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Luke Shillings

The ‘After the affair’ podcast with Luke Shillings is here to help you process, decide, and move forward on purpose following infidelity. Let’s explore what’s required to rebuild trust not only in yourself, but also with others. Whether you stay or leave, I can help! and no matter what your story, there will be something here for you.

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  • S2026 · E215
    Wednesday · 20 min

    215. They Cheated. Why Am I Paying The Price?

    "I'm innocent, but I'm the one paying the consequences." If you've experienced infidelity, there's a good chance you've had some version of this thought. Your partner made the decision to cheat, yet you're the one dealing with the fallout. Perhaps you're losing your home, spending less time with your children, facing financial uncertainty, or simply trying to rebuild a life you never wanted to change. And somewhere in the middle of all that, you're asking yourself: How is any of this fair? In this episode of After the Affair, I'm taking you inside the kind of coaching conversation I've had with many betrayed partners. Drawing together recurring themes from different sessions, we'll explore what happens when we begin questioning the thoughts that feel so obviously true. Not to convince you that what happened was fair. And certainly not to excuse the person who betrayed you. But to understand how our thoughts, emotions and behaviours interact, and why some of our most understandable responses can sometimes make an already difficult situation even harder. Along the way, I'll share the questions I use in coaching and invite you to consider how you might answer them yourself. Because you don't have to change what happened to begin changing what happens next. In this episode, we explore: Why feeling innocent and feeling unfairly treated can create very different emotional experiences. How trying to think positively can sometimes prevent us from understanding what we're actually feeling. The relationship between frustration, resentment and the behaviours we fall into after betrayal. Why recognising a pattern during coaching isn't the same as changing it in everyday life. How to take responsibility for your responses without taking responsibility for somebody else's infidelity. A question to take away Think about something you're currently frustrated by and ask yourself: "What am I doing in response to this frustration, and is it creating any additional consequences I don't want?" You don't have to judge yourself for the answer. Just be curious. Work with me If you're struggling with the aftermath of infidelity and recognise some of these patterns in yourself, this is the kind of work I do with clients through my one-to-one coaching. We explore what's happening beneath the surface, challenge the beliefs that may be keeping you stuck, and work on putting those discoveries into practice. You can find out more about working with me at www.lifecoachluke.com. The coaching conversation described in this episode is a reconstruction drawing on recurring themes from multiple sessions. It does not reproduce any individual client's private conversation. Connect with Luke: Website: www.lifecoachluke.com Instagram: @mylifecoachluke Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity

  • S2026 · E214
    October 28 · 24 min

    214. Sliding Doors: Two Paths After Betrayal

    Imagine two versions of yourself, both starting at exactly the same moment. The same affair. The same pain. The same uncertainty about what happens next. But two very different paths through recovery. What if the biggest difference between those two futures isn't whether you stay or leave, but how you respond to what happened? Inspired by the film Sliding Doors, this episode of After the Affair follows two versions of Alex, someone whose life changes overnight after discovering their partner's infidelity. Both experience the same devastation. Both search for answers, struggle with difficult emotions and question everything they thought they knew. But as the months pass, their approaches to recovery begin to diverge. One becomes increasingly focused on understanding the betrayal, searching for certainty and waiting for their partner to change before they can move forward. The other begins learning to experience difficult emotions without immediately trying to solve them, distinguish between facts and interpretations, take ownership of their responses and make choices that reflect their values. Neither has an easy journey. And neither knows whether their relationship will survive. Because the real measure of recovery isn't whether you stay together. It's the relationship you develop with yourself and the life you're creating. In this episode: Why two people can experience the same betrayal but follow very different paths through recovery How trying to solve emotional pain intellectually can sometimes keep us stuck The difference between understanding your emotions and allowing yourself to experience them Why our interpretations of somebody's behaviour aren't necessarily facts How to distinguish between unacceptable behaviour and judgements about someone's entire character The difference between taking responsibility for your recovery and taking responsibility for somebody else's betrayal Why understanding what needs to change isn't the same as actually changing it How small, repeated choices can gradually shape the direction of your life One of the most important ideas in this episode is that these aren't two different types of people. They're two different patterns of responding. And most of us will recognise ourselves in both. You might spend one day overthinking, blaming or searching for answers, and the next making decisions that move you towards the life you want. Recovery isn't a single choice that determines your future. It's influenced by the many smaller choices you make along the way. And unlike the film, there's no moment when the doors close permanently. You can begin responding differently at any point. Ready to Take a Different Path? Perhaps you've spent months reading books, listening to podcasts and trying to understand what happened. You've learned an enormous amount about betrayal. But despite everything you know, you still find yourself repeating the same patterns. That's where coaching can help. Working with Luke isn't about being told whether you should stay or leave. It's about recognising the thoughts and behaviours that are keeping you stuck, rebuilding trust in yourself and learning to put what you already understand into practice. Because knowing how you want to live and actually living that way are two different things. If you're ready to start making meaningful changes in your recovery, you can find out more about working with Luke through the links below. Connect with Luke: Website: www.lifecoachluke.com Instagram: @mylifecoachluke Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity

  • S2026 · E213
    October 21 · 16 min

    213. Am I Defined By Betrayal?

    You were betrayed. That's something that happened to you. But has it become who you are? After discovering an affair, it's natural to want answers. You read the books, listen to podcasts, join support groups and spend countless hours trying to understand what happened and how to recover. And much of that work can be incredibly valuable. But what happens when healing stops being something you're doing and starts becoming part of your identity? When your days revolve around understanding your triggers, assessing your progress and trying to work out whether you've healed enough, it's worth asking whether the recovery process is still helping you move forward. Or whether it's become something familiar that you're reluctant to move beyond. In this episode of After the Affair, Luke explores how the identity of being betrayed can sometimes become a source of protection, and how the very activities intended to help us recover might inadvertently keep betrayal at the centre of our lives. In this episode: Why betrayal can become a significant part of how we understand ourselves How the activity of healing can sometimes protect the identity of being betrayed Why recovery can provide a sense of purpose, familiarity and control How remaining focused on healing might protect us from uncertainty, responsibility and vulnerability Why moving beyond recovery can feel uncomfortable, even when life is improving The importance of recovery communities and how our relationship with them can evolve How to recognise when healing is helping you build your future, rather than keeping you focused on your past This isn't about suggesting that you should have recovered by now, or that continuing to experience pain means you're doing something wrong. There is no universal deadline for healing. And seeking support isn't a sign that you're stuck. But perhaps there's a question worth considering: Am I doing this because it's helping me build the life I want, or because it helps me avoid the discomfort of moving towards that life? Because understanding your past and creating your future are two different things. You can acknowledge what happened, recognise the impact it's had on your life, and still begin to explore who you want to become. Healing isn't the life you're trying to create. Healing is supposed to help you live that life. So perhaps the question isn't whether you've finished healing. Perhaps it's what you'd like your life to be about beyond the betrayal. If you're ready to explore what moving forward could look like for you, and would like some support along the way, you can find out more about working with Luke through the links below. And if this episode resonates with you, consider sharing it with somebody who might benefit from hearing it too. Connect with Luke: Website: www.lifecoachluke.com Instagram: @mylifecoachluke Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity

  • S2026 · E212
    October 14 · 13 min

    212. Was Staying The Right Decision?

    You decided to stay after the affair. At first, things seemed to be improving. You were communicating better, rebuilding trust, and perhaps even beginning to feel hopeful about the future. You started to believe you'd made the right decision. But then things became difficult again. And suddenly you're asking yourself: Was staying a mistake? After betrayal, it's easy to judge our decisions based on how things are going right now. A good month can reassure us that we made the right choice. A difficult week can leave us questioning everything. But what if the outcome of a decision isn't quite as straightforward as right or wrong? In this episode of After the Affair, Luke explores four ways we make decisions, why our values can provide a more reliable foundation than fear or other people's opinions, and why the point at which we assess a decision can completely change our perspective. Drawing on an old Chinese parable about a farmer, his horses and the unpredictable nature of fortune, Luke challenges the idea that we can always determine whether a decision was right simply by looking at what happened afterwards. In this episode: The four ways we make decisions: emotion, other people's opinions, chance and values Why making a decision based on your values doesn't guarantee the outcome you want How the same decision can feel right one month and wrong the next Why the timing of your assessment changes how you interpret the outcome The difference between making a good decision and getting a good result Why changing direction doesn't necessarily mean your original decision was a mistake You can make a thoughtful, responsible decision and still experience an outcome you didn't want. Equally, you can make a poor decision and get lucky. The question isn't always whether you made the right decision. Sometimes a more useful question is: What does what I know now tell me about what I should do next? Because you can't expect your past self to have known everything your present self knows. And you don't have to declare your original decision a mistake in order to make a different one today. If you're struggling to decide whether to stay, leave or continue rebuilding your relationship after infidelity, you can find out more about working with Luke through the links in the show notes. And if this episode resonates, consider sharing it with somebody who's questioning a difficult decision of their own. Connect with Luke: Website: www.lifecoachluke.com Instagram: @mylifecoachluke Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity

  • S2026 · E211
    October 7 · 9 min

    211. Why Does a Good Day Feel So Dangerous?

    You have a good day together. You laugh. You feel close. Maybe for a few hours, you barely think about the affair at all. And then comes the thought: Am I letting them off too easily? After betrayal, even feeling better can become complicated. A good weekend can suddenly feel like evidence that you've forgiven them. Enjoying sex can make you question whether you're taking what happened seriously enough. Laughing together can leave you wondering whether you're becoming too comfortable, too quickly. But does a good day really have to mean any of those things? In this episode, Luke explores why moments of happiness and connection can sometimes feel surprisingly unsafe after betrayal - and why we can end up turning every good or bad experience into evidence about whether we should stay or leave. In this episode: Why feeling bad can sometimes feel safer than feeling good The fear that enjoying your partner means you're forgiving them Why every good or bad day doesn't need to become a verdict on your relationship How staying guarded can become an attempt to avoid being fooled again Why feeling better doesn't invalidate what happened The difference between connection, forgiveness, trust and choosing to stay The significance of what happened isn't measured by how long you remain miserable afterwards. You don't have to keep hurting to prove that you were hurt. So the next time you notice yourself enjoying being with your partner, instead of asking: “Should I really be enjoying this?” Try asking: “What am I frightened this enjoyment means?” You don't have to make a good moment mean anything more than it means. Sometimes a good day is just a good day. And you're allowed to have one. Connect with Luke: Website: www.lifecoachluke.com Instagram: @mylifecoachluke Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity

  • S2026 · E210
    September 30 · 9 min

    210. I'm Not Ready To Choose

    “I’m not ready.” It sounds reasonable. And sometimes it is. But when you're facing a difficult decision after betrayal, waiting can easily feel like the safe option. You don't have to commit. You don't have to risk making the wrong choice. You can gather more information, ask more questions and keep trying to work out what will happen next. The problem is that waiting is still a choice. In this episode, Luke explores the cost of inaction and why the search for certainty can leave you stuck for far longer than you realise. Because while you're deciding what to do with the next six months, you're living them. This isn't about rushing into a decision or forcing yourself to stay or leave. Sometimes waiting is exactly the right thing to do. The important question is whether you're deliberately choosing to wait for a reason, or whether fear is choosing for you. In this episode: Why inaction is still an action The hidden cost of waiting to make a decision How “I’m not ready” can sometimes mean “I’m scared of choosing” Why trying to predict every possible outcome keeps you stuck The difference between useful information-gathering and avoidance Why absolute certainty is an impossible standard for important decisions How a bad outcome doesn't necessarily mean you made a bad decision The difference between confidence in an outcome and confidence in yourself If there's something you've been putting off, try asking yourself a different question: What is waiting costing me? You may decide that waiting is still the wisest choice. But put it on the scales. Because doing nothing doesn't get to sit outside the decision pretending to be free. It has a cost. It has consequences. And it is still a choice. Connect with Luke: Website: www.lifecoachluke.com Instagram: @mylifecoachluke Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity2

