rescuer, the one everyone leans on, for far too long. I'm Norma O'Kelly, systemic coach and constellations practitioner, and in this episode I explore how the responsible role drives people pleasing and burnout, and why it quietly blocks change when you're ready to start a business, retrain, or step into a new season of life. It isn't only the eldest daughter. The responsible one can be any child in the family. My own mother was the youngest. You'll discover: • How the Drama Triangle (rescuer, victim, persecutor) keeps you going in circles • Why rescuing often hides a deeper need to be needed • How family systems and inherited loyalties shape what you carry • Why learning to receive is essential, not indulgent • Small shifts from helpful to useful, and from rescuing to coaching I share my own story of overgiving and how family constellations helped me see the role I took on in my family of origin. I also offer simple somatic practices, like the pause and the physiological sigh, to help you notice where responsibility sits in your body. This autumn, put down what was never yours to carry and make room for something new. If this episode spoke to you, I'd love it if you'd rate and review the podcast. It really helps other people find it. And if someone in your life is always the one carrying everything, share this with them. Book a free connection call: https://calendly.com/normaokelly/free-connection-call Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/normaokellysystemiccoach
May 5 · 1 hr 8 min
Signs, Coincidences & What Your Heart Already Knows
Signs, Coincidences & What the Heart Already Knows Have you ever thought of someone and they rang you five minutes later? Seen the same thing appear again and again at exactly the moment you needed a nudge? Felt something shift in a room before a single word was spoken? This episode is about all of that and the science, the folklore, and the lived experience that explains why it's anything but random. We go into the world of signs and synchronicity through a systemic lens.. what the field is, how it speaks, and why most of us have stopped hearing it. We bring in the Irish folklore of the Bóín Dé ( Ladybirds) and the magpie, the neuroscience of the Reticular Activating System, HeartMath research on heart coherence, and what quantum physics has to say about fields, attention, and connection. And at the centre of it all ...Your Heart ❤️. Not as metaphor. As intelligence. When we live from the heart, when we slow down enough to get coherent, our outer world starts to reflect what our inner world is broadcasting. Signs become visible. Synchronicities multiply. Intuition sharpens. The field gets a word in. This episode also holds space for those who have lost someone and for the sceptic who suspects there's more going on but hasn't had language for it yet. Both are welcome here. Includes a live coherent breathing practice and spoke about the Two Bells track shared below. Please only do this in a safe, quiet space where you can fully relax seated or lying down. Do not listen while driving, cycling, swimming, or operating machinery. If you feel light-headed at any point, simply return to your normal breathing rhythm. KEYWORDS: Signs, Coincidences, Heart Intelligence, Systemic Constellations, Signs from Loved Ones, Nature Symbols, Electromagnetic Field, Coherent Breathing, Intuition, Serendipitykey topics Signs and symbols from nature and the universe The science of heart intelligence and electromagnetic fields Practices for tuning into signs and intuition The role of systemic constellations in understanding unseen patterns Personal stories of serendipity and signs from loved ones Mentioned in this episode: 🎙️ Interview with Dr Tara Stewart on Signshttps://open.spotify.com/episode/4XNQDPEs7SZpzP6jdLhfbP 🎵 Two Bells — coherent breathing trackhttps://open.spotify.com/track/1vuf0jxcfB7Ry8qeSr7pBp?si=afba89a7a11a4e3a Connect with Norma: 🌐 Website — visit for coaching, retreats, and everything Beyond the Normwww.normaokelly.com 📸 Instagram — daily reflections, systemic insights, and behind the sceneshttps://www.instagram.com/normaokellysystemiccoach 💼 LinkedIn — connect professionally and follow Norma's leadership and speaking workhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/normaokelly/ ⭐ Google Reviews — if Norma's work has meant something to you, a review means the worldhttps://maps.app.goo.gl/4j6dwkyV9UJxio3n7 📩 Newsletter — sign up to hear about events, offerings, and what's coming nexthttps://beyond-the-norm-coaching.kit.com/newsletter If this episode landed with you, please take a moment to rate, review, and subscribe it helps more people find their way here, and it genuinely matters. Thank you so much for listening. From my heart to yours. 💜
March 5 · 8 min
8 Minute Pause for a Busy Mind | Breathwork to Calm the Nervous System
This short guided breathwork practice is designed to help you slow down and return to yourself. In eight minutes you will move through a gentle coherent breathing rhythm, a vagus nerve activating breath, and a grounding moment that brings your awareness back into your body and your heart. This is the kind of practice I often guide clients through between meetings, before a difficult conversation, or at the end of a demanding day when the mind is busy and the body is carrying more than it should. You don’t need any experience with meditation or breathwork. Just find a quiet place, sit comfortably, and follow the rhythm of the breath. Sometimes the most supportive thing we can do is pause, breathe, and allow the nervous system to settle. You can return to this practice anytime you need a moment to reconnect with yourself. Please listen to this practice in a safe and comfortable environment. Do not listen while driving, cycling, swimming, or operating machinery. If you feel light-headed at any point simply return to your normal breathing rhythm. ⚠️ Important Safety Note Please do not listen while driving or operating machinery. This meditation is intended to be done lying down or seated in a safe, quiet space where you can fully relax. 💜 SAVE this meditation and come back to it whenever your mind is racing, your body feels tense, or sleep feels difficult. Website: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/normaokellysystemiccoach LinkedIn: Google Reviews: Sign up for my Newsletter and hear about my latest events and offerings: ✨ If this meditation helps you sleep or relax, please like, save, share, rate and review — it really helps this work reach more people. Big love and Go Gently now Norma 💜
January 25 · 20 min
20 min Gently Body Scan + Heart Coherence- Helps You Sleep deeply!
