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What Would Dorcy Do · July 1 · 25 min

The Decision That Was Finally Yours

They're calling it a trend like you woke up this morning, scrolled on TikTok for 45 seconds, and decided to throw your mother away. Like estrangement is a hashtag. Like cutting off a person who hurt you is the emotional equivalent to buying a Stanley cup because everyone else has one. But there's a different story underneath the headlines. In this episode, Dorcy breaks down the six invisible dynamics that kept you stuck—the moving goalpost, the identified patient, conditional belonging, the smear campaign, engulfment and abandonment, and the weaponized memory. She reframes what you actually did: this isn't abandonment, revenge, or a tantrum. It's a boundary so loud it required distance to be heard. And she walks you through what you're actually reclaiming—your nervous system, your Sundays, your right to define family by safety, not genetics. Plus: why guilt isn't evidence of wrongdoing, and why you don't owe anyone the story of why. Get full access to You Take You Wherever You Go at dorcypruter.substack.com/subscribe

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They're calling it a trend like you woke up this morning, scrolled on TikTok for 45 seconds, and decided to throw your mother away. Like estrangement is a hashtag. Like cutting off a person who hurt you is the emotional equivalent to buying a Stanley cup because everyone else has one. But there's a different story underneath the headlines. In this episode, Dorcy breaks down the six invisible dynamics that kept you stuck—the moving goalpost, the identified patient, conditional belonging, the smear campaign, engulfment and abandonment, and the weaponized memory. She reframes what you actually did: this isn't abandonment, revenge, or a tantrum. It's a boundary so loud it required distance to be heard. And she walks you through what you're actually reclaiming—your nervous system, your Sundays, your right to define family by safety, not genetics. Plus: why guilt isn't evidence of wrongdoing, and why you don't owe anyone the story of why.



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