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The Awkward Bits

This Thursday on The Awkward Bits, Vic is back on her own and wondering whether one of the reasons sobriety feels so bloody terrifying is because we make it MASSIVE before we’ve even started. When Vic first considered giving up drinking, she wasn’t worrying about getting through Tuesday night without a beer. Oh no. She was already mentally attending future weddings sober, cancelling imaginary cocktails on holidays she hadn’t booked and wondering whether eighty year old Vic would be devastated when someone offered her a lovely glass of red on her deathbed! So dramatic!! Basically, she turned not drinking into the end of civilisation as she knew it. So this week, Vic is looking at what happens when you make sobriety smaller. Instead of worrying about never drinking again, what if you just deal with tonight? Instead of trying to imagine the rest of your life without alcohol, what if you concentrate on changing one little bit of your routine and see what happens? Vic also talks about one of the biggest mistakes she made in early sobriety, removing alcohol but forgetting to fill the massive bloody hole it left behind. She was trying to squeeze sober Vic back into her old drinking life, then wondering why nothing quite fitted anymore. There are also some brilliant thoughts from the Sober Awkward community about what scared them before they stopped, plus some very simple ways to make those first sober days and awkward sober firsts feel less overwhelming. And perhaps, instead of spending all your time worrying about what you’re going to lose, this episode might help you get a tiny bit excited about what you could get back. You don’t need to work out Christmas, your next holiday, your fortieth birthday and whether you’ll fancy champagne when you’re eighty. You’re changing one thing. Start there. Although there is a slight risk that eight years later you’ll find yourself sitting in a pottery class making a wonky fish cup. Nobody warns you about that bit. Resources & Links 📖 Vic & Ulrika want to hear from you! Have you got a story, weird drunk confession or a question for Vic and Ulrika? Email vicandulrika@soberawkward.com Your message could inspire a future episode. 📱 Join the Sober Awkward app The Sober Awkward app is a welcoming space for anyone who is sober, sober-curious or simply rethinking their relationship with alcohol. Search “Sober Awkward” in the Apple App Store or find for all other devices click here 📲 Follow us Instagram - Sober Awkward: @soberawkward Facebook - Sober Awkward Community for Women Retreat with us 🌴 Fancy a sober holiday? Click here to come and drink from coconuts! 📰 Media enquiries Contact Kate at hello@soberawkward.com Vic's Books 📘 A Thousand Wasted Sundays 👉 Get A Thousand Wasted Sundays 📙 Mumming 👉 Get Mumming 📘 Get the Sober Awkward Guide A 30-day sobriety kickstart 👉 Explore the Sober Awkward Guide 🎧 Listen to more Sober Awkward Find more episodes, books, events and everything Sober Awkward. 👉 soberawkward.com 🛟 Alcohol Support 🇬🇧 United Kingdom Drinkline — National Alcohol Helpline Free and confidential support if you are worried about your own or someone else’s drinking. Call 0300 123 1110 Weekdays: 9am–8pm Weekends: 11am–4pm 👉 NHS alcohol support Alcohol Change UK Information, practical tools and support. 👉 alcoholchange.org.uk WithYou Free, confidential support with alcohol, drugs and mental health. 👉 wearewithyou.org.uk In an emergency, call 999. 🇦🇺 Australia National Alcohol and Other Drug Hotline Free and confidential information and support. Call 1800 250 015 Available 24/7 in most states and territories. 👉 Australian Government hotline information Lifeline Australia Crisis support available 24/7. Call 13 11 14 Text 0477 13 11 14 👉 lifeline.org.au In an emergency, call 000. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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This Thursday on The Awkward Bits, Vic is back on her own and wondering whether one of the reasons sobriety feels so bloody terrifying is because we make it MASSIVE before we’ve even started.

When Vic first considered giving up drinking, she wasn’t worrying about getting through Tuesday night without a beer. Oh no. She was already mentally attending future weddings sober, cancelling imaginary cocktails on holidays she hadn’t booked and wondering whether eighty year old Vic would be devastated when someone offered her a lovely glass of red on her deathbed! So dramatic!!

Basically, she turned not drinking into the end of civilisation as she knew it.

So this week, Vic is looking at what happens when you make sobriety smaller. Instead of worrying about never drinking again, what if you just deal with tonight? Instead of trying to imagine the rest of your life without alcohol, what if you concentrate on changing one little bit of your routine and see what happens?

Vic also talks about one of the biggest mistakes she made in early sobriety, removing alcohol but forgetting to fill the massive bloody hole it left behind. She was trying to squeeze sober Vic back into her old drinking life, then wondering why nothing quite fitted anymore.

There are also some brilliant thoughts from the Sober Awkward community about what scared them before they stopped, plus some very simple ways to make those first sober days and awkward sober firsts feel less overwhelming. And perhaps, instead of spending all your time worrying about what you’re going to lose, this episode might help you get a tiny bit excited about what you could get back.

You don’t need to work out Christmas, your next holiday, your fortieth birthday and whether you’ll fancy champagne when you’re eighty. You’re changing one thing. Start there. Although there is a slight risk that eight years later you’ll find yourself sitting in a pottery class making a wonky fish cup.

Nobody warns you about that bit.