Struggling to sleep or calm a racing mind? This 20-minute gentle body scan meditation with heart coherence is designed to help you relax deeply, settle your nervous system, and fall asleep naturally. In this episode of Beyond The Norm, I guide you through a slow, grounding body scan and breathwork practice that helps you move out of mental overdrive and back into the body — where rest, safety, and sleep become possible. This meditation is especially supportive if: you can’t sleep your mind won’t switch off at night your body feels tense or wired you’re feeling emotionally overloaded you want a gentle way to fall asleep without forcing rest We begin with calming, coherent breathing before moving through a full body scan — from the feet all the way up — inviting areas of tension to soften and release. We then spend time connecting with the heart centre, using heart coherence to support emotional regulation, safety, and deeper rest. This practice is ideal: before sleep in bed at night during periods of stress or anxiety whenever your nervous system needs calming Many people return to this meditation regularly to help them sleep more deeply and feel more grounded. ⚠️ Important Safety Note Please do not listen while driving or operating machinery. This meditation is intended to be done lying down or seated in a safe, quiet space where you can fully relax. 💜 SAVE this meditation and come back to it whenever your mind is racing, your body feels tense, or sleep feels difficult. Website: https://www.normaokelly.com Slow Spring Group (Feb 2026): https://beyondthenorm.thrivecart.com/the-slow-spring-project/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/normaokellysystemiccoach LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/normaokelly/ Google Reviews: https://maps.app.goo.gl/mSMCrLPixXY1vY5q7 Newsletter: https://beyond-the-norm-coaching.kit.com/newsletter ✨ If this meditation helps you sleep or relax, please like, save, share, rate and review — it really helps this work reach more people. Big love, Norma 💜 🌿 Work With Me & Stay Connected
January 25 · 55 min
Transition Without Certainty? How to Take the Next Step
In this episode of Beyond The Norm, I explore what it really means to be in transition, personally and professionally. I talk about why uncertainty, imperfection, and discomfort are not signs you’re doing it wrong, but natural parts of change. I share practical ways to navigate transitions without panic or pressure, including how to stay present, focus on what you can control, and choose self-respect over fear when making decisions. I also reflect on the impact of societal expectations, why they can keep us stuck, and how taking the next obvious step can restore a sense of agency when clarity isn’t available yet. This episode is for anyone feeling unsettled, in between, or unsure what comes next and looking for a grounded, realistic way forward that doesn’t bypass the complexity of real life. 🔑 Keywords transitions, navigating change, self-compassion, imperfection, personal growth, professional change, societal expectations, self-respect, uncertainty, next steps, staying present, leadership in transition, identity change Please rate, review and share this episode to anyone who will benefit or need clarity in a transition. Check out my website; normaokelly.com My Slow Spring Group - Feb 2026 - https://beyondthenorm.thrivecart.com/the-slow-spring- project/ Follow me on my social channels Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/normaokellysystemiccoach Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/normaokelly/ Read my reviews on Google: https://maps.app.goo.gl/mSMCrLPixXY1vY5q7 Sign up for my newsletter: https://beyond-the-norm-coaching.kit.com/newsletter Thanks so much for listening please be sure to share, rate and review this episode. 💜 Big love Norma x
Dec 15, 2025 · 50 min
Navigating Self-Belief, Success & Authenticity with Vicky Shilling - A Beyond the Norm Podcast
In this episode of Beyond The Norm, I’m joined by the wonderful Vicky Shilling. Vicky is a coach, author, mother, and honest voice in the entrepreneurial world. We dive deep into the real emotional journey behind building a business: self-belief, self-doubt, identity, motherhood, privilege, ethics and what success really looks like when you peel back the pressure and perfectionism. Vicky shares her transition from the music industry into coaching, the wobble of imposter syndrome, and how confidence rises and falls at every level of business. We talk openly about the Dunning-Kruger effect, coaching ethics, acknowledging privilege, and why radical honesty is essential for building a business and a life that actually feels good. If you’ve ever struggled with confidence, felt like an imposter, or wondered whether you’re “doing enough,” this conversation will bring you truth, compassion and the reassurance that you are absolutely not alone. A huge thank you to Vicky for her time, passion and sharing this inspiring interview! Chapters: 00:00 — Introduction to Vicky Shilling02:52 — From the Music Industry to Health Coaching05:48 — Understanding Self-Belief in Entrepreneurship08:54 — Navigating Self-Doubt & Imposter Syndrome12:01 — Family, Approval & Identity15:05 — Ethics & Transparency in Coaching18:08 — Privilege & Power Dynamics in Business21:02 — Client Success Stories & Real Transformation24:07 — Motherhood Meets Entrepreneurship27:02 — Redefining Success Beyond Money29:48 — Authenticity & Honest Conversations32:52 — Closing Reflections Key takeaways: Self-belief shapes every stage of entrepreneurship Confidence rises and falls naturally (and you’re not imagining it) The Dunning-Kruger effect explains early overconfidence + later self-doubt Privilege and ethics matter deeply in the coaching space Motherhood requires a flexible, compassionate approach to business Vulnerability builds deeper client trust than perfection ever will Real success is personal, evolving, and deeply individual 🔗 Connect with Vicky