The Divorce Podcast

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The Divorce Podcast is a podcast dedicated to looking at divorce from new perspectives and driving reform. Hosted by Kate Daly, each episode invites experts from a variety of backgrounds and disciplines to discuss their own views on divorce, and debate them with the other guests.British Podcast Awards 2025 Finalist.

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Wednesday · 20 min
Spotlight: Making summer holidays work as a single parent
This week, we want to revisit a particularly helpful episode with Jo Thurston from Parent Talk to discuss why summer holidays can be so tricky for single parents and share some simple tips for making them more manageable and fun. Without the school routine and longer days in the sun, it’s an important time to create new memories and enjoy new activities with your children. However, summer as a single parent can be challenging when you’re doing all of this solo. It might involve more schedules, additional childcare and juggling high expectations. Kate and Jo start by explaining why summer holidays can be challenging for single parents, and when’s a good time to start planning them. There are also some tips on how not to over-plan! Here are some of the points they cover in this episode to help single parents this summer: How to navigate holiday costs Where you can look for affordable activities to fit your budget and available time Communication tips with your co-parent Staying flexible and willing to adjust your schedule Why involving your children in holiday planning could be a good idea Meet Jo Thurston Jo is a co-ordinator at Action for Children’s Parent Talk service, which offers free online advice for parents and carers of children aged 0-19, or up to 25 where a young person has special educational needs. Its confidential 1:1 live chat service connects parents and carers directly to an experienced parenting coach for judgement-free practical advice and emotional support, while its online articles answer some of the most common parenting questions. Jo first joined Action for Children in 2018 as a Family Support worker in a Children’s Centre. She has a background working in schools and pastoral care and has a particular interest in supporting families impacted by SEND. More divorce resources Need expert help right now? Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation. Or explore our Separating with Children Service – a 90-minute joint session with a Co-parenting Specialist tailored to your family’s needs. Want ongoing support through separation? Join amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars and articles on co-parenting and an interactive community where you can share questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Start your free trial here. Kate’s book amicable divorce includes dedicated chapters on co-parenting, with practical guidance on supporting your children's wellbeing, talking to them in age-appropriate ways and building a cooperative co-parenting relationship that reduces conflict. Find it on Amazon today. Want to stay organised as co-parents? Download our free Parenting Plan template to help you and your co-parent agree on shared goals, routines and decision-making – with your children at the centre. Try the amicable co-parenting app free for 3 months to share calendars, track expenses and communicate clearly. Open this link on your phone, install the app, create your account, select 'I have a promo code', enter PODCAST and press ‘apply’. Got a question for a future episode? Share your thoughts at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram. #Coparenting
July 22 · 24 min
In brief: The history of the family court - and why it matters
Children were once seen as their father's property. So how did we get from there to a family court system that tries – however imperfectly – to put their welfare first? Kate is joined by Lara Feigel, author and professor at King's College London, to draw a comprehensive timeline of the family courts, from a time when children were seen as their father's property right through to today. We talk about: How the family court developed in England and Wales over the centuries – from a system that treated children as property to one that tries to hear their voice How that compares internationally – and why we so often followed rather than led When the voice of the child started to matter, and how it's heard today Why the family court should be the last reort for separating couples This episode is for anyone curious about how the family courts came to be, and why – where it's safe to – staying out of court is so often the kinder, calmer path. A note before you listen: this episode touches on the death of a child and domestic abuse. Please take care while listening. If you need support, these organisations can help: Women's Aid – womensaid.org.uk Refuge – refuge.org.uk ManKind Initiative – mankind.org.uk Men's Advice Line – mensadviceline.org.uk Mind – mind.org.uk Samaritans – dial 116 123 or text SHOUT to 85258 If your life is in danger, dial 999 A note on the word 'custody' You'll hear the word 'custody' used throughout this episode – both in the historical context Lara explores and in the title of her book. It's also a term many people still use in everyday conversation when talking about their children after separation. But in England and Wales today, 'custody' isn't actually a legal term. It was replaced under the Children Act 1989, which shifted the focus away from one parent 'winning' and the other 'losing', and towards something more constructive: child arrangements. The language courts use now is 'lives with' and 'spends time with' – because the goal is for children to have meaningful, loving relationships with both parents wherever it's safe to do so. At amicable, we use 'child arrangements' rather than 'custody' for exactly this reason. The words we use shape how we think – and 'arrangements' puts children's needs at the centre, rather than parents' rights. About Lara Feigel Lara Feigel is the author of Custody: The Secret History of Mothers – one of the Economist’s best books of 2026. This is a history of child arrangements from 1800 told through the stories of several families. She is a professor at King’s College London and the author of five other books on cultural history and a novel. You can find Lara’s book Custody: The Secret History of Mothers on Amazon and you can read more of her writing on the Right to Equality website. More divorce resources Need expert help right now? Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation. Or explore our Separating with Children Service – a 90-minute joint session with a Co-parenting Specialist tailored to your family’s needs. Want ongoing support through separation? Join amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars and articles on co-parenting and an interactive community where you can share questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Start your free trial here. Kate’s book amicable divorce includes dedicated chapters on co-parenting, with practical guidance on supporting your children's wellbeing, talking to them in age-appropriate ways and building a cooperative co-parenting relationship that reduces conflict. Find it on Amazon today. Want to stay organised as co-parents? Download our free Parenting Plan template to help you and your co-parent agree on shared goals, routines and decision-making – with your children at the centre. Try the amicable co-parenting app free for 3 months to share calendars, track expenses and communicate clearly. Open this link on your phone, install the app, create your account, select 'I have a promo code', enter PODCAST and press ‘apply’. Got a question for a future episode? Share your thoughts at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram. #Legal
