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Theology in the Raw · Monday · 59 min

How Attachment Theory Helps Us Understand Ourselves: Dr. Alison Cook

To listen to our extra innings conversation, head over to patreon.com/theologyintheraw and become a member of the TITR community and get access to all of my extra innings conversations and a bunch bonus content Dr. Alison Cook is a therapist, psychologist of religion, bestselling author, and host of the top-ranked The Best of You podcast. She holds degrees from Dartmouth College (BA), Denver Seminary (MA), and the University of Denver (PhD). Alison has spent over two decades helping people move from feeling disconnected to feeling secure, grounded, and loved. She’s the author of four books including her most recent book: The Secure Soul: Finding Inner Strength and Connection When Trust Doesn’t Come Easy, which forms the foundation of our conversation. https://www.amazon.com/dp/1400352606?lv=shuf&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallback Time Stamps 00:00 Introduction 02:06 Splitting time between Wyoming and Boston 07:35 Attachment Theory Explained 10:35 How Childhood Trauma Shapes Adult Relationships 18:01 What About People That Didn’t Experience Trauma? 22:47 Does everyone have some kind of attachment issue? 23:59 Why the Church Often Misunderstands Self-Care 24:37 The Problem with Secular Self-Care Culture 25:22 Avoidant Attachment: First Steps 30:09 Preston Gets Live Therapy 34:00 Thinkers vs. Feelers 39:04 Core Memories and Emotional Healing 46:43 Getting to Know our own Souls 48:06 Can Christians Trust Psychology? 50:29 How Your Parents Shape Your View of God 53:41 Common Unaddressed Issues: Shame or Blame See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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To listen to our extra innings conversation, head over to patreon.com/theologyintheraw and become a member of the TITR community and get access to all of my extra innings conversations and a bunch bonus content


Dr. Alison Cook is a therapist, psychologist of religion, bestselling author, and host of the top-ranked The Best of You podcast. She holds degrees from Dartmouth College (BA), Denver Seminary (MA), and the University of Denver (PhD). Alison has spent over two decades helping people move from feeling disconnected to feeling secure, grounded, and loved. She’s the author of four books including her most recent book: The Secure Soul: Finding Inner Strength and Connection When Trust Doesn’t Come Easy, which forms the foundation of our conversation. https://www.amazon.com/dp/1400352606?lv=shuf&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallback


Time Stamps

00:00 Introduction

02:06 Splitting time between Wyoming and Boston

07:35 Attachment Theory Explained

10:35 How Childhood Trauma Shapes Adult Relationships

18:01 What About People That Didn’t Experience Trauma?

22:47 Does everyone have some kind of attachment issue? 

23:59 Why the Church Often Misunderstands Self-Care

24:37 The Problem with Secular Self-Care Culture 

25:22 Avoidant Attachment: First Steps

30:09 Preston Gets Live Therapy

34:00 Thinkers vs. Feelers 

39:04 Core Memories and Emotional Healing

46:43 Getting to Know our own Souls 

48:06 Can Christians Trust Psychology?

50:29 How Your Parents Shape Your View of God

53:41 Common Unaddressed Issues: Shame or Blame

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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