Shilling Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vicky.shilling/?hl=enWebsite: https://vickyshilling.com/ Her Book 'Just start Now'; https://vickyshilling.com/book Vicky’s Substack: https://vickyshilling.substack.com/ 🔗 Connect with Me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/normaokellysystemiccoachLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/normaokelly/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@normaokellytransitioncoachWebsite: https://www.normaokelly.com Key words: Vicky Shilling, self-belief, entrepreneurship, authenticity, coaching ethics, privilege in business, motherhood and business, self-doubt, imposter syndrome, business mindset, purpose-led business, entrepreneurial transformation, confidence in business, Beyond The Norm Podcast 🎙 Work With Me If you’d like support with identity, purpose, transitions, systemic coaching or leadership work, you’ll find everything at:https://www.normaokelly.com Till then Go Gently
Dec 10, 2025 · 55 min
How to Rebuild Your Purpose and Identity After Loss
In this episode of Beyond The Norm, I’m diving into something we all face , the kind of loss that doesn’t just break your heart, but breaks your identity wide open. I talk about how loss doesn’t just take something from us… it takes a version of who we were. And in that space, we’re left wondering: Who am I now? What’s my purpose? What happens next? I explore how grief can create a full-blown identity crisis, especially in midlife, when the roles we’ve played start slipping from our fingers. I share what I’ve learned personally and professionally about navigating these endings, honouring them, and letting them reshape us rather than destroy us. I also talk about how purpose often emerges in the rubble not in spite of loss, but because of it. And I bring in one of my favourite tools, breathwork, as a way to regulate the nervous system, clear emotional debris, and reconnect to the parts of ourselves we thought were gone. If you’ve felt lost, disconnected, foggy, or unsure who you are after a loss , whether it’s a relationship, a job, a dream, a home, or even an identity — this episode will help you understand what’s happening, why it’s happening, and how to move forward with intention and compassion. Take AWAYS: Loss isn’t a moment; it’s a continuum we learn to live with. Grief often triggers a crisis of identity. Purpose tends to reveal itself through loss, not before it. Breathwork can anchor and heal when everything feels chaotic. It’s essential to honour the endings in your life. It’s okay to feel lost — it’s part of the rebirthing process. Finding your tribe makes the journey lighter. Your purpose evolves as you evolve. You can rebuild yourself after loss — gently, slowly, truthfully. Life’s hardest chapters often spark the deepest transformation. loss, identity, purpose, grief, self-discovery, breathwork, healing, transformation, resilience, personal growth, identity after loss, how to find purpose after loss, rebuilding identity, grief and identity crisis, breathwork for healing, purpose after grief, midlife identity shift, spiritual awakening after loss I mention Elizabeth Gilbert’s newest book about loss, All the Way to the River: Love, Loss, and Liberation. Here’s a link to more about it: https://www.hippocampusmagazine.com/2025/09/review-all-the-way-to-the-river-love-loss-and-liberation-by-elizabeth-gilbert/ Chapters: 00:00 — Navigating Loss and Change 02:24 — Understanding Identity in Grief 03:51 — The Fog of Grief 08:30 — Finding Purpose Through Loss 12:45 — The Journey of Self-Discovery 17:59 — Rebuilding Identity After Loss 24:21 — Breathwork as a Tool for Healing 38:34 — Finding Your Tribe and New Desires Key Quotes: “Who am I now?” “Your purpose is evolving.” “Finding your tribe is key.” “Loss asks us to rebuild who we are.” “Purpose emerges when everything false falls away.” Please rate, review and share with anyone else you know going through loss: Follow me below: 🌿 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/normaokellysystemiccoach 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/normaokelly/ 🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@normaokellytransitioncoach 🌊 Website: https://www.normaokelly.com
Oct 25, 2025 · 1 hr 2 min
What Nobody Tells You About Change - Beyond the Norm Podcast
What Nobody tells you about Change: In this episode of Beyond the Norm, I dive into the truth about change, not as a single moment, but as a living, breathing process. We’ll talk about the grief that comes with letting go of old identities, the awkward middle ground where everything feels uncertain, and the quiet resilience it takes to grow through transition. I explore how change ripples through our families, teams, and communities and how our loyalty to old patterns can sometimes keep us stuck. This is a conversation about resourcing yourself, honouring your emotions, and learning to feel safe in the unfamiliar. Because change isn’t a failure; it’s the system reorganising itself for your next evolution. Takeaways Change isn’t a one-off event : it’s a continuous cycle of becoming. ( Quelle Surprise Norma ;) Your identity evolves with every shift. Grieving your old self is part of healthy growth. The messy middle is normal — and necessary. Fear is not the enemy; it’s information. Resourcing yourself is the ultimate act of self-care. Your change impacts — and liberates — the system around you. Announcing 🌙 The Wintering Project launches this weekend on Norma's instagram stay tuned a soulful space to rest, reset, and re-imagine what’s next this Winter. Runs Nov 2025-Jan 2026 👉 Join here and begin this Winter well! I’m Norma O’Kelly, a systemic coach, marketing mentor and team facilitator based in Dublin. I help leaders, teams and seekers navigate the discomfort of change with depth, humour and heart. 📸 Instagram 💼 https://www.linkedin.com/in/normaokelly/ Join Norma's newsletter:✉️ https://beyond-the-norm-coaching.kit.com/newsletter 🎧 Subscribe on your preferred podcast platform.
Jun 20, 2025 · 53 min
Building a Business with Passion: Kat's Vintage Shop Success Story
In this episode of Beyond the Norm, I chat with Katrina Carroll, also known as Vintage Irish Kat. Kat takes us through her inspiring journey of transitioning from a beautician to a successful vintage shop owner. We dive into the emotional connections people have with secondhand clothing and how those stories shape the vintage shopping experience. Kat shares how storytelling in fashion and personal branding plays a huge role in her business, plus the challenges and joys of entrepreneurship. We also discuss the importance of self-care and building resilience as a business owner, while recognising the value of community support. From social media’s role in personal branding to the beauty of secondhand fashion, Kat’s insights are invaluable for anyone looking to build a business with heart and authenticity. If you’re navigating a career change, working on your personal brand, or just love vintage fashion, this episode is packed with inspiration and practical tips. Key Takeaways: The Power of Career Transitions: My conversation with Kat illustrates how transitioning careers can lead to a more fulfilling, purpose-driven life. Emotional Connections in Fashion: Secondhand clothing isn’t just about the fabric—it’s about the stories and memories they carry. Building Resilience as an Entrepreneur: Entrepreneurship isn’t just about your business idea—it’s about passion, resilience, and staying true to your values. Social Media & Personal Branding: Kat shares how she’s used social media to build an authentic personal brand and connect with her audience. Sustainable Fashion: Vintage shopping is more than a style choice—it’s a way to support the planet while staying fashionable. Self-Care & Entrepreneurship: Kat talks about why self-care is crucial for entrepreneurs and how it helps keep your energy aligned with your business goals. Community Support: Building a community of support and collaboration is key to long-term success in business. Chapters: 00:00 - The Art of Vintage Fashion and Home Decor 11:33 - Personal Journeys: From Fashion to Home Transformation 20:18 - Sustainability in Home Renovation and Vintage Shopping 21:13 - Finding Hidden Treasures 22:40 - From Laser Specialist to Vintage Entrepreneur 25:51 - The Reality of Quitting Your Job 28:16 - Balancing Business and Family Life 30:54 - Self-Care and Managing Energy 32:21 - Embracing Empathy and Authenticity 35:25 - Honoring Stories Through Fashion 39:23 - Dealing with Criticism and Haters 41:29 - Advice for Those Feeling Stuck Follow Katrina for Real-Life Inspiration and a Laugh: Kat's Instagram: Vintage Irish Kat Kat’s Shop Website: Preloved by Shay and Jo Kat’s Shop Instagram: Preloved by Shay and Jo on Instagram Connect with Me: If you’re feeling stuck or thinking about making a career change, I’m here to help. I work with people who want to move forward, reclaim their power, and embrace new beginnings. Follow me on Instagram: Norma O'Kelly Join my community on Telegram: Beyond the Norm Community My Website: NormaOKelly.com CTA: Are you feeling stuck in your career or personal life? Do you dream of transitioning into something more fulfilling but feel unsure where to start? Let’s talk! As a transition coach, I help people just like you move through feelings of stuckness and step into their next chapter with confidence. Head to my website and check out my one off 90 min session: https://beyondthenorm.thrivecart.com/90-min-withnorma/https://beyondthenorm.thrivecart.com/90-min-withnorma/ Please, rate, review and share with your networks! Thanks so much for listening! Norma x
Jun 10, 2025 · 1 hr 5 min
From Engineer to Healer - A Beyond the Norm Interview with Jennifer Dundon
In this episode of Beyond the Norm, host Norma O' Kelly interviews Jennifer Dundon also named Suguna, an engineer turned energy healer and soul guide. Jennifer shares her transformative journey from a conventional career to following her heart and embracing a life of healing and travel. She recounts her experiences in India, particularly her time in an ashram with Amma, the hugging saint, and how these experiences shaped her understanding of surrender, acceptance, and personal growth. The conversation explores the challenges and joys of building a healing practice, the importance of community, and the power of following one's heart. Jennifer emphasises the significance of listening to one's inner guidance and the transformative potential of travel and self-discovery. Please follow Jennifer on Instagram ; https://www.instagram.com/iamsugunajennifer/ Visit her website: https://www.iamsuguna.com/ Chapters: 00:00 Journey of Transformation: From Engineer to Energy Healer 03:26 The Call to Adventure: Embracing the Unknown 06:27 Finding Home: The Ashram Experience 09:16 The Power of Surrender: Lessons from Amma 12:10 Cultural Shock and Acceptance: Navigating India 15:16 The Role of Community: Building Connections in the Ashram 18:24 Returning Home: Integrating New Realities 21:19 The Impact of Transformation: Sharing the Journey 24:15 Embracing Change: The Evolution of Self 31:50 Family Connections and Spiritual Experiences 34:23 Life Beyond the Ashram 37:33 Navigating Financial Sustainability 41:25 Returning to Roots and Community Offerings 46:08 The Journey of Self-Discovery 56:29 Embracing Change and Trusting the Heart Be sure to also follow me on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/normaokellysystemiccoach Join me on Telegram: https://t.me/+fKwiSZni3fMwNzk0 My website: https://www.normaokelly.com/
May 8, 2025 · 1 hr
FROM Tech Leader TO Award winning ARTIST - My Favourite Transition Career Story
In this episode of Beyond the Norm, Kieran Guckian shares his inspiring journey from a corporate tech career to becoming a full-time artist. He discusses the emotional challenges of transitioning careers, the importance of creativity for mental well-being, and the significance of community among artists. Kieran reflects on his experience participating in Sky's Landscape Artist of the Year Finalist only 1 year after becoming a full time artist and emphasises the need for self-promotion and marketing in the art world. He offers valuable advice for aspiring creatives, encouraging them to embrace their passions and find structured time for their artistic pursuits. Links to find and follow Kieran: https://www.instagram.com/kguckian Kieran's website: https://www.kieranguckian.art/ Be sure to also follow me on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/normaokellysystemiccoach Join me on Telegram: https://t.me/+fKwiSZni3fMwNzk0 My website: https://www.normaokelly.com/ Please, rate, review and share with your networks! Thanks so much for listening! Norma x
