Why Being Bad at Something is Good (Jo Moment)
When was the last time you were genuinely bad at something, not “stretching”, not “challenged”, but properly clumsy, slow, and unsure? I’m teaching my 16-year-old to drive, and it has been equal parts hilarious and confronting. She walked in confident because she’s watched driving her whole life, then met the real-world reality of steering, blind spots, speed, and a body that won’t yet do what the brain understands. That messy gap is what I call beginnerhood. What surprised me most wasn’t the wobbly lane keeping, it was how quickly her early excitement faded once she realised she would not be good straight away. That’s the moment many of us start negotiating with ourselves. As high achievers, especially women who have spent decades becoming capable and dependable, competence can turn into a comfort zone. We build careers and routines around what we can already do well, and we avoid anything that risks looking mediocre. I talk through the two classic escape routes when beginnerhood bites: turning the new skill into an intense achievement project, or quietly deciding it’s “not really my thing”. Both protect the ego, and both limit growth. Real learning often cannot be solved with insight alone. You still have to do the reps, even when nothing impressive is happening, and accept that embarrassment is sometimes the entry fee for anything worth doing. If you have been playing it safe inside your existing competence, this quick episode will help you spot what you are avoiding and why. Listen, then share it with a friend and subscribe to Balance and Beyond, and if you can, leave a review so more people find these bite-sized breakthroughs. Send a text message to Jo The Balance & Beyond Podcast Hosted by Jo Stone, founder of The Balance Institute For women who are already succeeding, but beginning to wonder if they're willing to keep losing themselves in the process. We know high achievers, because we are one. This podcast draws on Jo's 20 years in global leadership and thousands of hours coaching executives and ambitious women: the patterns she sees, how to untangle them, and what it actually takes to keep your success without paying for it with yourself. If something landed today, there's more where that came from. And if you know a woman this would resonate with, send it her way. 🎙️https://www.balanceinstitute.com/podcast 🔗 www.balanceinstitute.com 💼https://au.linkedin.com/in/stonejoanne 📷 @therealjostone
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