July 15 · 42 min
Widowed and divorced AF: Rosie Moss on finding love after loss
What happens when you find love again after losing your partner - and that second love story ends too? Bereavement and divorce are widely cited as the two most stressful life events a person can go through – and Rosie Moss has lived both. Widowed suddenly in her thirties with three young children, Rosie found love again – and then walked through the breakdown of that second marriage. She joins Kate not to talk about how hard it's been, but about what's grown out of it. Rosie is host of the award-winning podcast Widowed AF and author of the bestselling book Widowed As F**k. Together, Kate and Rosie explore love, loss, dating again and learning to like yourself through it all. We talk about: Meeting someone through shared grief - and what happens when a relationship is fast-tracked by loss Helping children make sense of a step-parent leaving their lives Dating again as both a widow and a divorcee Protecting your peace and discovering the strength you didn't know you had This episode is for anyone navigating loss and separation, dating again after divorce or bereavement, or simply trying to make sense of what comes next when life takes a turn you didn't plan for. Trigger warning: This episode discusses bereavement, mental health and alcohol use. If you're affected by anything discussed, you can call Samaritans free on 116 123, or text SHOUT to 85258. Meet Rosie Moss Rosie Moss is the host of the award-winning podcast Widowed AF and author of the bestselling book Widowed As F**k. Widowed suddenly in her thirties with three young children, she found love again - and now speaks openly about what happens when that second relationship doesn't work out, and how hard it is to protect children while everything is shifting around them. Her work focuses on the overlap between grief, separation and long-term stress, and how these experiences shape decision-making, resilience and recovery - particularly for women balancing it all. Through her podcast and writing, Rosie has built a global community by challenging the clichés around grief and divorce, and focusing on what life actually looks like when you're in the middle of it. Follow Rosie on Instagram to learn more about her journey. More divorce resources Need expert help right now? Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation. Want ongoing support through separation? Join amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars and articles on co-parenting and an interactive community where you can share questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Start your free trial here. Kate’s book amicable divorce includes dedicated chapters on emotional readiness and timing, navigating separation with kindness and rebuilding your identity and moving forward with confidence. Find it on Amazon today. Got a question for a future episode? Share your thoughts at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram. #SeparationStory
July 8 · 24 min
In brief: Family court – what to expect and how to prepare with AdviceNow
Family court is the part of divorce most people hope to avoid – and for good reason. But if it becomes part of your journey, knowing what to expect can change everything. Kate is joined by Beth Kirkland from AdviceNow to talk about what happens when court becomes unavoidable, what it actually feels like to walk into one and how to give yourself the best chance if you're representing yourself. We talk about: How AdviceNow can help if you're going through a divorce or separation The reasons couples end up in family court – and why it should be a last resort What court actually feels like and what the common myths and misconceptions are Beth's practical advice to anyone facing court without legal representation This episode is for anyone navigating divorce or separation in England and Wales who wants to understand the family court process – whether court feels close, or you simply want to know your options before things escalate. A note before you listen: this episode includes references to domestic abuse and coercive control. If you're affected by anything we discuss, you'll find support organisations listed at the bottom of this description. Support organisations: Women's Aid – womensaid.org.uk Refuge – refuge.org.uk ManKind Initiative – mankind.org.uk Men's Advice Line – mensadviceline.org.uk Mind – mind.org.uk Samaritans – dial 116 123 or text SHOUT to 85258 If your life is in danger, dial 999 The statistic Beth references comes from the Everyday Business report, published by the Domestic Abuse Commissioner in October 2025, which found evidence of domestic abuse in 73% of observed family court cases and 87% of case files involving children. Read the full report here. About AdviceNow AdviceNow is a UK-based not-for-profit organisation and charity that increases access to justice by helping people to deal with life's legal problems. They provide legal support, including information, legal self-help tools, and training to help people use the law. You can access free resources for divorce and separation that Beth mentions in the episode on AdviceNow website, and you can watch a video about the experience of family court with some helpful tips here. More divorce resources Ready to understand your options? Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation. Want ongoing support through separation? Join amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars and articles on the legal side of divorce and an interactive community where you can share questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Start your free trial here. Kate’s book amicable divorce includes a clear breakdown of the different ways to separate, from solicitor-led routes to mediation to cooperative services like amicable, so you can choose what fits your situation. Find it on Amazon today. Got a question for a future episode? Share your thoughts at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram. #Legal
July 1 · 44 min
You’re doing better than you think: helping children thrive through divorce