  • S2026 · E209
    September 23 · 15 min

    209. The Halo Effect After Betrayal

    After discovering an affair, have you found yourself looking back at your relationship and wondering whether everything meant something different? The late nights at work. The distance. The phone habits. That holiday. That argument from years ago. Things that once seemed completely ordinary can suddenly look suspicious. In this episode, Luke explores the halo effect, the tendency for one strong impression of someone to influence how we interpret everything else about them, and what can happen when betrayal turns that positive halo into something much more negative. Because betrayal doesn't just change what you know. It can change what everything you already knew appears to mean. You'll learn why reassessing the past after betrayal makes complete sense, how understandable suspicion can sometimes become an overcorrection, and how separating facts from stories can help you distinguish between what you actually know and what now feels possible. Luke also turns the idea inward, exploring what happens when: "I didn't know" becomes "I'm an idiot." Or: "I trusted them" becomes "I can't trust myself." The goal isn't to think more positively about your partner, excuse their behaviour or put them back on a pedestal. It's to see them, your relationship and yourself, more accurately. In this episode: What the halo effect is and how it shapes our judgement How betrayal can turn a positive halo into the negative horn effect Why old memories can suddenly appear completely different The difference between "I know this" and "I can now imagine this" How to separate facts from the stories built around them Why betrayal can change the way you see yourself How being faithful doesn't require you to see yourself as the perfect partner Why complexity can bring you closer to clarity A question to take away: Choose one belief you now have about your partner, your relationship or yourself. What is the fact? And then: What is the story you've built around that fact? You don't need to replace it with a more positive story. Just start by noticing the difference. Connect with Luke: Website: www.lifecoachluke.com Instagram: @mylifecoachluke Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity

  • S2026 · E208
    September 16 · 11 min

    208. Why Does Betrayal Physically Hurt So Much?

    Betrayal is emotional. So why can it make you feel physically awful? The tight chest. The sick feeling in your stomach. The exhaustion. The tension. The racing heart. Being completely shattered but somehow unable to sleep. None of this feels particularly "emotional" when you're the one experiencing it. In this episode, Luke explores the relationship between emotional and physical pain, and why the distinction between the two isn't always as neat as we imagine. More importantly, he looks at the feedback loop that can develop after betrayal: emotional distress affects your physical state, while exhaustion, poor sleep and physical tension can make your emotional experience even harder to manage. You'll discover why your physical state matters when you're trying to make sense of what happened, why feelings can be treated as notifications rather than instructions, and why looking after your body isn't avoiding the emotional work. Sometimes, it's what makes the emotional work possible. In this episode: Why betrayal can create very real physical sensations The relationship between emotional pain and physical pain How poor sleep, exhaustion and stress can amplify emotional distress Why your physical state can influence the way you think about your relationship The difference between treating an emotion as information and treating it as an instruction Why self-care isn't a substitute for recovery - but can create better conditions for it A question to take away: What condition is your body in while you're asking yourself to heal? Connect with Luke: Website: www.lifecoachluke.com Instagram: @mylifecoachluke Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity

  • S2026 · E207
    September 9 · 25 min

    207. Am I Paranoid - Or Trusting My Gut? The Algorithm After Betrayal

    "What if I'm ignoring the signs again?" After betrayal, that question can be incredibly difficult to shake. You trusted before. You believed what you were being told. And somewhere along the way, you discovered that your version of reality wasn't quite what you thought it was. So now you pay attention. You check their phone. Their location. The affair partner's social media. You analyse changes in tone, unexplained delays and tiny inconsistencies. And the more you look, the more you seem to find. So is your gut trying to tell you something? Or has your mind simply become extraordinarily good at finding evidence of the thing it's already afraid of? In this episode, I explore what I call "the algorithm" - the way our repeated attention and behaviours can gradually train our minds to notice more of the same. Just like a social media algorithm learns what keeps you engaged and serves you more of it, your mind can begin curating its own version of reality based on what you've repeatedly taught it matters. And after betrayal, hypervigilance can feel remarkably similar to wisdom. In this episode, you'll learn: Why checking can become compulsive even when it rarely provides lasting reassurance. How betrayal can train your attention towards potential threats. Why genuine changes in your partner can sometimes become surprisingly difficult to see. How expectations can create a cycle of reassurance, disappointment and more checking. Why well-meaning friends can unintentionally reinforce the same narrative. The difference between recognising genuine red flags and automatically interpreting ambiguity as danger. How small, repeated changes in what you give your attention to can begin retraining your internal algorithm. This isn't about ignoring your intuition. It isn't about convincing yourself everything is fine. And it certainly isn't about overlooking genuine evidence that something is wrong. It's about recognising that being alert to danger and accurately assessing danger aren't necessarily the same thing. Your mind learnt to protect you for a very understandable reason. The question now is whether the protection it's offering is still helping you. A question to consider What are you repeatedly feeding your internal algorithm? The profiles you check. The conversations you replay. The evidence you search for. The people you speak to. Because the filter you're looking through isn't necessarily the truth. It's a filter. And filters can change. Resources & Links If you'd like support breaking these patterns, rebuilding trust in yourself and creating more clarity after betrayal, you can find out more about my one-to-one coaching and the After the Affair Collective at lifecoachluke.com. And if this episode helped you understand something you've been struggling to put into words, consider sharing it with someone else who might need to hear it. Connect with Luke: Website: www.lifecoachluke.com Instagram: @mylifecoachluke Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com

