Question your values

What if the values you’re most proud of are also the ones keeping you stuck? In this episode of Stronger Standards, I explore how “good” standards like reliability, resilience, discipline, and independence can quietly become fear-based safety strategies. I talk about: When “good” values quietly keep you stuck The 'Cage of Unquestioned Standards' Values shaped by safety, not authenticity Same actions, different motives: toward vs. away What your values are costing you Recalibrating values with compassion, not fear This episode invites you to notice how you relate to your values and whether they’re serving you, or keeping you stuck — and how to recalibrate your values with compassion. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction: The cage of unquestioned standards 01:00 - Safety strategies and identity formation 02:25 - Examples of limiting standards 04:06 - Intellectualization as a safety strategy 04:44 - Resilience and overcoming tolerance 05:57 - The impact of discipline on body image 06:43 - Reevaluating your relationship with values 10:18 - Practical steps to recalibrate your values 12:25 - Conclusion: building a better relationship with values More Resources: Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here