Supporting your children through separation goes so much further than one difficult conversation - but knowing how to keep showing up for them is something many parents struggle with. Kate is joined by Hannah Strong, therapist, separated mum and founder of My Thriving Child, to explore what children really need from their parents during and after a separation. Drawing on science, psychology and her own lived experience, Hannah shares her framework for helping children not just cope - but thrive. We talk about: Why it's not about getting it perfect – and the reassuring research behind that What's really going on in your child's brain when family life changes How to spot the signs your child might be struggling, even when they seem fine Why the first conversation about your separation is just the beginning The small everyday actions that help your children build security and thrive This episode is for any parent going through separation who wants to do right by their children - whether they're at the very start of the process or years down the line. Meet Hannah Strong Hannah Strong is a therapist, coach and separated mum who specialises in helping parents to support their children in the best way possible through divorce - so their children do not just survive, but genuinely thrive. You can learn more about how Hannah can help your family on the My Thriving Child website and you can follow her on Instagram for more helpful tips. More divorce resources Need expert help right now? Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation. Or explore our Separating with Children Service – a 90-minute joint session with a Co-parenting Specialist tailored to your family’s needs. Want ongoing support through separation? Join amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars and articles on co-parenting and an interactive community where you can share questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Start your free trial here. Kate’s book amicable divorce includes dedicated chapters on co-parenting, with practical guidance on supporting your children's wellbeing, talking to them in age-appropriate ways and building a cooperative co-parenting relationship that reduces conflict. Find it on Amazon today. Want to stay organised as co-parents? Download our free Parenting Plan template to help you and your co-parent agree on shared goals, routines and decision-making – with your children at the centre. Try the amicable co-parenting app free for 3 months to share calendars, track expenses and communicate clearly. Open this link on your phone, install the app, create your account, select 'I have a promo code', enter PODCAST and press ‘apply’. Got a question for a future episode? Share your thoughts at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram. Sources referenced in this episode Tronick, E. Z., & Gianino, A. F. (1986). The Transmission of Maternal Disturbance to the Infant. In E. Z. Tronick & T. Field (Eds.), Maternal Depression and Infant Disturbance (New Directions for Child Development, No. 34, pp. 5-11). Jossey-Bass. Amato, P. R., Loomis, L. S., & Booth, A. (1995). Parental Divorce, Marital Conflict, and Offspring Well-Being During Early Adulthood. Social Forces, 73(3), 895-915. Kelly, J. B., & Emery, R. E. (2003). Children's Adjustment Following Divorce: Risk and Resilience Perspectives. Family Relations, 52(4), 352-362. Masten, A. S. (2001). Ordinary Magic: Resilience Processes in Development. American Psychologist, 56(3), 227–238. Luthar, S. S., Cicchetti, D., & Becker, B. (2000). The Construct of Resilience: A Critical Evaluation and Guidelines for Future Work. Child Development, 71(3), 543–562. Rutter, M. (2012). Resilience as a Dynamic Concept. Development and Psychopathology, 24(2), 335–344. Masten, A. S., & Reed, M.-G. J. (2002). Resilience in Development. In C. R. Snyder & S. J. Lopez (Eds.), Handbook of Positive Psychology (pp. 74–88). Oxford University Press. Werner, E. E., & Smith, R. S. (1992). Overcoming the Odds: High Risk Children from Birth to Adulthood. Cornell University Press. Bowlby, J. (1969/1982). Attachment and Loss. Vol. 1: Attachment. Ainsworth, M. D. S., Blehar, M. C., Waters, E., & Wall, S. (1978). Patterns of Attachment. Sroufe, L. A., Egeland, B., Carlson, E., & Collins, W. A. (2005). The Development of the Person: The Minnesota Study of Risk and Adaptation from Birth to Adulthood. van IJzendoorn, M. H., & Sagi-Schwartz, A. (2008). Cross-Cultural Patterns of Attachment: Universal and Contextual Dimensions. In Handbook of Attachment (2nd ed.). #Coparenting
June 24 · 19 min
Best of: 200 episodes of The Divorce Podcast
200 episodes of honest, hopeful conversations about divorce – here are the moments that stayed with us. To mark our 200th episode, we're looking back at some of the conversations that have meant the most – to us and to you. From day one, The Divorce Podcast has been part of amicable's mission to change the way people separate, making divorce kinder, fairer and a little less lonely. This special episode brings together the honest, funny and moving moments that capture exactly why we do it. In this episode, you'll hear from: Ella Kenion – on co-parenting, and why the thought of an ex meeting someone new can still sting Emma Campbell – on the emotional weight of single parenting Emma Reed Turrell – on the difference between kindness and people pleasing Hal Cruttenden – on how hard many men find it to open up Jonathan Fitter-Harding – on the day-to-day reality of 'nesting' and co-parenting with kindness Ebele Okobi – on grief, growth and an unexpected reconciliation This episode is for anyone navigating separation who could use a reminder that they're not alone – and a lovely place to start if you're new to the podcast. So many of you have told us how much the podcast has helped over the years, and that means everything. If someone you know might need it too, please share this episode with them. Trigger warning: This episode touches on themes that some people might find distressing, including serious illness, bereavement and times of low mood. If you're affected by anything discussed, you can call Samaritans free on 116 123, or text SHOUT to 85258. Meet our guests Ella Kenion is an actress with a long and varied career across stage and screen, with highlights including 'The Outlaws', 'The Detectorists' and 'Midsomer Murders'. Emma Campbell is an author, speaker and podcast host, known to her Instagram followers as Limitless Em. Emma Reed Turrell is a psychotherapist, clinical supervisor, podcaster and author of Please Yourself: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Transform the Way You Live and What Am I Missing? Discover the Four Blind Spots That are Holding You Back and How to Overcome Them. Hal Cruttenden is a stand-up comedian, actor and podcaster. In his latest show, Hal Cruttenden: Can Dish It Out But Can't Take It, he discussed the devastation of his divorce - after 20 years of marriage his wife left him. Jonathan Fitter-Harding is a proud dad of two, a creative entrepreneur and one of the key people behind Pride Canterbury - the main LGBTQ+ event in the South East. Ebele Okobi is the principal of Revolutionary Projects, an advisor, board member and maker of good trouble with 25 years of experience leading global teams across tech, consumer brands and arts institutions. More divorce resources Need expert help right now? Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation. Want ongoing support as you rebuild after separation? Join amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars and articles on emotional wellbeing and an interactive community where you can share questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Start your free trial here. We're giving away a copy of Kate’s book amicable divorce. To enter, just email us at hello@amicable.co.uk with the subject 'The Divorce Podcast' by the 30th of June, and we'll pick a winner at random. Got a question for a future episode? Share your thoughts at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram. #SeparationStories
