
We Need Real Talk: Why Faith Alone Didn't Fix My Mental Health
The main point is simple and direct: faith and prayer are important, but they aren’t a substitute for the hard inner work required to heal mental health—we have to co‑create change with practical tools, not just be told to “pray more.” I’m Daryl Snow and I sit down with Kimberly Wardell, a chaplain, mental‑wellness coach, author and transformational speaker, who brings her own recovery story and clinical training to explain how the church and believers can better support mental wellness. We dig into concrete examples — the shovel/hole analogy about doing the work to get a real result, the refiner’s‑fire image of pain that either destroys or refines you, and the clothes‑hamper metaphor showing how unaddressed hurts pile up and soil even the good parts of us. Kimberly calls out how instant gratification, social media and pride keep people stuck in victim mentality and offers practical steps: seek therapy or coaching, find people who will walk beside you, and reframe “what if” thinking toward possibilities instead of fear. We close by pointing listeners to Kimberly’s Developing Inner Excellence practice, her book Silence in the Sanctuary, and her ThisIsYourCity podcast as places to start getting help, because transformation is possible when faith and real work meet. Takeaways: Kimberly explains that many church communities are not equipped to handle mental health struggles and being told 'just pray more' often increases shame instead of offering practical support. We stress that healing requires hard inner work: digging out the root causes, not just treating surface symptoms with quick fixes or platitudes. Kimberly shares her story of going from addiction and deep struggle to becoming a chaplain and coach, showing that transformation is possible with sustained effort and practical tools. We point out how instant gratification and social media reduce resilience, making it harder for people to tolerate discomfort and do the slow work of growth. Kimberly recommends practical steps: seek one-on-one help, be honest about struggles, practice separating 'dirty laundry' issues, and prioritize mental wellness like household chores. We emphasize that faith and spirituality can be part of recovery, but they don't replace therapy, concrete tools, or the responsibility to do personal work. Kimberly encourages taking calculated risks — small steps and 'what if' reframing — because the same energy fuels positive or negative outcomes. We conclude that a warrior spirit means overcoming and fighting for justice while knowing when to put down the sword and rest. You can connect with Kimberly on her websites at: www.developinginnerexcellence.com & thisisyourcity.ca Or on her social platforms at: FB: facebook.com/kimberly.wardell.1 FB Group; Developing Inner Excellence: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100064105897607 The music in this video is copyrighted and used with permission from Raquel & The Joshua 1:8 project © 2025 All Rights Reserved. All rights to the music are owned by Raquel & The Joshua 1:8 project © 2025 All Rights Reserved. You can contact Raquel at https://YourGPSForSuccess.Net A Warrior’s Spirit can be found on all the major platforms at lnk.bio/daryl_praxis33 Be sure to like or subscribe so you never miss an episode!
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