May 4, 2025 · 55 min
6 steps To Break Free from People Pleasing - Beyond the Norm Episode
Summary In this episode of Beyond the Norm, I explore the concept of people pleasing, its roots, and practical strategies to overcome it. I discuss the systemic influences that contribute to people pleasing behaviours, including family dynamics and societal expectations. The episode emphasises the importance of self-awareness, setting boundaries, and prioritising personal needs to foster authenticity and emotional well-being. I encourage you to embrace discomfort as part of the growth process and to seek support through coaching and self-reflection. Takeaways People pleasing often stems from a desire for acceptance and belonging. Awareness is the first step in addressing people pleasing behaviors. Family dynamics play a significant role in shaping people pleasing tendencies. Setting boundaries is essential for personal well-being. Disappointing others can be a necessary part of self-care. Understanding personal values can help in making decisions that align with one's true self. Practicing saying 'no' is crucial for breaking the cycle of people pleasing. It's important to recognise the emotional cost of people pleasing. Change is a journey that requires patience and self-compassion. Systemic coaching can provide valuable insights and support in overcoming people pleasing. Chapters; 00:00 Introduction to People Pleasing 00:29 Understanding the Roots of People Pleasing 01:27 Supportive Resources and Personal Connection 01:49 artsEntertainment-intro-low-short.wav 02:09 Understanding People Pleasing 05:20 The Roots of People Pleasing 08:08 Family Dynamics and Roles 10:56 Fear of Exclusion and Belonging 14:03 Rules of Belonging 16:59 Conflict Avoidance and Perfectionism 20:18 Practical Tools to Stop People Pleasing 29:05 The Power of Saying No 32:25 Disappointing Others: A Necessary Step 36:23 Letting Go of the 'Good One' Identity 41:44 Identifying and Upholding Personal Values 43:39 Setting Boundaries and Enforcing Them 48:20 Embracing Resistance and Personal Growth READ the BLOG that pairs with this episode https://www.normaokelly.com/blogbeyondthenorm/stoppeoplepleasingunlearn Please follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/normaokellysystemiccoach or join my community on Telegram https://t.me/+fKwiSZni3fMwNzk0 Please rate, review and subscribe and share with a friend who could do with this free support. Thanks so much for listening! 💜❤️
May 2, 2025 · 14 min
Norma's Entrepreneurs Update - Beyond the Norm
Summary In this episode of Beyond the Norm, Norma O' Kelly shares a heartfelt update on her podcast journey, reflecting on the challenges of balancing personal and professional life. She discusses her desire for more fun and connection, the launch of new programs aimed at supporting budding entrepreneurs, and the importance of intuition and stillness in her work. Norma emphasises the need for self-compassion and the joy of community as she navigates her path forward. Takeaways Norma emphasises the importance of not letting the podcast become a chore. She expresses guilt for not publishing guest interviews in a timely manner. Norma acknowledges her humanity and the messiness of life. She reflects on the need for more fun and balance in her life. Norma is ready to celebrate and enjoy life beyond work. She recognizes the costs of entrepreneurship on her personal life. Norma desires to let her hair down and have fun this summer. She is launching an accelerator program for aspiring entrepreneurs. Self-belief is a significant barrier for many in pursuing their passions. Norma highlights the power of stillness for enhancing intuition. Chapters 00:00 Welcome Back and Podcast Update 02:55 Navigating Personal and Professional Life 06:13 Desire for Fun and Balance 08:58 Launching New Programs and Self-Belief 11:47 Intuition and Stillness in Work Join me on my Telegram for latest updates - unique updates I don't share anywhere else! Telegram link: https://t.me/+fKwiSZni3fMwNzk0
Mar 18, 2025 · 53 min
Forgiveness Heals your Life - A Beyond the Norm Podcast special with Eileen Clair
In this episode, I interview Eileen Clair, a holistic therapist and teacher, who shares her journey into the world of healing through Louise Hay's work. Eileen discusses the importance of community, forgiveness, self-love, and the power of language in personal growth. The conversation explores how you can navigate your challenges, find purpose, and embrace their unique paths while fostering connections with others. Eileen shares the significance of compassion, both for oneself and for others, as a catalyst for healing and transformation. Really heartwarming and powerful interview Do let us both know what you think x Eileen's website: https://eileenclair.com/ Eileen on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eileenclair/ Join Norma in her new telegram Channel: https://t.me/+fKwiSZni3fMwNzk0 Norma's next 'Threshold of Summer' Retreat in SoEarth in Kill. Co Kildare on Sunday April 27th. Please Follow Norma's stories for this going on sales this week to her waitlist Mid March. Takeaways Eileen Clare emphasises the interconnectedness of individuals on their healing journeys. Forgiveness is a powerful tool for personal liberation and healing. Self-love begins with compassion towards oneself. Language and affirmations play a crucial role in shaping our self-perception. Community support is essential for personal growth and healing. Clarity in emotions can sometimes come from acknowledging sadness. The journey of healing is ongoing and requires continuous self-reflection. Courage is necessary to question and change one's circumstances. Rest is not a sign of weakness but a necessary part of self-care. The future of healing lies in building authentic connections and communities. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Connection to Louise Hay's Work 07:36 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Healing 13:30 The Role of Community and Spiritual Connection 18:47 The Power of Forgiveness in Healing 24:55 Forgiveness as a Path to Freedom 28:00 The Power of Self-Compassion 34:26 Reframing Self-Love and Kindness 40:42 Healing Through Awareness and Community 47:03 Finding Courage in Unfulfilling Environments 50:29 Introduction to Eileen Clare and Upcoming Retreats 51:26 Marketing Master Classes and Support for Entrepreneurs 51:56 Engagement and Community Building through Telegram and Social Media Keywords: Keywords Eileen Clair, Louise Hay, holistic healing, self-love, forgiveness, community, personal growth, energy work, emotional healing, wellness
Mar 11, 2025 · 1 hr 21 min
Career Change at 40 – Is It Too Late? (Spoiler: No, It’s Your Time!)
