The Rollercoaster Podcast · Tuesday · 1 hr 5 min

We Were Just Setting up The Nursery - Now She's Dead

There are some stories you hear that stay with you long after the conversation ends. This is one of them. In this episode, I sit down with Nathan Wieser, a husband, father and author of We Did It, to talk about a journey through pregnancy loss, infant loss, miscarriage, PTSD, grief and a fight to become a father that lasted more than a decade. Nathan and his wife Lucy endured loss after loss. But nothing could prepare them for the day their daughter Mary died during birth, while Lucy herself was fighting to stay alive. Nathan remembers sitting alone in a hospital hallway waiting for one thing: to hear his daughter cry. The cry never came. What followed were years of grief, trauma and fear before they found the courage to try again. Then came Otto. Born at just 26 weeks and weighing only two pounds, Otto spent 121 days in the NICU fighting through emergency surgeries, sepsis and moments when his parents didn't know if he would survive. In this episode: Losing their daughter Mary during childbirth and nearly losing Lucy too The miscarriages, grief and PTSD that followed their devastating loss Finding the courage to try for another child after years of trauma Otto’s premature birth and the terrifying 121-day fight for his life in the NICU How loss changed Nathan’s perspective on fatherhood, marriage and what truly matters This is an incredibly raw conversation about losing children, surviving trauma, marriage, fatherhood and finding hope when life has given you every reason to stop believing things can get better. This conversation gave me a lot to think about as a father. I think it will do the same for you. Key Moments: 00:00 Waiting for a Cry That Never Came 06:22 The Diagnosis No Parent Is Ready For 12:38 The Moment Everything Went Horribly Wrong 18:04 Telling His Wife Their Baby Had Died 24:19 Could They Ever Try for a Baby Again? 28:17 Losing Their Twins Without a Heartbeat 31:12 The Phone Call That Saved His Life 36:45 Meeting His Two-Pound Son for the First Time 41:42 The NICU Nightmare Begins 47:25 His Heart Stopped Again 49:13 The Miracle Doctors Couldn’t Explain 52:06 They Finally Got Home... Then Lost Everything 54:15 Walking Through Hell to Find Their Miracle 58:28 The Best and Worst of the Medical System 1:00:36 Why He Gave Up Alcohol for His Son Connect with Me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tyler.hall/ Connect with Nathan Wieser: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nathanwieser/ We Did It by Nathan Wieser (Author): https://www.amazon.com/We-Did-perspective-enduring-miscarriages/dp/B0FLVTTHPY/

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There are some stories you hear that stay with you long after the conversation ends. This is one of them.

In this episode, I sit down with Nathan Wieser, a husband, father and author of We Did It, to talk about a journey through pregnancy loss, infant loss, miscarriage, PTSD, grief and a fight to become a father that lasted more than a decade. Nathan and his wife Lucy endured loss after loss. But nothing could prepare them for the day their daughter Mary died during birth, while Lucy herself was fighting to stay alive.

Nathan remembers sitting alone in a hospital hallway waiting for one thing: to hear his daughter cry. The cry never came. What followed were years of grief, trauma and fear before they found the courage to try again.

Then came Otto. Born at just 26 weeks and weighing only two pounds, Otto spent 121 days in the NICU fighting through emergency surgeries, sepsis and moments when his parents didn't know if he would survive.

In this episode:

Losing their daughter Mary during childbirth and nearly losing Lucy too
The miscarriages, grief and PTSD that followed their devastating loss
Finding the courage to try for another child after years of trauma
Otto’s premature birth and the terrifying 121-day fight for his life in the NICU
How loss changed Nathan’s perspective on fatherhood, marriage and what truly matters

This is an incredibly raw conversation about losing children, surviving trauma, marriage, fatherhood and finding hope when life has given you every reason to stop believing things can get better.

This conversation gave me a lot to think about as a father. I think it will do the same for you.

Key Moments:

00:00 Waiting for a Cry That Never Came

06:22 The Diagnosis No Parent Is Ready For

12:38 The Moment Everything Went Horribly Wrong

18:04 Telling His Wife Their Baby Had Died

24:19 Could They Ever Try for a Baby Again?

28:17 Losing Their Twins Without a Heartbeat

31:12 The Phone Call That Saved His Life

36:45 Meeting His Two-Pound Son for the First Time

41:42 The NICU Nightmare Begins

47:25 His Heart Stopped Again