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Toddlers Made Easy with Dr Cathryn · April 29 · 5 min

Catch Them Being 'Good' The Big-Hearted Way to Encourage Positive Behavior

The 5:1 rule is one of the most practical tools a parent can have — and it's simpler than you think. Originally researched by psychologist John Gottman in marriages, the principle maps directly onto parenting: for every correction, aim for five positive interactions first. Not a tally. Just an intention to tip the balance toward warmth. In this episode, we cover: Why your relationship with your child works like a bank account How our negativity bias works against us as parents — and how to counteract it What a positive interaction actually looks like (hint: it's not empty praise) How the way you talk to your child becomes their inner voice The goal isn't perfection. It's just tipping the balance. 🎙️ Enjoyed this episode? Share it with a parent who needs to hear it. 👉 Join me live April 30th for Potty Without Pushback — my free workshop on how to go from diapers to dry without the power struggles, overwhelm, or feeling like you're doing it wrong. Save your spot here Toddlers Made Easy online course Potty Training Made Easy online course The Big-Hearted Sleep Solution mini-class Toddlers Made Easy book 200 Big-Hearted Scripts FREE WORKSHOP: Potty Without Pushback FREE GUIDE: 5 Must-Dos Before Starting Potty Training And don’t forget to follow Dr. Cathryn on Instagram.

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The 5:1 rule is one of the most practical tools a parent can have — and it's simpler than you think.

Originally researched by psychologist John Gottman in marriages, the principle maps directly onto parenting: for every correction, aim for five positive interactions first. Not a tally. Just an intention to tip the balance toward warmth.

In this episode, we cover:

  • Why your relationship with your child works like a bank account
  • How our negativity bias works against us as parents — and how to counteract it
  • What a positive interaction actually looks like (hint: it's not empty praise)
  • How the way you talk to your child becomes their inner voice


The goal isn't perfection. It's just tipping the balance.


🎙️ Enjoyed this episode? Share it with a parent who needs to hear it.


👉 Join me live April 30th for Potty Without Pushback — my free workshop on how to go from diapers to dry without the power struggles, overwhelm, or feeling like you're doing it wrong.

Save your spot here

Toddlers Made Easy online course

Potty Training Made Easy online course

The Big-Hearted Sleep Solution mini-class

Toddlers Made Easy book

200 Big-Hearted Scripts

FREE WORKSHOP: Potty Without Pushback

FREE GUIDE: 5 Must-Dos Before Starting Potty Training

And don’t forget to follow Dr. Cathryn on Instagram

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