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Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling

Raffaela

Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling is a podcast for high-achieving women who want freedom from their BFRB*; they want more authenticity, deeper confidence, to feel powerfully secure in who they are, so they can do more of what they love.

Hosted by Raffaela Marie - speaker, mentor, and creator of the STRENGTH Method - who overcame chronic skin picking, selective mutism, social anxiety, and depression, not by forcing willpower, but by healing from the inside out and addressing the true root causes.

Each episode offers a no-fluff look at healing from body-focused repetitive behaviours through the lens of self-confidence and authenticity. Raffaela blends psychology, neuroscience, and real-world experience to uncover what’s truly driving the urge to pick, and how to find lasting freedom from it.

Listeners walk away with tangible tools they can apply immediately to reduce urges, regulate emotions, and build emotional resilience. Beyond symptom management, this podcast helps you reconnect to your authentic self, feel grounded in your worth, and create lasting freedom from BFRBs*.

If you’re ready to stop performing, start healing, and build confidence that feels real, you’re in the right place.

*BFRB = Body Focused Repetitive Behaviours like chronic skin picking, nail/cheek biting, and hair pulling.

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Yesterday · 26 min
128: Your Inner Critic Is Making You Pick - The Greatest Gift You Can Give Yourself
Your inner critic might be playing a much bigger role in your skin picking, hair pulling or nail biting than you realise. I've spoken to hundreds of people within this community, and this just keeps popping up in a very meaningful way, so it's time to unpack it together. In this episode, you'll discover: ✨ What your inner critic actually is and why it’s not your enemy ✨ Why fighting or trying to silence it can keep you stuck ✨ A simple perspective shift that can help you quiet your inner critic and change the way you relate to yourself Your inner critic has a purpose. Understanding that purpose might just be one of the greatest healing gifts you can give yourself. --- Qs for curiosity - Ask your inner critic this: For more context and to get the most out of these questions, make sure you listen to the full episode! Where did you learn this? Where did you learn that that's the truth? Who taught you this? What are you trying to protect me from right now? If you didn’t listen to your inner critic right now, what would you do instead? --- 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.
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#127
August 25 · 28 min
127: Why You Can’t Relax at the End of the Day + The Shift That Can Change It
Do you get to the end of the day and feel restless, dissatisfied or like you haven't done enough? What if it's not because you've done something wrong or you need to do better, but because somewhere along the way, you learnt that feeling good is something you have to earn? In this episode, you'll learn: ✨ Why conditional love can make it so hard to relax and actually feel satisfied at the end of the day ✨ How we learn to use our emotions as "currency" and why this can leave us constantly searching for something to make us feel good ✨ A journaling practice to help you shift the emotions you feel stuck in so you can experience more peace, satisfaction and fulfilment I also share something I've never shared on the podcast before: a raw entry from my own journal after spending seven evenings doing nothing but sitting with myself and my feelings. This episode will give you a very different perspective on why it can feel like nothing you do is ever quite enough, and a tangible way to start changing that. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.
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#126
August 18 · 21 min
126: How To Stop Chronic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling
🙌A great follow-up episode to listen to after this one is 123: Stop The Spiral & Heal After a Picking, Pulling, or Biting Session What if the thing keeping you stuck in chronic skin picking, hair pulling, or nail biting isn't just the behaviour itself, but how you treat yourself because of it? For so many people in this community, there is one thing that shows up again and again: a loud inner critic. And the shame, judgment and relentless pressure it creates can actually become part of the reason you need picking, pulling or biting in the first place. In this episode, you'll learn: ✨ How your inner critic may be fuelling the cycle of picking, pulling or biting ✨ Why these behaviours can provide an escape from the noise inside your own mind ✨ How the way you treat yourself after a session can become a powerful opportunity for healing This isn't a quick fix. It's about building an inner foundation of compassion and support so that, over time, you simply don't need the behaviour in quite the same way. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.
