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What Your Therapist Thinks · April 15 · 57 min

How Can We Get The Spark Back? Strategies for Long-Term Relationship Intimacy

Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh, psychologist and marriage expert, joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack the strategies for long-term intimacy. They discuss the emotional aspect of desire: how mental load and systemic stressors can make or break the spark in parenthood. Some takeaways: • Why spontaneity fails when it meets the exhausting logistics of parenthood. • The difference between intentional pursuit and weaponized incompetence. • How to start integrating emotional safety into your connection. • How mental load influences your libido more than "lost attraction" does. For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com Join our Substack community Follow WYTT on Instagram Follow Felicia on Instagram Connect with Lindsay. Follow Lindsay on Instagram. Listen to Lindsay’s Podcast: Married After Kids. *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision. If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

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Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh, psychologist and marriage expert, joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack the strategies for long-term intimacy. They discuss the emotional aspect of desire: how mental load and systemic stressors can make or break the spark in parenthood.

Some takeaways:

• Why spontaneity fails when it meets the exhausting logistics of parenthood.

• The difference between intentional pursuit and weaponized incompetence.

• How to start integrating emotional safety into your connection.

• How mental load influences your libido more than "lost attraction" does.

For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com

Join our Substack community

Follow WYTT on Instagram

Follow Felicia on Instagram

Connect with Lindsay.

Follow Lindsay on Instagram.

Listen to Lindsay’s Podcast: Married After Kids.

*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle

*Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks

*Brought to you by BestTherapists.com

*Produced by PodVision.

If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it!

This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

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