🎙️ Beyond the Norm Podcast: Career Change at 40 – Is It Too Late? (Spoiler: No, It’s Your Time!) Episode Summary In this episode of Beyond the Norm, I dive deep into the realities of career change in midlife and beyond.. in fact no matter what age you. If you’ve been feeling stuck, burned out, or questioning whether there’s more out there for you—this one’s for you. I share my own story of leaving corporate life, the doubts and fears I faced, and why freedom has been my number one value ever since. l explore: ✔️ The common reasons people seek a career change at 40 (burnout, lack of meaning, life changes). ✔️ The biggest barriers—including fear and other people’s expectations. ✔️ Seven essential steps to navigating a successful transition without waiting for permission. If you’re sitting on the edge of change, unsure if it’s too late, know this: You are not starting from scratch. You are bringing everything you’ve already built into this next chapter. 🔹 Are you ready to take imperfect action? Let’s get started. Key Takeaways ✨ It’s never too late to step into more meaningful work. ✨ Freedom is a core value that often drives career change. ✨ You don’t need fixing—you’re already whole. ✨ Life’s fragility can be a catalyst for change. ✨ Recognition in the workplace is crucial for fulfilment. ✨ Many people seek change in their 40s because they crave purpose. ✨ Financial considerations can be a valid reason to pivot. ✨ Self-employment can break familial expectations. ✨ Fear feels real, but it’s often unfounded. ✨ Rest is a strategy, not a luxury. ✨ Imperfect action is always better than inaction. ✨ Careers aren’t linear anymore—embrace the squiggly path. ⏳ 00:00 – Welcome Back and New Beginnings 🎭 02:46 – The Journey of Career Change 🔥 11:24 – Catalysts for Change in Midlife 💡 29:46 – Common Reasons for Seeking Change 🚧 37:57 – Barriers to Career Change 🛠️ 40:50 – Overcoming Career Change Barriers 📍 50:29 – Seven Steps to Navigating Career Change at 40 📖 01:02:10 – The Squiggly Careers Approach to Career Growth 🌱 01:08:25 – Embracing Imperfect Action and Community Support 🚀 01:19:00 – The Catalyst for Change and Future Opportunities 🔹 “Freedom is my number one value.” 🔹 “Life can end just tomorrow morning.” 🔹 “Peace is the new luxury.” 🔹 “You want more than just survival mode.” 🔹 “You can create your own peace.” 🔹 “What does society think you should do?” 🔹 “Breaking rules of belonging in my family.” 🔹 “Fear—false evidence appearing as real.” 🔹 “You can start as you are.” 🔹 “Nothing is forever. It's an experiment.” 🔹 “Expect to be taken seriously.” 🔹 “You are not starting from scratch.” 🔹 “Listen to your own voice. You got this.” 🔹 “Rest is a strategy.” 🔹 “Take imperfect action. Just start now.” 🔹 “You are on the edge of something.” 🔹 “Careers aren’t straight lines anymore—they’re squiggly, and that’s okay.” READ MY BLOG on this same topic; https://www.normaokelly.com/blogbeyondthenorm/careerchangeat-40-your-7-step-roadmap-to-a-job-you-love 💬 DM me on Instagram (@normaokellysystemiccoach) and tell me: What’s your biggest fear about career change at 40? 💡 Need clarity? Book a 90-Min Clarity & Confidence Session—I’ll help you get unstuck and map your next steps. https://beyondthenorm.thrivecart.com/90-min-withnorma/ 📢 Join my Telegram group for conscious career conversations and support from like-minded people navigating change. https://t.me/+fKwiSZni3fMwNzk0 📖 Check out Squiggly Careers by Helen Tupper and Sarah Ellis—it’s a brilliant reframe on how career paths work today. ✨ Share this episode with a friend who’s also thinking about a career shift—support is everything! 🎧 Subscribe & Leave a Review! Your feedback helps get this podcast to those who need it most. Go gently, and remember: You are not too late. You are right on time. 🌿 PS have you read my blog yet? https://www.normaokelly.com/blogbeyondthenorm/careerchangeat-40-your-7-step-roadmap-to-a-job-you-love
Dec 20, 2024 · 59 min
How to Speak with Authenticity, Confidence, and Authority - A Beyond the Norm Special
In this episode of Beyond the Norm, I discuss the importance of finding and using one's voice, particularly in the context of public speaking and self-expression. I explore how family systems shape our ability to communicate and the fears that often hold us back from speaking up. Through personal anecdotes and coaching insights, I emphasise the need for confidence and the role of supportive relationships in overcoming these barriers. The conversation highlights practical strategies for building a strong voice and the significance of authenticity in communication. In this conversation, I explore the themes of authenticity, purpose, and the power of voice in communication. I speak about the importance of drawing strength from personal experiences, including grief and loss, to empower oneself in speaking up. The discussion also covers practical tips for building confidence, setting boundaries in sharing personal stories, and the art of storytelling as a means of effective communication. I encourages you to embrace your own unique voice and to recognise the value of your stories in connecting with others Takeaways: The voice is often shaped by family systems. Fear of authority can hinder self-expression. Confidence is built through practice and support. Finding your voice is about using it authentically. Public speaking is a skill that can be developed. Emotions can coexist with fear and excitement. Unspoken rules from childhood impact adult communication. Therapy can complement coaching for deeper issues. Supportive relationships are crucial for confidence. Resourcing yourself can help in finding your voice. Authenticity is key to effective communication. Finding purpose can empower you to speak up. Grief can be a source of strength and resilience. Building confidence involves owning your own story. Storytelling is a powerful tool for connection. Setting boundaries in sharing is essential for comfort. Pausing while speaking enhances message delivery. Your unique voice and accent are valuable assets. Embrace your journey and the lessons learned. You are capable of achieving your goals. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Finding Your Voice 09:00 Overcoming Fear of Authority 15:42 Resourcing Yourself for Confidence 26:23 Building a Support System for Your Voice3 3:22 The Power of Purpose in Communication 38:44 Building Confidence and Authority 44:55 Setting Boundaries in Sharing 53:01 Embracing Your Unique Voice Follow me on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/normaokellysystemiccoach/ or LInkedIN ; https://www.linkedin.com/in/normaokelly/ If you would would consider working with me, check out my 90 min sessions that could support your Voice in 2025: https://beyondthenorm.thrivecart.com/90-min-withnorma/
Nov 15, 2024 · 1 hr 3 min
4 Key Lessons for Transitioning from Corporate Job to Solo-entrepreneur
In this episode of Beyond the Norm, I discuss my journey of transitioning from a corporate job to solo entrepreneurship. I share my personal experiences and insights, emphasising the importance of redefining success, building a safety net, finding your niche, and the necessity of asking for help. The conversation explores the emotional challenges of transitions and highlights the significance of community support in navigating these changes. I encourage you to embrace imperfection and take actionable steps towards your goals, reminding you that success is a personal journey. Sound Bites "Start before you're ready." "Perfection doesn't exist." "You can't do it on your own." Chapters: 00:00 Navigating Transitions: From Corporate to Entrepreneurship 06:01 Building Your Safety Net: Financial and Emotional Security 12:05 The Journey of Self-Discovery: Who Am I Now? 18:13 Embracing Change: The Emotional Side of Transition 24:07 Brave Moves: Encouraging Others to Thrive 32:20 Resilience and Perseverance in Personal Growth 40:01 Networking and Community Engagement 48:00 The Importance of Asking for Help 53:10 Finding Support and Community in Business Questions for journaling: Journal Questions for Transitioning from Job to Solopreneur Lesson 1: Redefine Success on Your Terms What did success mean to me in my previous job? How do I want to redefine success in my solopreneur journey? What would a meaningful and fulfilling life look like for me now? Lesson 2: Build Your Safety Net (Financial and Emotional) What are my essential monthly expenses? How much money do I need to feel secure during this transition? Who can I turn to for emotional or professional support? What practices or activities help me recharge and stay grounded? Lesson 3: Focus on One Niche and Build Authority Who do I love working with, and what specific problem do I love solving for them? What unique skills or experiences make me the best person to help them? How can I start building authority in this niche today? Lesson 4: Start Before You’re Ready What’s one imperfect action I can take this week to move forward? What’s a realistic date to launch my first product, service, or offer? How can I shift my mindset to embrace progress over perfection? For more info on Black Friday money off 90 min session DM me on ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/normaokellysystemiccoach⁠⁠
Oct 29, 2024 · 1 hr 46 min
Beyond the Norm - My Journey with Purpose: Embracing Transformation, Loss, and Growth
In this episode of Beyond the Norm, I reflect on my evolving understanding of purpose as a journey rather than a destination. I share my personal experiences with loss, health struggles, and the transformative power of coaching. Through my narrative, I emphasise the importance of self-care, the impact of grief, and my shift from being helpful to being useful in my interactions with others. I also discuss my journey into systemic coaching and the lessons I've learned along the way, ultimately highlighting the ongoing nature of discovering one’s purpose. Takeaways Purpose is a journey, not a destination. Self-care is essential for helping others. Grief can lead to profound personal transformation. The clues to our purpose often precede our awareness of it. Navigating health challenges can reshape our understanding of purpose. Being useful to others is more impactful than simply being helpful. The journey of purpose is ongoing and ever-evolving. Loss can provide clarity on what truly matters in life. Coaching can facilitate deeper self-discovery and healing. Embracing the unexpected can lead to new opportunities. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Purpose and Journey 03:39 The Evolution of Purpose 12:44 Key Milestones in the Purpose Journey 21:47 Awakening to Self-Care and Healing 25:40 Exploring New Realms of Wellness 32:49 The Awakening: Coaching as a New Path 39:49 Facing Grief: A Mother's Battle with Cancer 45:04 Legacy and Purpose: Lessons from Loss 50:56 Embracing Motherhood: A New Chapter 51:43 Navigating the Sperm Donation Process 54:53 Family Health Crisis and Personal Reflection 57:48 Coping with Loss and Grief 01:00:44 The Impact of COVID-19 on Personal Life 01:03:40 Health Challenges and Endometriosis 01:09:53 Facing Surgery and Embracing Change 01:18:59 Navigating Menopause and Therapy 01:20:55 Transforming Purpose: From Helping to Being Useful 01:23:48 The Power of Voice and Energy in Healing 01:26:42 Embracing Change: Human Design and Coaching 01:28:08 Unexpected Health Discoveries 01:37:25 Training as a Funeral Celebrant: A New Purpose 01:41:19 The Journey of Purpose: Continuous Evolution Sound Bites "Purpose is a journey, not a destination." "You have to care for yourself before you can care for anybody else." "Leave a little room in your heart for the unexpected." I am so grateful for your listens, kindly can you please rate, review and share this episode with someone who may need some support their journey with purpose or going through a challenging time. This is a story of hope. For more info: My website is⁠ normaokelly.com⁠ Follow me on Insta: https://www.instagram.com/normaokellysystemiccoach For a 90 min strategic coaching session book here: https://calendly.com/normaokelly/90-min-systemic-coaching-session
Oct 5, 2024 · 57 min
Beyond the Norm: The 5 Secrets to a Healthy Balance
In this episode of Beyond the Norm, I delve into the principles of systemic coaching, focusing on the importance of maintaining a healthy balance in life. I discuss the concept of balance of exchange, the dangers of overgiving, and the signs of burnout. I share the 5 secrets to achieving a healthy balance, 1. Emphasising the need for resourcing 2. Right Sizing oneself 3. Honouring past contributions & attending at Endings 4. Setting boundaries 5. Give and Take without any obligation or sense of duty I share the importance of reflection and acknowledgment. The episode concludes with a heartfelt gratitude to listeners Key points: Balance of exchange is crucial for well-being. Over-giving can lead to serious health issues. Burnout is a common consequence of imbalance. Resourcing oneself is essential for recovery. Right sizing oneself helps maintain healthy relationships. Acknowledging past contributions fosters gratitude. Setting boundaries is necessary for self-care. Reflection on personal contributions is vital. Saying no can be empowering and necessary. Gratitude towards listeners enhances community connection. Setting Boundaries: The Key to Self-Care The Art of Resourcing: A Path to Wellness "I suffer from overgiving." "Burnout changed the course of my life." "Resentment is a sign of imbalance." Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Systemic Coaching and Balance 03:14 Understanding Balance of Exchange 06:00The Impact of Over-giving 08:50 Recognising Signs of Imbalance 12:03 The Importance of Resourcing 14:53 Right Sizing Yourself 17:40 Honouring Hierarchy in Relationships 20:32 Acknowledging Past Contributors 23:00 Setting Boundaries and Saying No 26:09 Creating Closure and Ending Well 28:49 Giving and Taking Without Obligation 31:55 Reflection and Action Steps 34:36 Conclusion and Gratitude
Sep 9, 2024 · 52 min
Beyond the Norm: Bridging Belonging with Authenticity
In this episode, I explore the concepts of belonging and authenticity. I talk about how both are intangible yet essential parts of our lives. Drawing from my own experiences, I reflect on how belonging has shaped my sense of self and the impact it has on my identity. I also dive into the importance of bridging the gap between belonging and authenticity, and how vital it is to find tribes or communities where we can truly be ourselves. I highlight why prioritising authenticity is so important, and offer support for those of us on this journey towards self-discovery and belonging. Keywords: belonging, authenticity, sense of self, tribes, communities, bridging, support Takeaways: Belonging and authenticity are crucial, though intangible, aspects of our lives. Reflecting on our sense of belonging within systems like family, school, and work helps us understand how it has shaped who we are. Authenticity is about staying true to ourselves rather than conforming to societal expectations. Finding tribes or communities where we can be our authentic selves is essential for our well-being. Bridging belonging and authenticity requires self-reflection, support, and creating spaces where we can show up as our true selves. Sound Bites: "True belonging is found not by conforming, but by being authentic." "The more you double down on your authenticity, the better it's going to be for you." "You're not alone in this journey of self-discovery around belonging and authenticity." Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction: The Polarity Between Belonging and Authenticity 04:01 - The Role of Family and Systems in Belonging 21:59 - Understanding the Adaptive Self and the Authentic Self 24:45 - Bridging the Gap Between Belonging and Authenticity 33:27 - The Role of the Adaptive Self in Fitting In 37:27 - Sacrificing Authenticity for Belonging 39:15 - Finding Tribes that Celebrate Authenticity I am so grateful for your listens, kindly can you please rate, review and share this episode with someone who may need some support on their belonging and authenticity right now! For more info: My website is normaokelly.com Book a free connection call today; https://calendly.com/normaokelly/free-connection-call Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/normaokellysystemiccoach Linkedin : https://www.linkedin.com/in/normaokelly/

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