311: Why Discomfort Isn't the Problem: A Better Way to Handle Stress in Fundraising

Fundraising can be uncomfortable—but what if discomfort isn't actually the problem? In this solo coaching episode, Mallory Erickson introduces one of the foundational concepts of executive coaching: understanding the difference between discomfort and stress. While many fundraisers believe that feeling nervous before a donor meeting means they're doing something wrong, Mallory explains why discomfort is actually a natural sign of growth, uncertainty, and courage. Rather than trying to eliminate uncomfortable feelings, she shares a practical framework for noticing what's happening in your body, acknowledging your emotions without judgment, and preventing negative self-talk from turning temporary discomfort into chronic stress. Through simple practices you can implement immediately, this episode offers a powerful mindset shift that can help you become a more grounded, confident, and effective fundraiser. In a nutshell: Discomfort isn't something to avoid, it's something to understand. When we stop judging our emotions, we create space to show up with more courage, clarity, and confidence. In this episode, you will be able to: Understand the difference between discomfort and stress. Recognize how judgment amplifies difficult emotions. Notice physical signs of discomfort before they affect your actions. Interrupt negative self-talk before it escalates. Practice acknowledging and validating your emotions. Build a healthier relationship with discomfort. Develop greater nervous system regulation. Take fundraising action from courage instead of fear. Get all the resources from today’s episode here. Support for this show is brought to you by Donor Perfect. Our friends at Donor Perfect really understand fundraising on so many levels. Stay aligned while working online with a seamless and secure payments experience for your donors and your team. Empower donors to give where they are, whenever they like, automate data entry, and process online, monthly, and mobile payments, and accept payments over the phone. Connect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_malloryerickson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/whatthefundraising YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@malloryerickson7946 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/mallory-erickson-bressler/ Website: malloryerickson.com/podcast Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-the-fundraising/id1575421652 If you haven’t already, please visit our new What the Fundraising community forum. Check it out and join the conversation at this link. If you’re looking to raise more from the right funders, then you’ll want to check out my Power Partners Formula, a step-by-step approach to identifying the optimal partners for your organization. This free masterclass offers a great starting point