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Why People Cheat Even In Happy Relationships | Sex With Emily

Let's talk about where the line actually is when it comes to cheating… because most couples never have this conversation until it's too late. In this episode I'm sitting down with licensed holistic psychologist and trauma expert Scott Lyons to unpack what cheating really means in the digital age, from liking thirst traps and DMing an ex at 2am to full on affairs and everything in between. I'm also sharing something I've never talked about publicly: I'm a reformed cheater, and I'm getting honest about what was really going on underneath that. Whether you've been cheated on, done the cheating, or just want to get ahead of it before it becomes a problem in your relationship, this episode gives you the real talk, the research, and the tools to define your boundaries, rebuild trust, and have the conversation most couples are too scared to start. #SexWithEmily #EmilyMorse #Cheating #Infidelity #Relationships ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! ============================= Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 2:51 - Why Couples Who Never Define Cheating Are Setting Themselves Up 5:17 - Physical, Emotional, Digital: The Different Ways People Cross the Line 9:05 - What Open Relationships Get Right That Monogamous Couples Almost Never Do 10:37 - Roleplaying the Conversation Every Couple Should Actually Have 13:20 - Is Fantasizing About Someone Else Cheating? The Neuroscience Answer 15:36 - When Your Partner Is Having Sex With You While Thinking About Your Friend 17:48 - What to Do When a Full Affair Has Actually Happened 26:00 - The Role of Jealousy — And How to Use It as Information Instead of Destruction 31:00 - Tech, Location Sharing and the Digital Behaviors That Blur the Line 37:40 - The Steps to Actually Repairing After Betrayal 39:55 - Why Sharing Passwords and Location Does Not Rebuild Trust 41:45 - Emily and Scott Get Personal: Their Own Experiences Being Cheated On 43:10 - The Dopamine Loop That Keeps You Stuck After Infidelity 44:38 - What Rebuilding Actually Looks Like — and What It Doesn't Why People Cheat Even In Happy Relationships | Sex With Emily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Let's talk about where the line actually is when it comes to cheating… because most couples never have this conversation until it's too late. In this episode I'm sitting down with licensed holistic psychologist and trauma expert Scott Lyons to unpack what cheating really means in the digital age, from liking thirst traps and DMing an ex at 2am to full on affairs and everything in between. I'm also sharing something I've never talked about publicly: I'm a reformed cheater, and I'm getting honest about what was really going on underneath that.

Whether you've been cheated on, done the cheating, or just want to get ahead of it before it becomes a problem in your relationship, this episode gives you the real talk, the research, and the tools to define your boundaries, rebuild trust, and have the conversation most couples are too scared to start.


#SexWithEmily #EmilyMorse #Cheating #Infidelity #Relationships


ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. 


CONNECT:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ 

X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily 

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily 

Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily


WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ 

Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text 

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe 

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

 

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Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

2:51 - Why Couples Who Never Define Cheating Are Setting Themselves Up

5:17 - Physical, Emotional, Digital: The Different Ways People Cross the Line

9:05 - What Open Relationships Get Right That Monogamous Couples Almost Never Do

10:37 - Roleplaying the Conversation Every Couple Should Actually Have

13:20 - Is Fantasizing About Someone Else Cheating? The Neuroscience Answer

15:36 - When Your Partner Is Having Sex With You While Thinking About Your Friend

17:48 - What to Do When a Full Affair Has Actually Happened

26:00 - The Role of Jealousy — And How to Use It as Information Instead of Destruction

31:00 - Tech, Location Sharing and the Digital Behaviors That Blur the Line

37:40 - The Steps to Actually Repairing After Betrayal

39:55 - Why Sharing Passwords and Location Does Not Rebuild Trust

41:45 - Emily and Scott Get Personal: Their Own Experiences Being Cheated On

43:10 - The Dopamine Loop That Keeps You Stuck After Infidelity

44:38 - What Rebuilding Actually Looks Like — and What It Doesn't


Why People Cheat Even In Happy Relationships | Sex With Emily

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