June 17 · 43 min
Divorcing dads: why separation hits men hard - and how to help
Divorce can hit men hard – and many dads withdraw just when they need people most. For divorcing dads, that isolation isn't only painful – it can be dangerous. Kate is joined by psychologist Dr Eran Magen, founder of Divorcing Dads, to explore why men are so much more at risk during separation – and the simple things that help them through it. We talk about: Why divorced dads face a much higher suicide risk The particular challenges separated dads face, and the part society still plays in making them harder How a strong support network protects men's mental health A simple way to tell friends and family what's going on - and ask for what you need This episode is for any dad going through separation – and for anyone who wants to better support the men they care about. Trigger warning: this episode talks about poor mental health and suicide. If you're affected by anything discussed, you can call Samaritans free on 116 123, or text SHOUT to 85258. Meet Eran Magen Dr. Eran Magen earned his M.A. in education and Ph.D. in psychology from Stanford University and completed post-doctoral training in child psychology and population health. He is currently an assistant clinical professor at the Yale School of Medicine Department of Psychiatry. Eran is the founder of Divorcing Dads and Parenting For Humans, both of which support parents in building strong, collaborative and joyful relationships with their children. He is also the founder of EarlyAlert, which provides early suicide prevention support for students and veterans. You can listen to Eran on the Divorcing Dads podcast and get in touch with him on LinkedIn. More divorce resources Need expert help right now? Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation. Want ongoing support as you rebuild after separation? Join amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars and articles on emotional wellbeing and an interactive community where you can share questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Start your free trial here. Kate’s book amicable divorce includes dedicated chapters on navigating separation with kindness and rebuilding your identity and moving forward with confidence. Find it on Amazon today. Got a question for a future episode? Share your thoughts at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram. #EmotionalJourney
June 10 · 24 min
In brief: What to read with your child when your family changes
Think of every picture book your child has ever loved. How many show a family going through separation? Almost none - so what does that silence tell a child whose reality looks very different? Kate is joined by Elizabeth Rudnick, whose picture book First Night at Dad's was born from her own experience of separation. Together they explore the gap in children's literature around divorce, why the right story can make a real difference - and how to start the conversations that matter most. We talk about: Elizabeth's personal story of separation and what it taught her about how children process change Why so few children's books reflect the reality of separated families The milestones we forget to mark - why a child's first night at dad's deserves the same acknowledgement as their first steps Why the right book helps both child and parent through a tricky moment together Practical tips for talking to your children about separation in an age-appropriate way This episode is for any parent who wants to support their child through separation but isn't sure where to start - and for anyone who works with or cares for children going through family change. Meet Elizabeth Rudnick Elizabeth Rudnick has worked in publishing for over two decades as a writer, editor, and agent. She has written more than thirty books including the Young Adult novel Tweet Heart, as well as numerous bestselling Disney novelisations such as Cinderella, Frozen, Moana, and Beauty and the Beast. First Night at Dad's is her first original picture-book. Elizabeth lives in North Carolina, with her son and their dog. You can find First Night at Dad's on Amazon, and you can get in touch with Elizabeth on her website or on Instagram. More divorce resources Need expert help right now? Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation. Or explore our Separating with Children Service - a 90-minute joint session with a Co-parenting Specialist tailored to your family’s needs. Want ongoing support through separation? Join amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars and articles on co-parenting and an interactive community where you can share questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Start your free trial here. Kate’s book amicable divorce includes dedicated chapters on co-parenting, with practical guidance on supporting your children's wellbeing, talking to them in age-appropriate ways and building a cooperative co-parenting relationship that reduces conflict. Find it on Amazon today. Want to stay organised as co-parents? Download our free Parenting Plan template to help you and your co-parent agree on shared goals, routines and decision-making – with your children at the centre. Try the amicable co-parenting app free for 3 months to share calendars, track expenses and communicate clearly. Open this link on your phone, install the app, create your account, select 'I have a promo code', enter PODCAST and press ‘apply’. Got a question for a future episode? Share your thoughts at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram. #Coparenting
June 3 · 37 min
What stepfamilies really need to thrive, with Stepmum Space
