Allo and Ace

Welcome to Allo and Ace, where we delve into the intricate dynamics of allosexual and asexual relationships. Join us as we navigate the complexities, celebrate the diversity, and foster understanding between these two unique perspectives on love, intimacy, and connection. Whether you're allosexual, asexual, or somewhere in between, our podcast offers insight, empathy, and a safe space for exploration. We'll explore the intersections, challenges, and joys of relationships where sexual attraction isn't the only currency. Let's bridge the gap and celebrate the beauty of love in all its forms.

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Nov 30, 2025 · 1 hr 11 min
032 - Fear of Unfairness
TW: Sexual Discussion and some Acephobia ------ Today we discuss having a baby and 3 topics that have been on our mind over the last few months.
May 18, 2025 · 1 hr 4 min
031 - Asexuality: Every Body Is Different
TW: Sex, Sexual Experience, Aphobia are discussed SA is lightly alluded to in regards to consent. Today we discuss experiences within asexuality and how sometimes they don't go the way you were planning or hoped for as well as the fact that every body is different and there isn't one way to be asexual and so you shouldn't compare yourself with others as difficult as that may be.
Mar 8, 2025 · 1 hr 13 min
030 - Asexual Relationships - Let's Talk
TW - Sex Talk Today we discuss a few things that have happened over the last month and people we have talked to. We talk about roomates again, platonic relationships, feeling not good enough and where validity resides for each partner etc.
Jan 22, 2025 · 1 hr
029 - Asexual Relationhips - Not Just A Roomate
TW- Sex Talk A Lot In this episode we discuss sexual attraction from the Allosexual to the Asexual as well as addressing how Allosexual partners can better address their partner coming out Asexual and wanting their Allosexul partner to understand them better. We also address the roomate comments that often happen.
Jan 7, 2025 · 1 hr 6 min
028 - Happy New Year Episode
TW - Sex mentioned In this episode we discuss how the holidays have been, the new year and what we plan on doing this year. Jessi also discusses going to a level 1 winter solstice party.
Dec 15, 2024 · 1 hr 37 min
027 - Coming Out Asexual: 10 Things I Wish I Knew
TW- Sex talk and a small discussion that mentions Self Harm Today we talk about 10 things that an Asexual person may have wished they knew before coming out as Asexual. As well as other ramblings
Nov 20, 2024 · 1 hr 11 min
026 - Asexual Relationship: Ethical Non-Monogamy Part 3
TW: Sex Talk For Sure This episode we wrap up our 3 part discussion on Ethical Non-Monogamy. We particularly discuss pro's and con's of ENM and what that means and looks like to not only the Allosexual but the Asexual in a relationship.
Nov 13, 2024 · 1 hr 5 min
025 - Asexual Relationship: Ethical Non-Monogamy Part 2
TW: Sex Talk In this episode, we discuss a couple emails we got, Jessi's new discovery with her self time and then we get into part 2 of Ethical Non-Monogamy and the different flavors that exist in ENM including open relationship, swinging and polyamory.
Oct 30, 2024 · 1 hr 3 min
024 - Asexual Relationship: Ethical Non-Monogamy Part 1
TW: Sex Talk In this episode, we discuss a couple things going on with our kids and then we get into part 1 of Ethical Non-Monogamy and our history with it. We wanted to share this information before going further into it so that you understand our background with it.
Oct 22, 2024 · 1 hr 3 min
023 - Truth, Familiarity and Empathy - 3 Pillars To A Healthy Relationship
TW: Sex Talk In this episode we take a look at these 3 particular pillars in a relationship and discuss what happens when there is an imbalance.
Oct 8, 2024 · 56 min
022 - Self-Contained Sexuality
-TW: This episode has a lot of sex talk. Like a lot. In this episode we discuss some revelations around sexual intimacy, self pleasure and what that means in our relationship and what we have learned in this process of getting closer together and self discovery.
Sep 25, 2024 · 59 min
021 - Understanding Without Understanding - Empathy