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#125
August 11 · 19 min
125: The 3-Step Reset for Picking & Pulling Urges: Regain Control in the Moment
This isn't a quick fix, and it won't make the urge disappear. But it is a process that can help you create long-term, sustainable change. These 3 steps were vital in my own healing journey, and I continue to see them help my clients and other wonderful members of this community find their way forward. In this episode, you'll learn how to: ✨ Regulate your emotions through your breath and reconnect with your body ✨ Ask effective questions to better understand what you actually need ✨ Take intentional action that makes sense, feels good, and can actually move you forward Instead of seeing an intense urge as something you need to fight, fix, or get rid of, you'll learn how to use it as information - an opportunity to pause, check in with yourself, and respond differently. But there is one mistake that can completely derail this process and I'm yet to meet a person who doesn't make it. Listen in to learn how these 3 simple steps can change the way you respond to urges and, over time, change your relationship with skin picking altogether. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.
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#124
August 4 · 28 min
124: 2 Practical Steps to Stop Worrying What Other People Think
Do you find it hard to relax around other people? Do you get stuck in your head, worry about what others are thinking, or feel self-conscious in social situations, whether you're at work, with friends, or simply out in public? I feel with you. I used to be afraid to leave the house and struggled with crippling social anxiety. In this episode, I share the two skills that allowed me to outgrow these limitations, access more of who I am, and experience a sense of calm and peace in situations that used to have me sweating. The Two Skills: ✨ Emotional regulation – how to calm your nervous system through your breath and reconnecting with your body. ✨ Authenticity – tangible and practical ways to reconnect with who you are, so you can feel safer being you. If you're tired of overthinking every interaction and want to feel more comfortable, present, and at ease around other people, this episode is for you. Questions for reflection from this episode: 💛How am I different from a year ago? 💛What are the ways that I've grown and changed that I really like? 💛In what ways do I navigate difficult situations better than I used to? 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.
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#123
July 28 · 20 min
123: Stop The Spiral & Heal After a Picking, Pulling, or Biting Session
A highly effective practice to reduce the length, severity and frequency of picking, pulling, and biting sessions happens when you least expect. 💜 The moments after a bad session can be some of the hardest. But what if I told you they were also one of the greatest opportunities for healing and growth? In my own healing journey, and in those of my clients, I've consistently seen that how we respond to ourselves in these moments can directly impact the picking, pulling, and biting. In this episode, I'll walk you through the exact process I use after a difficult session. You'll learn how to regulate your nervous system, validate what you're feeling without spiralling into shame, and take the next step forward with compassion instead of self-punishment. 🌱 Because healing isn't determined by whether you have another session. It's often determined by what you do in the minutes that follow. If you've ever found yourself stuck in the shame spiral after picking, pulling, or biting, this episode will give you a practical framework to help you break that cycle. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.
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#122
July 21 · 15 min
122: How to Know When You Need Help With Skin Picking, Hair Pulling, or Nail Biting
If, after a picking, pulling, or biting session, you feel: 💔Shame 💔Self-judgment 💔Embarrassment 💔Hopelessness 💔Lost 💔Stuck 💔Apathetic These are all big indications that you need and deserve support in healing. BUT... "... Is it really that bad?" "... I should be able to figure this out myself." If you've had these doubts, there are 2 cognitive defensive mechanisms that you might be unknowingly engaging that are greatly holding you back. If you're engaging in one or both of them, then it's a big sign you really do need help and should not keep waiting. Listen in to find out! 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.
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#121
July 14 · 19 min
121: Why Can't I Stay Consistent? The Missing Piece to Lasting Change
You're not consistent, not because you lack willpower, but because you think you need to be fixed. When we look at the science of motivation and the incredible impact self-compassion has on our likelihood of moving toward our goals, the first sentence takes on a much more profound meaning. So let's unpack that together: 🌟Understand what's really driving your inconsistency and resistance. 🌟Learn how to make change feel easier by connecting to what truly matters to you 🌟Discover a simple framework to create lasting habits from self-care, not self-criticism. If you keep wondering, "Why can't I just stick with it?", I made this episode for you. 💛 --- Questions from this episode: (Listen to full episode for more context!) What might I gain when I do that thing? Why is that important to me? How might this positively impact those around me? --- Resources: The Neuroscience of Goals and Behavior Change - Elliot T Berkman Being Compassionate to Oneself Is Associated with Emotional Resilience and Psychological Well-Being - Rick Warren, Elke Smeets & Kristin Neff The Power of Self-Compassionate Motivation - Kristin Neff --- 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.
