Will They Change?

"Will they change?" is the question I get asked more than almost any other. In this episode I give you the honest answer up front: probably not. I walk through why real change requires rewiring the way someone thinks, not just their behavior, and why most abusive people never even get to step one. I break down the excuses that sound like progress but aren't, including "I'll work on myself" and "I'll change if you change," and I explain why trauma bonding is often the real reason it feels so impossible to leave even when you already know what you're dealing with. I also share what genuine change actually looks like in the rare cases it happens, and why understanding all of this is less about them and more about getting your own reality back. Support the show *Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast* Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com {Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist {Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal {Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner