Building self trust after setbacks

You’re intelligent, capable, and deeply self-aware — so why do you keep starting things and not finishing them? In this episode, I’m breaking down self-efficacy, your confidence in your ability to follow through, and why it quietly erodes when you keep letting yourself down. Rather than repeating the same surface-level advice, we look at what actually gets in the way — including self-criticism, unrealistic standards, and emotional barriers that sabotage consistency. In this episode, I cover: What self-efficacy really is — and how low self-efficacy keeps you stuck in stop–start cycles Why setting goals for your “ideal self” backfires (and how to meet yourself where you are) How small, realistic wins build confidence more effectively than big plans The four key facilitators of self-efficacy Why mindset alone isn’t enough — and the emotional skills required to stay consistent How coaching helps you unlearn self-defeating patterns and build real trust in yourself 🔗 Links mentioned: – Motivated Masterclass – Coaching waitlist (NOW OPEN!) I’ll see you in the next episode. Timestamps: 00:00 - Why you start strong but don’t follow through 02:00 - What self-efficacy actually is 04:00 - How low self-efficacy keeps you stuck 06:00 - The mistake of setting goals for your ideal self 08:30 - Building confidence with small, realistic wins 11:00 - What actually facilitates self-efficacy 13:30 - Why reflecting on success matters 15:30 - How self-criticism and comparison undermine progress 17:30 - The emotional skills needed to stay consistent 19:00 - How coaching helps you break self-defeating cycles More Resources: Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here