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#120
July 7 · 25 min
120: A part of me really enjoys it! What do I do?
Satisfaction, rest, soothing - these are some of the most common things people report they enjoy about picking, pulling, and biting. The biggest reason why we enjoy it so much is that it gives us something we aren't getting enough of in life already - Read the first three words again... Despite how much you might enjoy it, when you begin to address the root cause, you start building a life that gives you more genuine reasons to feel satisfaction, rest, and soothing (and much more). When this happens, we stop needing picking, pulling, or biting so much. Sounds far-fetched? I've seen it happen for my clients, and I have a couple of their incredible stories to share with you in this episode, PLUS 5 relationship areas we can focus on that make all the difference. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.
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#119
June 30 · 20 min
119: How to deal with the scars & damage from picking, pulling & biting
Understandably, the scars that we create through chronic skin picking, hair pulling and nail biting are not something that we feel good about. The bald patches, thinning, hyperpigmentation, and dwindling nail beds can trigger feelings of shame, self-judgment, or even unlovability. The problem is, these are also the same emotions that fuel picking, pulling, and biting! It becomes a self-sustaining cycle. When we learn how to move through these emotions, we are actively helping ourselves reduce the need for them while unburdening ourselves of their emotional weight. But how do you navigate this in a way that allows you to move through and release rather than feel stuck? Is that even possible as long as the scars and damage remain? It is, and I'm going to share with you how. 🚩Fair warning, though, this episode contains no fluffy, toxic positivity. This is about embracing the truth and grounding yourself into reality. Which can sometimes, initially, be an unpleasant experience. 🙏It's an odd thing to say because it will probably drive some people away from listening to this episode. If that's the case, those people are most likely not ready to listen to what's inside. Rest assured, if you listen, I'll be with you every step of the way 💛. ---- Journaling Prompts: Make sure you listen to this episode before answering these Qs. 🌟What do you not want to accept? 🌟What do you feel the scars are costing you? 🌟What do you feel you can't have because of them? 🌟From what you've written, what do you suspect might not be the full truth? 🌟What might you be able to allow yourself to grieve that you haven't yet? If you need more support, reach out to your therapist, psychologist or coach. You can also reach out to me. I'm here for you! ---- 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.
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#118
June 23 · 27 min
118: Who will I be without skin picking???
The version of you that is free from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, or nail biting is one that feels confident, creative, compassionate, and calm. These are not just pretty words; this is who you are at your core (as research has discovered)! Now the question is, how do we connect more to this part of ourselves? And how does picking, pulling, and biting both hold you back and help you get there? This is where we turn our greatest struggle into our greatest teacher, and we don't do it through guesswork but through using well-researched therapeutic models (that actually help). Listen in to learn: A powerful therapeutic model for chronic picking, pulling and biting that isn't CBT or HRT. How to turn picking/pulling/biting into a tool for healing Who you are at your core (as research has discovered) How to connect to these incredible core qualities in a tangible and practical way Resources: No Bad Parts by Richard Schwarz (book) Clarity: Focusing on the 8C's of Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy IFS Website 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.