  • S2026 · E206
    September 2 · 21 min

    206. The Decision You Can't Optimise: Staying or Leaving After Betrayal

    Stay or leave? After betrayal, it can feel as though there must be a right answer. So you do what you've probably done successfully with countless other important decisions. You gather information. Weigh the options. Consider the risks. What happens to the children? The finances? The house? What if they do it again? What if they've genuinely changed? What if you leave and regret it? What if you stay and waste another five years? You create pros and cons lists. Run different scenarios. Have the same conversations repeatedly. You're trying to optimise the decision. To find the option most likely to produce the best possible outcome. There's just one problem. Most of the variables you need aren't actually knowable. You can't produce a reliable five-year forecast for your marriage. You can't calculate the return on investment of a divorce. And there's no spreadsheet capable of telling you which choice will create the least pain three years from now. In this final episode of the three-part series, I explore why trying to find the objectively best decision can keep you trapped — and what you might ask yourself instead. In this episode: Why stay-or-leave decisions resist the usual methods we use to make good choices How trying to optimise an unknowable future creates decision paralysis Why more thinking doesn't necessarily produce more certainty The important difference between decision quality and outcome quality Why a painful outcome doesn't automatically mean you made the wrong decision How trying to protect yourself from future regret can keep you stuck today Why staying today doesn't mean committing yourself to staying forever How breaking one enormous decision into smaller decisions can reduce paralysis Why ownership can become a stronger foundation for self-trust than certainty Perhaps the question isn't: “Which decision will produce the best outcome?” Perhaps it's: “Which decision am I willing to take responsibility for?” Because you can make a thoughtful, considered decision and still experience pain afterwards. You can choose to stay based on everything you know today and later receive new information that changes your mind. You can choose to leave and still miss them. You can make a good decision and get an outcome you didn't want. Changing your mind later doesn't automatically mean you were wrong today. Self-trust doesn't require you to predict the future correctly. Perhaps it means trusting yourself to respond when the future actually arrives. And maybe that's the bigger shift. Not: I trust myself to always get it right. But: I trust myself to respond to whatever happens next. This is the final episode in this short three-part series exploring overthinking, capability, uncertainty and decision-making after betrayal. Work With Me If you're stuck between staying and leaving, you don't necessarily need somebody else to make the decision for you. You may need somewhere to separate fear, predictions, expectations and everybody else's opinions from what you actually want. That's exactly the kind of work we can do together. You can learn more about my one-to-one coaching and the After the Affair Collective at lifecoachluke.com. Connect with Luke: Website: www.lifecoachluke.com Instagram: @mylifecoachluke Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity

  • S2026 · E205
    August 26 · 17 min

    205. Why Falling Apart Feels So Confusing When You're Usually in Control

    You're usually the person who handles things. The calm one. The problem-solver. The person others rely on when something goes wrong. And then betrayal happens. Suddenly, you can't concentrate. You're questioning everything. You're checking their phone at midnight, replaying conversations when you're supposed to be working, crying in the car and struggling to make decisions that once would have seemed simple. But perhaps the most painful part isn't even that you're struggling. It's what you start making that struggle mean about you. This isn't me. When you've spent years seeing yourself as capable, composed and dependable, being completely knocked sideways by betrayal can feel like an identity crisis on top of everything else. In this short episode, I explore why competence and invulnerability aren't the same thing, and why being extremely capable in other areas of your life doesn't necessarily prepare you for a deeply personal, emotional rupture. In this episode: Why betrayal can feel particularly disorientating when you're normally the one in control How competence can quietly become part of your identity The secondary suffering created when you judge yourself for struggling Why the skills that make you excellent at work don't automatically transfer to betrayal The loneliness of being the person everybody else normally relies upon Why your current emotional state isn't reliable evidence about your strength or capability You can manage a team, make enormous decisions, solve complicated problems and remain calm when everyone around you is panicking… and still find yourself completely undone by betrayal. Those things aren't contradictory. Competence isn't the same as invulnerability. You haven't suddenly become less capable because you're struggling in unfamiliar territory. Perhaps the shift is simply to stop using how you're feeling right now as evidence of who you are. This is the second of three short episodes exploring how some of the qualities that serve us brilliantly elsewhere in life can unexpectedly make betrayal recovery more difficult. In the final episode, we'll look at one of the biggest decisions after betrayal - whether to stay or leave - and why trying to calculate your way to the right answer might actually be keeping you stuck. Work With Me If you'd like support navigating betrayal, rebuilding self-trust and deciding how you want to move forward, you can learn more about my one-to-one coaching and the After the Affair Collective at lifecoachluke.com. Connect with Luke: Website: www.lifecoachluke.com Instagram: @mylifecoachluke Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity

  • S2026 · E204
    August 19 · 8 min

    204. Why Smart People Struggle More After Betrayal (Not Less) Pt 1

    If you're usually good at solving problems, betrayal can be uniquely frustrating. You're used to something going wrong, gathering the information, understanding what happened and figuring out what to do next. So when infidelity happens, you naturally try to do the same thing. Why did they do it? What did I miss? What does this mean? What should I do now? How can I make sure it never happens again? You research. Replay conversations. Ask more questions. Run different scenarios. Perhaps you listen to another podcast episode hoping this will finally be the one that makes everything click. But what if the problem isn't that you haven't figured it out yet? What if you're trying to solve something that was never really a puzzle in the first place? In this short episode, I explore why our ability to analyse and problem-solve can sometimes work against us after betrayal - and how thinking can quietly shift from a useful attempt to understand what happened into a sophisticated way of avoiding what we're actually feeling. In this episode: Why capable, analytical people can become particularly stuck after betrayal The hidden assumption that understanding everything will finally make you feel okay The difference between a problem to solve and an experience to navigate How analysis can feel like progress even when you're going round in circles Why repeatedly asking questions doesn't necessarily produce greater clarity A simple way to recognise when thinking has stopped helping The question I want to leave you with is: Am I actually trying to understand something new, or am I using analysis to avoid sitting with a feeling I haven't let myself have yet? You don't necessarily need another answer. Sometimes, the next step is recognising that not everything difficult can be solved. Some experiences have to be moved through. This is the first of three short episodes exploring how some of the very qualities that help us succeed elsewhere in life can unexpectedly make recovery after betrayal more difficult. In the next episode, we'll look at what happens when being someone who normally handles things becomes part of the problem, and why struggling can start to feel like evidence that something is wrong with you. Work With Me If you'd like support navigating betrayal, rebuilding self-trust and figuring out what you actually want moving forward, you can learn more about my one-to-one coaching and the After the Affair Collective at lifecoachluke.com. Connect with Luke: Website: www.lifecoachluke.com Instagram: @mylifecoachluke Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com

