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Yu Up? with Rachel Yu · March 31 · 52 min

25 - I Love You (But Only Temporarily)

Bini joins Rachel with a truly unhinged theory: you can only say “I love you” three times in a relationship — after that, it loses meaning and you should probably break up. What starts as a debate about love languages spirals into immigrant parents who never say “I love you,” Spanish versions of love (“te quiero” vs “te amo”), emotional risk in relationships, and whether saying “I love you” is actually just… pressure in disguise. They propose alternatives like “I’ve been loving you recently” and treating love like a lease that needs renewal. Then the episode derails (in the best way) into celibacy, having sex with mid men, why bad sex feels existential, and the realization that not everyone is even enjoying it. From there: New York dating games, who can be more nonchalant, being mentally 35 in a 25-year-old body, and an alarming habit of drunk-DMing celebrities like they’re already friends. Parasocial relationships, missed connections, and chaotic self-awareness — this episode is romantic, philosophical, and deeply unserious all at once. -- Follow the host Rachel Yu on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Bini Yamin on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠ Follow the show on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠

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Bini joins Rachel with a truly unhinged theory: you can only say “I love you” three times in a relationship — after that, it loses meaning and you should probably break up. What starts as a debate about love languages spirals into immigrant parents who never say “I love you,” Spanish versions of love (“te quiero” vs “te amo”), emotional risk in relationships, and whether saying “I love you” is actually just… pressure in disguise. They propose alternatives like “I’ve been loving you recently” and treating love like a lease that needs renewal.


Then the episode derails (in the best way) into celibacy, having sex with mid men, why bad sex feels existential, and the realization that not everyone is even enjoying it. From there: New York dating games, who can be more nonchalant, being mentally 35 in a 25-year-old body, and an alarming habit of drunk-DMing celebrities like they’re already friends. Parasocial relationships, missed connections, and chaotic self-awareness — this episode is romantic, philosophical, and deeply unserious all at once.


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Follow the host Rachel Yu on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow Bini Yamin on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠

Follow the show on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠

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