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#117
June 16 · 26 min
117: Why You Can't "Just Stop" + A Science-Based Approach to What Works Instead
Did you know there is a specific brain function that is largely responsible for your chronic picking, pulling, and biting? That's right, you're not broken. You never were. It's your brain over-functioning. In fact, it's a really common struggle in this modern, overstimulated world. Look at all the people who are overworking, overeating, overgiving, overexercising, overthinking, overgrooming. We're all chronically overwhelmed and addicted to it. And it's because of something called intermittent reinforcement. In this episode, I share with you how this particular brain function is one of the key drivers behind your BFPA* + tangible steps to rewiring your brain. These steps don't require force, are backed by science, and will pull on your heartstrings. Not to mention, they will actually help you to move forward towards freedom. Journaling prompts from the episode "Needs" list. Which one calls to you? Relief Escape Comfort Stimulation Certainty Control Numbing Achievement Connection Whatever stood out to you in the list above, ask yourself these Qs: Why is that need so important to you right now? What would it give you to make the space to meet that need for yourself? How might this impact those around you? What will it cost you to not make the space to meet that need? What are 3 tangibles things you can do to meet that need in your life right now? References & Resources • Determinants of Addiction: Neurobiological, Behavioral, Cognitive, and Sociocultural Factors https://www.sciencedirect.com/book/monograph/9780323905787/determinants-of-addiction • Intermittent Reinforcement: Why Toxic Relationships Feel Addictive https://reachlink.com/advice/relations/intermittent-reinforcement/ • Engineered Highs: Reward Variability and Frequency as Potential Prerequisites of Behavioural Addiction https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0306460323000217 • Wired for Want: How Dopamine Drives the New Epidemic of Everyday Addictions https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Zoe-Wyatt/publication/391756047_Wired_for_Want_How_Dopamine_Drives_the_New_Epidemic_of_Everyday_Addictions • Stuck in a Toxic Cycle? This Psychological Pattern Might Be Why https://www.catharticspacecounseling.com/blog/stuck-in-a-toxic-cycle-this-psychological-pattern-might-be-why 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.
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#116
June 9 · 24 min
116: How to Actually Regulate Your Emotions
After this, if you want a guided meditation on how to drop into your body, listen to episode 108: Why You Can't Slow Down + Somatic Practice to Show You How. To truly regulate your emotions, you need to get out of your head and into your body. The frustrating thing is that even if we understand this concept on a logical level, we can still be left feeling lost about how to implement it effectively and consistently. This is because emotional regulation is a felt experience, not a thought process. You've got to stop thinking about how to feel and instead allow yourself to experience it. Like jumping out of a plane and floating to the ground far below. You can't truly appreciate the full experience unless you do it. Anything else is just living in our imagination rather than reality. So let's take that leap together and learn: The brain system that keeps you trapped in your head How the purpose of this system can be rooted in trauma What your inner child has to do with it all The steps to getting out of your head and into your body 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.
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#115
June 2 · 26 min
115: Chronic Skin Picking is an Addiction, Not OCD
This is why the typical treatments for OCD - CBT and habit reversal - just don't seem to work. You've been falling through the cracks of ill-fitted treatment and blaming yourself for being a hopelessly broken human being. It's not your fault. You've just been misinformed and going about healing the wrong way. If this resonates, then odds are you'll find hope and a path forward in this episode. You'll learn: 🌟How a behaviour can become an addiction 🌟Where addiction comes from 🌟How you can heal the root cause + the three core components that facilitate this Resources: Intermittent Reinforcement - article https://www.catharticspacecounseling.com/blog/stuck-in-a-toxic-cycle-this-psychological-pattern-might-be-why In the Realm of the Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Mate - book https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/617702.In_the_Realm_of_Hungry_Ghosts Behavioral Addictions: Signs, Symptoms, and Treatment Options - article https://americanaddictioncenters.org/behavioral-addictions Introduction to Behavioral Addictions - study https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3164585/ The Difference Between an Addiction and a Compulsion - article https://www.verywellmind.com/the-difference-between-an-addiction-and-a-compulsion-22240 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.
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#114
May 26 · 25 min
114: Why You Procrastinate The Things You Know Are Good For You
It's because of your inner critic. But it's not enough to know this one small fact. In fact, maybe reading this leaves you feeling more lost than before. This is because our mind needs to understand the WHY behind new information to make sense of it and organise it in our brain in a way that is helpful. It's like you're on a long hike and someone adds a new, sparkly tool to your backpack. You get the sense it's important, but you don't know what it's for or how to use it, so it just becomes a burden. This is what it's like when we hoard information without learning how to apply it. In this episode, you'll learn: - Why you procrastinate the things you know are good for you and end up picking/pulling/biting at your body instead - The profound part your inner critic plays in this frustrating pattern - Practical tools and questions to apply this knowledge to help you reduce procrastination, feel more regulated, and create more meaningful moments in your life 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.
