92 - What to Say When Your Partner Is Upset (And Why Nothing You Say Seems to Help)

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Your partner is upset. You want to help. But somehow, everything you say seems to make things worse. The problem usually isn't that you don't care. It's that most people were never taught what their partner actually needs in those moments. Before advice, reassurance or solutions can help, your partner needs to feel understood. In this episode, I share four simple communication skills that can transform difficult conversations. You'll learn how to use minimal encouragers to show you're listening, ask questions that deepen connection, reflect back what you've heard so your partner feels understood, and use positive feedback to create emotional safety. These skills may sound simple, but they can dramatically improve communication, reduce conflict, and help your partner feel supported instead of dismissed. They're also some of the most effective tools I teach couples who want to strengthen their relationship and feel closer to each other. If you've ever wondered what to say when your partner is upset, this episode will give you a practical step-by-step approach you can start using today. The Anger Management Podcast helps people gain control over destructive anger, stop losing their temper, and create calmer, healthier relationships. Hosted by Alastair Duhs, creator of The Complete Anger Management System and founder of Anger Secrets. Resources & Next Steps: Book a free 30-minute phone call Access the free training on "Breaking The Anger Cycle" Learn more about The Complete Anger Management System