  • S2026 · E203
    August 12 · 14 min

    203. Why You Regret What You Said - Or What You Didn't Say After Betrayal

    Have you ever walked away from a conversation after betrayal and immediately thought, "Why did I say that?" Maybe anger took over. You said something cutting, threatened to leave, or tried to make your partner understand just how much they'd hurt you. But there's another kind of regret too. "Why didn't I say what I was really thinking?" You stayed quiet. Kept the peace. Swallowed what you wanted to say. And hours later, you're still having the conversation in your head. In this episode, I explore both ends of that communication spectrum: reacting and suppressing. Because although they look completely different, they often have something important in common - you're allowing discomfort to make the decision for you. We'll also look at the difference between communicating what you think and what you feel, why honesty doesn't require saying every thought that enters your head, and how to create enough space between emotion and action to choose how you actually want to show up. Because a feeling is a notification. It's not an instruction. In this episode, you'll learn: Why saying too much and saying nothing can come from the same underlying problem. The difference between communication and emotional discharge. Why silence isn't always emotional regulation, sometimes it's fear or avoidance. How confusing thoughts and feelings can cause conversations to completely miss the point. Why "I feel like you don't care" isn't actually a feeling. How to be honest without using "brutal honesty" as permission to be hurtful. Why "not yet" can be a powerful alternative to reacting or suppressing. One question to ask yourself before a difficult conversation: "How do I want to feel about the way I handled this tomorrow?" A question to consider Which end of the spectrum do you tend to move towards when emotions are high? Do you react… saying things because the feeling needs somewhere to go? Or do you suppress… keeping quiet because you're afraid of what might happen if you speak? The goal isn't to become quieter or more outspoken. It's to become someone who chooses. Work with Luke Learn more about my 1:1 coaching and the After the Affair Collective at lifecoachluke.com. And if the podcast helps you, make sure you're following the show so you don't miss future episodes. If you know someone who regularly finds themselves thinking either "I wish I hadn't said that" or "I wish I'd spoken up", consider sharing this episode with them too. If you loved the episode, don’t keep it to yourself :-) Every rating and review really helps it get to other people just like you who really need it right now. Thank you! Connect with Luke: Website: www.lifecoachluke.com Instagram: @mylifecoachluke Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity

  • #202
    August 5 · 23 min

    202. Stressed! Why You Can’t Think Straight Right Now

    Have you ever walked into a room and forgotten why you went there? Read the same email three times? Snapped at someone you love over something insignificant and wondered, "Where did that come from?" When you're recovering from betrayal, it's easy to assume something is wrong with you. That you're becoming forgetful, emotional, or incapable of coping. But what if the problem isn't you? In this episode, I share a personal glimpse into a week where life simply became too much. Between moving house, family commitments, running a business and the everyday pressures of life, I found myself feeling overwhelmed... and surprisingly ashamed that I wasn't coping better. That experience reminded me of something I see time and time again with my clients: after betrayal, you're already carrying an invisible mental and emotional load before the day has even begun. Together, we'll explore why your mind can feel foggy, why simple tasks suddenly become difficult, and why this isn't a sign that you're failing - it's a sign that your capacity is already stretched. If you've been wondering why you can't seem to think clearly, make decisions, or feel like yourself lately, this episode is for you. In this episode, you'll learn: Why overwhelm after betrayal is about capacity, not capability. How betrayal quietly consumes your mental bandwidth every single day. The hidden cost of judging yourself for struggling. Why trying harder often makes things worse. A simple question that can replace self-criticism with self-understanding. Resources & Links 🌐 Learn more about coaching and The After the Affair Collective: https://www.lifecoachluke.com Instagram www.instagram.com/mylifecoachluke 📧 Join my weekly email community for extra insights, practical tools, and support between episodes: https://www.lifecoachluke.com/subscribe If this episode helped you... Please consider following the podcast and leaving a review. It helps more people discover the show and supports the mission of helping those navigating the aftermath of infidelity. And if someone came to mind whilst listening, share this episode with them. Sometimes knowing why you're struggling is the first step towards stopping yourself from believing there's something wrong with you.

  • S2026 · E201
    July 29 · 15 min

    201. The Truth About Closure

    "If I just knew one more thing..." It's one of the most common thoughts after betrayal. One more conversation. One more answer. One more piece of the puzzle. Because surely, once you finally understand everything, you'll be able to move on. But what if that's not how closure actually works? In this episode of After the Affair, Luke explores why so many betrayed partners become trapped in an endless search for answers, and why every answer often seems to create another question. You'll discover the difference between seeking understanding and seeking certainty, why information has diminishing returns, and why the mind keeps chasing details that no longer change anything meaningful. Most importantly, this episode explores the difference between comprehension and closure. Because they aren't the same thing. And understanding that difference may finally free you from the exhausting cycle of needing just one more answer. In This Episode You'll Learn Why the search for closure often turns into a search for certainty Why every answer can seem to create another question The difference between information that genuinely helps and information that simply feeds uncertainty Why the emotional urgency of a question isn't always matched by its practical importance The hidden reason information has diminishing returns after betrayal Why even an honest partner may never be able to provide the perfect explanation you're hoping for The "95% Problem" and why the brain fixates on what's still missing How to recognise when questioning has shifted from understanding to reassurance-seeking The difference between comprehension and closure Why learning to tolerate uncertainty is often where genuine healing begins A Powerful Question From This Episode "What am I actually hoping this answer will give me?" Because sometimes you're asking for information. Sometimes you're asking for certainty. And those are two very different things. Understanding which one you're really seeking can completely change the way you approach your healing. Key Takeaways ✅ Asking questions after betrayal is completely normal. ✅ Understanding what happened is important, but certainty has no natural finishing line. ✅ Information becomes less valuable long before it feels less urgent. ✅ Every new answer can simply become a platform for the next question. ✅ The emotional intensity of a question doesn't necessarily reflect its importance. ✅ Even the person who had the affair may never have a single, tidy explanation for why they did what they did. ✅ Closure isn't knowing everything. ✅ Closure is reaching the point where you know enough to move forward. ✅ Healing begins when unanswered questions stop controlling your future. Why This Episode Matters Many betrayed partners believe they're stuck because they still don't have all the answers. But often, the problem isn't missing information. It's the belief that complete certainty is possible. This episode explores why closure doesn't arrive when every question has been answered, but when you no longer need every answer in order to rebuild your life. Because there will almost always be another question. The real freedom comes when you realise you don't need every missing piece to see the picture clearly enough to move forward. Resources & Support If you're rebuilding your life after betrayal and you're looking for structure, guidance and support, Luke offers both private coaching and a supportive recovery community. 🌐 Website https://www.lifecoachluke.com 📧 Email luke@lifecoachluke.com 📱 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachluke 👥 Join the After the Affair Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity If This Episode Helped... If this conversation resonated with you, please consider following the podcast and leaving a rating or review. It helps more people discover the support they need during one of the most difficult periods of their lives. And if you know someone who keeps believing that one more answer will finally bring them peace, perhaps this is the episode they need to hear.

