Most of us are giving love the way we want to receive it. And for a lot of people, that's where connection quietly breaks down. This week, Rachael and Jaisa sit down with Enneagram expert Abbey Howe to talk about one of the most practical and deeply human questions we can ask: how do I actually show up well for the people I care about?

Abbey walks through every Enneagram type and what each one genuinely needs to feel loved, safe, and cared for. This isn't surface-level personality talk. It's a real conversation about how each type is wired, what wounds they carry, and what kind of love actually lands for them. Whether you're trying to understand your partner, your friend, your kid, your parent, or yourself, this episode will shift how you see the people around you. Abbey brings both deep knowledge of Enneagram theory and a grounded, compassionate framework that makes it feel instantly applicable to your real relationships.

The Enneagram, when used well, is a tool for transformation and compassion. It helps us stop asking why people aren't more like us, and start asking what they actually need. This conversation touches on emotional healing, how our core fears shape the way we give and receive love, and how understanding type can create more safety, more depth, and more grace in every relationship in your life.

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FOLLOW ABBEY & ORDER HER BOOK

• Find Abbey’s guided visual journal, My Enneagram                                                   Amazon
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• Hire Abbey as an Enneagram Workshop Facilitator
• Follow Abbey on Instagram

If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to check out:

Episode 72: The Enneagram Explained: Core Fears, Stress Patterns & Personal Growth w/ Ashton Whitmoyer-Ober

Episode 65: Created with Purpose: Faith & Astrology w/ Debra Silverman

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