Becoming a step-mum comes with almost none of the roadmaps, support or community that biological mums get. If you're finding it harder than you expected, this episode will help you understand why - and what you can actually do about it. Kate is joined by Katie South, transformational coach and founder of Stepmum Space, to explore why stepfamilies struggle - and what it really takes to make them stronger. We talk about: Why advice like ‘love them as your own’ sets step-mums up to fail Why step-parents often feel powerless - and what to do about it' How to have the important conversations early, before you're already deep in it The practical building blocks for creating stability and emotional safety at home This episode is for anyone who is repartnering or has repartnered after separation, especially those navigating life as a step-parent or supporting a partner through it. Meet Katie South Katie South is a UK-based transformational coach specialising in stepfamily dynamics and the relationship challenges that come after divorce. She is the founder of Stepmum Space, where she works with stepmums, divorced dads and step-couples navigating co-parenting conflict, boundary breakdown and emotional overload. Through her coaching and podcast, Stepmum Space, she helps couples move from blame and battle toward long-term stability. You can get in touch with Katie on her website. More divorce resources Ready to take a practical next step? Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation. Or explore our Separating with Children Service – a 90-minute joint session with a Co-parenting Specialist tailored to your family’s needs. Want ongoing support through separation? Join amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars and articles on emotional wellbeing and an interactive community where you can share questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Start your free trial here. Kate's book amicable divorce includes dedicated chapters on co-parenting, with practical guidance on supporting your children's wellbeing. Find it on Amazon today. Want to stay organised as co-parents? Download our free Parenting Plan template to help you and your co-parent agree on shared goals, routines and decision-making – with your children at the centre. Try the amicable co-parenting app free for 3 months to share calendars, track expenses and communicate clearly. Open this link on your phone, install the app, create your account, select 'I have a promo code', enter PODCAST and press ‘apply’. Got a question for a future episode? Share your thoughts at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram. #Coparenting
May 27 · 33 min
Values in divorce: a coach's guide to staying true to yourself
Your values shape every relationship you have - so what happens to them during a separation? Kate is joined by Katie Lancaster, an executive and leadership coach, to explore why holding onto your values during divorce can change everything about how you come out the other side. If you're trying to get through a divorce or separation in a kinder, calmer way, this conversation is full of practical tips to help you stay grounded. We talk about: How to stay true to yourself in tough divorce negotiations - even when emotions are running high The ABC technique (awareness, breathe, choose) for moving from reaction to response Why self-compassion is a non-negotiable, not a nice-to-have Why your divorce might not feel over even when the paperwork says it is This episode is for anyone going through separation or divorce who wants to come through it feeling stronger, kinder and more like themselves. Meet Katie Lancaster Katie Lancaster is an ICF and CTI certified executive and leadership coach who helps senior leaders and teams perform better and find more meaning in their work. After starting her career at Boston Consulting Group in Munich and completing an MBA at IESE Barcelona, she held board-level roles at global communications agencies in London. She has also built her own consultancy, advises start-ups and is a member of the Harvard Business Review Advisory Council. You can learn more about Katie on her website and you can get in touch with her on LinkedIn. More divorce resources Need expert help right now? Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation. Want ongoing support through separation? Join amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars and articles on emotional wellbeing and an interactive community where you can share questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Start your free trial here. Kate's book amicable divorce includes dedicated chapters on emotional readiness and timing, navigating separation with kindness, rebuilding your identity and moving forward with confidence. Find it on Amazon today. Got a question for a future episode? Share your thoughts at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram. #EmotionalJourney
May 20 · 33 min
Supporting men's mental health at work during divorce, with Halfords
Mental health at work is hard to talk about - and for men, it can feel even harder, especially when divorce or separation is part of the picture. In this episode, Kate is joined by Mel Sterling, Senior People Leader at Halfords, to talk about men's mental health at work - what to look for, what to say and why divorce is the missing piece in most workplace wellbeing strategies. We talk about: How men's mental health often shows up differently at work - and what to look out for Why divorce and separation are still missing from most workplace wellbeing strategies The simple ‘ask twice’ technique that can change a conversation Who to talk to at work when you're going through separation - and what to ask for How employers can build a culture where people feel safe to speak up This episode is for anyone navigating divorce or separation alongside work - and for the employers, HR teams and colleagues who want to better support the men around them. Research referenced in this episode is from Priory Group's research on men and mental health. Meet Mel Sterling Mel Sterling is a Senior People Leader at Halfords, with a career spent shaping how some of the UK's biggest organisations look after their people. Across roles at Halfords, Holland & Barrett and Sainsbury's, she's led work on colleague wellbeing, inclusion and culture - partnering with executive teams to build environments where people feel supported, represented and able to bring their whole selves to work. She has a track record of making wellbeing and inclusion genuinely work in practice - not just on paper. You can get in touch with Mel and read more about her work on LinkedIn. More divorce resources Ready to take a practical next step? Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation. Want ongoing support through separation? Join amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars and articles on emotional wellbeing and an interactive community where you can share questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Start your free trial here. Kate's book amicable divorce includes dedicated chapters on emotional readiness and timing, navigating separation with kindness, rebuilding your identity and moving forward with confidence. Find it on Amazon today. Are you an employer looking to better support employees through relationship change? To find out how amicable partners with organisations to provide expert support, book a discovery call. Got a question for a future episode? Share your thoughts at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram. #EmotionalJourney
May 13 · 39 min
Single parenting after divorce: support, boundaries and self-care