  • S2026 · E200
    July 22 · 23 min

    200. After 200 Episodes, Here's What I Know About Affair Recovery

    Two hundred episodes. Hundreds of thousands of downloads. Thousands of messages. Hundreds of coaching conversations. And after everything I've learned from walking alongside people recovering from betrayal, there's one thing I believe more strongly today than when I recorded episode one. You're not all asking the same questions. But you're all walking the same road. Some of you are in complete shock. Some of you are desperately searching for answers. Some of you are rebuilding trust. Some of you are deciding whether to stay or leave. Some of you have already rebuilt a life you never thought was possible. In this special 200th episode of After the Affair, Luke steps away from teaching a single concept and instead walks through the entire journey of betrayal recovery, from the first devastating moments after discovery to the quiet confidence that eventually comes from rebuilding your life. Whether you've been listening since the beginning or this is your very first episode, you'll almost certainly recognise yourself somewhere along this path. Because wherever you are today... This episode was made for you. In This Episode You'll Learn Why shock after betrayal is a normal response, not a sign you're falling apart The difference between accepting reality and approving of what happened Why endlessly searching for answers rarely brings the peace you're hoping for Why safety must come before trust can ever be rebuilt How emotional healing isn't about feeling less, it's about relating differently to your emotions What rebuilding trust actually looks like in real life Why resentment often keeps someone living inside your nervous system long after they're gone Why reconnecting with yourself may be even more important than reconnecting with your relationship How betrayal can eventually become one chapter of your story instead of your entire identity The one belief Luke holds after nearly 600 discovery calls, hundreds of coaching clients, and 200 podcast episodes A Powerful Question From This Episode "What kind of life do I actually want to build next?" Because there comes a point where the question quietly changes. It stops being: "How do I get my old life back?" And becomes: "What do I want my future to look like from here?" That shift doesn't erase the past. But it changes everything about the future. Key Takeaways ✅ Healing isn't a straight line, it's a journey through many different stages. ✅ Acceptance is not approval. It's simply stopping the fight with reality. ✅ You don't need every answer before you can begin moving forward. ✅ Safety always comes before trust. ✅ Your emotions aren't the enemy, they're experiences you can learn to hold. ✅ Trust isn't certainty. It's confidence that you'll be okay whatever happens next. ✅ Rebuilding your relationship with yourself is one of the most important parts of recovery. ✅ One day, your story can become something you remember, not something that defines you. ✅ The future begins to change when it matters more than the past. Why This Episode Matters Every week, people arrive at this podcast believing they're facing a unique problem. Some are trying to decide whether to stay. Others are struggling to trust again. Some can't stop checking. Others simply want the pain to stop. But underneath those different questions lies the same human journey. This episode brings together the biggest lessons from the first 200 episodes into one conversation about what betrayal recovery really looks like, from the moment your world falls apart to the day you realise you're no longer defined by what happened. If you've ever wondered whether you're making progress... Whether what you're feeling is normal... Or whether life can genuinely become good again... This is the episode to hear. Resources & Support If you're rebuilding your life after betrayal and you're looking for structure, guidance and support, Luke offers both private coaching and a supportive recovery community. 🌐 Website https://www.lifecoachluke.com 📧 Email luke@lifecoachluke.com 📱 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachluke 👥 Join the After the Affair Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffair If This Episode Helped... If you've been with me for one episode or all two hundred, thank you. Your willingness to keep showing up, keep learning, and keep believing that life can become better is the reason this podcast still exists. If this episode resonated with you, please consider following the podcast and leaving a rating or review. It helps more people discover the support they need during one of the hardest experiences of their lives. And if you know someone who has just begun this journey, or someone who's forgotten how far they've already come, perhaps this is the episode they need to hear.

