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The DeadThree Coaching Show: Leadership and Team Development · September 28 · 46 min

Built or Destroyed One Commitment at a Time

Your team is keeping score. Not on your title. On whether you did what you said you'd do. Your credibility is your brand, and it gets built or destroyed one commitment at a time. In episode 134, I break down WE 3 from Kyle McDowell's Begin With We: we say what we're going to do, and then we do it. This is the principle that decides whether the first two are real. You can do the right thing and lead by example in every meeting. Miss the delivery, and none of it counts. Follow-through is the proof. In this episode: The Friday-at-3 moment every team faces, and the engineer who shut it down with "Ain't nobody going anywhere. We said we would do this." Why your clients are grading your delivery right now, and how a team climbs from a D-minus to an A-plus The two kinds of trust every team runs on, and what breaks when either one is missing Why your employees are your first customers Why most follow-through failures come down to clarity, not character The three things every meeting has to end with Your move this week: End every meeting with who's doing what, and by when. Confirm everyone heard it the same way. Put it in writing. Run it for 30 days and watch what changes. Find one commitment you made and didn't keep. A deliverable, a conversation, a check-in you cancelled. Close it this week. "Be a leader. Do what you say you're going to do, then demand the same thing from your team." — Kyle McDowell Chapters 00:00 The Sunday-afternoon culture test 02:44 Recap: WE 1 and WE 2 04:32 The leader who had integrity and modeled it 07:12 WE 3: we say what we're going to do, and we do it 09:00 Friday, 3 p.m.: "Ain't nobody going anywhere" 10:52 Your credibility is your brand 12:51 "Always delivers" or "seldom delivers"? 15:18 Follow-up and follow-through set you apart 18:08 Confidence is keeping the promises you make to yourself 19:59 How your clients grade your delivery 22:08 The two levels of trust 28:56 High-integrity teams can't deliver bad service 32:37 Your employees are your customers 33:57 Ambiguity is the enemy of execution 35:40 Who's on point, what, and by when 39:46 Two moves for this week 43:25 Three lines to lead by, and what's next Mentioned in this episode: Begin With We by Kyle McDowell The Athletics of Business podcast with Ed Molitor The Standard by Ben Newman The 4 Disciplines of Execution John Maxwell and Ed Mylett This is WE 3 of 10. Start with episode 132 (The One Standard That Holds Up Every Other Standard) and episode 133 (Who Sets the Temperature on Your Team?). Next up, WE 4: we take action, and the most dangerous word in any organization. If this one hit, send it to the person on your team who always delivers. Find out where your team stands. Take the free 30-question SDE assessment and download the SDE Playbook at deadthreecoaching.com/sde-assessment

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Your team is keeping score. Not on your title. On whether you did what you said you'd do.

Your credibility is your brand, and it gets built or destroyed one commitment at a time. In episode 134, I break down WE 3 from Kyle McDowell's Begin With We: we say what we're going to do, and then we do it.

This is the principle that decides whether the first two are real. You can do the right thing and lead by example in every meeting. Miss the delivery, and none of it counts. Follow-through is the proof.

In this episode:

  • The Friday-at-3 moment every team faces, and the engineer who shut it down with "Ain't nobody going anywhere. We said we would do this."
  • Why your clients are grading your delivery right now, and how a team climbs from a D-minus to an A-plus
  • The two kinds of trust every team runs on, and what breaks when either one is missing
  • Why your employees are your first customers
  • Why most follow-through failures come down to clarity, not character
  • The three things every meeting has to end with

Your move this week:

  1. End every meeting with who's doing what, and by when. Confirm everyone heard it the same way. Put it in writing. Run it for 30 days and watch what changes.
  2. Find one commitment you made and didn't keep. A deliverable, a conversation, a check-in you cancelled. Close it this week.

"Be a leader. Do what you say you're going to do, then demand the same thing from your team." — Kyle McDowell

Chapters 00:00 The Sunday-afternoon culture test 
02:44 Recap: WE 1 and WE 2 
04:32 The leader who had integrity and modeled it 
07:12 WE 3: we say what we're going to do, and we do it 
09:00 Friday, 3 p.m.: "Ain't nobody going anywhere" 
10:52 Your credibility is your brand 
12:51 "Always delivers" or "seldom delivers"? 
15:18 Follow-up and follow-through set you apart 
18:08 Confidence is keeping the promises you make to yourself 
19:59 How your clients grade your delivery 
22:08 The two levels of trust 
28:56 High-integrity teams can't deliver bad service 
32:37 Your employees are your customers 
33:57 Ambiguity is the enemy of execution 
35:40 Who's on point, what, and by when 
39:46 Two moves for this week 
43:25 Three lines to lead by, and what's next

Mentioned in this episode:

  • Begin With We by Kyle McDowell
  • The Athletics of Business podcast with Ed Molitor
  • The Standard by Ben Newman
  • The 4 Disciplines of Execution
  • John Maxwell and Ed Mylett

This is WE 3 of 10. Start with episode 132 (The One Standard That Holds Up Every Other Standard) and episode 133 (Who Sets the Temperature on Your Team?). Next up, WE 4: we take action, and the most dangerous word in any organization.

If this one hit, send it to the person on your team who always delivers.

Find out where your team stands. Take the free 30-question SDE assessment and download the SDE Playbook at deadthreecoaching.com/sde-assessment

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