Single parenting after separation is a lot – and so much of it goes unspoken. Kate is joined by Orla Donoghue, coach and single mum, for an honest conversation about the realities of single parenting after divorce and things that help make it simpler. We talk about: How to get through the first year of being a single parent How to communicate with your co-parent and set boundaries Why asking for help as a single parent is a sign of strength Small, affordable ways to carve out time for yourself – without guilt This episode is for anyone navigating single parenting after divorce or separation – especially those who feel like they're carrying it all on their own. Meet Orla Donoghue Orla Donoghue is a speaker, writer and coach, specialising in the realities of modern parenthood and life transitions. Drawing on her own lived experience as a single parent, she combines personal insight with practical strategies to help people navigate the emotional, social and logistical challenges of parenting alone. Orla’s work focuses on creating honest conversations, building support systems, and developing practical approaches that make both work and home life feel more sustainable. You can get in touch with Orla through Solas Coaching website and you can listen to her podcast Single Parent Reset for more helpful advice More divorce resources Ready to talk through your co-parenting approach? Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation. Or explore our Separating with Children Service – a 90-minute joint session with a Co-parenting Specialist tailored to your family’s needs. Looking for guidance on managing child-related costs? Kate's book amicable divorce includes a dedicated chapter on managing the day-to-day costs of raising children across two homes, from child maintenance to school trips, with frameworks for reaching fair agreements that prevent ongoing conflict. Find it on Amazon today. Want to stay organised as co-parents? Download our free Parenting Plan template to help you and your co-parent agree on shared goals, routines and decision-making – with your children at the centre. Try the amicable co-parenting app free for 3 months to share calendars, track expenses and communicate clearly. Open this link on your phone, install the app, create your account, select 'I have a promo code', enter PODCAST and press ‘apply’. Got a question for a future episode? Share your thoughts at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram. #Coparenting
May 6 · 35 min
Glass half-full: Libby Brodie on how divorce made her a better person
Separation and a complete career change at the same time – sound overwhelming? For Libby Brodie, it was the start of something unexpected. Kate is joined by Libby Brodie, celebrated columnist and founder of Bacchus and Brodie wine consultancy, to hear her story of navigating a marriage breakdown during lockdown – while simultaneously rebuilding her career from the ground up. We talk about: How Libby navigated separation and job loss at the same time The stories we tell ourselves – and why letting go of them can help you grow How two happy homes can be the best thing for your children Libby's tips for the trickiest parts of divorce - finances, co-parenting and communication This episode is for anyone going through a difficult chapter who needs a reminder that it's possible to come out the other side – not just okay, but genuinely thriving. Meet Libby Brodie Libby Brodie is an industry-renowned wine expert, celebrated columnist and founder of Bacchus & Brodie wine consultancy. As City AM's dedicated wine columnist, she's built a reputation as one of the UK's brightest female wine talents – contributing to Condé Nast Traveller, The Independent, Cosmopolitan and more. Before wine, Libby was an award-winning theatre and film producer. When the pandemic closed every show overnight, she pivoted into the wine world – passing her Wine and Spirits Education Trust qualification with Distinction in just six months. You can get in touch with Libby on Instagram and you can learn more about her work on Bacchus & Brodie website. You can also hear Libby talk about all things wine and wellbeing on her podcast ‘The Inner Table; The Art of Living Well’. More divorce resources Need expert help right now? Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation. Want ongoing support through separation? Join amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars and articles on emotional wellbeing and an interactive community where you can share questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Start your free trial here. Kate’s book amicable divorce includes dedicated chapters on navigating separation with kindness, rebuilding your identity and moving forward with confidence. Find it on Amazon today. Got a question for a future episode? Share your thoughts at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram. #SeparationStory
April 29 · 45 min
Plot twist: Ebele Okobi's separation story
In this episode, Kate is joined by Ebele Okobi, who has held senior roles at OpenAI, Meta and Nike. But in this conversation, it's her separation story that takes centre stage. And this one is different – you'll want to stay right till the end to find out why. We talk about: The circumstances that led Ebele to the decision to separate How society can make it harder to do things kindly – both in divorce and co-parenting How Ebele’s children and friends responded to the news Why communication matters so much through separation How certain revelations can completely change the way you see your life and your relationship There's a big reveal at the end – and it's worth the wait. This episode is for anyone navigating separation and looking for a story of hope – and a reminder that there's not a single right way to do this. Trigger warning: This episode touches on content some listeners may find distressing, including violence, murder, police brutality, racial discrimination and genocide. Please take care of yourself while listening. Meet Ebele Okobi Ebele Okobi is the principal of Revolutionary Projects, an advisor, board member and maker of good trouble with 25 years of experience leading global teams across tech, consumer brands and arts institutions. With a background spanning corporate law, policy and the C-suite – including roles at OpenAI, Facebook/Meta, Nike and Dr. Martens – she now focuses her energy on organisations that push towards joy, justice and better worlds. More divorce resources Need expert help right now? Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation. Want ongoing support as you rebuild after separation? Join amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars and articles on emotional wellbeing and an interactive community where you can share questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists.Start your free trial here. Kate’s book amicable divorce includes dedicated chapters on navigating separation with kindness, rebuilding your identity and moving forward with confidence. Find it on Amazon today. Got a question for a future episode? Share your thoughts at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram. #SeparationStory
April 22 · 26 min
In brief: Why emotions matter as much as the law in divorce
Divorce is an emotional journey with legal and financial consequences – but what happens when the professionals helping you through it don't understand that? Kate is joined by Annmarie Carvalho, award-winning therapist and former family solicitor, to explore why the emotional side of divorce matters just as much as the legal side – and what that looks like in practice. We talk about: From solicitor to therapist – and why the emotional side of divorce drew Annmarie in How to spot a legal professional who truly gets the emotional journey Why the five stages of grief is a myth – and what healing post-divorce really looks like The skills that help you navigate divorce negotiations more effectively Practical tips to support your wellbeing during separation This episode is for anyone going through separation who wants to feel more understood, more prepared and more in control of how they show up through the process. Meet Annmarie Carvalho Annmarie Carvalho is a multi-award winning therapist, trainer and public speaker. Before retraining to become a therapist, she was a family solicitor and mediator at Central London law firm Farrer & Co for over a decade. Annmarie set up the therapy, training and coaching agency TCC in 2018 with a mission to provide better mental health support and improve psychological understanding amongst lawyers and those working in and around the legal profession. Since then, she has worked therapeutically with hundreds of members of the legal profession and trained many more, with a goal to help those in the profession ‘stay sane’. Her first book ‘Staying Sane in Family Law’ is aimed at helping legal professionals better understand the psychological demands of family law work. You can learn more about Annmarie’s work on her website and you can get in touch with her on LinkedIn or on Instagram. More divorce resources Ready to take a practical next step? Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation. Want ongoing support through separation? Kate’s book amicable divorce includes dedicated chapters on emotional readiness, navigating separation with kindness and moving forward with confidence. Find it on Amazon today. Got a question for a future episode? Share your thoughts at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram. #EmotionalJourney
April 15 · 42 min
Hal Cruttenden: no joke – the honest truth about divorce
Hal Cruttenden has found the funny side of divorce – most recently in his show 'Can Dish It Out But Can't Take It'. But in this conversation, he goes deeper and gets honest about what it's really been like. Kate is joined by comedian Hal Cruttenden, who talks candidly about his own separation story – from infidelity to dating after divorce, and everything in between. We talk about: How separation affects your confidence and sense of self What lazy versus comfortable looks like in a relationship Why friendships matter so much during divorce Experiencing infidelity and how it shapes your co-parenting relationship going forward Dating after divorce and learning to enjoy your own company again This episode is for anyone navigating separation who wants an honest, warm and at times funny perspective on what life on the other side can look like. A quick note – this episode includes open discussion of poor mental health and depression, as well as sex. Please listen with care and out of earshot of children. Meet Hal Cruttenden Hal Cruttenden is a stand-up comedian, actor and podcaster. In his latest show, Hal Cruttenden: Can Dish It Out But Can't Take It, he discussed the devastation of his divorce - after 20 years of marriage his wife left him. Now, three years on, Hal is determined to stick it to The Man (as long as The Man doesn’t stick it back to him). Packed with hilarious pontificating on middle-aged dating, social media, the insanity of modern politics and the fragility of marriage, Hal talks about swapping supposed security and a silver anniversary, for dating apps and the unexpected shift of being offered life advice by your kids. You can learn more about Hal and book a ticket to his show on his website. You can also follow him on Instagram, Facebook and X to hear more about his life post-divorce. More divorce resources Need expert help right now? Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation. Want ongoing support as you rebuild after separation? Join amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars and articles on emotional wellbeing and an interactive community where you can share questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists.Start your free trial here. Kate’s book amicable divorce includes dedicated chapters on navigating separation with kindness, rebuilding your identity and moving forward with confidence. Find it on Amazon today. Got a question for a future episode? Share your thoughts at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram. #SeparationStory
April 8 · 14 min
In brief: Complex assets in divorce, made simple
Shares, crypto, business interests. Complex assets can feel like a foreign language during divorce – but with the right knowledge, they don't have to. Kate is joined by Tom Francis, Head of Personal Finance at Octopus Money, to explore what complex assets actually are, how they're approached in a divorce settlement and how to feel confident making the most of your finances after divorce. We talk about: What makes an asset 'complex' – and the three levels of complexity What can and can't be divided in a divorce settlement What to consider when negotiating complex assets Tips for understanding your assets and building financial confidence post-divorce This episode is for anyone who feels overwhelmed by the financial side of divorce – and is ready to feel more in control of their future. Meet Tom Francis Tom is Head of Personal Finance at Octopus Money, a money advice brand for everyone. Tom spends his time designing the customer journey to deliver regulated financial advice to the many, using the best of technology and humanity. He’s a fully qualified and chartered financial planner, and before joining Octopus Money, he played a leading role in building and scaling robo-advisers in the UK, including Wealthsimple (which was later sold to Moneyfarm) and Nutmeg. You can learn more about Octopus Money on their website. You can also hear more financial advice from Tom on the Keep the Change podcast, and follow him on Instagram for bite-sized money tips. More divorce resources Ready to take a practical next step? Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation. You can also book a free consultation with an Octopus Money expert for specialist financial guidance alongside your separation. Want ongoing support through separation? Kate’s book amicable divorce includes a dedicated chapter on navigating finances during separation, including reaching financial agreements based on your real needs (not just 50/50 splits) and guidance on commonly overlooked assets like pensions. Find it on Amazon today. Got a question for a future episode? Share your thoughts at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram. #Finances
April 1 · 38 min
The ‘selfish’ woman's guide to divorce
If you've ever felt guilty for putting yourself first, this episode is for you. Kate is joined by Valerie Jones, author, coach and founder of The Selfish Woman movement, to explore what it really means to be a 'selfish woman' in divorce - and why reclaiming that word could be one of the most important things you do for yourself. We talk about: What being a 'selfish woman' really means – and why reclaiming it matters How to rebuild self-trust when divorce has knocked your confidence The moment Valerie knew it was time to leave her marriage The difference between healthy guilt and the kind that holds you back Why taking a moment to pause is one of the most powerful things you can do Practical ways to start showing up for yourself again This episode is for any woman who has ever put herself last – whether she’s in the middle of separation, still deciding or rebuilding life on the other side. Meet Valerie Jones Valerie Jones is the author of The Selfish Year, host of The Selfish Woman podcast, and founder of The Selfish Woman movement. Her work helps women let go of ‘good girl’ conditioning and people-pleasing, stop seeking external approval and build unapologetic self-trust. Valerie meets women exactly where they are and helps them show up for themselves, fully. You can learn more about Valerie on her website and buy her book The Selfish Year on Amazon. Complete Valerie's quiz to find out the hidden ways you might be sabotaging yourself. More divorce resources Ready to take a practical next step? Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation. Want ongoing support as you rebuild after separation? Kate’s book amicable divorce includes dedicated chapters on navigating the emotional journey of separation, as well as practical advice to help you through every step of the process. Find it on Amazon today. Got a question for a future episode? Share your thoughts at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram. #EmotionalJourney
March 25 · 20 min
In brief: The hidden cost of delaying divorce
You know your marriage is over. But you're still waiting – for the right moment, more certainty, or permission you're not sure will ever come. This episode is for anyone who's been circling the same question and is ready to stop waiting and start moving forward. Kate is joined by Farhana Hussain, the UK's first divorce doula and author of She's Not Done Yet, to explore what keeps people stuck in the space between knowing their marriage is over and actually applying for divorce – and how moving forward is about choosing to become the author of your own life. We talk about: Farhana’s own separation story and what led her to write She’s Not Done Yet Why people wait – even when they know what they want Why even amicable divorces can lead to being stuck The emotional and practical cost of delay Decision fatigue and why divorce is never just one decision How to stop waiting for permission and start authoring your own life This episode is for anyone who feels like their life is on hold - and is ready to stop waiting and start moving forward. Meet the Divorce Doula Farhana Hussain is the UK’s first Divorce Doula, founder of the award-winning business My Divorce Doula™, and author of She’s Not Done Yet: A Divorce Doula’s Manifesto for Women Who Refuse to Stay Stuck. Farhana helps people move from circling the same question to making a clear decision they can stand behind, so they enter the divorce process grounded, prepared and able to engage constructively. You can get in touch with Farhana through her website and you can buy her book on Amazon today. More divorce resources Ready to take a practical next step? Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation. Want ongoing support through separation? Join amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars, articles and an interactive community where you can share questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Start your free trial here. Kate’s book amicable divorce includes dedicated chapters on navigating the early stages of separation, including deciding whether your relationship is over and having the separation conversation in a way that reduces shock and defensiveness. Find it on Amazon today. Got a question for a future episode? Share your thoughts at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram. #EmotionalJourney
March 18 · 29 min
Blended family life: the realities and how to make it work
If you’re navigating life in a stepfamily and finding the dynamics more complex than you expected, this episode offers practical guidance to help you build stronger, healthier relationships. In this episode, Kate is joined by April Eldemire, a licensed marriage and family therapist and former stepmum, and Bec Jones, Head of Negotiation at amicable, to explore the realities of blended and stepfamily life. Together, they unpack some of the most common challenges blended families face and share thoughtful advice on how to create a more connected and supportive family environment. We talk about: How the 'evil stepmother' stereotype still affects stepmums today Common challenges when creating blended families Setting boundaries and approaching discipline in stepfamilies How the couple’s relationship can shape stepfamily stability Building strong relationships with stepchildren over time This episode is for parents and step-parents building blended families, who want to approach stepfamily life with more understanding, patience and confidence. Meet April and Bec April Eldemire is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, former stepmum, and the creator of The Blended Family Alignment Blueprint, a framework that helps couples end power struggles and parent as a united team. While April’s own blended family didn’t last, her journey fuels her passion for helping others avoid the same mistakes she made. With over 13 years of experience specialising in stepfamily dynamics, she’s on a mission to help families replace conflict with teamwork and build homes where love can finally lead. Having had over 10 years of experience as a divorce lawyer, Bec Jones leads amicable's Negotiation team. She played a vital role in developing the amicable process and is renowned for her empathetic approach. With expertise in child arrangements, blended families and complex finances, she is a fountain of knowledge. More divorce resources Feeling ready to take practical steps forward? Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation. Or explore our Separating with Children Service – a 90-minute joint session with a Co-parenting Specialist tailored to your family’s needs. Want ongoing support through separation? Join amicable space for bonus podcast episodes, exclusive webinars, articles and an interactive community where you can share questions and get expert advice from amicable specialists. Start your free trial here. Got a question for a future episode? Share your thoughts at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram. #Coparenting