The Psychology of Relationships

What Your Schemas Reveal About How You’re Wired For Relationships w/ Dr. Avigail Lev

Nov 20, 2025 · 1 hr 22 min · 79.3 MB
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We don’t just show up to relationships as adults — we show up with every belief we learned long before. Those early schemas — the quiet stories like “I’m not enough,” “People always leave,” or “Love has to be earned” — shape our patterns far more than we realize. In this episode, Julie and Yue sit down with psychologist and schema expert Dr. Avigail Lev to break down how these core beliefs form, why they’re so sticky, and how understanding them can transform the way we love. Dr. Lev explains how identifying your schemas helps you interrupt old cycles, build more secure connections, and finally rewrite the patterns that keep you stuck.


In this episode, you’ll learn:

What schemas are and why these beliefs are hard to shake

How your early experiences shape the way you show up in relationships

Which thoughts keep you stuck in the same love traps

Why you’re drawn to certain types of partners and patterns

How to recognize the subconscious beliefs guiding your behavior

Practical ways to change your behavior and create the love life you want


To learn more about Dr. Avigail Lev: visit: https://bayareacbtcenter.com/therapist/avigail-lev-psyd/

To take the relationship schemas quiz: visit https://bayareacbtcenter.com/relationship-schema-quiz/



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