Cracking the Code: Stop Saying “Why” and “Should” for Better Workplace Communication
Two small words you use every day may be quietly damaging your workplace relationships: why and should. In leadership conversations, feedback moments, and everyday team communication, these common words often land differently than intended, triggering defensiveness, shame and disconnection instead of clarity and collaboration. "Why did you do that?" can sound like an interrogation. "You should have handled it differently" can sound like judgment. And when people feel accused or shamed, they stop collaborating and start defending. In this Cracking the Code mini episode of Work Unscripted, Marlo Lyons breaks down the psychology behind why these words – why and should – undermine psychological safety at work and what to say instead. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why "why" triggers a defensive response and the curiosity-based alternative that opens dialogue How "should" creates shame and shuts down collaboration and the forward-focused replacement that builds trust Simple language swaps any leader or professional can use immediately How to communicate with greater emotional intelligence, clarity, and psychological safety How to keep difficult conversations productive without triggering defensiveness Whether you're a leader giving feedback, navigating team conflict, or simply trying to communicate more effectively at work, the words you choose matter more than you think. Small language shifts. Significant leadership impact. Connect with Marlo Website | LinkedIn | Instagram ----------- Work Unscripted is produced by the team at Palm Tree Pod Co.