  • S2026 · E199
    July 15 · 25 min

    199. Why Do I Feel Worse At Night? - Affair Recovery

    Why Do I Feel Worse At Night? You make it through the day. You go to work. You answer messages. You keep the family moving. You even catch yourself thinking, "Maybe I'm doing a little better today." Then night arrives. The house goes quiet. You climb into bed. And suddenly it all comes crashing back. The thoughts. The images. The questions. The anxiety. So why does this happen? In this episode of After the Affair, Luke explores one of the most common, but rarely discussed, experiences after betrayal: why emotional pain often feels so much heavier once the day comes to an end. You'll discover why the problem isn't actually the time on the clock, why tiredness is only part of the story, and what the quiet of the evening reveals that the busyness of the day has been hiding. Most importantly, this episode explores the difference between pain becoming worse... and pain finally being heard. Because those are two very different things. And understanding that distinction could completely change the way you experience your evenings. In This Episode You'll Learn Why so many people experience an emotional crash once the day becomes quiet Why "I'm just tired" doesn't fully explain what happens at night The surprising reason busy days often feel emotionally easier than quiet ones Why nighttime doesn't create your pain, it simply removes the distractions covering it How anticipation of difficult evenings can begin affecting your afternoons Why functioning well during the day doesn't necessarily mean you're healing underneath Luke's personal experience of the first nights after separation and what they taught him about grief The hidden cost of avoiding difficult thoughts until bedtime A practical way to stop your emotions ambushing you at 11pm How giving your feelings attention earlier in the day can reduce their intensity later A Powerful Question From This Episode "What have I been asking the day to carry that it was never actually built to hold?" Because sometimes the day isn't healing you. It's simply keeping you busy. And when the busyness ends... Whatever was waiting quietly underneath finally gets the chance to speak. Key Takeaways ✅ Nighttime doesn't create emotional pain, it often reveals what the day has been masking. ✅ Busyness can provide temporary relief without actually resolving what's underneath. ✅ Feeling worse at night doesn't mean you're moving backwards in your healing. ✅ The quiet isn't the enemy, it's often where the unattended parts of your experience finally become visible. ✅ Anticipating difficult evenings can begin stealing peace from your afternoons. ✅ Avoiding painful thoughts all day often allows them to arrive with greater intensity later. ✅ Giving difficult emotions a small, intentional space earlier in the day can reduce their need to demand attention at night. ✅ Healing isn't about distracting yourself better, it's about becoming willing to hear what your mind has been trying to tell you. Why This Episode Matters One of the most common experiences after betrayal is believing that something is wrong because the evenings feel unbearable. Many people assume they're simply more tired. Or that nighttime somehow makes everything worse. But often, the day has simply been full enough to compete for your attention. When the distractions disappear, what's been waiting quietly underneath finally has room to emerge. This episode explores why recognising that difference matters, and how understanding it can help you stop fearing the evenings and start understanding what they're trying to show you. Because sometimes the hardest part of the day isn't the day at all. It's the moment nothing is left to distract you from yourself. Resources & Support If you're rebuilding your life after betrayal and you're looking for structure, guidance and support, Luke offers both private coaching and a supportive recovery community. 🌐 Website https://www.lifecoachluke.com 📧 Email luke@lifecoachluke.com 📱 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachluke 👥 Join the After the Affair Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffair If This Episode Helped... If this conversation resonated with you, please consider following the podcast and leaving a rating or review. It helps more people discover the support they need during one of the most difficult periods of their lives. And if you know someone who finds themselves dreading bedtime because that's when everything catches up with them, perhaps this is the episode they need to hear.

  • S2026 · E198
    July 8 · 21 min

    198. Why Am I So Scared of Making the Wrong Decision?

    "Just trust your gut." "Only you know what's right." "Take your time." They're all well-intentioned pieces of advice. But none of them answer the question that's really keeping people stuck after betrayal. What if I make the wrong decision? What if you stay and they betray you again? What if you leave and spend years wishing you'd fought harder? What if there isn't a right answer at all? In this episode of After the Affair, Luke explores one of the biggest fears in betrayal recovery: not deciding whether to stay or leave, but believing you must be completely certain before you can move forward. You'll discover why waiting for certainty often creates more suffering than making an imperfect decision, why remaining undecided is still a decision, and how building structure around uncertainty can help you regain confidence in yourself. Most importantly, this episode explores the difference between needing certainty and being willing to take the next honest step. Because those are two very different ways of approaching your future. And understanding that difference may be exactly what helps you move again. In This Episode You'll Learn Why the fear of making the wrong decision keeps so many people emotionally stuck Why waiting for certainty rarely creates the clarity you're hoping for How remaining undecided is still a decision, with consequences of its own Why uncertainty isn't a sign you're doing something wrong The hidden cost of living in emotional limbo Why confidence usually comes after a decision, not before it How Luke approached one of the biggest decisions following his own experience of betrayal Why creating conditions and review points is often more helpful than demanding certainty Why good decisions can still contain doubt How to stop trying to predict your future feelings and start trusting yourself instead A Powerful Question From This Episode "What conditions would I need in place to be willing to take the next step?" Not the conditions that guarantee the outcome. Not the conditions that remove every doubt. Just the conditions that would allow you to move honestly. Because perhaps you don't need certainty. Perhaps you simply need enough safety to take the next step. Key Takeaways ✅ The fear of making the wrong decision is often more painful than the decision itself. ✅ Waiting for certainty doesn't eliminate uncertainty, it often prolongs it. ✅ Remaining undecided is still a choice, and it carries its own emotional cost. ✅ You cannot know today how you'll feel years from now. ✅ Confidence is rarely something you discover before making a difficult decision. ✅ Structure creates far more clarity than endless analysis. ✅ Review points are often healthier than trying to make forever decisions. ✅ Doubt doesn't mean you're making the wrong choice. ✅ Healing often begins when you stop demanding certainty from an uncertain future. Why This Episode Matters One of the most common reasons people remain stuck after betrayal isn't because they don't know their options. It's because they're terrified of choosing the wrong one. They convince themselves they need one more conversation. One more sign. One more piece of evidence. One more month. But certainty about the future is something none of us can ever possess. This episode explores why learning to make thoughtful decisions without complete certainty is one of the most important skills in betrayal recovery. Because rebuilding your life isn't about finding guarantees. It's about learning to trust yourself again. Resources & Support If you're feeling trapped between staying and leaving, and you'd like support creating the structure needed to move forward with confidence, Luke offers both private coaching and a supportive recovery community. 🌐 Website https://www.lifecoachluke.com 📧 Email luke@lifecoachluke.com 📱 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachluke 👥 Join the After the Affair Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffair If This Episode Helped... If this conversation resonated with you, please consider following the podcast and leaving a rating or review. It helps more people discover the support they need during one of the most difficult periods of their lives. And if you know someone who feels paralysed by the fear of making the wrong decision, perhaps this is the episode they need to hear.

  • S2026 · E197
    July 1 · 19 min

    197. The Affair Is Over... So Why Can't I Let Go?

    "You just need to let it go." It's one of the most common pieces of advice people receive after betrayal. And one of the least helpful. Because if letting go were simply a decision, you would have done it already. So why is it so difficult? In this episode of After the Affair, Luke Shillings explores what people are really talking about when they say they "can't let go." Is it the affair? The person? The marriage? Or is something much deeper keeping you anchored to the past? You'll discover why the affair didn't just damage your relationship—it shattered the future you believed you were going to have. From the holidays you imagined, to the retirement you planned, to the quiet confidence you once had in your life together, betrayal doesn't simply rewrite your past. It forces you to grieve a future that no longer exists. Most importantly, this episode explores the difference between letting go of what happened and letting go of what you thought was going to happen. Because those are two very different things. And understanding that difference may change the way you see your healing forever. In This Episode You'll Learn Why "just let it go" is often unhelpful advice What you're actually struggling to let go of after betrayal How infidelity doesn't just rewrite the past, it changes the future you imagined Why grief after an affair is often grief for possibilities, not just memories The difference between holding onto the affair and holding onto the life you expected Why your brain keeps trying to negotiate a future that no longer exists How bargaining quietly keeps many people emotionally stuck Why acceptance isn't approval What letting go actually looks like in healthy recovery How making space for grief creates space for rebuilding A Powerful Question From This Episode "Am I trying to let go of the affair… or am I trying to let go of the future I believed I was going to have?" Because those are not the same thing. One is an event. The other is the loss of an imagined life. And until you know which one you're grieving, it's incredibly difficult to move forward. Key Takeaways ✅ Letting go isn't a switch you simply choose to flip. ✅ Most betrayed partners aren't just grieving the affair—they're grieving the future they believed they were building. ✅ The affair often destroys certainty, identity, and imagined possibilities as much as the relationship itself. ✅ Bargaining with the past is a natural stage of grief, but it can quietly become a place where people remain stuck. ✅ Acceptance is not the same as agreement or approval. ✅ Healing doesn't require forgetting what happened. ✅ You can honour what you've lost without allowing it to define the rest of your life. ✅ Letting go isn't about losing your memories, it's about making room for new possibilities. Why This Episode Matters One of the biggest misconceptions in betrayal recovery is that people are struggling because they can't move on from the affair. Often, that's only part of the story. Many people are actually mourning a life they thought they were going to live. The marriage they believed they had. The retirement they imagined. The traditions they expected to share. The version of themselves who never thought this would happen. This episode explores why that distinction matters, and why recognising what you're truly grieving is often the beginning of genuine healing. Because sometimes the hardest thing to let go of isn't the relationship. It's the future you quietly built around it. Resources & Support If you're trying to rebuild your life after betrayal and you're looking for structure, guidance and support, Luke offers both private coaching and a supportive recovery community. 🌐 Website https://www.lifecoachluke.com 📧 Email luke@lifecoachluke.com 📱 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachluke 👥 Join the After the Affair Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffair If This Episode Helped... If this conversation resonated with you, please consider following the podcast and leaving a rating or review. It helps more people find the support they need during one of the most difficult periods of their lives. And if there's someone you know who feels like they're struggling to let go, perhaps this is the episode they need to hear.

  • S2026 · E196
    June 24 · 14 min

    196. What If They Never Change?

    Episode Summary / Show notes: One of the most frightening questions a betrayed partner can ask isn't: "Why did they do it?" Or even: "Can I trust them again?" It's this: What if they never change? What if the progress stops here? What if the conversations keep going in circles? What if the accountability never fully arrives? What if the relationship never becomes what you hope it could be? In this episode of After the Affair, Luke explores the fear that sits beneath so much of the uncertainty after betrayal: the possibility that the person you're waiting on may never become the person you're hoping they'll be. You'll discover how hope can quietly transform from a source of strength into a source of dependency, why many betrayed partners unknowingly tie their own healing to somebody else's growth, and how the sunk-cost fallacy can keep people emotionally invested long after they would otherwise have questioned their path. Most importantly, this episode explores what becomes possible when you stop making your peace conditional on another person's transformation. Because healing was never supposed to be a reward for their growth. It was always meant to belong to you. In This Episode You'll Learn: Why the question "What if they never change?" feels so emotionally threatening The hidden fear that often sits underneath hope How hope can gradually become emotional dependency The relationship between betrayal recovery and the sunk-cost fallacy Why waiting can feel safer than facing uncertainty How your wellbeing can become tied to something you don't control The difference between wanting someone to change and needing them to change Why your healing cannot depend entirely on another person's growth How to begin separating your recovery from your partner's behaviour What it means to build emotional stability regardless of the outcome of the relationship A Powerful Question From This Episode "Can you build a life, a sense of self, and a baseline of peace that exists independently of whether they ever fully become who you're hoping they'll become?" Because if the answer is yes, your future is no longer being held hostage by somebody else's choices. And if the answer is no, that isn't a failure. It's simply important information about where your healing work may need to focus next. Key Takeaways ✅ Hope is not the problem. ✅ Hope becomes problematic when it becomes the only thing holding the relationship together. ✅ Many betrayed partners unknowingly attach their future wellbeing to another person's growth. ✅ Waiting for change can become a way of avoiding difficult truths. ✅ The sunk-cost fallacy doesn't just affect money—it affects relationships too. ✅ Time invested does not automatically mean more time should be invested. ✅ Your healing and your partner's healing are two separate processes. ✅ Grief and commitment can coexist. ✅ You can work on a relationship whilst grieving the version you hoped it would become. ✅ Emotional stability becomes much stronger when it's built on your own choices rather than someone else's transformation. Why This Episode Matters After betrayal, it's natural to want reassurance that the pain, effort, and uncertainty will eventually lead somewhere meaningful. Many people find themselves waiting for evidence that their partner's growth will justify their decision to stay. But what happens when that change is slow? Inconsistent? Or uncertain? This episode explores the emotional cost of making your peace dependent on another person's progress and why true healing often begins when you reclaim ownership of your own future. Because the goal isn't to stop wanting the relationship to work. The goal is to stop needing it to work in order to be okay. Resources & Support If you're struggling with the uncertainty that follows betrayal and want support rebuilding trust, emotional stability, and confidence in your own decisions, Luke offers both private coaching and community support. 🌐 Website https://www.lifecoachluke.com 📧 Email luke@lifecoachluke.com 📱 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachluke 👥 Join the After the Affair Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffair 🤝 The After the Affair Collective The After the Affair Collective is a supportive community designed specifically for betrayed partners who want practical tools, emotional support, and guidance as they navigate recovery after infidelity. Inside you'll find: Live group coaching sessions The Chaos to Clarity recovery framework Practical resources and workshops Support from others who understand betrayal first-hand Ongoing guidance throughout your healing journey Learn more at: https://www.lifecoachluke.com If This Episode Helped... Please consider following the podcast, leaving a rating or review, and sharing this episode with someone who may need to hear it. Your support helps more people find hope, clarity, and direction after betrayal.

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