TW - Some sexual discussion and a scenario where the phrase violated was used as an averse asexual. We have an etsy store https://etsy.com/shop/AlloAndAce In this episode we discuss different forms of empathy in a relationship specifically the difference between Cognitive Empathy and Emotional Empathy and how we as humans need to get away from self preservation / defense and sit for a moment and if we can't emotionally provide empathy, intellectually think about the situation and see if you can provide congitive empathy to get to a place of understanding without understanding.
Sep 10, 2024 · 1 hr 1 min
020 - Making Clear Agreements
TW - General Sex Talk In this Episode, we discuss clarifications from Episode 19 and on top of that, discuss what it looks like to make clear agreements in a relationship especially when it comes to understanding each other better in an asexual relationship but also how that can strengthen communication in your relationship too.
Aug 27, 2024 · 1 hr 2 min
019 - All The Monogamies
TW - SEX and Substance Use Look. We get it. Monogamies isn't a word. That's fine. This episode is about both Ethical Non-Monogamy and Ethical Monogamy. Most people don't consider the fact that their monogamous relationship may not be ethical. Who decides that? Well the answer is the both of you. Lately, Jessi has been feeling guilty because she feels like she is forcing celibacy on me and we compare the relationship to the Cost Suck Fallacy and is that the only reason why I am afraid to say I need more? Well, tune in and find out.
Aug 20, 2024 · 1 hr 20 min
018 - The Masks We Wear
TW - Sex Want to send us a text or voicemail? 1-385-645-3651 Today Jessi wanted to continue her discussion about looking back to few days before realizing she was Asexual and what that looked like. Along with that, realizing the masks that we wear for good or bad and why the sexual persona is such a difficult persona to shed and what that means in a relationship. That can be hard for both the Asexual partner and Allosexual partner.
Aug 13, 2024 · 1 hr 4 min
017 - Further Discussion on Compliance and Getting Behaviors
TW - Sex talk and compliance Today we talk more about Compliance and clarify some of the things we talked about in Episode 16. We talk about the boundaries needing to be clear to help prevent sexual compliance and we talk about what getting behaviors are and when they might be good but when they certainly are not good.
Jul 24, 2024 · 1 hr 58 min
016 - Navigating Intimacy - Avoiding Sexual Compliance in Asexual Relationships
TW: This whole episode is about SA in the form of Sexual Compliance and Sex We discuss the various forms of asexuality including the level of Favorability or Repulsness of sex and how Sexual Compliance can sneak into the relationship. Importance of Consent and Boundaries as well as societal pressures, and miss-information when it comes to asexuality being psychological or a hormone imbalance. We discuss communication and issues around communication as well as boundaries and how difficult this episode was for Jessi.
Jul 17, 2024 · 1 hr 19 min
015 - Rejection Goes Both Ways
TW - General sex talk - Not Graphic Today we discuss a few education moments that Jessi had one being a trigger and one being with her Asexual son. We then discuss Rejection going both ways for not only the Allosexual partner with sex but also the way that the Asexual partner is not only rejected by society but also by their partner.
Jul 10, 2024 · 1 hr 1 min
014 - Revisiting Boundaries
TW - Sex experience discussed In this episode, we go back to discussing boundaries like in Episode 3 but talking about being nice to yourself as an asexual for making mistakes when trying to figure out your boundaries as well as for the Allosexual to have patience and being kind to yourself and your Asexual partner when it comes to boundaries and reactions that happen.
Jul 2, 2024 · 59 min
013 - The Intimacy Hierarchy That Doesn't Exist
TW - Sex, Kissing, Touching etc. Today we discuss live some boundaries that have come up recently. We read a negative review that says they don't know a single "sexual" (they refuse to say Allosexual) person who views sex as a higher form of intimacy and that there isn't a hierarchy to intimacy. And we discuss the perceived sexual hierarchy. We also discuss more in depth where we ourselves may place our own requirements to stay in a relationship.

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