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#113
May 19 · 23 min
113: The Origin Of Intrusive Thoughts & How To Stop Them
You're not a freak. I used to feel like there was something deeply wrong with me because of the thoughts that would barge their way into my head at the most random, inappropriate moments. But judging yourself and trying to force the intrusive thoughts away has much the same effect as when we do the same with skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting - it just makes things worse. Sometimes destructively worse. I hear you. I see you. Let's work on this together. What you'll learn: 🌟Where your intrusive thoughts are coming from 🌟The unexpected connection to chronic picking, pulling, or biting 🌟3 questions to generate a powerful perspective shift and deep healing Here are the 3 questions from this episode. Save them in your phone for future reference: How does it make me feel? What does that feeling make me want to do? What is this behaviour protecting me from? 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.
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#112
May 12 · 23 min
112: Why Do I Pick More During PMS?
Yes, hormonal changes are the obvious answer. But let's not forget the medical gaslighting most women have experienced on this topic, AND the unconscious gaslighting we do to ourselves. What is it about all this that makes you want to pick, pull, and bite at your body with a whole new vigour every single month? I think you can feel it. There's something there that isn't being taken seriously that really deserves to be. It's time to understand what that is for you so that you can better care for yourself at every phase of your cycle. Honour your mind. Honour your body. This is how you can reduce picking, pulling, and biting. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.
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#111
May 5 · 53 min
111: Embracing Authenticity to Freedom from Chronic Skin Picking | Yasmin's Story
Stories of success and healing are few and far between in the BFPA* community (*BFPA = BFRB + addiction science) And even when you hear about someone healing from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, or nail biting, there's a little voice that says... "It's not for me." "I'm not like them." That's because you're not getting the full story! You're not hearing the how behind the transformation. In this interview with one of my former clients, Yasmin, that's exactly what you'll get. You’ll not only hear her incredible story of healing and transformation, but also the actions she took and the things we worked on together in our sessions that made all the difference. Who knows, maybe simply through listening, you’ll gain important insight into what you can do to support your own healing as well. Listen in to feel inspired, uplifted, and grounded in your own power through just how real and tangible this healing journey truly is. 🟢Connect with Yamin on Instagram 🟢Email Yasmin at: hello@yasminloeffler.de 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.
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April 28 · 29 min
110: 4 Most Powerful Growth Areas For Skin Picking & Hair Pulling
Are you serious about addressing the root cause of chronic picking, pulling, and/or biting? Are you willing to set aside instant gratification for depth and long-term gain? Then let's talk about the 4 most powerful growth areas! In my 15 years of healing and the 3 years I have spent coaching others, like you, to heal as well, I've observed that the greatest change happens when we stop obsessing over how to control and stop this ONE behaviour and start looking at ourselves as a whole, unique human being. We'll explore community, your relationship with self, how you are with self-care, what your purpose is and how you can find it (it's not as overwhelming as you might think. You've probably already been accessing it!) There is so much more to you than picking, pulling, and biting. There is so much more you have to gain than just not engaging in this behaviour anymore. Let's explore all of you. The depths of you. And see what treasure this episode uncovers. 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.
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April 21 · 25 min
109: How to Rest Without Becoming Lazy
Do you feel like you can only rest AFTER all the work is done? While this makes sense for certain tasks, kicking your boots off after a long day's work can certainly feel gratifying. What happens if we struggle to find the time to ever allow ourselves to metaphically "kick off our boots?" When you're stuck on "go", these moments of relief can feel like they're few and far between. And the idea of just giving yourself a break before everything is done feels like a slippery slope into procrastination, avoidance, and laziness. Deep down, you probably know you can't keep living like this, but how in the world can one STOP?? It's simple, profound, and possibly a little uncomfortable. But if you really want to truly and deeply enjoy your life, and you're willing to take full responsibility for that becoming a reality, then let me share with you how it's done and how close that reality actually is for you. We'll talk about: The science behind rest How you might be doing it "wrong" & how to do it "right" And a profound perspective shift that will make you realise you can access this TODAY 💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me 🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics 📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - (this is no longer available. For this kind of insight and feedback, you can "share your story" with me via the link above) 🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge 🤓Sign up - FREE BFPA Monthly Masterclass ✨Join - BEYOND Support Group on WhatsApp 🙋‍♀️Send me a message here My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.
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